Guest guest Posted May 30, 2001 Report Share Posted May 30, 2001 .. Does anyone else have similar family problems? Zsas Yes but mine are a bit different. My mother is on Atkins too and she lives in my home...she has cheated several times and EVERY time she tries to get me to cheat with her. At Easter we had a huge family gathering and she bought cup cakes for all the kids ...she bought them THREE days in advance so I had 48 cup cakes in my kitchen for that long. She made it till Easter morning then she gave in and had one ...she literally picked the carton up shoved it in my face asking me what color I wanted. I SAID NO I don't want them ...later again that day she did the same thing. She has done this several times....my husband does similar things and I have not a clue why ...he isn't over weight and I don't think he realizes what he is doing but he will go out often with my son while I am working out and buy cookies. He will forget them and leave them in my car (we trade off vehicles depending on who has my son) ....he does this ALL the time...he even made blueberry muffins not too long ago which are my FAVORITE but only ate one leaving the rest! I just decided that no matter what I MUST stick to this ... I'm afraid if I cheat I won't come back to this WOE. I haven't had one bite of food that isn't Atkins legal since I started this WOE the first week in January. Good luck in overcoming the temptations. Lynn in NC Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 30, 2001 Report Share Posted May 30, 2001 > > Not really looking for advice, I just wanted to vent that. Does anyone else > have similar family problems? > > Zsas > _________________________________________________________________ To some extent I have that problem. Actually, my family has been supportive. However, I live with my Mom, along with my little girl. My Mom is a MAJOR junk food eater. Chips...sweets...pop...etc. She buys this stuff for herself, but somedays it's hard knowing they are in the house. The one things she bought that I admit I did cheat with (AND felt horrible!!) was the Reese's peanut butter eggs. She just HAD to show me!! It's getting easier to resist though...especially each time I step on that scale and it has moved down!! Keep your chin up and know that you have a whole family of people here who are NOT fat haters (Ok, I hate MY fat, but not someone else because of it! LOL) and we will support you no matter what!! Lori 266/201/160 1/3/01 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 30, 2001 Report Share Posted May 30, 2001 Astrid, sounds like you are handling this great! what a tough situation you have. I know you are not asking for advice, so I won't give any. But it is too bad that you have to live in that situation. I think my husband struggles somewhat. He is thin and wants me to be thin. At the same time it takes some getting used to as I get thinner and men notice me more, he doesn't like that too much. But he does not actively or even subconsciously sabotage me. Thank god he hates to go to the grocery store. And when I go, I just get treats that I don't like. He loves rice pudding and it makes me want to barf, so that's always a good one! He did a couple times say that he didn't think that I needed to lose any more weight, but that was as far as it went. Anyway, your situation sounds very stressful. Take care and let us know how you are doing. Hugz, Lynn Astrid O'Brien wrote: > EVERYTIME I start a new diet my dad begins to bring home my trigger foods > (donuts, sandwiches, cookies and chips). I know he doesn't mean to hurt me, > and if confronted he'd argue it was for him, but I think he's doing it on > purpose subconsciously. I think my dad knows that if I lose weight my mom's > fat-hatred will be directed totally at him. And, I don't think my dad has > any real interest in losing weight. > Not really looking for advice, I just wanted to vent that. Does anyone else > have similar family problems? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 30, 2001 Report Share Posted May 30, 2001 Zsas, That's too bad about how your mom is, and how your dad, in his misery, loves your company! My family has been very supportive, so I can't even imagine how difficult it must be for you. On the bright side, it seems as though you have the situation well in hand and have made a good commitment to the Atkins WOE. Good for you! We'll be supportive of you, here on the the, regardless of what is happening at home. You'll always have us to turn to. TerryNew Stats: 168/159.75/156 (mini-goal)/ To be determined Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 30, 2001 Report Share Posted May 30, 2001 Zasa, I can tell you are going to have will power. I believe the challenge will make you a stronger person. Vent anytime... Gail --- Astrid O'Brien wrote: > I'll start by saying I live at home since returning > from Germany two weeks > ago. > > I'm overweight. My dad's overweight. Both, my > grandfather and grandmother on > my dad's side were overweight (my grandma had severe > diabetes). My dad's > brother is not overweigh, but his daughter and son > both are or have been in > the past. I don't know if it's a genetic thing or > just a legacy of bad > eating habits being passed through generations. > > My mom is a serious fat hater. She literally hates > fat people (my dad was in > the navy and in shape when they met/married). As a > result, my mom tends to > be very critical of fat us (my dad and myself). > She's often flat out mean > and she never lets a day go by without being > insulting to some degree. > > I'm not upset with my mom, I know she's trying to > help. I'm sure she thinks > that if she's this way it will force a change. What > she doesn't seem to > realize is that she's forcing the opposite. For me > at least, food becomes to > comfort. The plus side, though, is that she is very > supportive of diets > (though she'll support anything that would bring > about weight loss--even > things like anorexia). > > That's just the back story. Here's my real > frustration. > > EVERYTIME I start a new diet my dad begins to bring > home my trigger foods > (donuts, sandwiches, cookies and chips). I know he > doesn't mean to hurt me, > and if confronted he'd argue it was for him, but I > think he's doing it on > purpose subconsciously. I think my dad knows that if > I lose weight my mom's > fat-hatred will be directed totally at him. And, I > don't think my dad has > any real interest in losing weight. > > Today it was sandwiches and chips. I've avoided them > completely, I don't > even LOOK at them when I go in the kitchen. I feel > confident that not being > hungry all the time (as is the case with other diets > I have tried) will help > me resist those temptations. I just wish they > weren't there. Also, I'm in > ketosis and not really craving those things too > much. I had a couple palm > fulls of sunflower seeds earlier to satisfy my > " crunch " craving and that > really helped. > > Not really looking for advice, I just wanted to vent > that. Does anyone else > have similar family problems? > > Zsas > _________________________________________________________________ > Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at > http://explorer.msn.com > > ===== " The loneliest woman in the world is the woman without a close woman friend. " --Toni on __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 30, 2001 Report Share Posted May 30, 2001 my gosh, it sounds like my family of origin. My mom has the problem of eating and my dad is a recovered alcoholic. He's been sober 22 years now but when he first got sober it was so hard on my mom because he would intimate " if I can give up drinking, you can give up compulsive eating " and he would sabotage her in very subtle ways but it was indeed sabotage. My heart goes out to you and I hope that you can stay strong---you are right, you won't crave those foods when you keep yourself full on protein. It's hard to watch your dad do this though. Its hard not being co-dependent in this situation. Somehow your dad is going to have to learn to fight his own battles with your mom and you are going to have to let him know you'll still have your special bond with him even as you are losing weight. God bless, --- Astrid O'Brien wrote: > I'll start by saying I live at home since returning > from Germany two weeks > ago. > > I'm overweight. My dad's overweight. Both, my > grandfather and grandmother on > my dad's side were overweight (my grandma had severe > diabetes). My dad's > brother is not overweigh, but his daughter and son > both are or have been in > the past. I don't know if it's a genetic thing or > just a legacy of bad > eating habits being passed through generations. > > My mom is a serious fat hater. She literally hates > fat people (my dad was in > the navy and in shape when they met/married). As a > result, my mom tends to > be very critical of fat us (my dad and myself). > She's often flat out mean > and she never lets a day go by without being > insulting to some degree. > > I'm not upset with my mom, I know she's trying to > help. I'm sure she thinks > that if she's this way it will force a change. What > she doesn't seem to > realize is that she's forcing the opposite. For me > at least, food becomes to > comfort. The plus side, though, is that she is very > supportive of diets > (though she'll support anything that would bring > about weight loss--even > things like anorexia). > > That's just the back story. Here's my real > frustration. > > EVERYTIME I start a new diet my dad begins to bring > home my trigger foods > (donuts, sandwiches, cookies and chips). I know he > doesn't mean to hurt me, > and if confronted he'd argue it was for him, but I > think he's doing it on > purpose subconsciously. I think my dad knows that if > I lose weight my mom's > fat-hatred will be directed totally at him. And, I > don't think my dad has > any real interest in losing weight. > > Today it was sandwiches and chips. I've avoided them > completely, I don't > even LOOK at them when I go in the kitchen. I feel > confident that not being > hungry all the time (as is the case with other diets > I have tried) will help > me resist those temptations. I just wish they > weren't there. Also, I'm in > ketosis and not really craving those things too > much. I had a couple palm > fulls of sunflower seeds earlier to satisfy my > " crunch " craving and that > really helped. > > Not really looking for advice, I just wanted to vent > that. Does anyone else > have similar family problems? > > Zsas > _________________________________________________________________ > Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at > http://explorer.msn.com > > ===== Jill 185/154.5/140 150 by June 12, may the whoosh fairy be with me! Size goal: size 8 __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 30, 2001 Report Share Posted May 30, 2001 Lynn... I'm so impressed with your strength!!! Keep on keepin on :-) -Marlena >From: Atkins4bettrlife@... >Reply-To: Atkins_Support_List >To: Atkins_Support_List >Subject: Re: my frustration >Date: Tue, 29 May 2001 22:03:14 EDT > >In a message dated 5/29/01 9:29:07 PM Eastern Daylight Time, >gadjerose@... writes: > > > > . Does anyone else > > have similar family problems? > > > > Zsas > > > >Yes but mine are a bit different. My mother is on Atkins too and she lives >in >my home...she has cheated several times and EVERY time she tries to get me >to >cheat with her. At Easter we had a huge family gathering and she bought cup >cakes for all the kids ...she bought them THREE days in advance so I had 48 >cup cakes in my kitchen for that long. She made it till Easter morning then >she gave in and had one ...she literally picked the carton up shoved it in >my >face asking me what color I wanted. I SAID NO I don't want them ...later >again that day she did the same thing. She has done this several >times....my >husband does similar things and I have not a clue why ...he isn't over >weight >and I don't think he realizes what he is doing but he will go out often >with >my son while I am working out and buy cookies. He will forget them and >leave >them in my car (we trade off vehicles depending on who has my son) ....he >does this ALL the time...he even made blueberry muffins not too long ago >which are my FAVORITE but only ate one leaving the rest! I just decided >that >no matter what I MUST stick to this ... I'm afraid if I cheat I won't come >back to this WOE. I haven't had one bite of food that isn't Atkins legal >since I started this WOE the first week in January. Good luck in overcoming >the temptations. Lynn in NC _________________________________________________________________ Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at http://explorer.msn.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 30, 2001 Report Share Posted May 30, 2001 Zsas, You do have a tough situation going there, parents pulling you both ways on the weight issue is never easy. I don't have any great advice, but I could really relate to your mom's constant pressure to lose weight causing you to turn to comfort foods. My mom did the same thing to me and I didn't start Atkins until my parents headed south for the winter. By the time they came back I had lost 30 pounds. Now mom seems to sabotage me by saying that " this little bit won't hurt " or " you have to allow yourself something once in a while " . I don't find it surprising that the easiest time for me to stay on track is January to March when she is gone. I love her, but... I suppose that if your dad brings something home that is too tempting, you could try asking your mom to get you whatever is low carb legal instead of having to go into the kitchen by the temptation yourself. I find that some days the only way I can refrain from taking something I shouldn't is to totally avoid the location of the temptation. Like taking Friday's off because we always have treats at work. Jean 190/143/135 (Friday's goal 142) 12/7/98 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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