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Hi Darcy,

I'm sorry for confusing you with someone else.... I'm truly sorry.

I have decided to join a few support groups at yahoogroups.com and see how

other people deal with it. i have seen counsellors after counsellors but I

find they don't understand. They don't even recognise fibro as an illness!

Love

RE: hello

> Hi Darcy

> I am so sorry that you recently lost an uncle. I do know what that is

like,

> as my aunt recently passed away and I had a hard time accepting it. I am

> sorry you are having bad nightmares. They are the pits when that happened.

I

> have been having bad ones for a few nights.

>

> I'd do anything to be less anxious!

>

>

> Love

>

>

>

> I think you have me confused with someone else, . I've never even

had

> an uncle let alone one that died recently. I vaguely remember responding

to

> someone like that, so maybe that's where the confusion came in.

>

> Feeling anxious is never very fun. What are you doing to help with your

> anxiety?

> Darcy

>

>

>

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Hi Darcy,

I'm sorry for confusing you with someone else.... I'm truly sorry.

I have decided to join a few support groups at yahoogroups.com and see how

other people deal with it. i have seen counsellors after counsellors but I

find they don't understand. They don't even recognise fibro as an illness!

Love

RE: hello

> Hi Darcy

> I am so sorry that you recently lost an uncle. I do know what that is

like,

> as my aunt recently passed away and I had a hard time accepting it. I am

> sorry you are having bad nightmares. They are the pits when that happened.

I

> have been having bad ones for a few nights.

>

> I'd do anything to be less anxious!

>

>

> Love

>

>

>

> I think you have me confused with someone else, . I've never even

had

> an uncle let alone one that died recently. I vaguely remember responding

to

> someone like that, so maybe that's where the confusion came in.

>

> Feeling anxious is never very fun. What are you doing to help with your

> anxiety?

> Darcy

>

>

>

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Hi Darcy,

I'm sorry for confusing you with someone else.... I'm truly sorry.

I have decided to join a few support groups at yahoogroups.com and see how

other people deal with it. i have seen counsellors after counsellors but I

find they don't understand. They don't even recognise fibro as an illness!

Love

RE: hello

> Hi Darcy

> I am so sorry that you recently lost an uncle. I do know what that is

like,

> as my aunt recently passed away and I had a hard time accepting it. I am

> sorry you are having bad nightmares. They are the pits when that happened.

I

> have been having bad ones for a few nights.

>

> I'd do anything to be less anxious!

>

>

> Love

>

>

>

> I think you have me confused with someone else, . I've never even

had

> an uncle let alone one that died recently. I vaguely remember responding

to

> someone like that, so maybe that's where the confusion came in.

>

> Feeling anxious is never very fun. What are you doing to help with your

> anxiety?

> Darcy

>

>

>

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I had the fatigue that comes along with fibro, but I'm told by certain

people, go earlier to bed!!!, pull myself together!!1

Love

RE: hello

> Hi Darcy,

> I'm sorry for confusing you with someone else.... I'm truly sorry.

> I have decided to join a few support groups at yahoogroups.com and see how

> other people deal with it. i have seen counsellors after counsellors but I

> find they don't understand. They don't even recognise fibro as an illness!

> Love

>

>

>

> I wouldn't waste another second thinking about the mix up. Happens all of

> the time to different people. I think people often have a hard time

putting

> themselves in other people's shoes. I know when I was a kid, my best

friend

> was overweight. I didn't care, it didn't bother me, but I thought if she

> just stop eating M & M's that she'd loose weight. Never having been

> overweight at that point, I really didn't have a clue how hard it was, and

> not just a matter of passing up eating a candy bar every now and then.

And

> I think that's how most people are about issues that they aren't involved

in

> personally. Loose weight? Stop eating so much. Anxious over stuff you

> shouldn't be?? Ah just don't worry about things. Need to get organized?

> Just put stuff away. I'm not the most organized person in the world and

DH

> is even less than I am. With this fatigue, I don't get much house

> cleaning/organizing done. I was complaining to a friend via email, and

her

> response was " oh, just take a magazine with you on the way to the bathroom

> and put it away. " Without meaning to, she just totally negated my level

of

> fatigue, the fact my house and it's contents aren't arranged the way hers

> probably are, it's more than just a magazine, and to do that is much

easier

> for an organized person than someone who isn't. I rather suspect the

> counselors just don't have a clue. Dane woke up the other morning after a

> poor night of sleeping with a slight cold. He was miserable. I pointed

out

> to him, that's pretty much how I feel most mornings with muscle pain on

top

> of it. He just nodded, but hadn't really got my point. I went back and

> told him " Do you feel up to going to work right now? " He said " not

> really " . I told him to add muscle aching into how he was feeling, I told

> him I just wanted some credit for going to work like that all of the time.

> So even Dane who is one of the most loving sympathetic people in the

world,

> just didn't " get it " at that moment in time. Gosh, this is a long

message!

>

> Darcy

>

>

>

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I had the fatigue that comes along with fibro, but I'm told by certain

people, go earlier to bed!!!, pull myself together!!1

Love

RE: hello

> Hi Darcy,

> I'm sorry for confusing you with someone else.... I'm truly sorry.

> I have decided to join a few support groups at yahoogroups.com and see how

> other people deal with it. i have seen counsellors after counsellors but I

> find they don't understand. They don't even recognise fibro as an illness!

> Love

>

>

>

> I wouldn't waste another second thinking about the mix up. Happens all of

> the time to different people. I think people often have a hard time

putting

> themselves in other people's shoes. I know when I was a kid, my best

friend

> was overweight. I didn't care, it didn't bother me, but I thought if she

> just stop eating M & M's that she'd loose weight. Never having been

> overweight at that point, I really didn't have a clue how hard it was, and

> not just a matter of passing up eating a candy bar every now and then.

And

> I think that's how most people are about issues that they aren't involved

in

> personally. Loose weight? Stop eating so much. Anxious over stuff you

> shouldn't be?? Ah just don't worry about things. Need to get organized?

> Just put stuff away. I'm not the most organized person in the world and

DH

> is even less than I am. With this fatigue, I don't get much house

> cleaning/organizing done. I was complaining to a friend via email, and

her

> response was " oh, just take a magazine with you on the way to the bathroom

> and put it away. " Without meaning to, she just totally negated my level

of

> fatigue, the fact my house and it's contents aren't arranged the way hers

> probably are, it's more than just a magazine, and to do that is much

easier

> for an organized person than someone who isn't. I rather suspect the

> counselors just don't have a clue. Dane woke up the other morning after a

> poor night of sleeping with a slight cold. He was miserable. I pointed

out

> to him, that's pretty much how I feel most mornings with muscle pain on

top

> of it. He just nodded, but hadn't really got my point. I went back and

> told him " Do you feel up to going to work right now? " He said " not

> really " . I told him to add muscle aching into how he was feeling, I told

> him I just wanted some credit for going to work like that all of the time.

> So even Dane who is one of the most loving sympathetic people in the

world,

> just didn't " get it " at that moment in time. Gosh, this is a long

message!

>

> Darcy

>

>

>

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people, go earlier to bed!!!, pull myself together!!1

Love

RE: hello

> Hi Darcy,

> I'm sorry for confusing you with someone else.... I'm truly sorry.

> I have decided to join a few support groups at yahoogroups.com and see how

> other people deal with it. i have seen counsellors after counsellors but I

> find they don't understand. They don't even recognise fibro as an illness!

> Love

>

>

>

> I wouldn't waste another second thinking about the mix up. Happens all of

> the time to different people. I think people often have a hard time

putting

> themselves in other people's shoes. I know when I was a kid, my best

friend

> was overweight. I didn't care, it didn't bother me, but I thought if she

> just stop eating M & M's that she'd loose weight. Never having been

> overweight at that point, I really didn't have a clue how hard it was, and

> not just a matter of passing up eating a candy bar every now and then.

And

> I think that's how most people are about issues that they aren't involved

in

> personally. Loose weight? Stop eating so much. Anxious over stuff you

> shouldn't be?? Ah just don't worry about things. Need to get organized?

> Just put stuff away. I'm not the most organized person in the world and

DH

> is even less than I am. With this fatigue, I don't get much house

> cleaning/organizing done. I was complaining to a friend via email, and

her

> response was " oh, just take a magazine with you on the way to the bathroom

> and put it away. " Without meaning to, she just totally negated my level

of

> fatigue, the fact my house and it's contents aren't arranged the way hers

> probably are, it's more than just a magazine, and to do that is much

easier

> for an organized person than someone who isn't. I rather suspect the

> counselors just don't have a clue. Dane woke up the other morning after a

> poor night of sleeping with a slight cold. He was miserable. I pointed

out

> to him, that's pretty much how I feel most mornings with muscle pain on

top

> of it. He just nodded, but hadn't really got my point. I went back and

> told him " Do you feel up to going to work right now? " He said " not

> really " . I told him to add muscle aching into how he was feeling, I told

> him I just wanted some credit for going to work like that all of the time.

> So even Dane who is one of the most loving sympathetic people in the

world,

> just didn't " get it " at that moment in time. Gosh, this is a long

message!

>

> Darcy

>

>

>

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Darcy,Hope you do not mind me butting in. But I have a wonderful

counselor, either that or she pretends real well. But even with her

being good I took her mini articles about fibromyalgia and ask her to

read them if she did not mind so when I said I was in pain when I came to

her office she would have a better understanding. First call your local

hospital and speak with an adult social worker and see if she can tell

you who you can call to get a list of good ones. And start there. Get

comfortable first. I was seeing my therapist for at least a month or

more before I brought of the paper work and she did want to read it. So

if you can find a help group who can get you some good names. Good luck!

Where was it you said you lived. Let me know. Deana

On Mon, 28 May 2001 12:53:32 -0400 " Stockstill, Darcy "

writes:

> Hi Darcy,

> I'm sorry for confusing you with someone else.... I'm truly sorry.

> I have decided to join a few support groups at yahoogroups.com and

> see how

> other people deal with it. i have seen counsellors after counsellors

> but I

> find they don't understand. They don't even recognise fibro as an

> illness!

> Love

>

>

>

> I wouldn't waste another second thinking about the mix up. Happens

> all of

> the time to different people. I think people often have a hard time

> putting

> themselves in other people's shoes. I know when I was a kid, my

> best friend

> was overweight. I didn't care, it didn't bother me, but I thought

> if she

> just stop eating M & M's that she'd loose weight. Never having been

> overweight at that point, I really didn't have a clue how hard it

> was, and

> not just a matter of passing up eating a candy bar every now and

> then. And

> I think that's how most people are about issues that they aren't

> involved in

> personally. Loose weight? Stop eating so much. Anxious over stuff

> you

> shouldn't be?? Ah just don't worry about things. Need to get

> organized?

> Just put stuff away. I'm not the most organized person in the world

> and DH

> is even less than I am. With this fatigue, I don't get much house

> cleaning/organizing done. I was complaining to a friend via email,

> and her

> response was " oh, just take a magazine with you on the way to the

> bathroom

> and put it away. " Without meaning to, she just totally negated my

> level of

> fatigue, the fact my house and it's contents aren't arranged the way

> hers

> probably are, it's more than just a magazine, and to do that is much

> easier

> for an organized person than someone who isn't. I rather suspect

> the

> counselors just don't have a clue. Dane woke up the other morning

> after a

> poor night of sleeping with a slight cold. He was miserable. I

> pointed out

> to him, that's pretty much how I feel most mornings with muscle pain

> on top

> of it. He just nodded, but hadn't really got my point. I went back

> and

> told him " Do you feel up to going to work right now? " He said " not

> really " . I told him to add muscle aching into how he was feeling, I

> told

> him I just wanted some credit for going to work like that all of the

> time.

> So even Dane who is one of the most loving sympathetic people in the

> world,

> just didn't " get it " at that moment in time. Gosh, this is a long

> message!

>

> Darcy

>

>

>

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Darcy,Hope you do not mind me butting in. But I have a wonderful

counselor, either that or she pretends real well. But even with her

being good I took her mini articles about fibromyalgia and ask her to

read them if she did not mind so when I said I was in pain when I came to

her office she would have a better understanding. First call your local

hospital and speak with an adult social worker and see if she can tell

you who you can call to get a list of good ones. And start there. Get

comfortable first. I was seeing my therapist for at least a month or

more before I brought of the paper work and she did want to read it. So

if you can find a help group who can get you some good names. Good luck!

Where was it you said you lived. Let me know. Deana

On Mon, 28 May 2001 12:53:32 -0400 " Stockstill, Darcy "

writes:

> Hi Darcy,

> I'm sorry for confusing you with someone else.... I'm truly sorry.

> I have decided to join a few support groups at yahoogroups.com and

> see how

> other people deal with it. i have seen counsellors after counsellors

> but I

> find they don't understand. They don't even recognise fibro as an

> illness!

> Love

>

>

>

> I wouldn't waste another second thinking about the mix up. Happens

> all of

> the time to different people. I think people often have a hard time

> putting

> themselves in other people's shoes. I know when I was a kid, my

> best friend

> was overweight. I didn't care, it didn't bother me, but I thought

> if she

> just stop eating M & M's that she'd loose weight. Never having been

> overweight at that point, I really didn't have a clue how hard it

> was, and

> not just a matter of passing up eating a candy bar every now and

> then. And

> I think that's how most people are about issues that they aren't

> involved in

> personally. Loose weight? Stop eating so much. Anxious over stuff

> you

> shouldn't be?? Ah just don't worry about things. Need to get

> organized?

> Just put stuff away. I'm not the most organized person in the world

> and DH

> is even less than I am. With this fatigue, I don't get much house

> cleaning/organizing done. I was complaining to a friend via email,

> and her

> response was " oh, just take a magazine with you on the way to the

> bathroom

> and put it away. " Without meaning to, she just totally negated my

> level of

> fatigue, the fact my house and it's contents aren't arranged the way

> hers

> probably are, it's more than just a magazine, and to do that is much

> easier

> for an organized person than someone who isn't. I rather suspect

> the

> counselors just don't have a clue. Dane woke up the other morning

> after a

> poor night of sleeping with a slight cold. He was miserable. I

> pointed out

> to him, that's pretty much how I feel most mornings with muscle pain

> on top

> of it. He just nodded, but hadn't really got my point. I went back

> and

> told him " Do you feel up to going to work right now? " He said " not

> really " . I told him to add muscle aching into how he was feeling, I

> told

> him I just wanted some credit for going to work like that all of the

> time.

> So even Dane who is one of the most loving sympathetic people in the

> world,

> just didn't " get it " at that moment in time. Gosh, this is a long

> message!

>

> Darcy

>

>

>

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Darcy,Hope you do not mind me butting in. But I have a wonderful

counselor, either that or she pretends real well. But even with her

being good I took her mini articles about fibromyalgia and ask her to

read them if she did not mind so when I said I was in pain when I came to

her office she would have a better understanding. First call your local

hospital and speak with an adult social worker and see if she can tell

you who you can call to get a list of good ones. And start there. Get

comfortable first. I was seeing my therapist for at least a month or

more before I brought of the paper work and she did want to read it. So

if you can find a help group who can get you some good names. Good luck!

Where was it you said you lived. Let me know. Deana

On Mon, 28 May 2001 12:53:32 -0400 " Stockstill, Darcy "

writes:

> Hi Darcy,

> I'm sorry for confusing you with someone else.... I'm truly sorry.

> I have decided to join a few support groups at yahoogroups.com and

> see how

> other people deal with it. i have seen counsellors after counsellors

> but I

> find they don't understand. They don't even recognise fibro as an

> illness!

> Love

>

>

>

> I wouldn't waste another second thinking about the mix up. Happens

> all of

> the time to different people. I think people often have a hard time

> putting

> themselves in other people's shoes. I know when I was a kid, my

> best friend

> was overweight. I didn't care, it didn't bother me, but I thought

> if she

> just stop eating M & M's that she'd loose weight. Never having been

> overweight at that point, I really didn't have a clue how hard it

> was, and

> not just a matter of passing up eating a candy bar every now and

> then. And

> I think that's how most people are about issues that they aren't

> involved in

> personally. Loose weight? Stop eating so much. Anxious over stuff

> you

> shouldn't be?? Ah just don't worry about things. Need to get

> organized?

> Just put stuff away. I'm not the most organized person in the world

> and DH

> is even less than I am. With this fatigue, I don't get much house

> cleaning/organizing done. I was complaining to a friend via email,

> and her

> response was " oh, just take a magazine with you on the way to the

> bathroom

> and put it away. " Without meaning to, she just totally negated my

> level of

> fatigue, the fact my house and it's contents aren't arranged the way

> hers

> probably are, it's more than just a magazine, and to do that is much

> easier

> for an organized person than someone who isn't. I rather suspect

> the

> counselors just don't have a clue. Dane woke up the other morning

> after a

> poor night of sleeping with a slight cold. He was miserable. I

> pointed out

> to him, that's pretty much how I feel most mornings with muscle pain

> on top

> of it. He just nodded, but hadn't really got my point. I went back

> and

> told him " Do you feel up to going to work right now? " He said " not

> really " . I told him to add muscle aching into how he was feeling, I

> told

> him I just wanted some credit for going to work like that all of the

> time.

> So even Dane who is one of the most loving sympathetic people in the

> world,

> just didn't " get it " at that moment in time. Gosh, this is a long

> message!

>

> Darcy

>

>

>

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This bothers the heck out of me. Going to bed earlier is not going to end

your fatigue or let you sleep. I was up until 2:30 last night and up at

7:30. I wanted to go to bed, tried to at about 10:00. Wanting and getting

more rest and sleep are two different things.

Take care,

Irene

> I had the fatigue that comes along with fibro, but I'm told by certain

> people, go earlier to bed!!!, pull myself together!!1

>

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This bothers the heck out of me. Going to bed earlier is not going to end

your fatigue or let you sleep. I was up until 2:30 last night and up at

7:30. I wanted to go to bed, tried to at about 10:00. Wanting and getting

more rest and sleep are two different things.

Take care,

Irene

> I had the fatigue that comes along with fibro, but I'm told by certain

> people, go earlier to bed!!!, pull myself together!!1

>

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people, go earlier to bed!!!, pull myself together!!1

Love

SNORT! As if you already wouldn't be doing that if it would do any good!!

I'd go to bed at 8 pm if it would do me any good.

Darcy

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Love

SNORT! As if you already wouldn't be doing that if it would do any good!!

I'd go to bed at 8 pm if it would do me any good.

Darcy

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Darcy,Hope you do not mind me butting in. But I have a wonderful

counselor, either that or she pretends real well. But even with her

being good I took her mini articles about fibromyalgia and ask her to

read them if she did not mind so when I said I was in pain when I came

to

her office she would have a better understanding. First call your local

hospital and speak with an adult social worker and see if she can tell

you who you can call to get a list of good ones. And start there. Get

comfortable first. I was seeing my therapist for at least a month or

more before I brought of the paper work and she did want to read it. So

if you can find a help group who can get you some good names. Good

luck!

Where was it you said you lived. Let me know. Deana

Darcy: I don't mind you " butting " in at all, I think it's just part of

helping each other. However, it's not me that was wanting a therapist, it

was .

Darcy

On Mon, 28 May 2001 12:53:32 -0400 " Stockstill, Darcy "

writes:

> Hi Darcy,

> I'm sorry for confusing you with someone else.... I'm truly sorry.

> I have decided to join a few support groups at yahoogroups.com and

> see how

> other people deal with it. i have seen counsellors after counsellors

> but I

> find they don't understand. They don't even recognise fibro as an

> illness!

> Love

>

>

>

> I wouldn't waste another second thinking about the mix up. Happens

> all of

> the time to different people. I think people often have a hard time

> putting

> themselves in other people's shoes. I know when I was a kid, my

> best friend

> was overweight. I didn't care, it didn't bother me, but I thought

> if she

> just stop eating M & M's that she'd loose weight. Never having been

> overweight at that point, I really didn't have a clue how hard it

> was, and

> not just a matter of passing up eating a candy bar every now and

> then. And

> I think that's how most people are about issues that they aren't

> involved in

> personally. Loose weight? Stop eating so much. Anxious over stuff

> you

> shouldn't be?? Ah just don't worry about things. Need to get

> organized?

> Just put stuff away. I'm not the most organized person in the world

> and DH

> is even less than I am. With this fatigue, I don't get much house

> cleaning/organizing done. I was complaining to a friend via email,

> and her

> response was " oh, just take a magazine with you on the way to the

> bathroom

> and put it away. " Without meaning to, she just totally negated my

> level of

> fatigue, the fact my house and it's contents aren't arranged the way

> hers

> probably are, it's more than just a magazine, and to do that is much

> easier

> for an organized person than someone who isn't. I rather suspect

> the

> counselors just don't have a clue. Dane woke up the other morning

> after a

> poor night of sleeping with a slight cold. He was miserable. I

> pointed out

> to him, that's pretty much how I feel most mornings with muscle pain

> on top

> of it. He just nodded, but hadn't really got my point. I went back

> and

> told him " Do you feel up to going to work right now? " He said " not

> really " . I told him to add muscle aching into how he was feeling, I

> told

> him I just wanted some credit for going to work like that all of the

> time.

> So even Dane who is one of the most loving sympathetic people in the

> world,

> just didn't " get it " at that moment in time. Gosh, this is a long

> message!

>

> Darcy

>

>

>

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Darcy,Hope you do not mind me butting in. But I have a wonderful

counselor, either that or she pretends real well. But even with her

being good I took her mini articles about fibromyalgia and ask her to

read them if she did not mind so when I said I was in pain when I came

to

her office she would have a better understanding. First call your local

hospital and speak with an adult social worker and see if she can tell

you who you can call to get a list of good ones. And start there. Get

comfortable first. I was seeing my therapist for at least a month or

more before I brought of the paper work and she did want to read it. So

if you can find a help group who can get you some good names. Good

luck!

Where was it you said you lived. Let me know. Deana

Darcy: I don't mind you " butting " in at all, I think it's just part of

helping each other. However, it's not me that was wanting a therapist, it

was .

Darcy

On Mon, 28 May 2001 12:53:32 -0400 " Stockstill, Darcy "

writes:

> Hi Darcy,

> I'm sorry for confusing you with someone else.... I'm truly sorry.

> I have decided to join a few support groups at yahoogroups.com and

> see how

> other people deal with it. i have seen counsellors after counsellors

> but I

> find they don't understand. They don't even recognise fibro as an

> illness!

> Love

>

>

>

> I wouldn't waste another second thinking about the mix up. Happens

> all of

> the time to different people. I think people often have a hard time

> putting

> themselves in other people's shoes. I know when I was a kid, my

> best friend

> was overweight. I didn't care, it didn't bother me, but I thought

> if she

> just stop eating M & M's that she'd loose weight. Never having been

> overweight at that point, I really didn't have a clue how hard it

> was, and

> not just a matter of passing up eating a candy bar every now and

> then. And

> I think that's how most people are about issues that they aren't

> involved in

> personally. Loose weight? Stop eating so much. Anxious over stuff

> you

> shouldn't be?? Ah just don't worry about things. Need to get

> organized?

> Just put stuff away. I'm not the most organized person in the world

> and DH

> is even less than I am. With this fatigue, I don't get much house

> cleaning/organizing done. I was complaining to a friend via email,

> and her

> response was " oh, just take a magazine with you on the way to the

> bathroom

> and put it away. " Without meaning to, she just totally negated my

> level of

> fatigue, the fact my house and it's contents aren't arranged the way

> hers

> probably are, it's more than just a magazine, and to do that is much

> easier

> for an organized person than someone who isn't. I rather suspect

> the

> counselors just don't have a clue. Dane woke up the other morning

> after a

> poor night of sleeping with a slight cold. He was miserable. I

> pointed out

> to him, that's pretty much how I feel most mornings with muscle pain

> on top

> of it. He just nodded, but hadn't really got my point. I went back

> and

> told him " Do you feel up to going to work right now? " He said " not

> really " . I told him to add muscle aching into how he was feeling, I

> told

> him I just wanted some credit for going to work like that all of the

> time.

> So even Dane who is one of the most loving sympathetic people in the

> world,

> just didn't " get it " at that moment in time. Gosh, this is a long

> message!

>

> Darcy

>

>

>

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Darcy,Hope you do not mind me butting in. But I have a wonderful

counselor, either that or she pretends real well. But even with her

being good I took her mini articles about fibromyalgia and ask her to

read them if she did not mind so when I said I was in pain when I came

to

her office she would have a better understanding. First call your local

hospital and speak with an adult social worker and see if she can tell

you who you can call to get a list of good ones. And start there. Get

comfortable first. I was seeing my therapist for at least a month or

more before I brought of the paper work and she did want to read it. So

if you can find a help group who can get you some good names. Good

luck!

Where was it you said you lived. Let me know. Deana

Darcy: I don't mind you " butting " in at all, I think it's just part of

helping each other. However, it's not me that was wanting a therapist, it

was .

Darcy

On Mon, 28 May 2001 12:53:32 -0400 " Stockstill, Darcy "

writes:

> Hi Darcy,

> I'm sorry for confusing you with someone else.... I'm truly sorry.

> I have decided to join a few support groups at yahoogroups.com and

> see how

> other people deal with it. i have seen counsellors after counsellors

> but I

> find they don't understand. They don't even recognise fibro as an

> illness!

> Love

>

>

>

> I wouldn't waste another second thinking about the mix up. Happens

> all of

> the time to different people. I think people often have a hard time

> putting

> themselves in other people's shoes. I know when I was a kid, my

> best friend

> was overweight. I didn't care, it didn't bother me, but I thought

> if she

> just stop eating M & M's that she'd loose weight. Never having been

> overweight at that point, I really didn't have a clue how hard it

> was, and

> not just a matter of passing up eating a candy bar every now and

> then. And

> I think that's how most people are about issues that they aren't

> involved in

> personally. Loose weight? Stop eating so much. Anxious over stuff

> you

> shouldn't be?? Ah just don't worry about things. Need to get

> organized?

> Just put stuff away. I'm not the most organized person in the world

> and DH

> is even less than I am. With this fatigue, I don't get much house

> cleaning/organizing done. I was complaining to a friend via email,

> and her

> response was " oh, just take a magazine with you on the way to the

> bathroom

> and put it away. " Without meaning to, she just totally negated my

> level of

> fatigue, the fact my house and it's contents aren't arranged the way

> hers

> probably are, it's more than just a magazine, and to do that is much

> easier

> for an organized person than someone who isn't. I rather suspect

> the

> counselors just don't have a clue. Dane woke up the other morning

> after a

> poor night of sleeping with a slight cold. He was miserable. I

> pointed out

> to him, that's pretty much how I feel most mornings with muscle pain

> on top

> of it. He just nodded, but hadn't really got my point. I went back

> and

> told him " Do you feel up to going to work right now? " He said " not

> really " . I told him to add muscle aching into how he was feeling, I

> told

> him I just wanted some credit for going to work like that all of the

> time.

> So even Dane who is one of the most loving sympathetic people in the

> world,

> just didn't " get it " at that moment in time. Gosh, this is a long

> message!

>

> Darcy

>

>

>

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Well gang, We might as well try and pull to gether and help each other,

cause no matter what we say they think we are crazy anyway. And that

really makes me mad when doctors are the ones thinking you are crazy.

They just cannot find a test to prove it completely, they want facts and

if all they get are negative test results, they send you home thinking

you are crazy.. that is why I am so glad I found this group it is so

nice to say something and not feel ashamed or guilty. Hey guys got

to share some good news with you. I had a doctors appt. for next week,

but I called Tues. cause I had been in bad pain for 5 days with a

migraine the size of the sun. She fit me in, and by the time I got there

(drove myself) I was crying so bad I could bearly breathe. She is the

greatest. I told her I could not fight it no more put me on disibility.

She has been wanting me to quit working for almost a year now but I have

been fighting because my husband said I could not cause we could not

afford it and he did not want to loose the house. So I fought. Well to

get to the point I said put me on. I told her of my guilt about feeling

lazy and like a failure and she said Deana one thing you are not is lazy,

you have been fighting this battle too long and I am glad that you

finally decided to take care of yourself. She held my hand and stayed

for awhile and said you have to put yourself first. Isn't that cool!

God sure blessed me when he led me to her. It may end the marriage, but

who knows , only God can know he takes us where he wants us. Sorry for

rambling! but I felt so good I had to share it with my new fibro

friends. And I hope only good comes to each of you too! You are all in

my prayers. Deana

On Wed, 30 May 2001 18:57:59 EDT patidu@... writes:

> This bothers the heck out of me. Going to bed earlier is not going

> to end

> your fatigue or let you sleep. I was up until 2:30 last night and

> up at

> 7:30. I wanted to go to bed, tried to at about 10:00. Wanting and

> getting

> more rest and sleep are two different things.

>

> Take care,

> Irene

>

> > I had the fatigue that comes along with fibro, but I'm told by

> certain

> > people, go earlier to bed!!!, pull myself together!!1

> >

>

>

>

>

>

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Well gang, We might as well try and pull to gether and help each other,

cause no matter what we say they think we are crazy anyway. And that

really makes me mad when doctors are the ones thinking you are crazy.

They just cannot find a test to prove it completely, they want facts and

if all they get are negative test results, they send you home thinking

you are crazy.. that is why I am so glad I found this group it is so

nice to say something and not feel ashamed or guilty. Hey guys got

to share some good news with you. I had a doctors appt. for next week,

but I called Tues. cause I had been in bad pain for 5 days with a

migraine the size of the sun. She fit me in, and by the time I got there

(drove myself) I was crying so bad I could bearly breathe. She is the

greatest. I told her I could not fight it no more put me on disibility.

She has been wanting me to quit working for almost a year now but I have

been fighting because my husband said I could not cause we could not

afford it and he did not want to loose the house. So I fought. Well to

get to the point I said put me on. I told her of my guilt about feeling

lazy and like a failure and she said Deana one thing you are not is lazy,

you have been fighting this battle too long and I am glad that you

finally decided to take care of yourself. She held my hand and stayed

for awhile and said you have to put yourself first. Isn't that cool!

God sure blessed me when he led me to her. It may end the marriage, but

who knows , only God can know he takes us where he wants us. Sorry for

rambling! but I felt so good I had to share it with my new fibro

friends. And I hope only good comes to each of you too! You are all in

my prayers. Deana

On Wed, 30 May 2001 18:57:59 EDT patidu@... writes:

> This bothers the heck out of me. Going to bed earlier is not going

> to end

> your fatigue or let you sleep. I was up until 2:30 last night and

> up at

> 7:30. I wanted to go to bed, tried to at about 10:00. Wanting and

> getting

> more rest and sleep are two different things.

>

> Take care,

> Irene

>

> > I had the fatigue that comes along with fibro, but I'm told by

> certain

> > people, go earlier to bed!!!, pull myself together!!1

> >

>

>

>

>

>

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This bothers the heck out of me. Going to bed earlier is not going to end

your fatigue or let you sleep. I was up until 2:30 last night and up at

7:30. I wanted to go to bed, tried to at about 10:00. Wanting and getting

more rest and sleep are two different things.

Take care,

Irene

Absolutely!! It's always funny to me when people say stuff like this, I

mean isn't that the first, obvious step when you're tired? You try to get a

little more sleep either by going to be early or sleeping late. So if

that's what people do when *they* get tired, what makes them think *you*

wouldn't have already thought of that and tried it??

Darcy

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This bothers the heck out of me. Going to bed earlier is not going to end

your fatigue or let you sleep. I was up until 2:30 last night and up at

7:30. I wanted to go to bed, tried to at about 10:00. Wanting and getting

more rest and sleep are two different things.

Take care,

Irene

Absolutely!! It's always funny to me when people say stuff like this, I

mean isn't that the first, obvious step when you're tired? You try to get a

little more sleep either by going to be early or sleeping late. So if

that's what people do when *they* get tired, what makes them think *you*

wouldn't have already thought of that and tried it??

Darcy

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She has been wanting me to quit working for almost a year now but I have

been fighting because my husband said I could not cause we could not

afford it and he did not want to loose the house. So I fought. Well to

get to the point I said put me on. I told her of my guilt about feeling

lazy and like a failure and she said Deana one thing you are not is lazy,

you have been fighting this battle too long and I am glad that you

finally decided to take care of yourself.

Deana

I am glad to hear that you are finally going to do what you need to do and

quit, and that your doctor supports you in this. I hope your husband is

strong enough to stick with you in a gracious manner. After all, what's

more important, you and your health or owning the house?? I was stressing

over all of the things we'd no longer be able to do if I quit when I

realized, I'd still have my husband and my kitties, I might actually be able

to do a little crafting, in other words, I'd still have what was really

important to me. Ok, maybe I'll never make it to Egypt to see the pyramids,

but hey, I've seen a lot of stuff already. After I realized I wouldn't

loose the really important things, I wasn't feeling so guilty if I had ever

decided to quit.

I've come to the realization that the best thing for me to do is quit work

as well. I'm still struggling when working just half days, and I'm working

on my feet for a bit, sitting down and doing work like that, getting up and

working, so even with just half days, I can't work full tilt. I was trying

to hang on for the neurologist follow up so we wouldn't have to pay out of

pocket for that. Then I started thinking, and I asked Dane " if there was

something we could get for $300 that would help me to feel better, what

would you say? " He immediately looked at me and said " get it " . I looked at

him and said " why then am I struggling to stay working until the neurologist

visit when I'd feel much better for staying home? " He looked at me a moment

and agreed. I haven't turned in my notice yet because we are in the process

of getting life insurance for him in case something happens to him, I'll

have a source of income. I'd feel a lot less stressed by quitting after we

have the policy in place. I don't know how I'd ever manage without him, but

I sure wouldn't want to have to have the added stress of trying to find some

kind of work. It may even turn out that I would still be working by the

time the neurologist's visit comes up. If so, fine, if not, I'll be

healthier for quitting.

Darcy

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She has been wanting me to quit working for almost a year now but I have

been fighting because my husband said I could not cause we could not

afford it and he did not want to loose the house. So I fought. Well to

get to the point I said put me on. I told her of my guilt about feeling

lazy and like a failure and she said Deana one thing you are not is lazy,

you have been fighting this battle too long and I am glad that you

finally decided to take care of yourself.

Deana

I am glad to hear that you are finally going to do what you need to do and

quit, and that your doctor supports you in this. I hope your husband is

strong enough to stick with you in a gracious manner. After all, what's

more important, you and your health or owning the house?? I was stressing

over all of the things we'd no longer be able to do if I quit when I

realized, I'd still have my husband and my kitties, I might actually be able

to do a little crafting, in other words, I'd still have what was really

important to me. Ok, maybe I'll never make it to Egypt to see the pyramids,

but hey, I've seen a lot of stuff already. After I realized I wouldn't

loose the really important things, I wasn't feeling so guilty if I had ever

decided to quit.

I've come to the realization that the best thing for me to do is quit work

as well. I'm still struggling when working just half days, and I'm working

on my feet for a bit, sitting down and doing work like that, getting up and

working, so even with just half days, I can't work full tilt. I was trying

to hang on for the neurologist follow up so we wouldn't have to pay out of

pocket for that. Then I started thinking, and I asked Dane " if there was

something we could get for $300 that would help me to feel better, what

would you say? " He immediately looked at me and said " get it " . I looked at

him and said " why then am I struggling to stay working until the neurologist

visit when I'd feel much better for staying home? " He looked at me a moment

and agreed. I haven't turned in my notice yet because we are in the process

of getting life insurance for him in case something happens to him, I'll

have a source of income. I'd feel a lot less stressed by quitting after we

have the policy in place. I don't know how I'd ever manage without him, but

I sure wouldn't want to have to have the added stress of trying to find some

kind of work. It may even turn out that I would still be working by the

time the neurologist's visit comes up. If so, fine, if not, I'll be

healthier for quitting.

Darcy

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Darcy

I know, I know..> I'm just so fed up

Love

RE: hello

>

> I had the fatigue that comes along with fibro, but I'm told by certain

> people, go earlier to bed!!!, pull myself together!!1

> Love

>

>

> SNORT! As if you already wouldn't be doing that if it would do any good!!

> I'd go to bed at 8 pm if it would do me any good.

>

> Darcy

>

> SEND POST TO: fibromyalgia-cfs

>

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Darcy

I know, I know..> I'm just so fed up

Love

RE: hello

>

> I had the fatigue that comes along with fibro, but I'm told by certain

> people, go earlier to bed!!!, pull myself together!!1

> Love

>

>

> SNORT! As if you already wouldn't be doing that if it would do any good!!

> I'd go to bed at 8 pm if it would do me any good.

>

> Darcy

>

> SEND POST TO: fibromyalgia-cfs

>

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Faye I was on Vioxx also and it pushed my asthma to the edge and I start

bleeding inside.

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