Guest guest Posted September 10, 2004 Report Share Posted September 10, 2004 Lynette, I am so sorry to hear about your father's death.I pray that God will hold you in his arms and surround you with His love and peace.I know that there are no words to describe how you feel or that will truely comfort you right now,but in time,you will find comfort in all the good memories of times you've shared and in the knowledge that he is no longer in pain or ill but in a much better place than you and I. In regards to the " death rattle " ,yes,it is a common medical term for those last gurgling,labored respirations that sound like(and often look) a 'fish out of water'.When they begin,death usually occurs within a matter of minutes.My husband also died at home,in our bed, where he wanted to be.I sat in the bed next to him and held him when this breathing pattern started.I felt then, and still believe that he was really already gone at that point.I can't describe the feeling but it was almost peaceful because I knew that he was in Heaven and no longer suffering.I pictured him holding the infant son we had lost 14 years ago and dancing(he was a dance instructor for many years before the spinal injury that left him paralyzed). It still gives me great comfort to picture him this way. So imagine your father in all the happy times you and your daughters have shared with him and talk about those times. Hugs & Prayers, H > - > It is with a sad sad heart that I must tell you all > that my Father. Wallace Fraley passed away yesterday > morning after a 4 month battle with colon cancer. He > died at home where he wanted to be. He fought so hard > to hang in there. I think he was afraid. He became > unresponsive. The day before he died though he > miraculously started to talk again. The nurse had no > other explaination other than it was a gift from God, > one last chance to say goodbye. One question I asked > him was, What are you thinking about Dadddy? His > answer: My Family. > > > For those of you who have already gone through this I > am so sorry. I just wanted to ask one question? My > Father started to make this gurgling sound, I heard > the nurse refer to it as the " death rattle " . The kind > of sent a chill up my spine, I didn't like that phrase > at all. Has anyone else heard of this? > > The showing will be today and the funeral tomorrow. > Thank you all for all of the kind words you have given > me. > > Lynette Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 10, 2004 Report Share Posted September 10, 2004 Dear Lynette, First, my condolences to you and your family on the passing of your father. I can only say that my prayers are with you. I was with my adopted mom when she passed, and again with a man I considered a father when he passed. Both died from cancer, my mom from CRC coincidentally. While she passed with barely a whisper (too quiet as I would have wished to hear some last words from her), my " father " did have what they refer to as the death rattle. His wife actually warned me what would happen, so I was prepared. I wish there were some kinder phrase for it, but I'm afraid it's been handed down from generations. It does describe it, albeit in a stark way. Put it out of your mind, dear. Just remember your father for the person he was and for the last chance to speak with him. Please, let that be your precious memory of him. God be with you. Sheila Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 10, 2004 Report Share Posted September 10, 2004 --- So very sorry for your loss. God bless you and yours. Judy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 10, 2004 Report Share Posted September 10, 2004 Dear Lynette and Family, I am so very sorry for the loss of your Father. I pray God will wrap you in His arms and give you peace and comfort during this most difficult time. God be with you, Becky Beach > > > > - > > It is with a sad sad heart that I must tell you all > > that my Father. Wallace Fraley passed away yesterday > > morning after a 4 month battle with colon cancer. He > > died at home where he wanted to be. He fought so hard > > to hang in there. I think he was afraid. He became > > unresponsive. The day before he died though he > > miraculously started to talk again. The nurse had no > > other explaination other than it was a gift from God, > > one last chance to say goodbye. One question I asked > > him was, What are you thinking about Dadddy? His > > answer: My Family. > > > > > > For those of you who have already gone through this I > > am so sorry. I just wanted to ask one question? My > > Father started to make this gurgling sound, I heard > > the nurse refer to it as the " death rattle " . The kind > > of sent a chill up my spine, I didn't like that phrase > > at all. Has anyone else heard of this? > > > > The showing will be today and the funeral tomorrow. > > Thank you all for all of the kind words you have given > > me. > > > > Lynette Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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