Guest guest Posted March 17, 2004 Report Share Posted March 17, 2004 Prayers are most welcome. I can't imagine how I would be if I didn't still have hope and faith. I will keep all of you here in my thoughts and prayers. Sharon > Sharon: We have all felt that way,we have to put a good face on it,we also > have > to have faith,without that I would be long gone. There is no magic potion,you > take > the good days and enjoy them,hoard the memories and most important of all do > what you just did. VENT. Ask and everyone here will share,thats what this is > all > about, a learning process,a kind of soul searching,unbearing,well this is it > kind of > place. You need time for you,to nousrish yourself,your spirit,and for > renewal.You > will receive a lot of responses,if it does not offend we will think of you > and pray that > His grace will descend on you and you will feeel His presence. hugs and > prayers > nick & jane > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 17, 2004 Report Share Posted March 17, 2004 Monika, I can't imagine how you are coping with two such devastating blows, but you are, and that is a tribute to you. I will hold you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Sharon > > I see so many here who are strong and valiant that it shames me. I > > am not coping well at all though I would dearly love to try. I > sleep > > but do not rest. I have no interest in doing much of anything. > This > > is such pitifully selfish behavior, but I can't seem to shake it. > > > > Advice on growing up would be welcome. > > > > Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 17, 2004 Report Share Posted March 17, 2004 Monika, I can't imagine how you are coping with two such devastating blows, but you are, and that is a tribute to you. I will hold you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Sharon > > I see so many here who are strong and valiant that it shames me. I > > am not coping well at all though I would dearly love to try. I > sleep > > but do not rest. I have no interest in doing much of anything. > This > > is such pitifully selfish behavior, but I can't seem to shake it. > > > > Advice on growing up would be welcome. > > > > Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 17, 2004 Report Share Posted March 17, 2004 Narice, Mom has a port, but I was told it could not be used for IVs and the like. It was used for chemo. Sharon > Do ask if they are willing to put a port in. It looks like a little button > they place beneath the skin for IVs and such. > Hugs and Prayers > Narice > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 17, 2004 Report Share Posted March 17, 2004 Narice, Mom has a port, but I was told it could not be used for IVs and the like. It was used for chemo. Sharon > Do ask if they are willing to put a port in. It looks like a little button > they place beneath the skin for IVs and such. > Hugs and Prayers > Narice > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 17, 2004 Report Share Posted March 17, 2004 Narice, Mom has a port, but I was told it could not be used for IVs and the like. It was used for chemo. Sharon > Do ask if they are willing to put a port in. It looks like a little button > they place beneath the skin for IVs and such. > Hugs and Prayers > Narice > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 17, 2004 Report Share Posted March 17, 2004 , I have two boys, 7 and 12. I would appreciate anyone who can provide good links or books which might go into detail about how to inform (pre)teens about family members going thru this. My father was just diagnosed with stage 3 colo-rectal cancer less than a month ago. A whole new scary world has been opened up to me and my family. This support group has helped sort my thoughts and provided a lot of useful info. I believe in being up front with my kids and letting them know all possible scenarios. While I didn't go into detail about everything I know, I think that kids in this age group think about a lot of things on their own in their own heads. If you don't tell them something and they find out later that you might have held something back that they deem important they could resent it. Knowledge is power - so they say. Finding the fine line of what to tell or not tell them is difficult. My dad starts chemo and radiation next week most likely. If/when he starts showing the effects of the treatments I want my kids to know why and not be in the dark. My two cents. Lyle > Hi Sharon, > > You are not alone - my husband was diagnosed at the end of January, > and I still cry every night. We are lucky to have such good friends > around us, or we wouldn't have been having cooked meals as often as > we do. Sometimes I think I have a new kind of bi-polar disease, where > I bounce between numbness and complete insanity. I read through the > posts here, and hope to God that some day I may find a similar > strength. In that way, coming here has been a blessing - I see > caregivers and families that do find courage, and maybe even peace. > Max has been sleeping alot lately, but I can only sleep during the > day for some reason - when I crawl into bed at night, all I can do is > look at him, and wish that this wasn't happening. Hopefully, you and > I, and anyone else struggling, will learn to cope with this soon ) > > On another note; I am wondering if anyone has any advice on talking > to children about death and dying. We have two boys, aged 14 and 10, > and we are having trouble finding a way to talk to them about this. > They certainly know their Dad is quite sick, especially since he's > been sleeping so much this week, but how much should we tell them? > > Wishing you all well, > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 17, 2004 Report Share Posted March 17, 2004 , I have two boys, 7 and 12. I would appreciate anyone who can provide good links or books which might go into detail about how to inform (pre)teens about family members going thru this. My father was just diagnosed with stage 3 colo-rectal cancer less than a month ago. A whole new scary world has been opened up to me and my family. This support group has helped sort my thoughts and provided a lot of useful info. I believe in being up front with my kids and letting them know all possible scenarios. While I didn't go into detail about everything I know, I think that kids in this age group think about a lot of things on their own in their own heads. If you don't tell them something and they find out later that you might have held something back that they deem important they could resent it. Knowledge is power - so they say. Finding the fine line of what to tell or not tell them is difficult. My dad starts chemo and radiation next week most likely. If/when he starts showing the effects of the treatments I want my kids to know why and not be in the dark. My two cents. Lyle > Hi Sharon, > > You are not alone - my husband was diagnosed at the end of January, > and I still cry every night. We are lucky to have such good friends > around us, or we wouldn't have been having cooked meals as often as > we do. Sometimes I think I have a new kind of bi-polar disease, where > I bounce between numbness and complete insanity. I read through the > posts here, and hope to God that some day I may find a similar > strength. In that way, coming here has been a blessing - I see > caregivers and families that do find courage, and maybe even peace. > Max has been sleeping alot lately, but I can only sleep during the > day for some reason - when I crawl into bed at night, all I can do is > look at him, and wish that this wasn't happening. Hopefully, you and > I, and anyone else struggling, will learn to cope with this soon ) > > On another note; I am wondering if anyone has any advice on talking > to children about death and dying. We have two boys, aged 14 and 10, > and we are having trouble finding a way to talk to them about this. > They certainly know their Dad is quite sick, especially since he's > been sleeping so much this week, but how much should we tell them? > > Wishing you all well, > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 17, 2004 Report Share Posted March 17, 2004 , I have two boys, 7 and 12. I would appreciate anyone who can provide good links or books which might go into detail about how to inform (pre)teens about family members going thru this. My father was just diagnosed with stage 3 colo-rectal cancer less than a month ago. A whole new scary world has been opened up to me and my family. This support group has helped sort my thoughts and provided a lot of useful info. I believe in being up front with my kids and letting them know all possible scenarios. While I didn't go into detail about everything I know, I think that kids in this age group think about a lot of things on their own in their own heads. If you don't tell them something and they find out later that you might have held something back that they deem important they could resent it. Knowledge is power - so they say. Finding the fine line of what to tell or not tell them is difficult. My dad starts chemo and radiation next week most likely. If/when he starts showing the effects of the treatments I want my kids to know why and not be in the dark. My two cents. Lyle > Hi Sharon, > > You are not alone - my husband was diagnosed at the end of January, > and I still cry every night. We are lucky to have such good friends > around us, or we wouldn't have been having cooked meals as often as > we do. Sometimes I think I have a new kind of bi-polar disease, where > I bounce between numbness and complete insanity. I read through the > posts here, and hope to God that some day I may find a similar > strength. In that way, coming here has been a blessing - I see > caregivers and families that do find courage, and maybe even peace. > Max has been sleeping alot lately, but I can only sleep during the > day for some reason - when I crawl into bed at night, all I can do is > look at him, and wish that this wasn't happening. Hopefully, you and > I, and anyone else struggling, will learn to cope with this soon ) > > On another note; I am wondering if anyone has any advice on talking > to children about death and dying. We have two boys, aged 14 and 10, > and we are having trouble finding a way to talk to them about this. > They certainly know their Dad is quite sick, especially since he's > been sleeping so much this week, but how much should we tell them? > > Wishing you all well, > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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