Re: Peeved with DH's

[Guest guest]

> I'd go on strike and leave the house in a tip, but I just can't I

get really stressed when the house is a mess I know I'm sad!!

I know what you mean - even my mum says: 'oh s*d the housework for a

day or two' but I just can't bear the mess!

Last week DH and I argued so much that I was convinced he didn't love

me anymore and that either way I couldn't spend the rest of my life

with someone who didn't help out! It was just the irrational thinking

of someone on 7 hours sleep over three nights! Now that I've caught up

on the zzzz's a bit, I realise just how much DH does compared to some

of my friends' DHs.

Right then, I'm off to do the hoovering (then the dusting, hanging out

the washing....!)

Sue V. SAHM- 5 mths

[Guest guest]

I am a practitioner of this form of housekeeping - place is completely trashed

since only I seem able to operate a vacuum cleaner, can identify a duster and

know what a clothes washer looks like. No one has whinged about non appearance

of Christmas deccies yet but I am sure they will do soon. I refuse to put

anything up until I have some help with tidying. I'll feed 'em and supply clean

clothes and thats as far as it goes at the moment.

Caroline

Bolshy of Jersey

> I'd go on strike and leave the house in a tip, but I just can't I get really

stressed when the house is a mess I know I'm sad!!

[Guest guest]

> So what did DH do all day, well he did a roast for tea and slept on the

sofa!! We ended up have a tiff about time off etc. He's says when I go to

church that's my " quality time " !! Hmm not quite the same as sleeping on the

sofa for four hours while three kids rampage around the house, while I try

to get on with some housework and wrapping though is it!

My DH's idea too. I can only really get a " rest " if I leave the house

without DS. I went to church twice yesterday as a result! Really I love

church and would go twice every Sunday but it just doesn't happen with DS

and DH to consider!!!

Life is so much easier when DH is at work - I called him a burden

yesterday - he was none too pleased.

>

> I'd go on strike and leave the house in a tip, but I just can't I get

really stressed when the house is a mess I know I'm sad!!

Obviously I am sad too as I hate a mess in the house leaves my brain twice

as messy if it is!

>

> Don't really know what the answer is though if any.

PRAY

It worked yesterday - I really should pray more often

I am having the book " Daily Light " for Christmas which has a daily reading

for morning and evening for each day of the year, my Beta leader quoted from

it and it seemed like the sort of thing I could get my head around on a

daily basis. Let's hope it brings me a bit of peace.

[Guest guest]

> I know what you mean - even my mum says: 'oh s*d the housework for a

> day or two' but I just can't bear the mess!

I suppose housework is prioritised somewhat, so the top things get done more

often than the bottom ones:-

Cooking - letting DH do as often as possible as I HATE this bit

Sorting out DS's needs (dressing/feeding/changing/bathing)

Washing Dishes/Wiping down kitchen/dishwasher etc. - daily

Making beds - daily (I suppose I could miss this one out as I am down stairs

and wouldn't notice!)

Washing /Drying clothes - daily

Tidying House- daily

Putting clean clothes away - when I find I have run out of pants!

Vacuuming - as array of shoe litter/crumbs dictates

Ironing - when DH manages to mention he has no shirts left!!!

Mopping kitchen floor - nice new floor shame about the mess!

Cleaning Bathroom/Loo - hmmm? why does this get left till lastish?

g - what dusting!

Do remind me if I have forgotten something?

[Guest guest]

On Mon, 11 Dec 2000 22:06:55 -0000, " The s "

wrote:

>I've never really understood the point of bed making, unless someone is

>staying with you in the house, and even then I let them make their own !

>

>The point:-

>

>bottom sheet smoothed out and not rucked up

Get fitted sheets.

>the pillows fluffed up (feathers) and turned to air

Give 'em a shake once a week and they're fine.

>the quilt shaken and turned down to air bed

Ok, this I do (shake the duvet last thing at night cos it's goose down

and gets all bulky at one end and non-existent at the other).

--

Clare Lusher.

SAHM to Ruairí (24.10.99).

NCT Member Derby & District.

www.yum.org/clare

[Guest guest]

Interesting - thanks !

On Mon, 11 Dec 2000 23:19:40 -0000, " Barbara "

wrote:

>> > I've never really understood the point of bed making,

>

>Nor me till recently, Was told by my homeopath to concentrate on 'beds' as

>you spend 1/3 of the time there(well, if you`re lucky!)

[snippy]

--

Clare Lusher.

SAHM to Ruairí (24.10.99).

NCT Member Derby & District.

www.yum.org/clare

[Guest guest]

I feel terrible - am I the ONLY person in the world with a wonderful

houseworking DH? I'm dreadful in the house. He's brilliant. He makes

the bed (I can never be bothered), remembers about washing nappies before

I do, hangs up washing, hoovers the whole house (I HATE hoovering) and

loads & unloads the dishwasher. He also tidies up compulsively after me

and lets me make a terrible mess as I make cards and paint and play with

DD. He also takes on a huge share of looking afer her, especially on my

'down' days - playing and changing and he insists on doing half the

feeding and half the bathing, and just about the only thing he doesn't do

is the ironing (which the childminder does) or dusting and cleaning the

bathroom ( which I like doing, especially the bathroom. Not much makes

me happier than a shiny clean sink. I'm pretty sad!)

As far as all the shaking of bed stuff goes, DH is asthmatic so we have

hollow fibre pillows and duvet, whic don't need much fluffing!!

P/T SAHM to (6/2/00)

[Guest guest]

Mine is also good, superficially. Problem is for the past 3 years he is

hardly ever here, leading me into a false sense of security when he is here

and a nasty shock when he works away. I am forever forgetting to put the

bins out, or lock the front door, and only notice that the washing hasn't

been done when I am (like today) forced to wear a skirt cos everything else

is in the wash.

But on the other hand, everything is where I left it, I haven't lost anything

recently (although Emma school jumpers have mysteriously disappeared since DH

has been away and there is no point asking him where he has put them cos he

won't remember),

Also shower is clean and has stayed that way. That's my job apparently even

though only DH has a shower twice a day, and doesn't clean it. Toilet is

also cleaner without the customary 'misses' to clean up after.

Oh and only one bed to make (erm actually only one bed to feel guilty about

NOT making).

So no you are not alone - almost.

Sue

[Guest guest]

Okay - and Sue V.

What's the secret???? (if any).

I also hate having the house in a mess but it always is because I totally detest

housework.

I find it so defeating - clean and tidy up, spending best of day doing so, and

then 'bam' in five minutes everything is back to it's 'original' state!

So.... do you have any tips? Or is it just a case of getting on with it or

living with the mess.

What I don't understand is how everybody's house that I visit looks like they

don't even have children and is impeccably clean and tidy!

How do they do that?

Janet

Subject: Re: Peeved with DH's

> I'd go on strike and leave the house in a tip, but I just can't I

get really stressed when the house is a mess I know I'm sad!!

I know what you mean - even my mum says: 'oh s*d the housework for a

day or two' but I just can't bear the mess!

Last week DH and I argued so much that I was convinced he didn't love

me anymore and that either way I couldn't spend the rest of my life

with someone who didn't help out! It was just the irrational thinking

of someone on 7 hours sleep over three nights! Now that I've caught up

on the zzzz's a bit, I realise just how much DH does compared to some

of my friends' DHs.

Right then, I'm off to do the hoovering (then the dusting, hanging out

the washing....!)

Sue V. SAHM- 5 mths

[Guest guest]

On Tue, 12 Dec 2000 15:10:43 +0200, " Dimitris & Janet "

wrote:

>What I don't understand is how everybody's house that I visit looks like they

don't even have children and is impeccably clean and tidy!

>How do they do that?

They rush around, cleaning up and clearing away, about five minutes

before you get there. :-)

--

Clare Lusher.

SAHM to Ruairí (24.10.99).

NCT Member Derby & District.

www.yum.org/clare

[Guest guest]

>What I don't understand is how everybody's house that I visit looks like

they don't even have children and is impeccably clean and tidy!

>How do they do that?

>

>Janet

by running around frantically for the 10 mins b4 you arrive, hiding

everything!!

Angi

not guilty of the above!!

[Guest guest]

> >What I don't understand is how everybody's house that I visit

looks like they don't even have children and is impeccably clean and

tidy!

> >How do they do that?

>

> They rush around, cleaning up and clearing away, about five minutes

> before you get there. :-)

==========================

LOL,

from H whoose bedroom is piled high with junk from all other

rooms in house because someone came round for coffee today - The only

room thats safe & noone goes in

[Guest guest]

Re: Peeved with DH's

> I feel terrible - am I the ONLY person in the world with a wonderful

> houseworking DH? I'm dreadful in the house. (snip) He also takes on a

huge share of looking afer her, especially on my

> 'down' days -

Well, mine doesn't do housework unless given clear instructions, but he is

the most wonderful father and happy to look after the boys by himself so I

can have a break. I don't care about the lacking housework gene because he

makes up for my defective parenting genes!

Jo

Trainee ANT & Bookings Sec, Southend

SAHM to (7), (4) and Dominic (2)

[Guest guest]

Mad clearing up before you arrive if they're anything like me!

Jo

Trainee ANT & Bookings Sec, Southend

SAHM to (7), (4) and Dominic (2)

Re: Peeved with DH's

>

> What I don't understand is how everybody's house that I visit looks like

they don't even have children and is impeccably clean and tidy!

> How do they do that?

>

> Janet

>

[Guest guest]

What I meant was .......

What about those unannounced visits?

No 5 minutes to run around and clear up then.

Janet

Subject: Re: Re: Peeved with DH's

On Tue, 12 Dec 2000 15:10:43 +0200, " Dimitris & Janet "

wrote:

>What I don't understand is how everybody's house that I visit looks like they

don't even have children and is impeccably clean and tidy!

>How do they do that?

They rush around, cleaning up and clearing away, about five minutes

before you get there. :-)

--

Clare Lusher.

SAHM to Ruairí (24.10.99).

NCT Member Derby & District.

www.yum.org/clare

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Subject: Re: Re: Peeved with DH's

by running around frantically for the 10 mins b4 you arrive, hiding

everything!!

Angi

not guilty of the above!!

Subject: Re: Re: Peeved with DH's

Mad clearing up before you arrive if they're anything like me!

[Guest guest]

Janet wrote

>

> What I meant was .......

> What about those unannounced visits?

> No 5 minutes to run around and clear up then.

Well, if you came to my house unannounced it would look like a bomb had hit

it (promise)

Cerys

[Guest guest]

Apparently this is when you are supposed to quickly pull the hoover into a

prominent position so it looks as though you were JUST ABOUT to do something

about the mess . . .

Carr

SAHM to four boys

Sunbury & Shepperton Branch

Trainee ANT

What I meant was .......

What about those unannounced visits?

No 5 minutes to run around and clear up then.

Janet

[Guest guest]

>Janet wrote

>>

>> What I meant was .......

>> What about those unannounced visits?

>> No 5 minutes to run around and clear up then.

>

>Well, if you came to my house unannounced it would look like a bomb had hit

>it (promise)

>

>Cerys

My BIL is wondering when they will invent the bomb that actually

makes houses look they way they do when we say it looks like a bomb

has hit it :-)))))

However, when you used to visit some really 'challenged' households

for a living and realise your own looks worse...

(You need to add cats and dogs to children for true squalor)

--

jennifer@...

Vaudin

[Guest guest]

I've completely lost the plot as far as housework in concerned, which does

upset me, I have to say. I've tried in vain to get a cleaner for some time,

to no avail.

Then, today, I discovered there is a local cleaning service firm. Someone

is coming to assess our filth tomorrow morning (probably the Sanitary

Department!) and give me a price for blitzing the house before Christmas!

She will also clean on a regular basis so if she is prepared to take us on I

will be delighted. The clutter has taken over atm but I'm happy to

declutter for them to clean. My problem is that while I am decluttering in

one room, the others are busy trashing four others. :-(((

Lesley

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Janet said.....

I also hate having the house in a mess but it always is because I totally

detest housework.

I find it so defeating - clean and tidy up, spending best of day doing so,

and then 'bam' in five minutes everything is back to it's 'original' state!

[Guest guest]

C wrote

>

>

> Apparently this is when you are supposed to quickly pull the hoover into a

> prominent position so it looks as though you were JUST ABOUT to

> do something

> about the mess . . .

>

LOL

I have actually turned the hoover on as I've seen my MIL's car pull into the

drive so that I can turn it off to answer the door.

Cerys

[Guest guest]

Oh this is me, rush to the cupboard, pull out the cleaning stuff and leave it in

the middle of the floor so people think you were just about to start. Then

regretfully put it away when they arrive, making the customary effort to sweep

the crumbs off the work tops as you make a cup of tea - sad aren't we? Don't do

it deliberately, but when panicking it seems like a good idea at the time...

Sue

Cerys Byrne wrote:

> C wrote

>

> >

> >

> > Apparently this is when you are supposed to quickly pull the hoover into a

> > prominent position so it looks as though you were JUST ABOUT to

> > do something

> > about the mess . . .

> >

>

> LOL

>

> I have actually turned the hoover on as I've seen my MIL's car pull into the

> drive so that I can turn it off to answer the door.

>

> Cerys

>

>

> Live chat /chat/nct-coffee

>

> Have you found out about all the other groups for the NCT online?

>

>

[Guest guest]

>What I meant was .......

>What about those unannounced visits?

>No 5 minutes to run around and clear up then.

>Janet

I have given up trying to keep up with some of my friends

here who *do* have someone come in and clean for them at

least once a week. We can't afford that right now and I do

generally manage to keep the dust bunnies down to a small

herd (pack? hutch?) instead of letting them keep breeding

like their namesakes. If I know someone is coming over, I

clean for 2 days before and the place still looks cluttered

and dirty. Oh well.

On the subject of making beds: Sorry, , but you just

gave us a good reason to leave our beds unmade in saying we

should leave them open to air out I generally straighten

it all out just before getting back in.

=====

Phyllis Laatsch Wilke

Mother of Calvin, 1/1/00

NCT Chiswick Branch Help Line Coordinator

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[Guest guest]

>I feel terrible - am I the ONLY person in the world with a wonderful

>houseworking DH?

No :-)

I do all the laundry and play in the kitchen and feed the cats/take

them to the vet, but otherwise it is him. Childcare is shared.

He knew it would have to be like this, which is probably why it took

him so long to decide to actually be my DH!

> I'm dreadful in the house. He's brilliant. He makes

>the bed (I can never be bothered), remembers about washing nappies before

>I do, hangs up washing, hoovers the whole house (I HATE hoovering) and

>loads & unloads the dishwasher. He also tidies up compulsively after me

>and lets me make a terrible mess as I make cards and paint and play with

>DD. He also takes on a huge share of looking afer her, especially on my

>'down' days - playing and changing and he insists on doing half the

>feeding and half the bathing, and just about the only thing he doesn't do

>is the ironing (which the childminder does) or dusting and cleaning the

>bathroom ( which I like doing, especially the bathroom. Not much makes

>me happier than a shiny clean sink. I'm pretty sad!)

I like cleaning sinks too, so yes, come to think of it, I do that.

And there is nothing sad about it!

>

>As far as all the shaking of bed stuff goes, DH is asthmatic so we have

>hollow fibre pillows and duvet, whic don't need much fluffing!!

I love my latex pillows (ooh er!)

--

jennifer@...

Vaudin