Re: So Angry!!

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Amy

I am so sorry that you are having a bad day. I wish I could make it better

for you. Of all the nerve of the nurse. why did they do that to you??

That just isnt right. I am sorry. And I am sorry that dp was as excited as

you. dp will come around. give him time. Men are alittle slow sometimes ,

(i know that doesnt make you feel any better< but I wish it did). I will

thinking of you today. Keep that confidence up, EVERYTHING IS PERFECT.

LOVE

crystal

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Amy R

That doesn't even make sense that they wont let you have the test. I

hope you are able to get in touch with the nurse. Maybe its just a

typo.

I am sure your dp will come around. Maybe he needs sometime for this

to sink in. It takes two to get pg.

Pam

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AmyR--

Take a deep breathe sweetie. Actually, HCG is supposed to double

every 2 to 3 days, so that could be why they are waiting. I believe

a had to wait a full week. When I was pg with the ep (before

I knew it was one), my RE made me wait a full week too. I am sure

everything will be alright, especially since your numbers were so

fantastic.

I think someone already mentioned this, but did you get tested for

progesterone? That number is usually very telling. In my case, my

HCG was fine and doubling, but it was the progesterone that signaled

a problem. If you didn't have that checked already, maybe you can

have it checked tomorrow.

I'm sorry to hear about you dp's initial response, but he was

probably just shocked since you weren't ttc. I'm sure he'll get more

excited as time goes on. Also, tell him that you can't get pg once

you are pg!! Men!

Hope your day improves!

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AmyR

I am sorry you are so upset.....and I am right there with you!! I called my dr

today and they set me up for NEXT TUESDAY!! Ok, not until than am I suppose to

have my b/w!!??? I asked to nurse to check with dr and reminded her that I had

an ep and she just called me back and said, no, next week would be fine!! That

is ease for them to say. So my 1st dr visit is next week along with my 2nd #s! I

called my dh and just want to cry too. I can't believe it! I really am upset

with the matter. Amy, I am sorry you aren't very happy at the moment either.

As, for your dp, I am sure you just took him by surprise last night, I mean that

was the last thing he probably expected to hear. Like you said, he is stressed

out and I am sure he just kind of panicked because he wants to be able to

provide his best for you and baby. You said he came around alittle and was

askimg questions, he just needed alittle time. Men feel bad when they aren't

bringing in the money like they should, he has to remember it is only temp.

Also, on top of the job issue he probably is worried about something going wrong

again, you know? I just know he will be jumping off the walls soon too. Take

care of yourself.

" Richey, Amy M. " wrote:

I can't believe this and I don't understand it!! I go to the lab this

morning to get my 2nd beta drawn...they have the appt for tomorrow in their

computers. So I tell them on Monday I was told to come back WEDNESDAY and

call for results on THURSDAY...I didn't get both of those dates wrong!!! I

KNOW that is what the nurse told me! So they call around and finally get

somebody that tells them, no she needs to wait another 24hrs for the

test...WHAT?! WHY?! HCG levels are suppossed to double every 48 hrs so why

are they making me wait another friggin day. They have just ruined my day

and destroyed what sense of confidence I managed to talk myself into. This

was so important to me to feel like I'm getting somewhere. Now I'm sitting

here at work on the verge of tears..oh this is going to be a great day! I

tried calling the nurse, but my cell phone kept disconnecting me. I think

I'll try to find an empty office here and try to get some answers...I at

least want to know why they want to wait another day...and why they didn't

bother to tell me they changed their minds!!!

On top of everything else, I told dp last night...he is not anywhere near as

excited as I am. Like, I predicted he is absorbed with " we don't have

the money for this right now " Ya know what, I DON'T CARE!! All I care

about right now is that this baby is in the right place and okay. He did

eventually come around and start asking what about me and how do I get

tested and what is the protocol, etc... He also told me that after this, we

aren't having sex anymore...yeah right! That will last a real long time.

UGH...it's going to be loooooonnnnnnngggggg day!

-AmyR

[Guest guest]

Thanks Crystal! Apparently it was just a big mix up this morning,

but boy was it enough to send me through the roof. I guess it is

only one more day, but when you have your heart set on something and

your planning and telling yourself okay just wait until this time and

you get to go get the next test, it makes it very hard when they tell

you to wait some more! And I know dp will come around and I know he

will be excited if I get to the point where I have big ole

belly..hee..hee And he will be a great daddy!!

-AmyR

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Pam,

Thanks for your support. You were right it was just a typo...but now

that I have managed to be a little calmer about the whole thing, I am

going to wait until tomorrow and hopefully get a progesterone test

done as well (have to wait for the nurse to ask the dr).

-AmyR

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Hey, ok, I feel alittle tiny bit better knowing maybe I was not the only who

waited a week!! I was so upset, I thought how could she do this? I still am

going to say something when I go. All I wanted was a blood test!!! I will have

to find out about progestrone level, no one said anything about it and I didn't

remember. My dh asked if I wanted to find another ob but I am normally pleased

with her....but not at the moment!! I just assumed I would have repeat b/w

THIS week.....

franke100@... wrote:

AmyR--

Take a deep breathe sweetie. Actually, HCG is supposed to double

every 2 to 3 days, so that could be why they are waiting. I believe

a had to wait a full week. When I was pg with the ep (before

I knew it was one), my RE made me wait a full week too. I am sure

everything will be alright, especially since your numbers were so

fantastic.

I think someone already mentioned this, but did you get tested for

progesterone? That number is usually very telling. In my case, my

HCG was fine and doubling, but it was the progesterone that signaled

a problem. If you didn't have that checked already, maybe you can

have it checked tomorrow.

I'm sorry to hear about you dp's initial response, but he was

probably just shocked since you weren't ttc. I'm sure he'll get more

excited as time goes on. Also, tell him that you can't get pg once

you are pg!! Men!

Hope your day improves!

[Guest guest]

,

Thanks for helping me calm down. I know some people have had to wait

a long time for repeats, but it was just hard when they told me one

thing one day and I got my heart set on it then they told me another

thing today. Oh well, I'll survivie (I didn't think so this morning,

though LOL) I did take your advice about asking for a progesterone

test..so hopefully I'll get them when I go back tomorrow.

As for dp, I know once it is a fact, a sure thing (well there really

isn't such a thing, but you know what I mean), I know he will get

excited. Men are just such different creatures!

-AmyR

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Amy, I am sory you are having such a ruff day. Have you found out anything else

from your doctor? I hope dh starts to feel better about this. I know you have

alot to think about and you don't need him not supporting you right now. I will

pray that things will get better. Hang in there.----Keri

>

> I can't believe this and I don't understand it!! I go to the lab this

> morning to get my 2nd beta drawn...they have the appt for tomorrow in their

> computers. So I tell them on Monday I was told to come back WEDNESDAY and

> call for results on THURSDAY...I didn't get both of those dates wrong!!! I

> KNOW that is what the nurse told me! So they call around and finally get

> somebody that tells them, no she needs to wait another 24hrs for the

> test...WHAT?! WHY?! HCG levels are suppossed to double every 48 hrs so why

> are they making me wait another friggin day. They have just ruined my day

> and destroyed what sense of confidence I managed to talk myself into. This

> was so important to me to feel like I'm getting somewhere. Now I'm sitting

> here at work on the verge of tears..oh this is going to be a great day! I

> tried calling the nurse, but my cell phone kept disconnecting me. I think

> I'll try to find an empty office here and try to get some answers...I at

> least want to know why they want to wait another day...and why they didn't

> bother to tell me they changed their minds!!!

>

> On top of everything else, I told dp last night...he is not anywhere near as

> excited as I am. Like, I predicted he is absorbed with " we don't have

> the money for this right now " Ya know what, I DON'T CARE!! All I care

> about right now is that this baby is in the right place and okay. He did

> eventually come around and start asking what about me and how do I get

> tested and what is the protocol, etc... He also told me that after this, we

> aren't having sex anymore...yeah right! That will last a real long time.

>

>

> UGH...it's going to be loooooonnnnnnngggggg day!

>

> -AmyR

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Amy. I am so sorry that you had such a rough day.

You know, my doctor had me get tested exactly two days

to the time (48 hours) when they were trying to

diagnose my ep. The numbers double every 48 hrs. like

you said. I hope you got a hold of the nurse/doctor

and told them what for!!

--- " Richey, Amy M. " wrote:

> I can't believe this and I don't understand it!! I

> go to the lab this

> morning to get my 2nd beta drawn...they have the

> appt for tomorrow in their

> computers. So I tell them on Monday I was told to

> come back WEDNESDAY and

> call for results on THURSDAY...I didn't get both of

> those dates wrong!!! I

> KNOW that is what the nurse told me! So they call

> around and finally get

> somebody that tells them, no she needs to wait

> another 24hrs for the

> test...WHAT?! WHY?! HCG levels are suppossed to

> double every 48 hrs so why

> are they making me wait another friggin day. They

> have just ruined my day

> and destroyed what sense of confidence I managed to

> talk myself into. This

> was so important to me to feel like I'm getting

> somewhere. Now I'm sitting

> here at work on the verge of tears..oh this is going

> to be a great day! I

> tried calling the nurse, but my cell phone kept

> disconnecting me. I think

> I'll try to find an empty office here and try to get

> some answers...I at

> least want to know why they want to wait another

> day...and why they didn't

> bother to tell me they changed their minds!!!

>

> On top of everything else, I told dp last night...he

> is not anywhere near as

> excited as I am. Like, I predicted he is

> absorbed with " we don't have

> the money for this right now " Ya know what, I DON'T

> CARE!! All I care

> about right now is that this baby is in the right

> place and okay. He did

> eventually come around and start asking what about

> me and how do I get

> tested and what is the protocol, etc... He also

> told me that after this, we

> aren't having sex anymore...yeah right! That will

> last a real long time.

>

>

> UGH...it's going to be loooooonnnnnnngggggg day!

>

> -AmyR

>

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[Guest guest]

,

I know how hard it is to have to wait, but your initial beta was so strong!

Plus, your DH really brought up a good point when he asked you if you had the

cramping with the ep! This weekend will go by before you know it!

{{{HUGS}}}

[Guest guest]

amy r,

sorry dp is not as excited... he'll get there.. he's probably also worried

about you too... back in Jan..dh wasn't nearly as excited as he was in aug.

... they get scared too!!

lisa r

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Amy,

I'm sorry dp's initial reaction was less than you hoped for, but I

have to confess I felt a little that way when I found out I was pg

last year. We had been trying for only a month, and it suddenly seemed

so overwhelming and such a responsibility that I wasn't sure I was

ready for. I honestly cried and thought it was just going to be too

hard and I'd be an awful mother, still trying to finish school...and

it would better if it had happened later. Then when I found out it was

an ep, I felt awful and guilty. Like my wishes had come true in just a

terrible way. So anyhow, I think it's common to be overwhelmed and

scared initially by how permanent a baby is, but the joy will come

once the doubts and insecurities about his job and all pass. I don't

know if this helps at all, I guess I just really feel that your dp

will be ectastic when he realizes he will get to see his child born

and hold his baby and raise a little life in this world. It's so

wonderful and magical, god I'm tearing up just thinking of how blessed

you both are! I hope your numbers tomorrow are great and then some of

that fear can go away for him. Take care,

Dominique

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> Amy,

> I'm sorry dp's initial reaction was less than you hoped for, but I

> have to confess I felt a little that way when I found out I was pg

> last year. We had been trying for only a month, and it suddenly

seemed

> so overwhelming and such a responsibility that I wasn't sure I was

> ready for. I honestly cried and thought it was just going to be too

> hard and I'd be an awful mother, still trying to finish

school...and

> it would better if it had happened later. Then when I found out it

was

> an ep, I felt awful and guilty. Like my wishes had come true in

just a

> terrible way.

Dominique,

I felt the same way!! Boy is it good to hear someone else felt like

this!! I've convinced myself that part of this stress was just a

healthy respect for the magnitude of this life-changing event, but I

still feel horribly guilty. I remember crying and thinking " Why am I

so overwhelmed? I planned and worked for this? " Anyway, I just

wanted to say thanks for sharing this. You made me feel better.

Becca

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Wow, I cired reading this post. I have never said it aloud (not even to dh)

but I felt the same way. When I found out I was pg the first time I was happy

but scared, because what if I didn't know what to do or if I was a bad mom, I

said to dh one day, I don't know if I can do this and he said of course you can,

you will be fine. Than I had my ep and felt so bad. I is such a relief to know

I wasn't the only one who felt guilty in some way. I mean, I know ep couldn't be

helped but I felt bad. Thanks for sharing that.

rmstiger@... wrote:

> Amy,

> I'm sorry dp's initial reaction was less than you hoped for, but I

> have to confess I felt a little that way when I found out I was pg

> last year. We had been trying for only a month, and it suddenly

seemed

> so overwhelming and such a responsibility that I wasn't sure I was

> ready for. I honestly cried and thought it was just going to be too

> hard and I'd be an awful mother, still trying to finish

school...and

> it would better if it had happened later. Then when I found out it

was

> an ep, I felt awful and guilty. Like my wishes had come true in

just a

> terrible way.

Dominique,

I felt the same way!! Boy is it good to hear someone else felt like

this!! I've convinced myself that part of this stress was just a

healthy respect for the magnitude of this life-changing event, but I

still feel horribly guilty. I remember crying and thinking " Why am I

so overwhelmed? I planned and worked for this? " Anyway, I just

wanted to say thanks for sharing this. You made me feel better.

Becca