Guest guest Posted December 18, 2003 Report Share Posted December 18, 2003 My mother-in-law is the same way. She constantly tells me I don't need to lose anymore. I just ignore her now and try not to let her get to me. It's going to be real fun on Christmas day when I have to defend being a vegetarian. I haven't been to her house since I became one. I feel for ya, Mitch. Luanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 18, 2003 Report Share Posted December 18, 2003 In a message dated 12/18/2003 5:11:38 AM Pacific Standard Time, mitch@... writes: I really think you should stop dieting now. You don't look good to me. You look so pale >>Mitch, I can't believe how much your MIL sounds like my own mom! The statement above is exactly what my mother said to me the last time I lot a lot of weight--20 years ago. She told me how drawn I looked, and asked if I was sure I was feeling well and said I was getting too thin. Yeah right----I had reached the oh-so-thin weight of 160 (on a 5/6 " frame) (hear my sarcasm). I looked good, dang it!! But I can hear her saying it even now...and I remember the effect it had on me. I believe it was one factor (of several) that influenced me to stop dieting and of course, the weight came back on. Mind you, she's not the ONLY reason I failed that time. This time I do not intend to allow anyone's comments to derail me. Not anyone. And this time, with my faithfulness in journaling and with WW's Maintenance plan and this support group, I'm expecting to successfully keep the weight off. I know you feel the same way and have the same determined mind-set! Go Mitch! Go Bette! Bette Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 18, 2003 Report Share Posted December 18, 2003 So, my Mother-in-Law is one of those eat anything you want, load up on sweets, never gain a pound types.... (although she does have cholestorol problems). Since, I've know her this is, I think, the third time I've had a large weight loss. Each time she's been complimentary, but at times, this women has a way of " rubbing me the wrong way " . Take yesterday - she's over at the house. First thing she says: " Mitch. I really think you should stop dieting now. You don't look good to me. You look so pale " . I told her that I never felt better, that I was going to get to my goal, and that " I wasn't dieting. I'm going to eat the way I'm eating for the rest of my life " . She didn't really understand that last part, but she didn't persue it. Later though she added, " you know you really should eat more red meat " (which I try to limit). " Why? " . " It's good for you - it's got lots of protein " . " So does chicken and fish and other foods " . " Yes. But beef has lots of blood that's good for you " AARGH!!!!! Mitch -- -------------------------------- All-Time High - 300 -------------------------------- Starting Weight - 281 Lost before Re-Joining WW - 25.2 Lost since Re-Joining WW - 66.0 Total Loss - 91.2 Current Weight - 189.8 Goal - 175 Pounds to Go - 14.8 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 18, 2003 Report Share Posted December 18, 2003 I have NEVER heard someone say beef was good for you because it has BLOOD in it!!! LOL!!! I've heard the iron bit, but never the blood. (And my uncle is a cattle rancher, so I get his advice about it all the time.) My MIL owns a gym herself and is quite healthy, although she does a lot of herbal/home remedy stuff, and is always trying to make me drink minerals--which I don't like. She's always disecting everything I'm eating--wanting to know what I'm eating and WHY? MILs aren't the only ones that try to derail our efforts. I find the closer I get to goal, the more of these people that come out of the woodwork: " What do you mean you want to lose 15 more pounds, you look great now, " " But you're getting so skinny, " and my favorite " Well, you know you'll never be able to maintain that low a weight--you're not a teenager anymore. " I get it from co-workers, friends, family. If you hear it too much, you start to want to believe them, but I just remind myself to keep up the resolve and stay on track. April Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 18, 2003 Report Share Posted December 18, 2003 > > " Yes. But > beef has lots of blood that's good for you " > Only if you're a vampire!! <GRIN> Trish Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 18, 2003 Report Share Posted December 18, 2003 I became a vegetarian before I got married and I still have problems with people (MIL) forgetting or not understanding and it's been almost 16 years. Good Luck Luanne. Clarissa 211/196/113 > My mother-in-law is the same way. She constantly tells me I don't need to > lose anymore. I just ignore her now and try not to let her get to me. It's going > to be real fun on Christmas day when I have to defend being a vegetarian. I > haven't been to her house since I became one. I feel for ya, Mitch. > > Luanne > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 > I have NEVER heard someone say beef was good for you because it has > BLOOD in it!!! LOL!!! I've heard the iron bit, but never the blood. > (And my uncle is a cattle rancher, so I get his advice about it all > the time.) > > My MIL owns a gym herself and is quite healthy, although she does a > lot of herbal/home remedy stuff, and is always trying to make me > drink minerals--which I don't like. She's always disecting everything > I'm eating--wanting to know what I'm eating and WHY? > > MILs aren't the only ones that try to derail our efforts. I find the > closer I get to goal, the more of these people that come out of the > woodwork: " What do you mean you want to lose 15 more pounds, you look > great now, " " But you're getting so skinny, " and my favorite " Well, > you know you'll never be able to maintain that low a weight-- you're > not a teenager anymore. " I get it from co-workers, friends, family. > If you hear it too much, you start to want to believe them, but I > just remind myself to keep up the resolve and stay on track. > > > April So true, April, and the one I've been hearing lately is " Don't lose too much weight or you will start to look old. When you are older, you shouldn't get too thin. " I am 53, just got under my weight watcher goal by 2 pounds, weighing in at 134 now and I think I am finally looking good. Would even like to lose about 5 or 6 more pounds. Oh well, I think they mean well. Everyone has their own opinion. Do you find that the people who say these things tend to be overweight themselves? Terri in WI Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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