Guest guest Posted October 3, 2011 Report Share Posted October 3, 2011 I have struggled with emotional overeating for pretty much my whole life. All through high school and college I was always " trying " to lose weight by trying some new diet or exercise routine. It wasn't until last year when I really embraced my own version of an " intuitive eating " type life plan that I ever actually saw results. What I mean by this is that last year, I finally decided to do something I had never done before, which was work on the mental causes of my eating, the underlying roots of my unhappiness. I was no longer trying to lose weight, I was just living fully and healthfully. I decided to accept and love myself as I was. During this past year, I was honestly surprised with myself when I ended up needing smaller sizes. Like Josie was describing, I would exercise to feel healthy and strong and eating healthfully because those are the foods I was craving. My body just had a natural reaction to healthy living. However for me, I realize that I did not completely conquer all of my mental issues. Once I realized I was a smaller size, I began to put the pressure on myself to maintain it. Which stinks because I had not put any pressure on myself to get there in the first place. Now I find myself overeating out of anxiety that I may be gaining a little of the weight back. Its a hard thought process to break through. But I agree with Josie also, that patience and trust with oneself is key. I am glad that I joined this group because the support and shared experiences of the people in this group is very encouraging. - > > > > I would like to ask......Are there people here who are learning to eat intuitively and losing weight? I have not read the Inuitive Eating book yet, but I have it on reserve at the library. I have legalized all food in certain amounts, but I'm terrified to say I can eat as much as I want, or I can numb or comfort myself with food if I want. I'm terrified I will quickly begin to look like the Goodyear blimp, that I will never get to the point of not really wanting it as you talked about in your post with the cake, Sandarah. > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 3, 2011 Report Share Posted October 3, 2011 I have struggled with emotional overeating for pretty much my whole life. All through high school and college I was always " trying " to lose weight by trying some new diet or exercise routine. It wasn't until last year when I really embraced my own version of an " intuitive eating " type life plan that I ever actually saw results. What I mean by this is that last year, I finally decided to do something I had never done before, which was work on the mental causes of my eating, the underlying roots of my unhappiness. I was no longer trying to lose weight, I was just living fully and healthfully. I decided to accept and love myself as I was. During this past year, I was honestly surprised with myself when I ended up needing smaller sizes. Like Josie was describing, I would exercise to feel healthy and strong and eating healthfully because those are the foods I was craving. My body just had a natural reaction to healthy living. However for me, I realize that I did not completely conquer all of my mental issues. Once I realized I was a smaller size, I began to put the pressure on myself to maintain it. Which stinks because I had not put any pressure on myself to get there in the first place. Now I find myself overeating out of anxiety that I may be gaining a little of the weight back. Its a hard thought process to break through. But I agree with Josie also, that patience and trust with oneself is key. I am glad that I joined this group because the support and shared experiences of the people in this group is very encouraging. - > > > > I would like to ask......Are there people here who are learning to eat intuitively and losing weight? I have not read the Inuitive Eating book yet, but I have it on reserve at the library. I have legalized all food in certain amounts, but I'm terrified to say I can eat as much as I want, or I can numb or comfort myself with food if I want. I'm terrified I will quickly begin to look like the Goodyear blimp, that I will never get to the point of not really wanting it as you talked about in your post with the cake, Sandarah. > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 3, 2011 Report Share Posted October 3, 2011 I have struggled with emotional overeating for pretty much my whole life. All through high school and college I was always " trying " to lose weight by trying some new diet or exercise routine. It wasn't until last year when I really embraced my own version of an " intuitive eating " type life plan that I ever actually saw results. What I mean by this is that last year, I finally decided to do something I had never done before, which was work on the mental causes of my eating, the underlying roots of my unhappiness. I was no longer trying to lose weight, I was just living fully and healthfully. I decided to accept and love myself as I was. During this past year, I was honestly surprised with myself when I ended up needing smaller sizes. Like Josie was describing, I would exercise to feel healthy and strong and eating healthfully because those are the foods I was craving. My body just had a natural reaction to healthy living. However for me, I realize that I did not completely conquer all of my mental issues. Once I realized I was a smaller size, I began to put the pressure on myself to maintain it. Which stinks because I had not put any pressure on myself to get there in the first place. Now I find myself overeating out of anxiety that I may be gaining a little of the weight back. Its a hard thought process to break through. But I agree with Josie also, that patience and trust with oneself is key. I am glad that I joined this group because the support and shared experiences of the people in this group is very encouraging. - > > > > I would like to ask......Are there people here who are learning to eat intuitively and losing weight? I have not read the Inuitive Eating book yet, but I have it on reserve at the library. I have legalized all food in certain amounts, but I'm terrified to say I can eat as much as I want, or I can numb or comfort myself with food if I want. I'm terrified I will quickly begin to look like the Goodyear blimp, that I will never get to the point of not really wanting it as you talked about in your post with the cake, Sandarah. > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 3, 2011 Report Share Posted October 3, 2011 For me, the legalizing process has come in stages like wading into cold water. I now fully believe one of the common drivers of dieting is the fear of never stopping eating. I'm finding that the less I give myself to struggle against (taboos, can'ts, shouldn'ts, guilt, food-terror, blame, criticism, etc.) the less I feel driven to eat certain things in certain ways and in unlimited amounts. As several sources say, even 'normal' eaters eat emotionally at times and even overeat occasionally. The reason it's " occasionally " I believe, is that those individual were never programmed to death about their diets and their weight and never went through periods of privation in order to dominate their bodies into a certain weight and size. My mother was a life-long dieter, fat-hater and put out tons of energy about food taboos. So, for me, legalizing is my way of " re-parenting " myself around food and power and choice. It's a starting point. But I want to clarify - I'm not going " hog wild " this is an intentional act rather than a diet backlash or binge - and now includes not putting a limit on how much I eat being necesarily bad or wrong. I'm figuring that out for myself one feeding at a time. Feeling too full without guilt, shame and fear is a way to feel what too full feels like and to let me choose whether or not I like feeling that way. The mind doesn't do well at holding two thoughts at once - and when I'm thinking terrible, negative thoughts about myself I can't experience what eating does to me. If you're whipping a kid in their chair at school all day, they're not going to learn whatever is being studied. So for all of the diet and nutrition information I've taken in over the years, I've essentially learned nothing except that I can't be trusted around food. Which I am now unlearning by intentionally stripping off the old myths one feeding at a time. So... step by step my food terror is releasing and the reality that some foods just aren't as interesting as I thought are taking the place of those old, myserable myths that have ruled my eating for years. Just some info on the process - for me. Sandarah > > I would like to ask......Are there people here who are learning to eat intuitively and losing weight? I have not read the Inuitive Eating book yet, but I have it on reserve at the library. I have legalized all food in certain amounts, but I'm terrified to say I can eat as much as I want, or I can numb or comfort myself with food if I want. I'm terrified I will quickly begin to look like the Goodyear blimp, that I will never get to the point of not really wanting it as you talked about in your post with the cake, Sandarah. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 3, 2011 Report Share Posted October 3, 2011 For me, the legalizing process has come in stages like wading into cold water. I now fully believe one of the common drivers of dieting is the fear of never stopping eating. I'm finding that the less I give myself to struggle against (taboos, can'ts, shouldn'ts, guilt, food-terror, blame, criticism, etc.) the less I feel driven to eat certain things in certain ways and in unlimited amounts. As several sources say, even 'normal' eaters eat emotionally at times and even overeat occasionally. The reason it's " occasionally " I believe, is that those individual were never programmed to death about their diets and their weight and never went through periods of privation in order to dominate their bodies into a certain weight and size. My mother was a life-long dieter, fat-hater and put out tons of energy about food taboos. So, for me, legalizing is my way of " re-parenting " myself around food and power and choice. It's a starting point. But I want to clarify - I'm not going " hog wild " this is an intentional act rather than a diet backlash or binge - and now includes not putting a limit on how much I eat being necesarily bad or wrong. I'm figuring that out for myself one feeding at a time. Feeling too full without guilt, shame and fear is a way to feel what too full feels like and to let me choose whether or not I like feeling that way. The mind doesn't do well at holding two thoughts at once - and when I'm thinking terrible, negative thoughts about myself I can't experience what eating does to me. If you're whipping a kid in their chair at school all day, they're not going to learn whatever is being studied. So for all of the diet and nutrition information I've taken in over the years, I've essentially learned nothing except that I can't be trusted around food. Which I am now unlearning by intentionally stripping off the old myths one feeding at a time. So... step by step my food terror is releasing and the reality that some foods just aren't as interesting as I thought are taking the place of those old, myserable myths that have ruled my eating for years. Just some info on the process - for me. Sandarah > > I would like to ask......Are there people here who are learning to eat intuitively and losing weight? I have not read the Inuitive Eating book yet, but I have it on reserve at the library. I have legalized all food in certain amounts, but I'm terrified to say I can eat as much as I want, or I can numb or comfort myself with food if I want. I'm terrified I will quickly begin to look like the Goodyear blimp, that I will never get to the point of not really wanting it as you talked about in your post with the cake, Sandarah. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 3, 2011 Report Share Posted October 3, 2011 For me, the legalizing process has come in stages like wading into cold water. I now fully believe one of the common drivers of dieting is the fear of never stopping eating. I'm finding that the less I give myself to struggle against (taboos, can'ts, shouldn'ts, guilt, food-terror, blame, criticism, etc.) the less I feel driven to eat certain things in certain ways and in unlimited amounts. As several sources say, even 'normal' eaters eat emotionally at times and even overeat occasionally. The reason it's " occasionally " I believe, is that those individual were never programmed to death about their diets and their weight and never went through periods of privation in order to dominate their bodies into a certain weight and size. My mother was a life-long dieter, fat-hater and put out tons of energy about food taboos. So, for me, legalizing is my way of " re-parenting " myself around food and power and choice. It's a starting point. But I want to clarify - I'm not going " hog wild " this is an intentional act rather than a diet backlash or binge - and now includes not putting a limit on how much I eat being necesarily bad or wrong. I'm figuring that out for myself one feeding at a time. Feeling too full without guilt, shame and fear is a way to feel what too full feels like and to let me choose whether or not I like feeling that way. The mind doesn't do well at holding two thoughts at once - and when I'm thinking terrible, negative thoughts about myself I can't experience what eating does to me. If you're whipping a kid in their chair at school all day, they're not going to learn whatever is being studied. So for all of the diet and nutrition information I've taken in over the years, I've essentially learned nothing except that I can't be trusted around food. Which I am now unlearning by intentionally stripping off the old myths one feeding at a time. So... step by step my food terror is releasing and the reality that some foods just aren't as interesting as I thought are taking the place of those old, myserable myths that have ruled my eating for years. Just some info on the process - for me. Sandarah > > I would like to ask......Are there people here who are learning to eat intuitively and losing weight? I have not read the Inuitive Eating book yet, but I have it on reserve at the library. I have legalized all food in certain amounts, but I'm terrified to say I can eat as much as I want, or I can numb or comfort myself with food if I want. I'm terrified I will quickly begin to look like the Goodyear blimp, that I will never get to the point of not really wanting it as you talked about in your post with the cake, Sandarah. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 3, 2011 Report Share Posted October 3, 2011 It's frightening, to be sure. The thought that you will blow up and never lose your drive to overeat is a common one. I wrote a post about allowing myself to eat processed foods last week. It scared me that I was eating them and I wondered if I would ever stop. The answer is yes, when you are truly at peace with these foods. If you are thinking "well, I'll allow myself to eat these foods for now, but I'll stop if I gain any weight," that might trigger "last supper" eating since you know you aren't truly allowed to eat them -- there is limited opportunity and you might feel the drive to "get it while you can." All I can advise is to gently stick with the process. If you don't feel comfortable legalizing everything at once, start with one food. You don't have to go at anyone else's pace but your own. The goal is usually peace with food, not weight loss per se. Good luck! Mimi Subject: QuestionTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Sunday, October 2, 2011, 6:35 PM I would like to ask......Are there people here who are learning to eat intuitively and losing weight? I have not read the Inuitive Eating book yet, but I have it on reserve at the library. I have legalized all food in certain amounts, but I'm terrified to say I can eat as much as I want, or I can numb or comfort myself with food if I want. I'm terrified I will quickly begin to look like the Goodyear blimp, that I will never get to the point of not really wanting it as you talked about in your post with the cake, Sandarah. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 3, 2011 Report Share Posted October 3, 2011 It's frightening, to be sure. The thought that you will blow up and never lose your drive to overeat is a common one. I wrote a post about allowing myself to eat processed foods last week. It scared me that I was eating them and I wondered if I would ever stop. The answer is yes, when you are truly at peace with these foods. If you are thinking "well, I'll allow myself to eat these foods for now, but I'll stop if I gain any weight," that might trigger "last supper" eating since you know you aren't truly allowed to eat them -- there is limited opportunity and you might feel the drive to "get it while you can." All I can advise is to gently stick with the process. If you don't feel comfortable legalizing everything at once, start with one food. You don't have to go at anyone else's pace but your own. The goal is usually peace with food, not weight loss per se. Good luck! Mimi Subject: QuestionTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Sunday, October 2, 2011, 6:35 PM I would like to ask......Are there people here who are learning to eat intuitively and losing weight? I have not read the Inuitive Eating book yet, but I have it on reserve at the library. I have legalized all food in certain amounts, but I'm terrified to say I can eat as much as I want, or I can numb or comfort myself with food if I want. I'm terrified I will quickly begin to look like the Goodyear blimp, that I will never get to the point of not really wanting it as you talked about in your post with the cake, Sandarah. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 3, 2011 Report Share Posted October 3, 2011 Sandarah, What you said about feeling that you cannot be trusted around food really resonates with me. I feel like this drives the secretive, almost desperate way in which I overeat, because I see it as something so terrible and embarrassing. I have reached a point in my " legalization " of foods where I have started to change this cycle. I am buying foods that I " couldn't be trusted around " before, also getting rid of those " taboos " and " can'ts " . Sometimes I overeat them and often I do not. The crucial step here to to decide not to feel shame or beat myself up for eating or overeating. This reprogramming process of learning not to hate myself or feel like a lost cause after an instance of overeating has been a huge challenge and also a revelation to me. I think that my lack of trust in myself around food spreads into how I view myself in all aspects of my life. It reflects a sense of deeply rooted inadequacy that I am working to overcome through a more intuitive and healthy lifestyle. Thank you so much for sharing your experience, > > > > I would like to ask......Are there people here who are learning to eat intuitively and losing weight? I have not read the Inuitive Eating book yet, but I have it on reserve at the library. I have legalized all food in certain amounts, but I'm terrified to say I can eat as much as I want, or I can numb or comfort myself with food if I want. I'm terrified I will quickly begin to look like the Goodyear blimp, that I will never get to the point of not really wanting it as you talked about in your post with the cake, Sandarah. > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 3, 2011 Report Share Posted October 3, 2011 Sandarah, What you said about feeling that you cannot be trusted around food really resonates with me. I feel like this drives the secretive, almost desperate way in which I overeat, because I see it as something so terrible and embarrassing. I have reached a point in my " legalization " of foods where I have started to change this cycle. I am buying foods that I " couldn't be trusted around " before, also getting rid of those " taboos " and " can'ts " . Sometimes I overeat them and often I do not. The crucial step here to to decide not to feel shame or beat myself up for eating or overeating. This reprogramming process of learning not to hate myself or feel like a lost cause after an instance of overeating has been a huge challenge and also a revelation to me. I think that my lack of trust in myself around food spreads into how I view myself in all aspects of my life. It reflects a sense of deeply rooted inadequacy that I am working to overcome through a more intuitive and healthy lifestyle. Thank you so much for sharing your experience, > > > > I would like to ask......Are there people here who are learning to eat intuitively and losing weight? I have not read the Inuitive Eating book yet, but I have it on reserve at the library. I have legalized all food in certain amounts, but I'm terrified to say I can eat as much as I want, or I can numb or comfort myself with food if I want. I'm terrified I will quickly begin to look like the Goodyear blimp, that I will never get to the point of not really wanting it as you talked about in your post with the cake, Sandarah. > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 3, 2011 Report Share Posted October 3, 2011 Sandarah, What you said about feeling that you cannot be trusted around food really resonates with me. I feel like this drives the secretive, almost desperate way in which I overeat, because I see it as something so terrible and embarrassing. I have reached a point in my " legalization " of foods where I have started to change this cycle. I am buying foods that I " couldn't be trusted around " before, also getting rid of those " taboos " and " can'ts " . Sometimes I overeat them and often I do not. The crucial step here to to decide not to feel shame or beat myself up for eating or overeating. This reprogramming process of learning not to hate myself or feel like a lost cause after an instance of overeating has been a huge challenge and also a revelation to me. I think that my lack of trust in myself around food spreads into how I view myself in all aspects of my life. It reflects a sense of deeply rooted inadequacy that I am working to overcome through a more intuitive and healthy lifestyle. Thank you so much for sharing your experience, > > > > I would like to ask......Are there people here who are learning to eat intuitively and losing weight? I have not read the Inuitive Eating book yet, but I have it on reserve at the library. I have legalized all food in certain amounts, but I'm terrified to say I can eat as much as I want, or I can numb or comfort myself with food if I want. I'm terrified I will quickly begin to look like the Goodyear blimp, that I will never get to the point of not really wanting it as you talked about in your post with the cake, Sandarah. > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 3, 2011 Report Share Posted October 3, 2011 Sandarah wrote, "Feeling too full without guilt, shame and fear is a way to feel what too full feels like and to let me choose whether or not I like feeling that way. The mind doesn't do well at holding two thoughts at once - and when I'm thinking terrible, negative thoughts about myself I can't experience what eating does to me." Perfectly said. No wonder we don't know what we like to eat, how much, when, and how often. Our emotional response to food is so outsized that our physical sensations get lost. More and more for me it is about listening and not reacting. Mimi Subject: Re: QuestionTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Monday, October 3, 2011, 1:43 PM For me, the legalizing process has come in stages like wading into cold water. I now fully believe one of the common drivers of dieting is the fear of never stopping eating. I'm finding that the less I give myself to struggle against (taboos, can'ts, shouldn'ts, guilt, food-terror, blame, criticism, etc.) the less I feel driven to eat certain things in certain ways and in unlimited amounts. As several sources say, even 'normal' eaters eat emotionally at times and even overeat occasionally. The reason it's "occasionally" I believe, is that those individual were never programmed to death about their diets and their weight and never went through periods of privation in order to dominate their bodies into a certain weight and size.My mother was a life-long dieter, fat-hater and put out tons of energy about food taboos. So, for me, legalizing is my way of "re-parenting" myself around food and power and choice. It's a starting point. But I want to clarify - I'm not going "hog wild" this is an intentional act rather than a diet backlash or binge - and now includes not putting a limit on how much I eat being necesarily bad or wrong. I'm figuring that out for myself one feeding at a time.Feeling too full without guilt, shame and fear is a way to feel what too full feels like and to let me choose whether or not I like feeling that way. The mind doesn't do well at holding two thoughts at once - and when I'm thinking terrible, negative thoughts about myself I can't experience what eating does to me.If you're whipping a kid in their chair at school all day, they're not going to learn whatever is being studied. So for all of the diet and nutrition information I've taken in over the years, I've essentially learned nothing except that I can't be trusted around food. Which I am now unlearning by intentionally stripping off the old myths one feeding at a time.So... step by step my food terror is releasing and the reality that some foods just aren't as interesting as I thought are taking the place of those old, myserable myths that have ruled my eating for years.Just some info on the process - for me. Sandarah>> I would like to ask......Are there people here who are learning to eat intuitively and losing weight? I have not read the Inuitive Eating book yet, but I have it on reserve at the library. I have legalized all food in certain amounts, but I'm terrified to say I can eat as much as I want, or I can numb or comfort myself with food if I want. I'm terrified I will quickly begin to look like the Goodyear blimp, that I will never get to the point of not really wanting it as you talked about in your post with the cake, Sandarah. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 3, 2011 Report Share Posted October 3, 2011 Sandarah wrote, "Feeling too full without guilt, shame and fear is a way to feel what too full feels like and to let me choose whether or not I like feeling that way. The mind doesn't do well at holding two thoughts at once - and when I'm thinking terrible, negative thoughts about myself I can't experience what eating does to me." Perfectly said. No wonder we don't know what we like to eat, how much, when, and how often. Our emotional response to food is so outsized that our physical sensations get lost. More and more for me it is about listening and not reacting. Mimi Subject: Re: QuestionTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Monday, October 3, 2011, 1:43 PM For me, the legalizing process has come in stages like wading into cold water. I now fully believe one of the common drivers of dieting is the fear of never stopping eating. I'm finding that the less I give myself to struggle against (taboos, can'ts, shouldn'ts, guilt, food-terror, blame, criticism, etc.) the less I feel driven to eat certain things in certain ways and in unlimited amounts. As several sources say, even 'normal' eaters eat emotionally at times and even overeat occasionally. The reason it's "occasionally" I believe, is that those individual were never programmed to death about their diets and their weight and never went through periods of privation in order to dominate their bodies into a certain weight and size.My mother was a life-long dieter, fat-hater and put out tons of energy about food taboos. So, for me, legalizing is my way of "re-parenting" myself around food and power and choice. It's a starting point. But I want to clarify - I'm not going "hog wild" this is an intentional act rather than a diet backlash or binge - and now includes not putting a limit on how much I eat being necesarily bad or wrong. I'm figuring that out for myself one feeding at a time.Feeling too full without guilt, shame and fear is a way to feel what too full feels like and to let me choose whether or not I like feeling that way. The mind doesn't do well at holding two thoughts at once - and when I'm thinking terrible, negative thoughts about myself I can't experience what eating does to me.If you're whipping a kid in their chair at school all day, they're not going to learn whatever is being studied. So for all of the diet and nutrition information I've taken in over the years, I've essentially learned nothing except that I can't be trusted around food. Which I am now unlearning by intentionally stripping off the old myths one feeding at a time.So... step by step my food terror is releasing and the reality that some foods just aren't as interesting as I thought are taking the place of those old, myserable myths that have ruled my eating for years.Just some info on the process - for me. Sandarah>> I would like to ask......Are there people here who are learning to eat intuitively and losing weight? I have not read the Inuitive Eating book yet, but I have it on reserve at the library. I have legalized all food in certain amounts, but I'm terrified to say I can eat as much as I want, or I can numb or comfort myself with food if I want. I'm terrified I will quickly begin to look like the Goodyear blimp, that I will never get to the point of not really wanting it as you talked about in your post with the cake, Sandarah. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 3, 2011 Report Share Posted October 3, 2011 Sandarah wrote, "Feeling too full without guilt, shame and fear is a way to feel what too full feels like and to let me choose whether or not I like feeling that way. The mind doesn't do well at holding two thoughts at once - and when I'm thinking terrible, negative thoughts about myself I can't experience what eating does to me." Perfectly said. No wonder we don't know what we like to eat, how much, when, and how often. Our emotional response to food is so outsized that our physical sensations get lost. More and more for me it is about listening and not reacting. Mimi Subject: Re: QuestionTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Monday, October 3, 2011, 1:43 PM For me, the legalizing process has come in stages like wading into cold water. I now fully believe one of the common drivers of dieting is the fear of never stopping eating. I'm finding that the less I give myself to struggle against (taboos, can'ts, shouldn'ts, guilt, food-terror, blame, criticism, etc.) the less I feel driven to eat certain things in certain ways and in unlimited amounts. As several sources say, even 'normal' eaters eat emotionally at times and even overeat occasionally. The reason it's "occasionally" I believe, is that those individual were never programmed to death about their diets and their weight and never went through periods of privation in order to dominate their bodies into a certain weight and size.My mother was a life-long dieter, fat-hater and put out tons of energy about food taboos. So, for me, legalizing is my way of "re-parenting" myself around food and power and choice. It's a starting point. But I want to clarify - I'm not going "hog wild" this is an intentional act rather than a diet backlash or binge - and now includes not putting a limit on how much I eat being necesarily bad or wrong. I'm figuring that out for myself one feeding at a time.Feeling too full without guilt, shame and fear is a way to feel what too full feels like and to let me choose whether or not I like feeling that way. The mind doesn't do well at holding two thoughts at once - and when I'm thinking terrible, negative thoughts about myself I can't experience what eating does to me.If you're whipping a kid in their chair at school all day, they're not going to learn whatever is being studied. So for all of the diet and nutrition information I've taken in over the years, I've essentially learned nothing except that I can't be trusted around food. Which I am now unlearning by intentionally stripping off the old myths one feeding at a time.So... step by step my food terror is releasing and the reality that some foods just aren't as interesting as I thought are taking the place of those old, myserable myths that have ruled my eating for years.Just some info on the process - for me. Sandarah>> I would like to ask......Are there people here who are learning to eat intuitively and losing weight? I have not read the Inuitive Eating book yet, but I have it on reserve at the library. I have legalized all food in certain amounts, but I'm terrified to say I can eat as much as I want, or I can numb or comfort myself with food if I want. I'm terrified I will quickly begin to look like the Goodyear blimp, that I will never get to the point of not really wanting it as you talked about in your post with the cake, Sandarah. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 3, 2011 Report Share Posted October 3, 2011 Amen to all of that. This is such a broad-reaching healing process. Thanks to all of us, eh?! > > > > > > I would like to ask......Are there people here who are learning to eat intuitively and losing weight? I have not read the Inuitive Eating book yet, but I have it on reserve at the library. I have legalized all food in certain amounts, but I'm terrified to say I can eat as much as I want, or I can numb or comfort myself with food if I want. I'm terrified I will quickly begin to look like the Goodyear blimp, that I will never get to the point of not really wanting it as you talked about in your post with the cake, Sandarah. > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 3, 2011 Report Share Posted October 3, 2011 Amen to all of that. This is such a broad-reaching healing process. Thanks to all of us, eh?! > > > > > > I would like to ask......Are there people here who are learning to eat intuitively and losing weight? I have not read the Inuitive Eating book yet, but I have it on reserve at the library. I have legalized all food in certain amounts, but I'm terrified to say I can eat as much as I want, or I can numb or comfort myself with food if I want. I'm terrified I will quickly begin to look like the Goodyear blimp, that I will never get to the point of not really wanting it as you talked about in your post with the cake, Sandarah. > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 3, 2011 Report Share Posted October 3, 2011 Amen to all of that. This is such a broad-reaching healing process. Thanks to all of us, eh?! > > > > > > I would like to ask......Are there people here who are learning to eat intuitively and losing weight? I have not read the Inuitive Eating book yet, but I have it on reserve at the library. I have legalized all food in certain amounts, but I'm terrified to say I can eat as much as I want, or I can numb or comfort myself with food if I want. I'm terrified I will quickly begin to look like the Goodyear blimp, that I will never get to the point of not really wanting it as you talked about in your post with the cake, Sandarah. > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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