Guest guest Posted December 13, 2000 Report Share Posted December 13, 2000 > To those of you who already heard my complaints, have told me > your opinions, and thnx, those of you that are new, What do you think? > Am I being to harsh? Should I give him more time? Or do you think I am > doing the right thing. I just don't know what else to do with him. > Well guess this is long enough, and I hurt,so til next time,,,,See Ya! Hi No. I don't think you are being too harsh at all. One of the things I've found with fibro....(and any other illness, for that matter) is that stress exacerbates it. If living in that situation is making it harder for you to be ok, then it's probably time to go. This is a health issue, in my mind. I'm certainly not saying that if he decides to get sober that you couldn't or wouldn't support him as a friend... but. .. living with it? No way. I'd make really sure though that you have all the financial resources you need to leave...and that you don't create more stress for yourself by being alone and broke. ~FireSpirit Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 13, 2000 Report Share Posted December 13, 2000 morton58@... writes: > What do you think? > Am I being to harsh? Should I give him more time? Or do you think I am > doing the right thing. I just don't know what else to do with him. Hi , I think that you have the right feelings and thoughts that it is time to get out. It may be hard to do, but your welfare (emotionally as well as physically) and mind are at stake here. If you are living in a place that hinders your health it will not get any better for you and will not help you when and if you get worse. It sounds like you are not " living " with him anymore at the moment anyway (sleeping in separate rooms and all). If he can't help you by at least cutting down with the drinking then he does not have you in mind and you need to take that into consideration and take care of yourself. You are in my prayers! We are all here for you to listen to you when you need us. I pray that God will help you through this tough time and allow you to find peace! Sending Comfort and Strength Janice " I wish we could change our dials to AM instead of FM!!! " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 13, 2000 Report Share Posted December 13, 2000 Hi , I to was married to an alcoholic. I also have financial dificulties so I know how you feel. I dont know if this will help you or not but I shall tell you what happened to me. Things got bad with his drinking and I couldnt take any more so I left. This was 3 years ago. I am now happier being in control of my own life without worrying what sort of person is going to come home that night. Here is the really good bit. Without being together and all that responsibility of having to caring for his wife and child, he has been able to sort himself out and has been dry for 5 months now. We are good friends now and help each other. He understands my condition and helps with his son when I am bad. There can be a happy ending, I hope that this helps Take care Bernice > Hi All; > Hello to all who know me, and to those of you who are new. This is > a quick run down on what I have been putting up with. My Husband is an > alcoholic,and not very supportive of my illness. While he is getting > better in not demanding all to be done, he still drinks every day. I > was actually stuck here because my daughter is living here with new > born and 18 month old. She has turned 18 and now ready for her own > place.She has found one, and should be out within the week. What my > hubby swears it'll be better after she moves out, because then we will > sleep in seperate rooms. He works shifts, and it will be better as far > as that goes, but know he will still drink every day. As I don't drink > anymore, it drives me nuts to be around a drunk. If he drank a few > beers, I may not mind as much, but this man drinks at least a 12 pack, > and fifth of whatever. So it is heart wrenching to me, because he is > never there for me.Well,I know he will not stop and be the man I need > him to be,and am now looking into getting out of this He** whole I am > living in. I'm gonna be by myself where I can have peace, and be warm > and not do anything that day if I don't want to. > To those of you who already heard my complaints, have told me > your opinions, and thnx, those of you that are new, What do you think? > Am I being to harsh? Should I give him more time? Or do you think I am > doing the right thing. I just don't know what else to do with him. > Well guess this is long enough, and I hurt,so til next time,,,,See Ya! > ....Aka>>>>jasminetine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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