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Hi Everyone,

I'm a member of the Dallasites WLS group and found a message that

had this group listed. I'm so excited to find you guys!

I'm 9 weeks pregnant as of today. My WLS was August 10, 2001.

I lost down to 135 from 300 lbs. My husband and I are very

excited about having a baby, but I'm a little ashamed to admit

I'm worried about weight loss after the baby is born.

I cannot stop eating. I'm hungry all of the time. I try to eat

healthy foods, I am constantly eating fruit of all varieties, but

sometimes a cheeseburger is what I crave! What scares me the most

is that I am able to eat more than I normally do. I can almost eat

a normal portion of food.

Any advice, suggestions, would be appreciated.

Penny

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Hi Penny:

I am currently 32 weeks pregnant, almost two years post-op, and had a

similar experience in early pregnancy. Both my OB and surgeon said that

your body produces a hormone called relaxin during your pregnancy that

relaxes your muscles and joints, including your pouch. I found that I was

constantly STARVING during early pregnancy. I called my nutritionist, who

said to eat small meals every 2-3 hours and drink three glasses of skim milk

for extra protein. Also keep fluid intake up. I have found that I have

been able to eat a LOT more while pregnant. Supposedly this goes away.

My dumping syndrome has also " relaxed, " in that I can drink some orange

juice and eat some sweet things I couldn't tolerate before. That's probably

not so good, but I'm not worrying about it. I eat a lot of fruit and

veggies and have 6 - 8oz of 100% OJ 2-3 times a week, usually diluted in

some Diet 7-Up for a fake Mimosa.

Actually right now the little bugger is so big that he has pushed my stomach

up and I am in PAIN. Can't eat much at all! They've determined that it's

either just his pushing or possibly my gall bladder, but eating is no fun.

It's a burning pain with nausea, not a full pouch pain. So I'm going for a

gall bladder u/s next week to see what's up. Totally OT, but I thought

I'd share as long as I was posting.

-Meagan

Open RNY 6/21/01

EDD #1, , 7/25/03

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Hi Annie,

Thank you so much for your kind words and help. I feel so much better knowing

that I am not the only person in the world who has to deal with this kind of

stuff.

What you said, the whole " no matter what you do or say,she will attack you "

really put things into perspective for me. I have slowly begun to realize this,

and I guess I just need help hearing this again and again. Nada or " not a a

mom " is the best way I have heard to describe her. I have always felt like the

roles were reversed and that I was the parent.

Within the next year, I am going to be establishing some strong boundaries

between my nada and I. I will officially moving out of the house this coming

year, and I have decided that it is officially time to change what is going on

in my life. I can't be a door mat any longer.

I just want to thank you again for your help, I really appreciate everything. I

feel like I am really beginning to head in the right direction.

-Jade

> >

> > Hello all,

> >

> > I am the daughter of a mother with BPD. Wow, that is the first time I have

really said anything like that out loud. I have been in and out of counseling

for about 3 years now, and while my mother will NEVER admit that she needs some

amount of counseling, between discussions with my father, his counselor, my

counselor, we have determined that my mother suffers for BPD. I have recently

read a few books about BPD, and it was like reading about my mother in a book,

that was the only way to describe it. I could hear and picture my mothers voice

while reading the books.

> >

> > Over the past three years (I am in my early twenties and an only child) I

have steadily learned ways how to deal with my mother (or, from reading the

other posts, I believe you refer to her as nada?) However, I have no one to

really talk to who is going through the same thing. My father is extremely

passive, and has always let my mother run over the top of both of us (He has

never stood up to her)and is always trying to smooth the situation over.

> >

> > I will be going home for thanksgiving this week, and I am currently

suffering from minor panic attacks because of this. This is because I know that

when I go home, i will inevitably be attacked by my mother at some point or

another. I am trying my best here, but I constantly feel like I am walking on

egg shells.

> >

> > My mother is extremely obese and only leaves the house once a week to go

grocery shopping. She has only one friend (who speaks to her sparatically), and

speaks to no one in her family (all other friends and family have since cut her

off). Therefore, my father and I get the brunt of everything. One time she

screamed at me because I bought a book (it was $6 and I bought it with my money)

and didn't use a coupon. My mother starts an argument at least once a day. She

has only threatened suicide once, and I told her that if she ever did it again,I

would call the police and report her. She has not done this since, and that was

3 years ago.

> >

> > Last year, my mother blamed me for " ruining thanksgiving. " What really

happened was my mother screamed and picked at me all day long until I finally

told her " enough " and she burst into tears and said that I ruined thanksgiving,

like I ruin everyday in general and every holiday. She proceed to cry into her

turkey about how I was a terrible child and then ordered me to go upstairs into

my room.

> > When I went up there, she ordered me to " get down here you little c*nt, I

cooked you dinner and you will F*cking eat it! " I came down and sat at the

table and began to cry, I couldn't help it. She proceed to scream at me the

rest of the night.

> >

> >

> > This year, she has already started with " you better not ruin thanksgiving

this year like you did last year. " I am in a situation where I have no choice

but to go home for thanksgiving. I would really appreciate some advice as to

how to deal with this situation.

> >

> > Thank you so much for this wonderful safe place,

> >

> > Jade

> >

>

[Guest guest]

hi every1,i am kind of new at this.It all started feb 2010 when i noticed my son was just not a typcal kid.I knew it was autism even before any1 said it.After loosing over 10 kg(thats 20 pounds) in two weeks because i couldnt eat,sleep or nor even drink water because i c\thot my life had ended,i started to do some resaerch.Nobody believed me and every1 still thinks i am crazy because to them he looks like a typical kid who m is just challant and has speach delay.I put him on the gaps(scd) diet in july and notice little difference but a bit of improvement in sleep.i brought him to the US to see a DANDr Megson.(i live in nigeria(Africa)).he tested positive for ysystemic yeast,low amino acids,low vit a,leaky gut,6 heavy metals including mecury,lead,,aluminun.mineral displacement,bla bla bla.

Its been a painfully slow progress and we seem to be dragging it.i am exhausted!i am TIRED!I still cry every other day(it was eveyday b4).i am doing everything,EVERYTHING!i want speech!We have no Dr's here that believe in what i am doing,i am doing it all by myself with little or no support.ITS HARD TO GET SUPPLIMENTS AND ORGANIC FOOD....

I AM GLAD I FOUND YOU ALL.I HOPE I CAN GET THE SUPPORT I NEED.

JAMILA

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Glad to have you here. This group has given me all the important

things in my life at this most hopeless time(of raising a child with

autism).I would be no where without this group.It is the mixture of

different people and ideas that I think makes it so great.Thanks for

joining. Best Regards,Tammy F.

hi every1,i am kind of new at this.It all

started feb 2010 when i noticed my son was just

not a typcal kid.I knew it was autism even

before any1 said it.After loosing over 10

kg(thats 20 pounds) in two weeks because i

couldnt eat,sleep or nor even drink water

because i c\thot my life had ended,i started to

do some resaerch.Nobody believed me and every1

still thinks i am crazy because to them he looks

like a typical kid who m is just challant and

has speach delay.I put him on the gaps(scd) diet

in july and notice little difference but a bit

of improvement in sleep.i brought him to the US

to see a DANDr Megson.(i live in

nigeria(Africa)).he tested positive for

ysystemic yeast,low amino acids,low vit a,leaky

gut,6 heavy metals including

mecury,lead,,aluminun.mineral displacement,bla

bla bla.

Its been a painfully slow progress and we

seem to be dragging it.i am exhausted!i am

TIRED!I still cry every other day(it was eveyday

b4).i am doing everything,EVERYTHING!i want

speech!We have no Dr's here that believe in what

i am doing,i am doing it all by myself with

little or no support.ITS HARD TO GET SUPPLIMENTS

AND ORGANIC FOOD....

I AM GLAD I FOUND YOU ALL.I HOPE I CAN GET

THE SUPPORT I NEED.

JAMILA

[Guest guest]

Glad to have you here. This group has given me all the important

things in my life at this most hopeless time(of raising a child with

autism).I would be no where without this group.It is the mixture of

different people and ideas that I think makes it so great.Thanks for

joining. Best Regards,Tammy F.

hi every1,i am kind of new at this.It all

started feb 2010 when i noticed my son was just

not a typcal kid.I knew it was autism even

before any1 said it.After loosing over 10

kg(thats 20 pounds) in two weeks because i

couldnt eat,sleep or nor even drink water

because i c\thot my life had ended,i started to

do some resaerch.Nobody believed me and every1

still thinks i am crazy because to them he looks

like a typical kid who m is just challant and

has speach delay.I put him on the gaps(scd) diet

in july and notice little difference but a bit

of improvement in sleep.i brought him to the US

to see a DANDr Megson.(i live in

nigeria(Africa)).he tested positive for

ysystemic yeast,low amino acids,low vit a,leaky

gut,6 heavy metals including

mecury,lead,,aluminun.mineral displacement,bla

bla bla.

Its been a painfully slow progress and we

seem to be dragging it.i am exhausted!i am

TIRED!I still cry every other day(it was eveyday

b4).i am doing everything,EVERYTHING!i want

speech!We have no Dr's here that believe in what

i am doing,i am doing it all by myself with

little or no support.ITS HARD TO GET SUPPLIMENTS

AND ORGANIC FOOD....

I AM GLAD I FOUND YOU ALL.I HOPE I CAN GET

THE SUPPORT I NEED.

JAMILA