Re: low back pain and stuff.

June 16, 2004

Hi Dawn,

Looks like we are pg buddies )

No there is nothing wrong with you. Everyone feels differently about

when they are comfortable sharing this kind of news. I was holding

off telling anyone until we got to see the hb by u/s last weekend.

Now dh is running off telling everyone and I'm still being discreet

about it and probably will for a few more weeks. I guess for me the

decision not to tell protects me from having to deal with all those

people just " in case " something bad happens. I'd rather not have to

confront a lot of people. I'm not trying to be a pessimist about it

or anything. I also really enjoy this private time knowing about the

pg before I start to show. Once you start showing, the whole world

starts in with the sometimes welcome and sometimes NOT so welcome

questions and stories. It's nice to have this private time to

connect with the baby that nobody else knows about.

I had lower back pain early in my last pg. It was low down by my

tailbone and sometimes it would " lock up " when I was walking. My ob

told me it was just all the stretching, etc that was going on. I

also have probs w/ my tailbone since the birth of dd that are still

somewhat a problem, but maybe my tailbone got injured during

delivery, the dr said that it takes a long time to heal. Hope that

you are able to get some rest soon. You will need it!

Sara

SU resected x2, dd 8 mos, 7w5d

June 16, 2004

>It is strange as excited, as I am I really an almost afraid

>to be excited.

That's not strange at all, but very normal after you have had losses!! I had 7

miscarriages, and it really takes the fun out of early pregnancy... not only are

you scared to death this will just end in disappointment too, but it absolutely

sucks to tell people you're pregnant then a month later have to explain that,

no, you're not anymore.

I don't say this to scare you more... just trying to reassure you that your

feelings are completely understandable ... you can't help but be fearful and

anxious and not even WANT to get excited until you are past your personal

" danger point " . I really didn't care what the doctor said about odds at

different time points, I never relaxed until after we got past where I'd had MY

miscarriages.

the good news is that your chances of doing well after your resection are

really, really good (because I'm BU that wasn't an option for me) ... so hang in

there, badger your OB for ultrasounds whenever you need some reassurance, and

just follow your heart in when to tell people (I found relief in telling total

strangers, but didn't tell my family until I was further along - that way I

could " share the joy " without being afraid of " sharing the pain " later... weird

but it worked for me

Also, have your doctor show you on ultrasound where you are implanted, once you

see implantation on the " healthy " part of the uterus I'm sure you will feel

better too!

Good luck to you!!!!

Mikki

37, BU, 18w pregnant with twin boys

June 22, 2004

Dawn,

I haven't been by this board in such a long time! I saw your

message, and thought I'd write back. I just found out that I'm

pregnant too, and can really identify with the way you are feeling!

I had surgery to remove my septum last July. The Dr. didn't remove

all of it, but recommended we try again. I am just as nervous as you

are. Since we just found out, my husband have decided to tell a

select few, but wait to tell others. I have had 2 miscarriages, and

am scared to death. I try not to get too excited, because I feel

like I will jinx myself if I do. I am also having lower back pain.

So far it hasn't kept me up at night, but if I am on my feet too

long, it seems to get worse, so I have to sit down and rest. I'm just

trying my best to stay positive! I wish you the best, and let us

know how things go! Take care!

June 22, 2004

BEST OF LUCK

langartstchr wrote:Dawn,