Re: Janice--Unwanted nursery decorations from the inlaws, what to do?

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Janice, For the pictures, I'd just "politely" explain that they don't go with the color scheme or theme of my nursery. Ask her to keep them in case someone else she knows may want to use them later. Just make sure she knows that if she gives them all to you then they will do nothing more than sit in a closet (or wherever) bc you have no use for them. For the delivery... I say if your dh really wants to call everyone WHILE you are in labor then tell him only if agrees that no one visits you until after. Labor and delivery is a very special and personal time. I think all women have their own ideas of how they want theirs and many of them don't want anyone except the necessary medical staff and their partner. Just when you go in make sure that the nurses know you don't want any visitors and they mark it down on your chart. If you have people in your room when you don't want them there it's going to make you too uncomfortable to do what you're there for. I hope this helps some. Luckily I don't have to worry about in-laws trying to give me their used items bc the only one who had a child before me was pg when I was the first time. She was using it all again... Amy 34w 3d Unwanted nursery decorations from the inlaws, what to do? what to do? Hello everyone! I just got home from an evening with the inlaws and I just had to vent a little with women who understand. My sil, whom I love very much, has a two year old and is expecting in March with her second one. She bought several pictures of teddy bears in a mauve and country blue background three years ago when she was pg with her first one. Well, he was a boy and she never used them. Anyway, I told her that I wanted to keep the nursery a light blue color with white trim and I was going to get pink bedding a few animal type pictures. Like right now I have an Anne Geddes picture of all these babies in little white rabbit suits and against a pink background. Well sil has already given me one of her pictures and tonight she said she’d have to give me the other three that she has because she doesn’t want them. She’s going to redo her nursery and doesn’t plan to use them even if this baby turns out to be a girl. I appreciate her generosity, but I would really like to decorate my nursery according to my tastes. Mauve does not really go with the pastel blue walls, and I’m not crazy about mauve anyway. Am I being ungrateful? Is there a tactful way to explain why I didn’t use her pictures when she sees the completed nursery later on? I just feel overwhelmed sometimes by everyone who wants to help and give me advice. Tonight sil, her husband and mil were all telling me about their delivery experiences and what I would need to do, etc. And I got into an argument with dh on our way home. I want him to call our families right after the baby is born. He thinks they should be called when I go into labor so they can pray for us. I agree that their prayers will be needed, but I know that my inlaws will feel the need to visit me while I’m in labor. We all live like 10 min. from the hospital and I’ve heard them talk about visiting other women in between contractions. I really don’t want to see anyone until I am all cleaned up and have a baby in my lap. Is that so horrible? I just feel like since I am the one giving birth and I am the one who will have to spend hours spread eagle with God knows what oozing out of me, I should have a say in one of the most significant moments of my life. And another thing, when we were at the restaurant, we ran into a couple that goes to our church and has been struggling to conceive for about 3 years. My mil, giddy with one grandchild and two on the way, made some comment about how everyone was having babies but them and didn’t it give them any ideas? This couple is in their early 30s and they have been married for about 8 years. Everyone should assume that when a couple has been married for that long and they have passed thirty, they are probably either experiencing reproductive problems or have committed to a childfree life. Okay, I’ll stop venting. But if anyone has friends or family who have tried to foist unwanted baby goods onto them, please let me know how you handled it. Thanks! Janice 26 wks