Guest guest Posted January 22, 2004 Report Share Posted January 22, 2004 Hi, I just wanted to tell you to hang in there. We had a member, , that carried twins in one horn of her BU (so it was comparable to having twins in a uu) and she just gave birth again recently to a third child. You can imagine with all those little ones running around that she is not on the board much, but I think that Beth would be able to give you her email address. I know she had a lot of bedrest at the end but it was mainly due to her high blood pressure/preeclampsia. Also, about a year ago we had another member, , that had twins in a uu. I think that they were boys and they were a pretty good size! I will keep you in my thoughts. Remember that you are doing the best you can and every day is a small victory. I cannot imagine how hard bedrest must be, but I'll be thinking and wishing all the best for you. Take care, Sara SU resected x2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 22, 2004 Report Share Posted January 22, 2004 Hi, I just wanted to tell you to hang in there. We had a member, , that carried twins in one horn of her BU (so it was comparable to having twins in a uu) and she just gave birth again recently to a third child. You can imagine with all those little ones running around that she is not on the board much, but I think that Beth would be able to give you her email address. I know she had a lot of bedrest at the end but it was mainly due to her high blood pressure/preeclampsia. Also, about a year ago we had another member, , that had twins in a uu. I think that they were boys and they were a pretty good size! I will keep you in my thoughts. Remember that you are doing the best you can and every day is a small victory. I cannot imagine how hard bedrest must be, but I'll be thinking and wishing all the best for you. Take care, Sara SU resected x2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 22, 2004 Report Share Posted January 22, 2004 Hi, I just wanted to tell you to hang in there. We had a member, , that carried twins in one horn of her BU (so it was comparable to having twins in a uu) and she just gave birth again recently to a third child. You can imagine with all those little ones running around that she is not on the board much, but I think that Beth would be able to give you her email address. I know she had a lot of bedrest at the end but it was mainly due to her high blood pressure/preeclampsia. Also, about a year ago we had another member, , that had twins in a uu. I think that they were boys and they were a pretty good size! I will keep you in my thoughts. Remember that you are doing the best you can and every day is a small victory. I cannot imagine how hard bedrest must be, but I'll be thinking and wishing all the best for you. Take care, Sara SU resected x2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 19, 2006 Report Share Posted March 19, 2006 Janette, If you still have time on your phone card give me a call sometime today and we can talk. Hugs nne > I need some advice > Date: Sun, 19 Mar 2006 06:22:37 -0800 (PST) > > > I know I haven't posted much but being pretty new to breast cancer > I am still learning. When I introduced myself in the group I said I > was a nanny for quite a long time and now do house cleaning. > I had one of the families contact me that I was nanny for and > their daughter and her husband want me to come live with them and > be their nanny also. The daughter is like one of my kids. I never > married so the children I watched I felt like they were mine. > > They told me I could stay with them even after the children no > longer needed a nanny. House cleaning is getting harder for me when > I have to do more than the normal dusting and such. I live alone, > have no family around me, no children, no husband, just the few > friends I made in my complex. My dilema is I would be moving from > here to N. Dakota. I was so surprised I think she said N. Dokota > not S. Dakota. It would't really matter as they are both in the > same part of the country. I do not even know what kind of weather > they have in that area. The husband is getting transferred May 1st. > They need to know soon because they are going to buy a house and > would like to try to get one where I could have an in law apartment > area if possible. I know I would be taken care of for the rest of > my life but I would not want to be a burden to them if my cancer > came back or something worse happened to me. So far the only > problem is my blood pressure and my breast cancer. I am doing ok so > far w > here > that is concerned. > I would like to hear from you ladies if you have time. I am > sorry if I shouldn't have posted this here because its not breast > cancer related but I just have my few friends to talk to. > Thank you. > Janette > > > --------------------------------- > Yahoo! Mail > Use Photomail to share photos without annoying attachments. > Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html Check out my breast cancer ornaments at: http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.html also check out my other ornaments and lots of nice gifts at: http://www.cancerclub.com -- _______________________________________________ Surf the Web in a faster, safer and easier way: Download Opera 8 at http://www.opera.com Powered by Outblaze Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 19, 2006 Report Share Posted March 19, 2006 Hi Janette, There are so many facts that we'd have to know before even beginning to offer suggestions. First of all, is the couple FULLY aware of your medical situation? Do they realize that chemo may exhaust you? How old is the child? How much housework is involved? Light housekeeping, or the heavy duty stuff? Would you have to cook for the family? How close are you to the couple - do they think of you as a dear friend, or hired help? I know this is blunt, but it really needs to be factored in. Did they make this offer as a way to help you, or is it based on their needs alone? If the latter, could you honestly fulfill those needs? Look forward to your response, Ann Chemo Hats: www.cjhats.com Yahoo! Mail Bring photos to life! New PhotoMail makes sharing a breeze. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 19, 2006 Report Share Posted March 19, 2006 Ann you have mirrored my questions to a tee. Exactly what I would ask. Trisha -- Re: I need some advice Hi Janette, There are so many facts that we'd have to know before even beginning to offer suggestions. First of all, is the couple FULLY aware of your medical situation? Do they realize that chemo may exhaust you? How old is the child? How much housework is involved? Light housekeeping, or the heavy duty stuff? Would you have to cook for the family? How close are you to the couple - do they think of you as a dear friend, or hired help? I know this is blunt, but it really needs to be factored in. Did they make this offer as a way to help you, or is it based on their needs alone? If the latter, could you honestly fulfill those needs? Look forward to your response, Ann Chemo Hats: www.cjhats.com Yahoo! MailBring photos to life! New PhotoMail makes sharing a breeze. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 19, 2006 Report Share Posted March 19, 2006 Ann & Trisha thank you for replying. Yes they know I went through treatment last year and so far I am cancer free. I was diagnosed 1/2005 so all of that is behind me. The child is now 3 but they are planning on another child possibly next year. There would absolutely no house keeping or no cooking involved just taking care of . Alice, I was nanny for from just about her birth and I am really close to her and also the parents. I considered Alice like one of mine own. We consider one another family. I have spent some holidays with them in the past several years at the parents house. I believe they offered as a way to help me which in turn would be helping them also. They assured me that should I get sick again that they would be there to help in any way they could. They are not poor by anymeans so they will have house keeping help. They know its getting hard on me as I am getting older plus when I was nanny for for Alice housekeeping was never part of my duties. I am leaning towards taking the offer. I would at least have some one as I age. Here, now all I have are other seniors in the complex some of whom are not in the best of shape. I am going to take a week and seriously think this over. I thought maybe views from other people would help show it from both sides, good and bad. I hope it is all right that I posted this with it not being about breast cancer. Thank you again, Janette Ann Weiss wrote: Hi Janette, There are so many facts that we'd have to know before even beginning to offer suggestions. First of all, is the couple FULLY aware of your medical situation? Do they realize that chemo may exhaust you? How old is the child? How much housework is involved? Light housekeeping, or the heavy duty stuff? Would you have to cook for the family? How close are you to the couple - do they think of you as a dear friend, or hired help? I know this is blunt, but it really needs to be factored in. Did they make this offer as a way to help you, or is it based on their needs alone? If the latter, could you honestly fulfill those needs? Look forward to your response, Ann Chemo Hats: www.cjhats.com Yahoo! MailBring photos to life! New PhotoMail makes sharing a breeze. Brings words and photos together (easily) with PhotoMail - it's free and works with Yahoo! Mail. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 19, 2006 Report Share Posted March 19, 2006 Janette, When my mother was in a senior complex there was a lady there that had no family. NONE. Her life was sad. She spent all the holidays alone and seemingly forgotten. I brought her over to my home for a lot of those holidays when I found out. BUT, she always felt out of place at my house no matter how hard I tried to make her fell welcome and wanted. A "family" is so important. If these people will, and can be a family to you then there is no question as to what I would do. Someone that loves and takes care of you is so vital in living a happy and satisfied life. I have friends that I love every bit as much as my family members, so you don't have to be of the same blood to be family. I think YOU need a family that loves you and it looks like these people do. As long as everything is up front and all expectations are discussed before the move then there will be few surprises. Of course there will be things to deal with as they appear, just like in any family situation. Why spend your life alone when you obviously have people that love you and children to share your life with. What could be better than that? You have so much that you can teach these young ones. Love and best wishes in your decisions my dear, Trisha -- Re: I need some advice Ann & Trisha thank you for replying. Yes they know I went through treatment last year and so far I am cancer free. I was diagnosed 1/2005 so all of that is behind me. The child is now 3 but they are planning on another child possibly next year. There would absolutely no house keeping or no cooking involved just taking care of . Alice, I was nanny for from just about her birth and I am really close to her and also the parents. I considered Alice like one of mine own. We consider one another family. I have spent some holidays with them in the past several years at the parents house. I believe they offered as a way to help me which in turn would be helping them also. They assured me that should I get sick again that they would be there to help in any way they could. They are not poor by anymeans so they will have house keeping help. They know its getting hard on me as I am getting older plus when I was nanny for for Alice housekeeping was never part of my duties. I am leaning towards taking the offer. I would at least have some one as I age. Here, now all I have are other seniors in the complex some of whom are not in the best of shape. I am going to take a week and seriously think this over. I thought maybe views from other people would help show it from both sides, good and bad. I hope it is all right that I posted this with it not being about breast cancer. Thank you again, Janette Ann Weiss wrote: Hi Janette, There are so many facts that we'd have to know before even beginning to offer suggestions. First of all, is the couple FULLY aware of your medical situation? Do they realize that chemo may exhaust you? How old is the child? How much housework is involved? Light housekeeping, or the heavy duty stuff? Would you have to cook for the family? How close are you to the couple - do they think of you as a dear friend, or hired help? I know this is blunt, but it really needs to be factored in. Did they make this offer as a way to help you, or is it based on their needs alone? If the latter, could you honestly fulfill those needs? Look forward to your response, Ann Chemo Hats: www.cjhats.com Yahoo! MailBring photos to life! New PhotoMail makes sharing a breeze. Brings words and photos together (easily) withPhotoMail - it's free and works with Yahoo! Mail. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 19, 2006 Report Share Posted March 19, 2006 Hello Trisha, I can understand what that lady went through. Its very scary being alone and getting older. I feel in my heart that this would work out for all of us. I pretty much raised Alice and Alica is just a doll. I am really leaning to going there but I am still going to give it some more thought and pray about it. Thank you for taking the time to reply to me. JanetteTrisha wrote: Janette, When my mother was in a senior complex there was a lady there that had no family. NONE. Her life was sad. She spent all the holidays alone and seemingly forgotten. I brought her over to my home for a lot of those holidays when I found out. BUT, she always felt out of place at my house no matter how hard I tried to make her fell welcome and wanted. A "family" is so important. If these people will, and can be a family to you then there is no question as to what I would do. Someone that loves and takes care of you is so vital in living a happy and satisfied life. I have friends that I love every bit as much as my family members, so you don't have to be of the same blood to be family. I think YOU need a family that loves you and it looks like these people do. As long as everything is up front and all expectations are discussed before the move then there will be few surprises. Of course there will be things to deal with as they appear, just like in any family situation. Why spend your life alone when you obviously have people that love you and children to share your life with. What could be better than that? You have so much that you can teach these young ones. Love and best wishes in your decisions my dear, Trisha -- Re: I need some advice Ann & Trisha thank you for replying. Yes they know I went through treatment last year and so far I am cancer free. I was diagnosed 1/2005 so all of that is behind me. The child is now 3 but they are planning on another child possibly next year. There would absolutely no house keeping or no cooking involved just taking care of . Alice, I was nanny for from just about her birth and I am really close to her and also the parents. I considered Alice like one of mine own. We consider one another family. I have spent some holidays with them in the past several years at the parents house. I believe they offered as a way to help me which in turn would be helping them also. They assured me that should I get sick again that they would be there to help in any way they could. They are not poor by anymeans so they will have house keeping help. They know its getting hard on me as I am getting older plus when I was nanny for for Alice housekeeping was never part of my duties. I am leaning towards taking the offer. I would at least have some one as I age. Here, now all I have are other seniors in the complex some of whom are not in the best of shape. I am going to take a week and seriously think this over. I thought maybe views from other people would help show it from both sides, good and bad. I hope it is all right that I posted this with it not being about breast cancer. Thank you again, Janette Ann Weiss wrote: Hi Janette, There are so many facts that we'd have to know before even beginning to offer suggestions. First of all, is the couple FULLY aware of your medical situation? Do they realize that chemo may exhaust you? How old is the child? How much housework is involved? Light housekeeping, or the heavy duty stuff? Would you have to cook for the family? How close are you to the couple - do they think of you as a dear friend, or hired help? I know this is blunt, but it really needs to be factored in. Did they make this offer as a way to help you, or is it based on their needs alone? If the latter, could you honestly fulfill those needs? Look forward to your response, Ann Chemo Hats: www.cjhats.com Yahoo! MailBring photos to life! New PhotoMail makes sharing a breeze. Brings words and photos together (easily) withPhotoMail - it's free and works with Yahoo! Mail. Yahoo! Mail Use Photomail to share photos without annoying attachments. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 19, 2006 Report Share Posted March 19, 2006 Janette I will pray for your decision also. Janet IDC Stage I Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 20, 2006 Report Share Posted March 20, 2006 Janette, I don't know how old you are because I am a fairly new member but I know how I would feel about this. I have been staying iwth some folks besdie family since Katrina last year and let me tell you that it is not always a fun thing to do. I always help out as much as I can but I still am not family no matter how nice the people are to me. I am not a young chick so maybe if I were younger, it would be different. How are these folks going to treat you when the children are grown and you are old? Will they give you a pension or will you have to rely on what you have saved? Will they take care of you in your old age or will they put you in a home that is whatever might be available? Some senior homes are nice but would they be willing to pay for one like that or just any old place? I am not trying to discourage you but you need to think of these things. I don't have a home of my own right now but hope I will by the end of the year; will this be your home or just a work place and not a real home? They seem to be rushing your decision; don't rush if you are not sure you are doing the right thing. Gerry > > I know I haven't posted much but being pretty new to breast cancer I am still learning. When I introduced myself in the group I said I was a nanny for quite a long time and now do house cleaning. > I had one of the families contact me that I was nanny for and their daughter and her husband want me to come live with them and be their nanny also. The daughter is like one of my kids. I never married so the children I watched I felt like they were mine. > > They told me I could stay with them even after the children no longer needed a nanny. House cleaning is getting harder for me when I have to do more than the normal dusting and such. I live alone, have no family around me, no children, no husband, just the few friends I made in my complex. My dilema is I would be moving from here to N. Dakota. I was so surprised I think she said N. Dokota not S. Dakota. It would't really matter as they are both in the same part of the country. I do not even know what kind of weather they have in that area. The husband is getting transferred May 1st. They need to know soon because they are going to buy a house and would like to try to get one where I could have an in law apartment area if possible. I know I would be taken care of for the rest of my life but I would not want to be a burden to them if my cancer came back or something worse happened to me. So far the only problem is my blood pressure and my breast cancer. I am doing ok so far where > that is concerned. > I would like to hear from you ladies if you have time. I am sorry if I shouldn't have posted this here because its not breast cancer related but I just have my few friends to talk to. > Thank you. > Janette > > > --------------------------------- > Yahoo! Mail > Use Photomail to share photos without annoying attachments. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 20, 2006 Report Share Posted March 20, 2006 Hello Gerry, thank you for replying. I am 61 will be 62 in a few months. I was nanny to Alice from just about birth. I have stayed in touch with the family even after I was no longer needed as a nanny. I have spent holidays with them and also special occasions. Alice has told me many times I would be welcome to live with them anytime because I pretty much raised her and she would love to care for me if the occasion arose. I have no doubt that they will care for me later in my life should I stay there after the children are raised. They have just one child now but plan on another one in the next year or so. Never being married, the children I was nanny to I felt were like my own had I married and had children. I couldn't love them any less. I have been especially close to this family. I really have noone here. Just a few senior ladies from the complex and some are not in the best of health. Thank you for your thoughts. I am taking the week to think things over and appreciate everyones thoughts pro and con. Janette > > > > I know I haven't posted much but being pretty new to breast cancer > I am still learning. When I introduced myself in the group I said I > was a nanny for quite a long time and now do house cleaning. > > I had one of the families contact me that I was nanny for and > their daughter and her husband want me to come live with them and be > their nanny also. The daughter is like one of my kids. I never > married so the children I watched I felt like they were mine. > > > > They told me I could stay with them even after the children no > longer needed a nanny. House cleaning is getting harder for me when > I have to do more than the normal dusting and such. I live alone, > have no family around me, no children, no husband, just the few > friends I made in my complex. My dilema is I would be moving from > here to N. Dakota. I was so surprised I think she said N. Dokota not > S. Dakota. It would't really matter as they are both in the same > part of the country. I do not even know what kind of weather they > have in that area. The husband is getting transferred May 1st. They > need to know soon because they are going to buy a house and would > like to try to get one where I could have an in law apartment area > if possible. I know I would be taken care of for the rest of my life > but I would not want to be a burden to them if my cancer came back > or something worse happened to me. So far the only problem is my > blood pressure and my breast cancer. I am doing ok so far where > > that is concerned. > > I would like to hear from you ladies if you have time. I am > sorry if I shouldn't have posted this here because its not breast > cancer related but I just have my few friends to talk to. > > Thank you. > > Janette > > > > > > --------------------------------- > > Yahoo! Mail > > Use Photomail to share photos without annoying attachments. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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