Fustrated

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Hi All,

I'm so I found this site a couple of weeks ago, I'm 34 and after

having 4 m/c my new gynie did a HSG and MRI to find out I have either

a SU/BU?. He then referred me to a RE which in turn referred me to

another gynie to have a resection which was SUPPOSED to have been on

July 28th...the day before the nurse calls me to tell me that my

insurace requires my husband have a semen analyis before its

covered. He had it done but it took a week for the results to come

back so had to reschedule it. NOW its going to be SEPT 9th...urggggg

it seems like a eternity. I found out i had a SU/BU when I was

32...couldn't see the Infertility specialist because my INSURANCE

requires me to be Married. got married when I was 33 and since then

I've had to numerous test and waiting months to get an appointment.

I just turned 34 and now waiting another few months to have the first

surgery. Dr said I may have to have a second surgery and have to

wait another 2 months after the first. then another 2-3months to

ttc...I'll be 35 before I can even ttc.

I know I should be thankful that there is something that can be

done but its just so fustrating waiting and waiting and waiting.

plus I work with 30 women which all have kids one had her baby the

same day my last baby was due. Its so hard trying to be excited and

happy for other woman who are pregnant now but I really try.

My ex sister in law said to another sister in law that I would

never have children and that is always in the back of my mind.

Thanks for letting me vent. I can't talk to any of my friends

or family because they just dont understand and I don't want to keep

harping on this with my husband.

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First off I will say I guess you don't wonder why that sister in law is and

EX. What a mean thing to say. Your insurnace sounds crazy. A septum is

considered an birth defect so I am not sure if what they are doing follows

the ADD. Are you in the US?

Also you get preg and you will have a baby. Take the time now to start of

vitamins to prepare you body for surgery and then pregnancy. That way you

will get preg right off the bat with no problems.

Good luck -Liz

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>To: MullerianAnomalies

>Subject: Fustrated

>Date: Thu, 05 Aug 2004 11:11:13 -0000

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First off I will say I guess you don't wonder why that sister in law is and

EX. What a mean thing to say. Your insurnace sounds crazy. A septum is

considered an birth defect so I am not sure if what they are doing follows

the ADD. Are you in the US?

Also you get preg and you will have a baby. Take the time now to start of

vitamins to prepare you body for surgery and then pregnancy. That way you

will get preg right off the bat with no problems.

Good luck -Liz

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>Reply-To: MullerianAnomalies

>To: MullerianAnomalies

>Subject: Fustrated

>Date: Thu, 05 Aug 2004 11:11:13 -0000

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First off I will say I guess you don't wonder why that sister in law is and

EX. What a mean thing to say. Your insurnace sounds crazy. A septum is

considered an birth defect so I am not sure if what they are doing follows

the ADD. Are you in the US?

Also you get preg and you will have a baby. Take the time now to start of

vitamins to prepare you body for surgery and then pregnancy. That way you

will get preg right off the bat with no problems.

Good luck -Liz

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>Reply-To: MullerianAnomalies

>To: MullerianAnomalies

>Subject: Fustrated

>Date: Thu, 05 Aug 2004 11:11:13 -0000

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Hi ,

Wow - I can understand your frustration. I have never heard of an

insurance company that made the DH get a semen analysis before they

will cover your resection. Or even WORSE...why do you HAVE to be

married?! Is your health insurance through some kind of religious

sect?!!! Surprise...you don't have to be married to get pg (I am

overwhelmed at the ignorance of this requirement in today's times).

I am familiar with the pain and frustration of the waiting game. It

must be especially hard after 4 losses. You now feel like you have a

chance to fix your uterus and you are just couting the days away

until Sept 9th. I am so sorry that you are having to wait.

I found out about my MA during pg #1 which was a m/c at 12 wks. It

seemed like forever to get an appt w/ a dr that agreed to do a

lap/hys only later to find out that he did not resect it barely at

all (undetectable difference on the " after " HSG). I then had to wait

to find other drs for another opinion, then wait for surgery date,

blah, blah, blah. I felt like I was waiting forever. I too felt the

pressures of time. I had my m/c at 34, 2 resections at 35 and

finally had a beautiful baby girl at 36 after 7 cycles of IF

treatments.

I know that you are in a very hard spot right now. You have a lot to

grieve and being forced to patiently wait only adds to the anxiety.

I know you want to be happy for the women around you, but it's so

hard when you have your own agenda being knocked off schedule. Every

month is so important that you don't have room for more delays.

My best advice is to try to just focus on each tiny step that you

take and plan a little bit ahead so you know what to expect. Look

forward to Sep 9th. Then plan for a follow-up appt and look forward

to the arrival of AF once or twice so you can get back on the ttc-

wagon..baby steps, baby steps, baby steps! I had to keep slapping my

hand for wanting to jump ahead. It was not easy or fun. But coming

to this group kept me sane and offered me tons of support when I

needed it most.

I don't know how many kids you'd like to have, but at least it sounds

like you get pg rather easy and you still have quite a few ttcing

years left. Hopefully you will find yourself pg before the end of

the year...and then you can restlessly count away all 40 weeks of

your pg as you wait for the joyful day you meet your baby.

Let us know how you do,

Sara

36, SU resected x2

dd 10 mos, #2 15w4d