Guest guest Posted June 28, 2001 Report Share Posted June 28, 2001 My initial thoughts on this (since I try not to think too much about L & D yet) are definately nobody but me and dp during delivery...not sure about labor though..don't know how I'll feel about having a bunch of people around me at a time like that. They can wait in the waiting room if they like, but this is an experience for us...the beginning of OUR own little family and I want it to be just us. -AmyR 13wk5d Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2001 Report Share Posted June 28, 2001 My initial thoughts on this (since I try not to think too much about L & D yet) are definately nobody but me and dp during delivery...not sure about labor though..don't know how I'll feel about having a bunch of people around me at a time like that. They can wait in the waiting room if they like, but this is an experience for us...the beginning of OUR own little family and I want it to be just us. -AmyR 13wk5d Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2001 Report Share Posted June 28, 2001 My initial thoughts on this (since I try not to think too much about L & D yet) are definately nobody but me and dp during delivery...not sure about labor though..don't know how I'll feel about having a bunch of people around me at a time like that. They can wait in the waiting room if they like, but this is an experience for us...the beginning of OUR own little family and I want it to be just us. -AmyR 13wk5d Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2001 Report Share Posted June 28, 2001 , My dh and I are going to be the only ones in the delivery room also. We feel like it is a very special and private moment between us and this new little person we created, we want to be there together and meet the baby on our own and be able to bond. Our family will wait in the waiting room also. I feel like while we are in early labor it may be okay to have them in there, but when heavy labor and time to push begin, I want only my dh. Even after the birth, I want my family to see the baby and then let us have alone time toghether. The lactation consultant at our breastfeeding course suggested the first two hours for bonding with the baby - I am not sure if I can hold them back that long! Kim 32w, 7d Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2001 Report Share Posted June 28, 2001 , My dh and I are going to be the only ones in the delivery room also. We feel like it is a very special and private moment between us and this new little person we created, we want to be there together and meet the baby on our own and be able to bond. Our family will wait in the waiting room also. I feel like while we are in early labor it may be okay to have them in there, but when heavy labor and time to push begin, I want only my dh. Even after the birth, I want my family to see the baby and then let us have alone time toghether. The lactation consultant at our breastfeeding course suggested the first two hours for bonding with the baby - I am not sure if I can hold them back that long! Kim 32w, 7d Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2001 Report Share Posted June 28, 2001 , My dh and I are going to be the only ones in the delivery room also. We feel like it is a very special and private moment between us and this new little person we created, we want to be there together and meet the baby on our own and be able to bond. Our family will wait in the waiting room also. I feel like while we are in early labor it may be okay to have them in there, but when heavy labor and time to push begin, I want only my dh. Even after the birth, I want my family to see the baby and then let us have alone time toghether. The lactation consultant at our breastfeeding course suggested the first two hours for bonding with the baby - I am not sure if I can hold them back that long! Kim 32w, 7d Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2001 Report Share Posted June 28, 2001 My dh and I decided we just want it to be the two of us. My mom wants to at least wait in the waiting area. Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2001 Report Share Posted June 28, 2001 My dh and I decided we just want it to be the two of us. My mom wants to at least wait in the waiting area. Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2001 Report Share Posted June 28, 2001 My dh and I decided we just want it to be the two of us. My mom wants to at least wait in the waiting area. Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2001 Report Share Posted June 28, 2001 , That's actually a very good question... I know that when I had dd my family was in my room most of the time... Well, visitors in and out... but I never did get past 3 or 4 cm either so it wasn't anything intense while they were there. They all stayed with me until they took me to the OR. This time I don't have to worry about all of them since we will be in AZ... but I've been toying with the idea of letting be with me as long as she can. I don't want her there for the actual pushing... I think it would be kind of scary for her. But I'd like her to see me in the hospital and to know that I'm okay and I'm still thinking of her during that time. That's if I even get that far this time. As much as I want to try for a VBAC I have this horrible feeling it will be c-section #2... Amy 21 weeks Delivery room poll Hi all. I was curious, how many of you are going to or have had family and/or friends with you during your labor and/or delivery?My dh and I have decided to have our family wait in the waiting room during the delivery, they can be around during labor. It was a really tough choice. Basically my dh had to make it.32 Weeks Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2001 Report Share Posted June 28, 2001 , That's actually a very good question... I know that when I had dd my family was in my room most of the time... Well, visitors in and out... but I never did get past 3 or 4 cm either so it wasn't anything intense while they were there. They all stayed with me until they took me to the OR. This time I don't have to worry about all of them since we will be in AZ... but I've been toying with the idea of letting be with me as long as she can. I don't want her there for the actual pushing... I think it would be kind of scary for her. But I'd like her to see me in the hospital and to know that I'm okay and I'm still thinking of her during that time. That's if I even get that far this time. As much as I want to try for a VBAC I have this horrible feeling it will be c-section #2... Amy 21 weeks Delivery room poll Hi all. I was curious, how many of you are going to or have had family and/or friends with you during your labor and/or delivery?My dh and I have decided to have our family wait in the waiting room during the delivery, they can be around during labor. It was a really tough choice. Basically my dh had to make it.32 Weeks Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2001 Report Share Posted June 28, 2001 , That's actually a very good question... I know that when I had dd my family was in my room most of the time... Well, visitors in and out... but I never did get past 3 or 4 cm either so it wasn't anything intense while they were there. They all stayed with me until they took me to the OR. This time I don't have to worry about all of them since we will be in AZ... but I've been toying with the idea of letting be with me as long as she can. I don't want her there for the actual pushing... I think it would be kind of scary for her. But I'd like her to see me in the hospital and to know that I'm okay and I'm still thinking of her during that time. That's if I even get that far this time. As much as I want to try for a VBAC I have this horrible feeling it will be c-section #2... Amy 21 weeks Delivery room poll Hi all. I was curious, how many of you are going to or have had family and/or friends with you during your labor and/or delivery?My dh and I have decided to have our family wait in the waiting room during the delivery, they can be around during labor. It was a really tough choice. Basically my dh had to make it.32 Weeks Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2001 Report Share Posted June 28, 2001 , With Ross it was just DH and I and I wouldn't have had it any other way. Come to think of it, no one else would have had time to get there . With Matt, my MIL was there and so was Ross (we had to have another adult there to be with Ross). If I had to do it again, I might not have had Ross there for the actual " delivery " , because it was very scary for him. In fact, I asked him if mommy ever has another baby does he want to be there when the baby is born again and he said " no " . My MIL was very touched that I allowed her to be a part of something so special. I think if I ever have another, I wouldn't mind having my sister or something (as my mom lives in FL) but only one or 2 other people. It is a very intense and special time. Kendall > Hi all. I was curious, how many of you are going to or have had > family and/or friends with you during your labor and/or delivery? > > My dh and I have decided to have our family wait in the waiting room > during the delivery, they can be around during labor. It was a really > tough choice. Basically my dh had to make it. > > > 32 Weeks Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2001 Report Share Posted June 28, 2001 , With Ross it was just DH and I and I wouldn't have had it any other way. Come to think of it, no one else would have had time to get there . With Matt, my MIL was there and so was Ross (we had to have another adult there to be with Ross). If I had to do it again, I might not have had Ross there for the actual " delivery " , because it was very scary for him. In fact, I asked him if mommy ever has another baby does he want to be there when the baby is born again and he said " no " . My MIL was very touched that I allowed her to be a part of something so special. I think if I ever have another, I wouldn't mind having my sister or something (as my mom lives in FL) but only one or 2 other people. It is a very intense and special time. Kendall > Hi all. I was curious, how many of you are going to or have had > family and/or friends with you during your labor and/or delivery? > > My dh and I have decided to have our family wait in the waiting room > during the delivery, they can be around during labor. It was a really > tough choice. Basically my dh had to make it. > > > 32 Weeks Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2001 Report Share Posted June 28, 2001 , With Ross it was just DH and I and I wouldn't have had it any other way. Come to think of it, no one else would have had time to get there . With Matt, my MIL was there and so was Ross (we had to have another adult there to be with Ross). If I had to do it again, I might not have had Ross there for the actual " delivery " , because it was very scary for him. In fact, I asked him if mommy ever has another baby does he want to be there when the baby is born again and he said " no " . My MIL was very touched that I allowed her to be a part of something so special. I think if I ever have another, I wouldn't mind having my sister or something (as my mom lives in FL) but only one or 2 other people. It is a very intense and special time. Kendall > Hi all. I was curious, how many of you are going to or have had > family and/or friends with you during your labor and/or delivery? > > My dh and I have decided to have our family wait in the waiting room > during the delivery, they can be around during labor. It was a really > tough choice. Basically my dh had to make it. > > > 32 Weeks Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2001 Report Share Posted June 28, 2001 , ok, you asked for it!! Just kidding! #1 , Only Bob and I and his sister Debbie who was our labor and delivery nurse coincidentally, then we called everyone after the birth at 8:30 pm and my folks came to the hospital right away as did my sister Tammy... #2 , Planned to have Debbie as the nurse again, but had Andy at 2:00 in the morning...and she didn't work until the next day at 7:00 am, was going to have Tammy come and watch but it was the middle of the night, you know?? So we just called everyone later (earlier??) in the morning. both sets of grandparents knew we were in labor, they were taking care of Matt. #3 Blake, Conveniently went into labor at 7:00 am, so got Matt off to Kindergarten and Andy off to daycare at the normal times, then rushed off to the hospital, no time to call anyone but the Doctor!!! As luck would have it, Bob's sister Debbie was working that day and was Blake's baby nurse, so she got to stay in the L & D room with us after he was born and do all the tests, weigh, measure, footprint....etc. #4 Mikaela, Just Bob and I again, went to the hospital at 10:30 pm, my parents were with the boys, and she was born in the middle of the night 12:46 am. ok, now the reasons the grandparents didn't want to be there to wait....My Dad has been known to pass out just VISITING friends at the hospital!!! Wimpy!! Bob's parents, his mother especially, gets WAY too nervous and paranoid thinking something is wrong, believe me if she was in the waiting room they would have had to hospitalize her for a stroke or I would have choked her myself!!! When Tammy had Madison though, Dad and Sharon and I all stopped by as did Dave's mother and brother and sister in law. She was induced though, so we all knew she was there and it was Friday night and Easter weekend. She didn't end up having her until 1:00 am, so I had already left at 11:00, and Dad and Sharon didn't stick around either, we just all came back the next day,but Dave's mother asked that someone come and get her as soon as the birth was about to happen, so they did and she waited in the waiting room, because Tammy had a c-section. I think it was nice having the kids with just Bob and I, that way you are focusing on each other and there aren't a whole lot of distractions (like your mother in law calling you on the phone when you are in intense labor.....oh yes, that did happen!!) Anyway you do it, it is a real personal preference. I think Tammy enjoyed having us around (after her epidural was in place) I happened to come in when she was in hard labor and crying and had had enough!! I don't think at that point she wanted ANYONE around!! Ok, so the conclusion here is, go ahead and have who ever you want come, you can always kick them out of the room if they get on your nerves, it is really a play it by ear type of thing. Good Luck!! Vicki moniqueostash@... wrote: > > Hi all. I was curious, how many of you are going to or have had > family and/or friends with you during your labor and/or delivery? > > My dh and I have decided to have our family wait in the waiting room > during the delivery, they can be around during labor. It was a really > tough choice. Basically my dh had to make it. > > > 32 Weeks > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2001 Report Share Posted June 28, 2001 , Good question! I plan on having Mike and my Mom with me. They were both there for Olivia's birth, too! My Mom is a nurse, has been forever and I feel extra "safe" with her there. Plus, it'll give Mike an opportunity to have a break if he needs it or whatever. I'd actually like for Olivia to be at the hospital as much as possible, but I have a close friend who is planning on hanging out with her if it doesn't work out very well. I'm starting to get really excited/nervous about everything. I've come so far and yet still have such a long way (meaning delivery) to go. I just pray everything goes smoothly. I guess it is so true... we'll never be totally comfortable being pregnant until we are holding our little ones safely in our arms! {{{HUGS}}} 37 weeks Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2001 Report Share Posted June 28, 2001 , Good question! I plan on having Mike and my Mom with me. They were both there for Olivia's birth, too! My Mom is a nurse, has been forever and I feel extra "safe" with her there. Plus, it'll give Mike an opportunity to have a break if he needs it or whatever. I'd actually like for Olivia to be at the hospital as much as possible, but I have a close friend who is planning on hanging out with her if it doesn't work out very well. I'm starting to get really excited/nervous about everything. I've come so far and yet still have such a long way (meaning delivery) to go. I just pray everything goes smoothly. I guess it is so true... we'll never be totally comfortable being pregnant until we are holding our little ones safely in our arms! {{{HUGS}}} 37 weeks Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2001 Report Share Posted June 28, 2001 , Good question! I plan on having Mike and my Mom with me. They were both there for Olivia's birth, too! My Mom is a nurse, has been forever and I feel extra "safe" with her there. Plus, it'll give Mike an opportunity to have a break if he needs it or whatever. I'd actually like for Olivia to be at the hospital as much as possible, but I have a close friend who is planning on hanging out with her if it doesn't work out very well. I'm starting to get really excited/nervous about everything. I've come so far and yet still have such a long way (meaning delivery) to go. I just pray everything goes smoothly. I guess it is so true... we'll never be totally comfortable being pregnant until we are holding our little ones safely in our arms! {{{HUGS}}} 37 weeks Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2001 Report Share Posted June 28, 2001 Hello there. That is a good question. Actually dh and I have not talked about it yet but I think maybe during labor we will have people in but not for the actual delivery. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2001 Report Share Posted June 28, 2001 Hello there. That is a good question. Actually dh and I have not talked about it yet but I think maybe during labor we will have people in but not for the actual delivery. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2001 Report Share Posted June 28, 2001 Hello there. That is a good question. Actually dh and I have not talked about it yet but I think maybe during labor we will have people in but not for the actual delivery. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 29, 2001 Report Share Posted June 29, 2001 , That is nice of your friend to take care of Olivia for you...that is good incase Olivia gets scared or needs a break etc. Does your mil live near you also? If so, do you feel bad having your mom with you and not her also? That is my problem, I can't have one without the other that is why dh decided it would be none. I am getting more comfortable with the decision but I told him he has to be the one to tell his mom. He thinks she won't care. I just have to say, " Are you sure we are talking about the same lady! " Okay, so it's July 16th! :-) 32 Weeks -- In PregnancyBabiesAfterEctopic@y..., kdjohio@a... wrote: > , > > Good question! I plan on having Mike and my Mom with me. They were both > there for Olivia's birth, too! My Mom is a nurse, has been forever and I > feel extra " safe " with her there. Plus, it'll give Mike an opportunity to > have a break if he needs it or whatever. I'd actually like for Olivia to be > at the hospital as much as possible, but I have a close friend who is > planning on hanging out with her if it doesn't work out very well. > > I'm starting to get really excited/nervous about everything. I've come so > far and yet still have such a long way (meaning delivery) to go. I just pray > everything goes smoothly. I guess it is so true... we'll never be totally > comfortable being pregnant until we are holding our little ones safely in our > arms! > > {{{HUGS}}} > > 37 weeks Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 29, 2001 Report Share Posted June 29, 2001 , No, thankfully my MIL also lives in Florida... she's not a very "hands on" Grandma and wouldn't want to be in the room anyway... she's a pain in my A**! I really didn't say that! LOL!! <YES I DID> {{{HUGS}}} Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 29, 2001 Report Share Posted June 29, 2001 , No, thankfully my MIL also lives in Florida... she's not a very "hands on" Grandma and wouldn't want to be in the room anyway... she's a pain in my A**! I really didn't say that! LOL!! <YES I DID> {{{HUGS}}} Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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