Cherie/Dealing with Husbands

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Dear Cherie,

Welcome to the group. Your story is so similar to many of the women

on the site. I'm so glad you found our WONDERFUL group, but it just

frustrates me to hear that another person has fallen prey to another

doctor who doesn't have a clue how to handle retained placenta.

Anyhow, feel free to ask as many questions as you want. The more you

know, the better off you will be.

As for your husband, I certainly understand your frustration. Before

I got pregnant with my son, I diagnosed myself with PCOS. I did a

ton of reading on the web and my symptoms were classic PCOS. My dh

kidded me about how obsessed I was with the computer and that I was

trying to diagnose myself before I had even seen a doctor. I did see

an RE who told me that I didn't have PCOS. You can imagine what my

dh said after that appointment. Fortunately with the help of

fertility drugs, I was able to conceive. After delivery and

subsequent d & c and lack of periods, I again diagnosed myself with

AS. I remember my husband saying " oh you're just jumping to

conclusions, you will be fine. " Well, I went back to the RE, who

tried to do an HSG but couldn't get into my cervix because the

scarring was too severe. In his summary report (and keep in mind

this is the same RE I saw who told me I did NOT have PCOS), he wrote

32 year old female, with PCOS, has Asherman's Syndrome. You can

imagine how ANGRY I was when I read my medical documents.

So, to make a long story short. My dh later apologized to me for

thinking I was spending too much time on the computer diagnosing

myself. He said you were right and I should have never doubted you.

I think husbands have a very difficult time dealing with female

medical issues. For one, it's not their bodies and they don't really

understand how much a period can mean to a woman. I also think they

want to believe that the problem isn't serious and can be medically

fixed without much effort. Unfortunately, this isn't always so.

My dh " woke up " after the final diagnosis from the RE and from the

consultation with an A-list doctor. He heard the A-list's

recommendation and understood the sense of urgency on why I needed

to be treated so soon. It takes time, but your dh will come around

in the end.

One final point....take the list of questions from the site with you

to your doctor's appointment. Please GRILL this doctor to be sure

s/he is the right one to be treating your AS. I cannot emphasize

this point enough....see an EXPERIENCED A-list doctor ASAP. If you

find you don't have AS, then that's great and you can move on. If

you do, you will know you are in the right hands.

Welcome again,

Sara O.