Guest guest Posted June 2, 2003 Report Share Posted June 2, 2003 Dear , I am expecting my second child at the end of June. I will be 42 in July. Since I only have one already, I wanted another one VERY BADLY. If I already had two, I might have felt the way you feel. Who knows? Do I think my age will be fair to the child? I think it would be more fair than not being born at all. I think it is more fair than leaving my son an only child. I think it is more fair than having a child only to walk out of your house one day and get hit by a car. I don't think your decision to have another one should be based on my opinion. Many people who are your age who already have two children would agree with you. You need to decide what it best for your family. Good luck, Shoshannah K r ny 3/6/01 edd 6/25/03 baby girl mom to A.J. 7 1/2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 2, 2003 Report Share Posted June 2, 2003 I am 33 but talked with my doc about this after my resent miscarriage and he said I could have kids until my late 40's safely! the world has changed and women are having children later in life is its so common now. you know there are no guarantees in life so enjoy what time you have. you could live to be 80 or more and that's a lifetime you would have with that child but even 20 yrs is better than nothing, that's 20 yrs of love! i say go for it! apryl Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 2, 2003 Report Share Posted June 2, 2003 Shelia- When you say the last pg nearly killed you nutritionally - what did you mean? I have been very sick with eating and hate to eat so I am worried when I hear you say that. laura Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 2, 2003 Report Share Posted June 2, 2003 , I was somewhat like Sheila in my post-op pregnancy. My baby is 4 1/2 months old. I had severe morning sickness the entire 9 months. For most of the pregnancy I was anemic. I was extremely tired and lost a ton of hair (which is fine now!) My real problem came from 32 weeks on in the pregnancy. I could barely tolerate nay protein. Therefore I had extremly low Albumin levels. When your Albumin level is low your body retains fluid like a sponge. So, I had HORRIBLE edema in my legs and feet, but also my abdomen. So much that after my repeat c-section I had to have a drainage tube for 1 week for all of the excess fluid. But there are 2 factors you should know. I got pregnant at only 7 weeks post-op and both my baby boy and I are fine now. Hopefully the in the next pregnancy I will feel better, but I won't hesitate to do it again! Best wishes! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 2, 2003 Report Share Posted June 2, 2003 Well I'm only 25 but here is what I think. My mom was 39 when she had me, she turned 40 4 months later. I was the youngest of 4. I have a sister that will be 41 next month, a brother that will be 39 in Sept, and a sister that turned 31 in Jan. I came out perfectly normal and healthy. I will tell you though that growing up I hated having parents the same age as most of my friends' grandparents. I told myself that I would have my kids young so that they had " cool " parents. I guess it also depends on how old your other children are. I was 6 years younger than my closest sibling and we didn't get along well. I can't even remember My oldest sister living with us or much of my older brother either. It was like a completely different family, almost like an only child too. This is just my opinion and the way I felt growing up. I do not mean to offend anyone that has had or is planning on having children in their late 30's or early 40's. Just thought I would give another viewpoint. Marjorie Tristan 1/19/00 RNY 1/22/03 EDD 1/7/04 I think age question...... Hey all, I was wondering how many of you guys are 38 and over ? I am 39 I am trying to decide if I want to try one more time I have 2 already but I feel scared is it going to be ok ? Be honest is it wrong I WOULD BE 60 WHEN IT WOULD BE 20 IS THAT ENOUGH TIME TO SPEND WITH A CHILD REAL CONFUSED................THANKS IN ADVANCE ........ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 2, 2003 Report Share Posted June 2, 2003 , You wouldn't be the only " older " mom in your kid's kindergarten class. It's much more common nowadays than 20 or 30 years ago, especially with infertility treatments and women marrying later in life. -Kris Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2003 Report Share Posted June 3, 2003 I'm quite happy that I waited to start a family in my late 30's. I'm sorry, but the early to mid 20's was spent in graduate school. Late 20's and early 30's was making the big bucks and enjoying what life had to offer. I really do believe age is a state of mind. Women on my block who are the same age as me have children in junior high and high school. They look, act and feel older. Also I can say my life experiences outweigh the women that started a family right out of high school/ early twenties. ~ BabyCopia ~ Unique and Original Baby Products www.babycopia.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 4, 2003 Report Share Posted June 4, 2003 Marjorie: Just out of curiosity: Do you still hate that you had older parents in retrospect or was it a hang up as you were a kid? Do you feel you parents parented you well or had any disabilities because of their age? These days Altho I am sure it occurs, I think the embarrassment of older parents would be diminished because of so many different types of families. Lenore Re: age question...... Well I'm only 25 but here is what I think. My mom was 39 when she had me, she turned 40 4 months later. I was the youngest of 4. I have a sister that will be 41 next month, a brother that will be 39 in Sept, and a sister that turned 31 in Jan. I came out perfectly normal and healthy. I will tell you though that growing up I hated having parents the same age as most of my friends' grandparents. I told myself that I would have my kids young so that they had " cool " parents. I guess it also depends on how old your other children are. I was 6 years younger than my closest sibling and we didn't get along well. I can't even remember My oldest sister living with us or much of my older brother either. It was like a completely different family, almost like an only child too. This is just my opinion and the way I felt growing up. I do not mean to offend anyone that has had or is planning on having children in their late 30's or early 40's. Just thought I would give another viewpoint. Marjorie Tristan 1/19/00 RNY 1/22/03 EDD 1/7/04 I think age question...... Hey all, I was wondering how many of you guys are 38 and over ? I am 39 I am trying to decide if I want to try one more time I have 2 already but I feel scared is it going to be ok ? Be honest is it wrong I WOULD BE 60 WHEN IT WOULD BE 20 IS THAT ENOUGH TIME TO SPEND WITH A CHILD REAL CONFUSED................THANKS IN ADVANCE ........ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 4, 2003 Report Share Posted June 4, 2003 In a message dated 6/2/03 12:39:40 PM Central Daylight Time, julieabarnett@... writes: > Hey all, I was wondering how many of you guys are 38 and over ? I am 39 I > am > trying to decide if I want to try one more time I am 39 and will be 40 in June , I am 12 weeks pregnant with my first biological child after adopting two beautiful girls 8 years ago My doctor does not consider my high risk at this point . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 4, 2003 Report Share Posted June 4, 2003 I am 41 and ttc again. ............ Tracey Northern MN Re: age question...... > In a message dated 6/2/03 12:39:40 PM Central Daylight Time, > julieabarnett@... writes: > > > Hey all, I was wondering how many of you guys are 38 and over ? I am 39 I > > am > > trying to decide if I want to try one more time > > I am 39 and will be 40 in June , I am 12 weeks pregnant with my first > biological child after adopting two beautiful girls 8 years ago > > My doctor does not consider my high risk at this point . > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 6, 2003 Report Share Posted June 6, 2003 I AM GOING TO BE 41 IN SEPTEMBER AND I REALLY THINK I WANT TO GO FOR IT AND HAVE ANOTHER BABY BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE.... I AM GOING TO STOP MY BIRTH CONTROL AFTER THIS CYCLE IF GOD WANTS ME TO HAVE ONE THEN I WILL, IF IT'S NOT MEANT TO BE I WON'T. IT'S ALL IN GOD'S HANDS IN MY BOOK : ) DO WHAT YOU FEEL IN YOUR HEART HUGS, ROBIN, NY THINKING OF TTC#4 OPEN RNY 10-18-02 378/265/170??? DR.EDWARD HIXSON SARANAC LAKE, NY Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 6, 2003 Report Share Posted June 6, 2003 I AM GOING TO BE 41 IN SEPTEMBER AND I REALLY THINK I WANT TO GO FOR IT AND HAVE ANOTHER BABY BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE.... I AM GOING TO STOP MY BIRTH CONTROL AFTER THIS CYCLE IF GOD WANTS ME TO HAVE ONE THEN I WILL, IF IT'S NOT MEANT TO BE I WON'T. IT'S ALL IN GOD'S HANDS IN MY BOOK : ) DO WHAT YOU FEEL IN YOUR HEART HUGS, ROBIN, NY THINKING OF TTC#4 OPEN RNY 10-18-02 378/265/170??? DR.EDWARD HIXSON SARANAC LAKE, NY Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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