Guest guest Posted October 6, 2000 Report Share Posted October 6, 2000 Well, I hope he acts on it then! Alison Alison I've forwarded your message to my DH, we've not got round to making a will yet, despite it being our New Year's Resolution two years running! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 6, 2000 Report Share Posted October 6, 2000 Lynda wrote We talk on and off about making a will, but do nothing because we can't come to a decision about guardians. Our primary concernmis that the boys should remain together. But how can we ask anybody to take on 4? So, what's the answer? I with Lynda on this - we have 3 - neither mum is capable of looking after 3, I would not wish my SIL and 's brother to look after them. Godparents would have been my decision for 1 child but I would not want any of them to have all 3, and I don't think any of them would like all 3, and I would wish them all to stay together. The talk of wills got me thinking about all this yesterday and I came up with no answer. Trisha SAHM to 3 boys PS if you run spell check on SAHM it come up as SHAM! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 6, 2000 Report Share Posted October 6, 2000 Angi This is exactly how I felt when we travelled without . We finally got round to doing our will this week! It is a relief to have it done and out of the way! Just put it down as a note as something to do when you get back. If it's any consolation has had it down as a " to do " in his palmtop for over 3 years! Have a lovely weekend. x > I was just thinking about this today as Tim & I are flying sans enfants > tomorrow -we have arranged with friends that they would be name and > guardians to the girls -but as yet have done nothing about doing a > will...call us slack too... > Tim would think i was mad for worrying about this *just* cos we are > flying -as he keeps telling me its far less risky than driving (but i don't > drive w/out the girls.....) -- Mum to (4, born a big 11lbs 6oz) & 2 angels 10/98 and 3/00 Farnboro', Hants. For our family album check out this URL: http://albums.photopoint.com/j/AlbumList?u=696368 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 6, 2000 Report Share Posted October 6, 2000 we've not got round to making a will yet, despite it being our New Year's Resolution two years running! ------- Yes we must get around to doing one, I bought some software to do it but still haven't done it!!! Tupman Mum to Matt 13, 10, Jonty 1 & Phil 35 NCT Houseswap Register Coordinator Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 6, 2000 Report Share Posted October 6, 2000 This is what we have done - my parents are named as guardians, but as they get older it is unlikely that they would be in a position to actually look after the children themselves. So we have my sister and her husband as a backup - not named in the will, but a verbal agreement that Mum and Dad would arrange for them to live with Jacky and Les, whilst retaining an interest in their upbringing. Alison The thing to think about is who will make the *decisions* about your children after the worst scenario - not necessarily who will look after them.You cannot possible anticipate every eventuality! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 6, 2000 Report Share Posted October 6, 2000 I will second that to get proper and accurate wills made up by someone who knows what they are doing. My Nan and my great Aunt died within a week of each other. My Nan's will was straightforward and made out by a solicitor. She has split her estate 19 ways, each of us getting 2 shares, but my Mum getting 3 (hence the 19 shares). My mum was executor and found it really straightforward. she was grateful that she had Power of Attorney and had paid for my Nan's funeral up front though as as soon as my Nan died, the bank accounts were frozen, but she couldn't set up an executors account until after the Grant of Probate had been sent by the Probate Office. My mum was very grateful that she and my Nan had set up a joint post office account with a few quid in it and there really wasn't any expenses that this little account couldn't cover. We are still waiting for the final cheque to come through from the tax office but it has all taken just under 3 months. My Great Aunt, however lived in the US. She had a UK pension which was paid into a UK bank account and a UK will to cover it, made under protest and by the bank. It is not worth the paper it is written on as she then made a second will in the States, to cover her American estate only, but because she didn't specify this on the will, and it was dated later than the UK one it supersedes the will she made here. To make matters worse she agreed that Barclays could be executor but they have backed out because it all looked too complicated, leaving my mum, grieving for her mother and favourite aunt, to sort out the mess. Now the US solicitor has to apply for probate in this country as well as in the US, and as he is in San Francisco this is going to be expensive. My Great Aunt saved all her life to give something to her great nieces and nephews but because of this cock up, they are not getting anything. . She was unmarried, and had no children of her own and no-one in the family over there to sort it out, so most of her money is going in fees and taxes, with a small amount being split between her sisters. It has taken this long to sort the mess out, even with the help of the UK probate office (who are extremely nice and helpful) and has only just gone back into the hands of the US solicitor. Nightmare stuff. Made me totally rethink how I want my will to be done, including a bit of savings to go in joint names to cover expenses and a couple of months running costs, or something in my will to allow this. Sue H. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 7, 2000 Report Share Posted October 7, 2000 Lynda said.....Anyway, it's all sorted now as and I have done an offlist deal! ------------ Oh, I'm so pleased to read that, Lynda, as it was playing on my mind. Brilliant. Lesley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 7, 2000 Report Share Posted October 7, 2000 I ought to clarify that in our case, the will was vetted by lawyers employed by the finance company, which is a reputable one. I was using 'legal expert' as an alternative to solicitor, which it obviously ain't!! Lesley -------------- Alison said....I would *never* say never trust anyone but a solicitor!! There are too many bad ones out there and others who, whilst not having the qualification of solicitor, have as much knowledge and skill as one who does. However, it pays to shop around. The phrase " legal expert " can be very fluid. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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