Guest guest Posted March 31, 2003 Report Share Posted March 31, 2003 D - I am so sorry for your loss, . I'll be praying for a safe resolution for you so that you may grieve properly. I just want to give you a big hug right now. I'm so sorry, Bethany Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 31, 2003 Report Share Posted March 31, 2003 , I am so so incredibly sorry. I just checked my private email and got your message and came to the site to read your post. I haven't been through this loss myself and can only imagine the pain. I totally understand about not making it Thursday and want you and your husband to know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. I know that there is nothing that can be said right now to make things any easier. I hope that if there is a way to help you have a safe pregnancy, Dr Isaacson will find it. And if there is anything I can do, now or in the future please let me know. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 31, 2003 Report Share Posted March 31, 2003 , I am sorry to hear your news of the missing heartbeat as well as impending miscarriage. This is terrible and I feel so sad for each and every member that continues to go through these problems. If you want to take a few days to decide what you want to do next, you do have time. I would definitely consider talking to or seeing someone who specializes in this area to make sure you don't end up with AS or additional scar tissue. Do you live in an area close to an A or B list doctor who might be able to do the D & C (if necessary) without the risk of scarring? I know these are all difficult decisions, but know that this group and myself are thinking about you and your DH and eventually your time will come. (Much easier said than done, but I feel strongly that if we continue to work toward our goals, they will come true-somehow!) My prayers are with you and your DH. I am so sorry, again. W Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 31, 2003 Report Share Posted March 31, 2003 , I am so sorry for your loss. I wish there was something I could say that would somehow make this easier on you. I am sorry I can not remember, have you seen Dr. I? Can he help you along with your decisions? We are all praying for you ! Please let us know how you are doing. grantmeyer99 wrote: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 31, 2003 Report Share Posted March 31, 2003 D, I feel so sorry for you right now. I have been there and understand the pain after feeling such excitement. I wish there was something that I could do to help you right now. Take care and I will say a prayer for you and your husband. Roxie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2003 Report Share Posted April 1, 2003 I'm so sorry for your loss. My prayers will be with you and your husband. U. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2003 Report Share Posted April 1, 2003 , I'm so sorry to hear of your loss; I also had a missed miscarriage a few years ago. If the doctor does a D & C, you could ask if they will give you estrogen afterwards because the theory is that this might help prevent AS. Doctors will often let you wait a couple of weeks to see if the miscarriage will progress on its own--I tried this but it didn't work in my case so I still ended up with a D & C--it might be worth trying though. G. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2003 Report Share Posted April 1, 2003 Oh ! I am so very very sorry for your loss and for what you are going through. I'm so so sorry! I know nothing I can say will ease your pain, but please know that I'll always be here to listen. I know that feeling of numbness. My heart and prayers go out to you and your husband. Huge hugs! ((())) Please consider the drug alternatives to a D & C. I waited 6 long weeks to miscarry after the diagnosis of no heartbeat at 8 weeks-- (and I had to have the D & C anyway) so I know how difficult this is. I know several women who have had success with misoprostol instead. Please feel free to email me privately if you need more info. Haley K. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2003 Report Share Posted April 1, 2003 Hi , I am so sorry to hear your update. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your husband. There are not any words which can help to ease the pain. Please know that I am here for you as well as many AS members who have gone and are going through similiar experiences. After I had my miscarriage, I felt like an empty shell. My baby would have been born on May 5 2002 and would have been almost a year old. I still have trouble seeing the son of a friend who was born in June 2002. It seemed like every place I turned there were pregnant women and all of my friends were pregnant. When I tried to talk to a friend who had a miscarriage, she made the comment that she did not realize I was having a difficult time, she thought I was stronger than that. Of course, she became pregnant 3 months after her miscarriage. After her comment, I withdrew and isolated myself from friends and family. I had to do what I did to get through my grief. Thank goodness for this group, which has helped me so much. I recommend a great book- " Conquering Infertility " by Alice Domar. I really liked it because it not only validated my feelings but also gave very helpful ways to deal and cope with things and how to take your energy and use it positively. Alice Domar works here in Boston. I signed up to take a program developed by her: Mind/Body Infertility course. It was a 2 day weekend program, but they rescheduled it so I could not attend. The programs are offered through Beth Israel Hospital and Boston IVF. , take good care of yourself, be selfish, and do what you need to do to help you. Yes, the timing sucks as it the same month, etc. when you were pregnant the first time. Life can be unfair and suck at times like this. But, you are a very strong woman and you will get through this and you will have a baby. I relate my AS " experience " as a runner in a marathon. It is a long race and anything can happen. Some runners cross the finishline quickly and effortless. For some of us, it may take more effort, pain, and time, but in the end we will all cross the finishline and achieve our goal. I ran the London Marathon and trained very hard. My foot went out in mile 13 and I refused to stop and take the bus to the finish line. I ended up walking the rest of the way. 6.5 hours later, I crossed the finishline. It was not what I envisioned, but I did it. , you are going to cross that finish line too! Things may come up that you do not anticipate but you will deal with it and you will have a baby. We will be there for you to cheer you on and will be at the finishline. I am thinking of you and pray for a safe resolution. I am glad that you are seeing Dr I. If there is anything I can do to help you, please let me know. If you want to talk, please e-mail my private e-mail address and I will give you my telephone #. Take care, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 2, 2003 Report Share Posted April 2, 2003 D, Nothing saddens me more than to hear of miscarriages within this group. I am so very sorry to read your email today. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. I was just wondering if your repeated miscarriages are from a chromosomal problem, can't you do IVF where they pick out the embryos that do not have this chromosomal anomaly? I've heard it can be done but I've no idea how they do it. You are in my thoughts. ((((((((hugs))))))))))))) Poly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 2, 2003 Report Share Posted April 2, 2003 , I'm so sorry to hear your sad news. I know this must be a very tough time for you and your husband and I wanted to let you know my thoughts and prayers are with you. Deanna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 2, 2003 Report Share Posted April 2, 2003 , I'm so sorry to hear your news. My heart goes out to you and DH. We're going to miss you tomorrow. Just know we are thinking of you and are always here for you. Love, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 2, 2003 Report Share Posted April 2, 2003 , As I'm a relatively new member I'm not too familiar with your story and what you've been through before now, but I want to tell you how sorry I'm for you and your husband right now. I know nothing that can be said can take away any of the pain you feel, but I hope you find some comfort knowing that there are people here who know exactly how you are feeling. I know the devastation that starts burning up the sides of your head when you hear the words " no heartbeat " . After my second miscarriage (and now trying to deal with AS) I always have an overwhelming feeling of aloneness - because even my friends that had had a previous miscarriage have all already gone on the have normal pregnancies. I hope knowing that we are all here helps in some way. I would trust Dr. I if he thinks a D & C is appropriate. Obviously he is well aware of your fears and will be extremely careful and do everthing he can to prevent AS. I'm sure he would talk to you about your options and the pros/cons. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Cz Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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