Guest guest Posted March 15, 2004 Report Share Posted March 15, 2004 I see so many here who are strong and valiant that it shames me. I am not coping well at all though I would dearly love to try. I sleep but do not rest. I have no interest in doing much of anything. This is such pitifully selfish behavior, but I can't seem to shake it. Advice on growing up would be welcome. Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 15, 2004 Report Share Posted March 15, 2004 Hi Sharon, You are not alone - my husband was diagnosed at the end of January, and I still cry every night. We are lucky to have such good friends around us, or we wouldn't have been having cooked meals as often as we do. Sometimes I think I have a new kind of bi-polar disease, where I bounce between numbness and complete insanity. I read through the posts here, and hope to God that some day I may find a similar strength. In that way, coming here has been a blessing - I see caregivers and families that do find courage, and maybe even peace. Max has been sleeping alot lately, but I can only sleep during the day for some reason - when I crawl into bed at night, all I can do is look at him, and wish that this wasn't happening. Hopefully, you and I, and anyone else struggling, will learn to cope with this soon ) On another note; I am wondering if anyone has any advice on talking to children about death and dying. We have two boys, aged 14 and 10, and we are having trouble finding a way to talk to them about this. They certainly know their Dad is quite sick, especially since he's been sleeping so much this week, but how much should we tell them? Wishing you all well, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 15, 2004 Report Share Posted March 15, 2004 Don't beat yourself up Sharon about how you are feeling. You have to remember that many of us here have been dealing with this disease for quite some time. Just the shock of getting the diagnosis is bad enough. Then there comes the uncertainty about tests and treatments as well as how well they may be tolerated. I think time, and knowledge help. I am a patient, and in many respects I think I have it easier than my family. I know how I am feeling, they can only worry about it. Take some time to care for yourself. It is not selfish, it is important. After 10-12 CT scans I know what to expect; however, I not had to deal with the Immodium question because I have had an ostomy. Barium, as others have said, is a contrast material. Having it in the intestine allows them to more easily differentiate a piece of intestine from a large lymph node, small tumors or other nearby organs. Once you are diagnosed, that is usually all they have you drink. (People who are getting barium as part of a CT scan to find polyps, instead of getting a colonoscopy, also have to drink stuff to clean any debris out of the colon.) Generally, they also give intravenous contrast as well when they do my studies. This helps them better evaluate my liver as well as to distinguish blood vessels from lymph nodes or small nearby tumors. Unless a person is dehydrated, allergic to IV contrast, or has some other medical condition that may cause a problem, they generally like to give this also. This intravenous contrast is removed in the urine, so it also is used to evaluate the kidney and ureters. It is important to drink water after the study. That helps flush the IV contrast out of the body. I hope things go well and your mother has a good report. Kris Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 15, 2004 Report Share Posted March 15, 2004 Don't beat yourself up Sharon about how you are feeling. You have to remember that many of us here have been dealing with this disease for quite some time. Just the shock of getting the diagnosis is bad enough. Then there comes the uncertainty about tests and treatments as well as how well they may be tolerated. I think time, and knowledge help. I am a patient, and in many respects I think I have it easier than my family. I know how I am feeling, they can only worry about it. Take some time to care for yourself. It is not selfish, it is important. After 10-12 CT scans I know what to expect; however, I not had to deal with the Immodium question because I have had an ostomy. Barium, as others have said, is a contrast material. Having it in the intestine allows them to more easily differentiate a piece of intestine from a large lymph node, small tumors or other nearby organs. Once you are diagnosed, that is usually all they have you drink. (People who are getting barium as part of a CT scan to find polyps, instead of getting a colonoscopy, also have to drink stuff to clean any debris out of the colon.) Generally, they also give intravenous contrast as well when they do my studies. This helps them better evaluate my liver as well as to distinguish blood vessels from lymph nodes or small nearby tumors. Unless a person is dehydrated, allergic to IV contrast, or has some other medical condition that may cause a problem, they generally like to give this also. This intravenous contrast is removed in the urine, so it also is used to evaluate the kidney and ureters. It is important to drink water after the study. That helps flush the IV contrast out of the body. I hope things go well and your mother has a good report. Kris Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 16, 2004 Report Share Posted March 16, 2004 Narice, Faith is hard to sustain sometimes, but I keep trying. The hymn that goes: " When shadow surrounds my vision, when sorrow lays claim to my heart, You are my refuge, my rock and my shield. I will rely on the Lord. " runs through my mind almost constantly. Sharon > Oh Sharon > I think you have found out what we all find out. That everything you feel we > felt. > How do you keep " sane " Keep talking and try your best to stay in the present. > If you dwell too much on what MIGHT happen even if you are given a grim > prognosis you WILL definitely be depressed and you might miss a moment you will > later treasure. > \That said it is much easier said than done and we each must grow into that > point. There is no EASY way and each day and experience takes us to just > another point on the merry go round called COLON CANCER. > > Please remember that what you ' " see " of us is only the side we are willing to > share. > I have had moments that I still cringe at. Search the archives for details! > I could have gone to jail for assault back in December! (Long Story!! and > definitely not NORMAL for me at all!) And me a PASTOR'S WIFE to boot! > This disease will cause you to act in ways you never knew you could both > good and bad. It is all part of the coping Sharon be gentle with yourself. > Support is key and even counseling should you feel you need it. Thank God for my > counselor she's a true blessing! > > Faith is important for most and frankly I don't know how anyone makes it > through this disease without a heavy dose of faith and lots and lots of prayer. > > So you see we're all on the same journey with our good and bad days. > Hang in there, ask questions laugh cry scream and pray and know we are here > for you > Love & Prayers for God's Blessing > Narice > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 16, 2004 Report Share Posted March 16, 2004 Narice, Faith is hard to sustain sometimes, but I keep trying. The hymn that goes: " When shadow surrounds my vision, when sorrow lays claim to my heart, You are my refuge, my rock and my shield. I will rely on the Lord. " runs through my mind almost constantly. Sharon > Oh Sharon > I think you have found out what we all find out. That everything you feel we > felt. > How do you keep " sane " Keep talking and try your best to stay in the present. > If you dwell too much on what MIGHT happen even if you are given a grim > prognosis you WILL definitely be depressed and you might miss a moment you will > later treasure. > \That said it is much easier said than done and we each must grow into that > point. There is no EASY way and each day and experience takes us to just > another point on the merry go round called COLON CANCER. > > Please remember that what you ' " see " of us is only the side we are willing to > share. > I have had moments that I still cringe at. Search the archives for details! > I could have gone to jail for assault back in December! (Long Story!! and > definitely not NORMAL for me at all!) And me a PASTOR'S WIFE to boot! > This disease will cause you to act in ways you never knew you could both > good and bad. It is all part of the coping Sharon be gentle with yourself. > Support is key and even counseling should you feel you need it. Thank God for my > counselor she's a true blessing! > > Faith is important for most and frankly I don't know how anyone makes it > through this disease without a heavy dose of faith and lots and lots of prayer. > > So you see we're all on the same journey with our good and bad days. > Hang in there, ask questions laugh cry scream and pray and know we are here > for you > Love & Prayers for God's Blessing > Narice > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 16, 2004 Report Share Posted March 16, 2004 Narice, Faith is hard to sustain sometimes, but I keep trying. The hymn that goes: " When shadow surrounds my vision, when sorrow lays claim to my heart, You are my refuge, my rock and my shield. I will rely on the Lord. " runs through my mind almost constantly. Sharon > Oh Sharon > I think you have found out what we all find out. That everything you feel we > felt. > How do you keep " sane " Keep talking and try your best to stay in the present. > If you dwell too much on what MIGHT happen even if you are given a grim > prognosis you WILL definitely be depressed and you might miss a moment you will > later treasure. > \That said it is much easier said than done and we each must grow into that > point. There is no EASY way and each day and experience takes us to just > another point on the merry go round called COLON CANCER. > > Please remember that what you ' " see " of us is only the side we are willing to > share. > I have had moments that I still cringe at. Search the archives for details! > I could have gone to jail for assault back in December! (Long Story!! and > definitely not NORMAL for me at all!) And me a PASTOR'S WIFE to boot! > This disease will cause you to act in ways you never knew you could both > good and bad. It is all part of the coping Sharon be gentle with yourself. > Support is key and even counseling should you feel you need it. Thank God for my > counselor she's a true blessing! > > Faith is important for most and frankly I don't know how anyone makes it > through this disease without a heavy dose of faith and lots and lots of prayer. > > So you see we're all on the same journey with our good and bad days. > Hang in there, ask questions laugh cry scream and pray and know we are here > for you > Love & Prayers for God's Blessing > Narice > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 16, 2004 Report Share Posted March 16, 2004 Kris, You don't have it easier, because you worry about those who worry about you. I think you show great strength. Mom made it through the CT scan fine. The barium didn't cause any problems and no IV contrast was given. Mom has no good veins so the technician didn't try to do the contrast. I'm hoping and praying for something treatable enough for some quality time. May good news come your way. Sharon > Don't beat yourself up Sharon about how you are feeling. You have to > remember that many of us here have been dealing with this disease for > quite some time. Just the shock of getting the diagnosis is bad > enough. Then there comes the uncertainty about tests and treatments > as well as how well they may be tolerated. I think time, and > knowledge help. I am a patient, and in many respects I think I have > it easier than my family. I know how I am feeling, they can only > worry about it. Take some time to care for yourself. It is not > selfish, it is important. > > After 10-12 CT scans I know what to expect; however, I not had to > deal with the Immodium question because I have had an ostomy. > > Barium, as others have said, is a contrast material. Having it in > the intestine allows them to more easily differentiate a piece of > intestine from a large lymph node, small tumors or other nearby > organs. Once you are diagnosed, that is usually all they have you > drink. (People who are getting barium as part of a CT scan to find > polyps, instead of getting a colonoscopy, also have to drink stuff to > clean any debris out of the colon.) > > Generally, they also give intravenous contrast as well when they do > my studies. This helps them better evaluate my liver as well as to > distinguish blood vessels from lymph nodes or small nearby tumors. > Unless a person is dehydrated, allergic to IV contrast, or has some > other medical condition that may cause a problem, they generally like > to give this also. This intravenous contrast is removed in the > urine, so it also is used to evaluate the kidney and ureters. > > It is important to drink water after the study. That helps flush the > IV contrast out of the body. > > I hope things go well and your mother has a good report. > > Kris Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 16, 2004 Report Share Posted March 16, 2004 Kris, You don't have it easier, because you worry about those who worry about you. I think you show great strength. Mom made it through the CT scan fine. The barium didn't cause any problems and no IV contrast was given. Mom has no good veins so the technician didn't try to do the contrast. I'm hoping and praying for something treatable enough for some quality time. May good news come your way. Sharon > Don't beat yourself up Sharon about how you are feeling. You have to > remember that many of us here have been dealing with this disease for > quite some time. Just the shock of getting the diagnosis is bad > enough. Then there comes the uncertainty about tests and treatments > as well as how well they may be tolerated. I think time, and > knowledge help. I am a patient, and in many respects I think I have > it easier than my family. I know how I am feeling, they can only > worry about it. Take some time to care for yourself. It is not > selfish, it is important. > > After 10-12 CT scans I know what to expect; however, I not had to > deal with the Immodium question because I have had an ostomy. > > Barium, as others have said, is a contrast material. Having it in > the intestine allows them to more easily differentiate a piece of > intestine from a large lymph node, small tumors or other nearby > organs. Once you are diagnosed, that is usually all they have you > drink. (People who are getting barium as part of a CT scan to find > polyps, instead of getting a colonoscopy, also have to drink stuff to > clean any debris out of the colon.) > > Generally, they also give intravenous contrast as well when they do > my studies. This helps them better evaluate my liver as well as to > distinguish blood vessels from lymph nodes or small nearby tumors. > Unless a person is dehydrated, allergic to IV contrast, or has some > other medical condition that may cause a problem, they generally like > to give this also. This intravenous contrast is removed in the > urine, so it also is used to evaluate the kidney and ureters. > > It is important to drink water after the study. That helps flush the > IV contrast out of the body. > > I hope things go well and your mother has a good report. > > Kris Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 16, 2004 Report Share Posted March 16, 2004 Kris, You don't have it easier, because you worry about those who worry about you. I think you show great strength. Mom made it through the CT scan fine. The barium didn't cause any problems and no IV contrast was given. Mom has no good veins so the technician didn't try to do the contrast. I'm hoping and praying for something treatable enough for some quality time. May good news come your way. Sharon > Don't beat yourself up Sharon about how you are feeling. You have to > remember that many of us here have been dealing with this disease for > quite some time. Just the shock of getting the diagnosis is bad > enough. Then there comes the uncertainty about tests and treatments > as well as how well they may be tolerated. I think time, and > knowledge help. I am a patient, and in many respects I think I have > it easier than my family. I know how I am feeling, they can only > worry about it. Take some time to care for yourself. It is not > selfish, it is important. > > After 10-12 CT scans I know what to expect; however, I not had to > deal with the Immodium question because I have had an ostomy. > > Barium, as others have said, is a contrast material. Having it in > the intestine allows them to more easily differentiate a piece of > intestine from a large lymph node, small tumors or other nearby > organs. Once you are diagnosed, that is usually all they have you > drink. (People who are getting barium as part of a CT scan to find > polyps, instead of getting a colonoscopy, also have to drink stuff to > clean any debris out of the colon.) > > Generally, they also give intravenous contrast as well when they do > my studies. This helps them better evaluate my liver as well as to > distinguish blood vessels from lymph nodes or small nearby tumors. > Unless a person is dehydrated, allergic to IV contrast, or has some > other medical condition that may cause a problem, they generally like > to give this also. This intravenous contrast is removed in the > urine, so it also is used to evaluate the kidney and ureters. > > It is important to drink water after the study. That helps flush the > IV contrast out of the body. > > I hope things go well and your mother has a good report. > > Kris Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 16, 2004 Report Share Posted March 16, 2004 Do ask if they are willing to put a port in. It looks like a little button they place beneath the skin for IVs and such. Hugs and Prayers Narice Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 16, 2004 Report Share Posted March 16, 2004 Do ask if they are willing to put a port in. It looks like a little button they place beneath the skin for IVs and such. Hugs and Prayers Narice Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 16, 2004 Report Share Posted March 16, 2004 Do ask if they are willing to put a port in. It looks like a little button they place beneath the skin for IVs and such. Hugs and Prayers Narice Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 16, 2004 Report Share Posted March 16, 2004 Sharon, my first exposure to cancer was when my mom was diagnosed Sept. 2002 with inoperable lung cancer. While the world just seemed to spin around me, I was doing okay there for a while. The second whammy came in July 2003 when my rock, my strength, and the one person who I could count on to help me get through mom's lung cancer, my husband and soul mate Bert, was diagnosed with stage III colon cancer. My world fell apart and for weeks I walked around in a daze. I found this group and it helped a little, but not enough. So don't beat yourself up...you are really no different than most of us. I have found that as time goes on plus with help from antidepressants, which my doctor placed me on after my last check up at which I was a total reck, has helped me to life more in the present and enjoy each day and deal with obstacles as the come and not dwell upon them coming. Now, it doesn't work all the time, but it works a lot more than it used to. Hugs, Monika > I see so many here who are strong and valiant that it shames me. I > am not coping well at all though I would dearly love to try. I sleep > but do not rest. I have no interest in doing much of anything. This > is such pitifully selfish behavior, but I can't seem to shake it. > > Advice on growing up would be welcome. > > Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 16, 2004 Report Share Posted March 16, 2004 Sharon, my first exposure to cancer was when my mom was diagnosed Sept. 2002 with inoperable lung cancer. While the world just seemed to spin around me, I was doing okay there for a while. The second whammy came in July 2003 when my rock, my strength, and the one person who I could count on to help me get through mom's lung cancer, my husband and soul mate Bert, was diagnosed with stage III colon cancer. My world fell apart and for weeks I walked around in a daze. I found this group and it helped a little, but not enough. So don't beat yourself up...you are really no different than most of us. I have found that as time goes on plus with help from antidepressants, which my doctor placed me on after my last check up at which I was a total reck, has helped me to life more in the present and enjoy each day and deal with obstacles as the come and not dwell upon them coming. Now, it doesn't work all the time, but it works a lot more than it used to. Hugs, Monika > I see so many here who are strong and valiant that it shames me. I > am not coping well at all though I would dearly love to try. I sleep > but do not rest. I have no interest in doing much of anything. This > is such pitifully selfish behavior, but I can't seem to shake it. > > Advice on growing up would be welcome. > > Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 16, 2004 Report Share Posted March 16, 2004 Sharon, my first exposure to cancer was when my mom was diagnosed Sept. 2002 with inoperable lung cancer. While the world just seemed to spin around me, I was doing okay there for a while. The second whammy came in July 2003 when my rock, my strength, and the one person who I could count on to help me get through mom's lung cancer, my husband and soul mate Bert, was diagnosed with stage III colon cancer. My world fell apart and for weeks I walked around in a daze. I found this group and it helped a little, but not enough. So don't beat yourself up...you are really no different than most of us. I have found that as time goes on plus with help from antidepressants, which my doctor placed me on after my last check up at which I was a total reck, has helped me to life more in the present and enjoy each day and deal with obstacles as the come and not dwell upon them coming. Now, it doesn't work all the time, but it works a lot more than it used to. Hugs, Monika > I see so many here who are strong and valiant that it shames me. I > am not coping well at all though I would dearly love to try. I sleep > but do not rest. I have no interest in doing much of anything. This > is such pitifully selfish behavior, but I can't seem to shake it. > > Advice on growing up would be welcome. > > Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 16, 2004 Report Share Posted March 16, 2004 Sharon, I lost my wife 2 months ago, I don't have kids, but the people from Hospice came in and spoke to me, and are still helping me thru the grieving. They started 3 months before my loss. You might contact them or the Social Workers at the hospital. The Onc we were using had a list of people to talk to also. Alan > Hi Sharon, > > You are not alone - my husband was diagnosed at the end of January, > and I still cry every night. We are lucky to have such good friends > around us, or we wouldn't have been having cooked meals as often as > we do. Sometimes I think I have a new kind of bi-polar disease, where > I bounce between numbness and complete insanity. I read through the > posts here, and hope to God that some day I may find a similar > strength. In that way, coming here has been a blessing - I see > caregivers and families that do find courage, and maybe even peace. > Max has been sleeping alot lately, but I can only sleep during the > day for some reason - when I crawl into bed at night, all I can do is > look at him, and wish that this wasn't happening. Hopefully, you and > I, and anyone else struggling, will learn to cope with this soon ) > > On another note; I am wondering if anyone has any advice on talking > to children about death and dying. We have two boys, aged 14 and 10, > and we are having trouble finding a way to talk to them about this. > They certainly know their Dad is quite sick, especially since he's > been sleeping so much this week, but how much should we tell them? > > Wishing you all well, > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 16, 2004 Report Share Posted March 16, 2004 Sharon, I lost my wife 2 months ago, I don't have kids, but the people from Hospice came in and spoke to me, and are still helping me thru the grieving. They started 3 months before my loss. You might contact them or the Social Workers at the hospital. The Onc we were using had a list of people to talk to also. Alan > Hi Sharon, > > You are not alone - my husband was diagnosed at the end of January, > and I still cry every night. We are lucky to have such good friends > around us, or we wouldn't have been having cooked meals as often as > we do. Sometimes I think I have a new kind of bi-polar disease, where > I bounce between numbness and complete insanity. I read through the > posts here, and hope to God that some day I may find a similar > strength. In that way, coming here has been a blessing - I see > caregivers and families that do find courage, and maybe even peace. > Max has been sleeping alot lately, but I can only sleep during the > day for some reason - when I crawl into bed at night, all I can do is > look at him, and wish that this wasn't happening. Hopefully, you and > I, and anyone else struggling, will learn to cope with this soon ) > > On another note; I am wondering if anyone has any advice on talking > to children about death and dying. We have two boys, aged 14 and 10, > and we are having trouble finding a way to talk to them about this. > They certainly know their Dad is quite sick, especially since he's > been sleeping so much this week, but how much should we tell them? > > Wishing you all well, > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 16, 2004 Report Share Posted March 16, 2004 Sharon, I lost my wife 2 months ago, I don't have kids, but the people from Hospice came in and spoke to me, and are still helping me thru the grieving. They started 3 months before my loss. You might contact them or the Social Workers at the hospital. The Onc we were using had a list of people to talk to also. Alan > Hi Sharon, > > You are not alone - my husband was diagnosed at the end of January, > and I still cry every night. We are lucky to have such good friends > around us, or we wouldn't have been having cooked meals as often as > we do. Sometimes I think I have a new kind of bi-polar disease, where > I bounce between numbness and complete insanity. I read through the > posts here, and hope to God that some day I may find a similar > strength. In that way, coming here has been a blessing - I see > caregivers and families that do find courage, and maybe even peace. > Max has been sleeping alot lately, but I can only sleep during the > day for some reason - when I crawl into bed at night, all I can do is > look at him, and wish that this wasn't happening. Hopefully, you and > I, and anyone else struggling, will learn to cope with this soon ) > > On another note; I am wondering if anyone has any advice on talking > to children about death and dying. We have two boys, aged 14 and 10, > and we are having trouble finding a way to talk to them about this. > They certainly know their Dad is quite sick, especially since he's > been sleeping so much this week, but how much should we tell them? > > Wishing you all well, > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 16, 2004 Report Share Posted March 16, 2004 Sharon: We have all felt that way,we have to put a good face on it,we also have to have faith,without that I would be long gone. There is no magic potion,you take the good days and enjoy them,hoard the memories and most important of all do what you just did. VENT. Ask and everyone here will share,thats what this is all about, a learning process,a kind of soul searching,unbearing,well this is it kind of place. You need time for you,to nousrish yourself,your spirit,and for renewal.You will receive a lot of responses,if it does not offend we will think of you and pray that His grace will descend on you and you will feeel His presence. hugs and prayers nick & jane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 16, 2004 Report Share Posted March 16, 2004 Sharon: We have all felt that way,we have to put a good face on it,we also have to have faith,without that I would be long gone. There is no magic potion,you take the good days and enjoy them,hoard the memories and most important of all do what you just did. VENT. Ask and everyone here will share,thats what this is all about, a learning process,a kind of soul searching,unbearing,well this is it kind of place. You need time for you,to nousrish yourself,your spirit,and for renewal.You will receive a lot of responses,if it does not offend we will think of you and pray that His grace will descend on you and you will feeel His presence. hugs and prayers nick & jane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 16, 2004 Report Share Posted March 16, 2004 Sharon: We have all felt that way,we have to put a good face on it,we also have to have faith,without that I would be long gone. There is no magic potion,you take the good days and enjoy them,hoard the memories and most important of all do what you just did. VENT. Ask and everyone here will share,thats what this is all about, a learning process,a kind of soul searching,unbearing,well this is it kind of place. You need time for you,to nousrish yourself,your spirit,and for renewal.You will receive a lot of responses,if it does not offend we will think of you and pray that His grace will descend on you and you will feeel His presence. hugs and prayers nick & jane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 17, 2004 Report Share Posted March 17, 2004 I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing when you are still in such pain. Please take care. Sharon > > Hi Sharon, > > > > You are not alone - my husband was diagnosed at the end of > January, > > and I still cry every night. We are lucky to have such good > friends > > around us, or we wouldn't have been having cooked meals as often > as > > we do. Sometimes I think I have a new kind of bi-polar disease, > where > > I bounce between numbness and complete insanity. I read through > the > > posts here, and hope to God that some day I may find a similar > > strength. In that way, coming here has been a blessing - I see > > caregivers and families that do find courage, and maybe even > peace. > > Max has been sleeping alot lately, but I can only sleep during the > > day for some reason - when I crawl into bed at night, all I can do > is > > look at him, and wish that this wasn't happening. Hopefully, you > and > > I, and anyone else struggling, will learn to cope with this > soon ) > > > > On another note; I am wondering if anyone has any advice on > talking > > to children about death and dying. We have two boys, aged 14 and > 10, > > and we are having trouble finding a way to talk to them about > this. > > They certainly know their Dad is quite sick, especially since he's > > been sleeping so much this week, but how much should we tell them? > > > > Wishing you all well, > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 17, 2004 Report Share Posted March 17, 2004 Prayers are most welcome. I can't imagine how I would be if I didn't still have hope and faith. I will keep all of you here in my thoughts and prayers. Sharon > Sharon: We have all felt that way,we have to put a good face on it,we also > have > to have faith,without that I would be long gone. There is no magic potion,you > take > the good days and enjoy them,hoard the memories and most important of all do > what you just did. VENT. Ask and everyone here will share,thats what this is > all > about, a learning process,a kind of soul searching,unbearing,well this is it > kind of > place. You need time for you,to nousrish yourself,your spirit,and for > renewal.You > will receive a lot of responses,if it does not offend we will think of you > and pray that > His grace will descend on you and you will feeel His presence. hugs and > prayers > nick & jane > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 17, 2004 Report Share Posted March 17, 2004 Prayers are most welcome. I can't imagine how I would be if I didn't still have hope and faith. I will keep all of you here in my thoughts and prayers. Sharon > Sharon: We have all felt that way,we have to put a good face on it,we also > have > to have faith,without that I would be long gone. There is no magic potion,you > take > the good days and enjoy them,hoard the memories and most important of all do > what you just did. VENT. Ask and everyone here will share,thats what this is > all > about, a learning process,a kind of soul searching,unbearing,well this is it > kind of > place. You need time for you,to nousrish yourself,your spirit,and for > renewal.You > will receive a lot of responses,if it does not offend we will think of you > and pray that > His grace will descend on you and you will feeel His presence. hugs and > prayers > nick & jane > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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