Guest guest Posted March 4, 2006 Report Share Posted March 4, 2006 Welcome Melinda, What you are feeling is normal. We were/are all scared when we are confronted with the thought of breast cancer or any cancer. Breast is NOT the death sentence it was once thought to be. There are a lot of ladies living long, productive lives. I will be a 16 yr survivor in May and there are ladies in her farther along than I am. It sounds to me like your husband is in denial. Its sometimes just as hard for the spouse/significant other as it is for the patient. I know my husband was used to fixing things for me. If I got cut or hurt he was there to "fix" it. If he would like to talk to a man let me know and my husband would be more than willing to email back and forth. Feel free to ask questions, vent, cry, etc. We are here for you. I will keep you in my prayers. Please keep us updated. Hugs nne Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Lifehttp://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html Check out my breast cancer ornaments at:http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.htmlalso check out my other ornaments and lots of nice gifts at:http://www.cancerclub.com I am so scared I am 46 years old and I have 4 children age 26, 25, 18 and 14. I also have a beautiful 4 month old grandaughter. Less than a week ago I went to the doctor and after many tests I have 3 large masses in my left breast. I am scheduled for a biopsy on the 16th. I am so so scared. My mother and grandmother died from the same thing. I can not sleep or eat. I don't know what to do. All I can do is cry. I have read everything I can get my hands on. There is a very big chance that I will have to have my breast removed and then go thru chemo. I don't really have anyone to talk to. My husband just says dont worry. I can not be cancer. But my doctors say differently. I have told my children as much as I have to. I don't know where to turn or where to go to talk. I hope that this is the place.Thank you for letting me vent.God Bless youMelinda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 4, 2006 Report Share Posted March 4, 2006 we all know the feeling of why me what have I done. But you have done the right thing to sit up a support line,is your hushand going with you to your biopsy. I dont know about everybody else but having him there was great it is a learning thing. I just finish my chemo I hope. My name is lizzie I also have grown childern all sons 37,30,26 and 3 grandchildern. Lizzie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 4, 2006 Report Share Posted March 4, 2006 Hi Melinda, I am 46 also, with 3 children, ages 23, 19 and 16. I was diagnosed the first week in January. I just had a lumpectomy on Tuesday. My husband was so sure it wasn't cancer that he chose that time to tell me he has a girlfriend, and can't understand why I asked him to leave. He says now, me having cancer makes him look bad. So I know how alone you feel, even with all these people around. My mother is battling mestastic colon cancer, and my only sister passed away 7 yrs ago. I don't know if I can help you, since I'm not doing that great myself. Take one day at a time, and I'm here to listen, if that helps. I'm scared too! DianneMelinda Cole wrote: I am 46 years old and I have 4 children age 26, 25, 18 and 14. I also have a beautiful 4 month old grandaughter. Less than a week ago I went to the doctor and after many tests I have 3 large masses in my left breast. I am scheduled for a biopsy on the 16th. I am so so scared. My mother and grandmother died from the same thing. I can not sleep or eat. I don't know what to do. All I can do is cry. I have read everything I can get my hands on. There is a very big chance that I will have to have my breast removed and then go thru chemo. I don't really have anyone to talk to. My husband just says dont worry. I can not be cancer. But my doctors say differently. I have told my children as much as I have to. I don't know where to turn or where to go to talk. I hope that this is the place.Thank you for letting me vent.God Bless youMelinda Yahoo! Mail Bring photos to life! New PhotoMail makes sharing a breeze. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 4, 2006 Report Share Posted March 4, 2006 Dianne, I am sorry to hear about your husband. But you will be better off without him. Less grief. We are all here to help you. I will keep you in my prayers. Hugs nne Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Lifehttp://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html Check out my breast cancer ornaments at:http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.htmlalso check out my other ornaments and lots of nice gifts at:http://www.cancerclub.com Re: I am so scared Hi Melinda, I am 46 also, with 3 children, ages 23, 19 and 16. I was diagnosed the first week in January. I just had a lumpectomy on Tuesday. My husband was so sure it wasn't cancer that he chose that time to tell me he has a girlfriend, and can't understand why I asked him to leave. He says now, me having cancer makes him look bad. So I know how alone you feel, even with all these people around. My mother is battling mestastic colon cancer, and my only sister passed away 7 yrs ago. I don't know if I can help you, since I'm not doing that great myself. Take one day at a time, and I'm here to listen, if that helps. I'm scared too! DianneMelinda Cole wrote: I am 46 years old and I have 4 children age 26, 25, 18 and 14. I also have a beautiful 4 month old grandaughter. Less than a week ago I went to the doctor and after many tests I have 3 large masses in my left breast. I am scheduled for a biopsy on the 16th. I am so so scared. My mother and grandmother died from the same thing. I can not sleep or eat. I don't know what to do. All I can do is cry. I have read everything I can get my hands on. There is a very big chance that I will have to have my breast removed and then go thru chemo. I don't really have anyone to talk to. My husband just says dont worry. I can not be cancer. But my doctors say differently. I have told my children as much as I have to. I don't know where to turn or where to go to talk. I hope that this is the place.Thank you for letting me vent.God Bless youMelinda Yahoo! MailBring photos to life! New PhotoMail makes sharing a breeze. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 4, 2006 Report Share Posted March 4, 2006 Melinda, My husband was and still is in denial and my biopsy of last week was positive. I joined the support group shortly thereafter. I also was the caregiver for my mother that I lost to breast cancer when she was only 52. DON"T fall into to the trap of "this is my destiny". Medicine has advanced and the knowledge now available makes this an entire new playing field. We will beat this and proudly place that lavender surviour ribbon on the backs of our cars. God bless from a kindred soul in North Carolina that is also very uncertain of the path ahead. It's so very ok to be scared. Just know that you are FAR from being alone. PS I have 2 wonderful children and 4 grandchild that are amazing. Very ironic, my 50th birthday was the day God chose for me to begin this journey. CarolMelinda Cole wrote: I am 46 years old and I have 4 children age 26, 25, 18 and 14. I also have a beautiful 4 month old grandaughter. Less than a week ago I went to the doctor and after many tests I have 3 large masses in my left breast. I am scheduled for a biopsy on the 16th. I am so so scared. My mother and grandmother died from the same thing. I can not sleep or eat. I don't know what to do. All I can do is cry. I have read everything I can get my hands on. There is a very big chance that I will have to have my breast removed and then go thru chemo. I don't really have anyone to talk to. My husband just says dont worry. I can not be cancer. But my doctors say differently. I have told my children as much as I have to. I don't know where to turn or where to go to talk. I hope that this is the place.Thank you for letting me vent.God Bless youMelinda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 8, 2006 Report Share Posted March 8, 2006 My prayer are coming your way. God Bless, Judy Coker Clovis , NM Live Every Day Like The Blessing It is !No banners. No pop-ups. No kidding.Make My Way your home on the Web - http://www.myway.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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