Single Parenthood

[Guest guest]

I hate to be the one to say this, but I KNOW I can't be the only one

thinking it, so here goes. (I truly don't mean to offend ANYONE!!!)

Children deserve two parents.

I can completely understand and highly respect those single parents

who make the most of a bad situation and end up raising wonderful,

well-adjusted kids without the help of a loving spouse. But I

honestly think that anyone who would intentionally bring a child into

the world without a father is being SELFISH, plain and simple.

For some reason, popular media (it started with Browne) has

been trying for decades to tell us that men don't matter. I just

wanted to put in my two cents and say that THEY DO! Two good parents

are ALWAYS better than one and every child deserves the best.

I've never needed my husband as much as I need him right now. In

fact, being a highly independent and successful professional woman, I

never felt like I really NEEDED him at all until now. Ever since I

found out I was pregnant, I've been having horrible nightmares that

he has a heart attack or gets into a car wreck or drowns. I am

constantly plagued by fears that the reason he's 30 seconds late is

that he's dead on the side of the freeway or that the cough he has is

really lung cancer. I won't even let him start the car without his

seat belt on. All of these fears are my (subconcious) way of working

through the fact that I CAN'T DO THIS ALONE!! And I can't imagine

anyone actually WANTING to!

I guess my point in all of this is that there is a reason why we are

all genetically programmed to seek out a lifelong mate. We NEED each

other. Our children need us. My son will not only need a father,

but I need a husband for the support, love, kindness and sanity that

only he can give me. He makes me whole and I would only be half a

mother without him.

Del Buono

post-op 8-8-02

edd 9-20-03