Guest guest Posted January 9, 2001 Report Share Posted January 9, 2001 lita's ralph Hi, This is Diane, Ralph's daughter. I just found out that dad is back in the hospital again, with possible pneumonia. He's on an IV and antibiotics, as well as oxygen. They did a chest x-ray this am because of congestion, but haven't heard any results yet. I guess took him in yesterday. We'd appreciate all your prayers for a speedy recovery; I know how much he didn't want to go to the hospital and how anxious he'll be to get home. I will continue to keep you updated when I hear anything. I can only hope this is a "bump in the road" so to speak, and that he'll be home in a few days. Thanks. Smiles and hugs, Diane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2001 Report Share Posted January 9, 2001 lita's ralph Hi, This is Diane, Ralph's daughter. I just found out that dad is back in the hospital again, with possible pneumonia. He's on an IV and antibiotics, as well as oxygen. They did a chest x-ray this am because of congestion, but haven't heard any results yet. I guess took him in yesterday. We'd appreciate all your prayers for a speedy recovery; I know how much he didn't want to go to the hospital and how anxious he'll be to get home. I will continue to keep you updated when I hear anything. I can only hope this is a "bump in the road" so to speak, and that he'll be home in a few days. Thanks. Smiles and hugs, Diane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2001 Report Share Posted January 9, 2001 Diane, I hope your father is OK. I will keep him in my thoughts. Please keep us posted. Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2001 Report Share Posted January 9, 2001 i AM PRAYING FOR YOUR FAMILY. lots of luck and love. lita's ralph Hi, This is Diane, Ralph's daughter. I just found out that dad is back in the hospital again, with possible pneumonia. He's on an IV and antibiotics, as well as oxygen. They did a chest x-ray this am because of congestion, but haven't heard any results yet. I guess took him in yesterday. We'd appreciate all your prayers for a speedy recovery; I know how much he didn't want to go to the hospital and how anxious he'll be to get home. I will continue to keep you updated when I hear anything. I can only hope this is a "bump in the road" so to speak, and that he'll be home in a few days. Thanks. Smiles and hugs, Diane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2001 Report Share Posted January 9, 2001 i AM PRAYING FOR YOUR FAMILY. lots of luck and love. lita's ralph Hi, This is Diane, Ralph's daughter. I just found out that dad is back in the hospital again, with possible pneumonia. He's on an IV and antibiotics, as well as oxygen. They did a chest x-ray this am because of congestion, but haven't heard any results yet. I guess took him in yesterday. We'd appreciate all your prayers for a speedy recovery; I know how much he didn't want to go to the hospital and how anxious he'll be to get home. I will continue to keep you updated when I hear anything. I can only hope this is a "bump in the road" so to speak, and that he'll be home in a few days. Thanks. Smiles and hugs, Diane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2001 Report Share Posted January 9, 2001 Diane, Thanks for the update. Sorry to hear your dad is having more problems. I'll try to call (if I can find their number). He has had a ton of troubles in the last 18 months. Take care, Bill and Charlotte ---------------------------------------------------------- Joe Allhands wrote: lita's ralph Hi, This is Diane, Ralph's daughter. I just found out that dad is back in the hospital again, with possible pneumonia. He's on an IV and antibiotics, as well as oxygen. They did a chest x-ray this am because of congestion, but haven't heard any results yet. I guess took him in yesterday. We'd appreciate all your prayers for a speedy recovery; I know how much he didn't want to go to the hospital and how anxious he'll be to get home. I will continue to keep you updated when I hear anything. I can only hope this is a "bump in the road" so to speak, and that he'll be home in a few days. Thanks. Smiles and hugs, Diane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2001 Report Share Posted January 10, 2001 Hello Bill and Everybody, Just talked with to see how my dad is doing this morning. He's resting better, still on oxygen and continuous IV and antibiotics, but his fever does not seem to be going much higher than 99 this am. He's sleeping alot and has complained of some shoulder pain; they xrayed that also, but we haven't heard anything yet. They seem pretty sure he did not aspirate, but might have a section of one lung that has collapsed. This could very possibly been caused by the fact that he had alot of upper airway congestion and probably wasn't breathing as deeply because of it; at least, that's my theory. They are still waiting to be evaluated by the pulmonary dr. so they can devise a treatment plan for that problem. At any rate, it sounds like he's stable and comfortable at this time. stays with him at the hospital, except for brief trips to home to get clothes, etc. I will continue to keep all of you updated on a daily basis, or whenever I hear anything. Thanks for all the prayers and good thought. Smiles and hugs, Diane lita's ralph Hi, This is Diane, Ralph's daughter. I just found out that dad is back in the hospital again, with possible pneumonia. He's on an IV and antibiotics, as well as oxygen. They did a chest x-ray this am because of congestion, but haven't heard any results yet. I guess took him in yesterday. We'd appreciate all your prayers for a speedy recovery; I know how much he didn't want to go to the hospital and how anxious he'll be to get home. I will continue to keep you updated when I hear anything. I can only hope this is a "bump in the road" so to speak, and that he'll be home in a few days. Thanks. Smiles and hugs, Diane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2001 Report Share Posted January 10, 2001 Hi Diane, Hope he continues to improve. Hugs, Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2001 Report Share Posted January 10, 2001 Diane, Tell them Hi! for us. Take care, Bill and Charlotte Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2001 Report Share Posted January 10, 2001 Hi Diane, Glad your dad is improving. We will pray for him and you. take care Kathy and Dave t. lita's ralph Hi, This is Diane, Ralph's daughter. I just found out that dad is back in the hospital again, with possible pneumonia. He's on an IV and antibiotics, as well as oxygen. They did a chest x-ray this am because of congestion, but haven't heard any results yet. I guess took him in yesterday. We'd appreciate all your prayers for a speedy recovery; I know how much he didn't want to go to the hospital and how anxious he'll be to get home. I will continue to keep you updated when I hear anything. I can only hope this is a "bump in the road" so to speak, and that he'll be home in a few days. Thanks. Smiles and hugs, Diane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2001 Report Share Posted January 10, 2001 Hi Bill and Charlotte, Thanks for all the concern you always show. I'll be sure to relay your message the very next time I talk to her. Smiles and hugs, Diane Re: Fw: lita's ralph > Diane, > > Tell them Hi! for us. > > Take care, Bill and Charlotte > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 14, 2001 Report Share Posted January 14, 2001 Diane, I am sorry to hear all of this. Sorry that your dad has reached this point. My mother-in-law had cancer and decided at a point where there was little more to do except chemo (which she had done before many times) to stop the treatment. She had hospice in. I know that it is almost impossible to sit by and watch someone refuse treatment. But this is something that your father CAN do something about. I send you all my best wishes. I am thinking of him and hope everyone finds the peace they deserve. Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 14, 2001 Report Share Posted January 14, 2001 Diane, Sorry to hear that your dad has made that decision, but it is his decision to make. I know it hurts and all of you to see him make a decision like this. I pray that he will see the pain it is causing all of you. Take care, Bill and Charlotte ------------------------------------------------ Joe Allhands wrote: Just to let all of you know, dad and went home yesterday evening. Dad has made choices regarding his care, and is respecting those choices. The doctors can do no more for him, and told that. Dad has refused medication, food and water since Friday. managed to "force" about 5 tablespoons of Boost into him today, but he is clamping his mouth shut as much as he can. He has decided that he doesn't want to be here anymore, and he's ready to go. has hospice coming over today or tomorrow to assess the situation. They know that he is refusing nourishment and medication. There's not much else to tell right now. Please continue to pray for all of us in this painful time. I will continue to keep you updated. Smiles and hugs, Diane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 14, 2001 Report Share Posted January 14, 2001 Hi Diane, I will be thinking of you and your family. In November of last year, we went with hospice, to care for my dad. He had colon cancer and there was nothing else that could be done for him. They were the most caring and concerned people I have ever met. Not only did they care for my dad, but also for the family. I think that was the hardest time of my life, but they helped me accept and deal with his illness. He died in March and I have peace of mind because he was at home where he wanted to be and didn't suffer, because they see that he had enough pain med to keep him comfortable. For that I am grateful. I will pray for you and keep you in my thoughts, Kathy t RE: 's Ralph Diane, I am sorry to hear all of this. Sorry that your dad has reached this point. My mother-in-law had cancer and decided at a point where there was little more to do except chemo (which she had done before many times) to stop the treatment. She had hospice in. I know that it is almost impossible to sit by and watch someone refuse treatment. But this is something that your father CAN do something about. I send you all my best wishes. I am thinking of him and hope everyone finds the peace they deserve. Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 14, 2001 Report Share Posted January 14, 2001 Diane, I know that this must be a very difficult time for you and your family. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. Be proud of your dad that he was strong enough to make the decision, whether you agree with it or not. My husband and I have discussed those very issues. This entire process is very hard. Please know that many of us are thinking of you and that we care for each of you. Marilyn in TN ---------- To: " shydrager " <shydrageregroups> Subject: 's Ralph Date: Sun, Jan 14, 2001, 4:12 PM Just to let all of you know, dad and went home yesterday evening. Dad has made choices regarding his care, and is respecting those choices. The doctors can do no more for him, and told that. Dad has refused medication, food and water since Friday. managed to " force " about 5 tablespoons of Boost into him today, but he is clamping his mouth shut as much as he can. He has decided that he doesn't want to be here anymore, and he's ready to go. has hospice coming over today or tomorrow to assess the situation. They know that he is refusing nourishment and medication. There's not much else to tell right now. Please continue to pray for all of us in this painful time. I will continue to keep you updated. Smiles and hugs, Diane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 15, 2001 Report Share Posted January 15, 2001 Hi, I must be honest--it does hurt to see my dad make this decision, but we can all certainly understand why he's doing it. He has no quality of life anymore, and hasn't had in quite awhile. I know that most of you already know this. I guess in some ways, it doesn't matter whether he's making the decision or it just happens on it's own. I guess, later yesterday while my brother was visiting, was able to poke a little more "boost" into him. I'm glad that he still has time to visit a little bit. He has lost sight in one eye, and basically rarely has speech capability. He's very weak and tired. I guess even when he tries to nod his head, you have to look closely or you miss what little movement occurs. Hopefully, today, hospice will connect with . I'll continue to keep everyone posted. Smiles and hugs, Diane Re: 's Ralph Diane, Sorry to hear that your dad has made that decision, but it is his decision to make. I know it hurts and all of you to see him make a decision like this. I pray that he will see the pain it is causing all of you. Take care, Bill and Charlotte ------------------------------------------------ Joe Allhands wrote: Just to let all of you know, dad and went home yesterday evening. Dad has made choices regarding his care, and is respecting those choices. The doctors can do no more for him, and told that. Dad has refused medication, food and water since Friday. managed to "force" about 5 tablespoons of Boost into him today, but he is clamping his mouth shut as much as he can. He has decided that he doesn't want to be here anymore, and he's ready to go. has hospice coming over today or tomorrow to assess the situation. They know that he is refusing nourishment and medication. There's not much else to tell right now. Please continue to pray for all of us in this painful time. I will continue to keep you updated. Smiles and hugs, Diane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 15, 2001 Report Share Posted January 15, 2001 Dianne: You and your family are in all our prayers today. I hope that Hospice can help you gain the peace of mind they have given me. When they started coming, Ken, like your dad was refusing to eat or drink and more especially, to take his medications. They, especially the Chaplain, helped me to accept that he needed me to give him permission to go in his own way and the assurance that I would be all right if he wanted to give up the fight. Just accepting that this is indeed a terminal illness has been helpful to me. Since Hospice people have been coming, Ken has actually rallied. he seems much more at peace with himself, and he is once again eating and drinking and taking his medication most of the time although he sometimes spits it out. We no longer make any issue of it, and he is free to stay or go in his own time. As it stands now, Hospice just recertified us for another three months based on the fact that Ken is weaker and has lost weight, but if he is still here in three more months, they might discontinue him I know. However, their influence on us will be with us as long as we care for Ken. They have also helped me make arrangements for Ken's brain tissue to be studied, and they have seen that a do not resuscitate order is with his doctor and in his chart. There will be no more calls to 911, and Ken will not be hospitalized again and there will be no tubes in him other than the Foley Catheter that Hospice arranged. I think one of the reasons he is eating again is that he is aware that he does not have to fear that we will send him off to the hospital to die. We have been able to talk about where he wants his ashes spread and other things. Ken has had his probably last visit with his son, and we are much more at peace with this whole process. I pray that you and will gain the same comfort from Hospice that I have and that your father will be at peace. Love to you all, Barbara Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2001 Report Share Posted January 17, 2001 Keep your chin up Diane, your doing a great job under the circumstances...........our deepest thoughts are with you all. Take care Fordy's in Oz Re: 's Ralph Hi, I must be honest--it does hurt to see my dad make this decision, but we can all certainly understand why he's doing it. He has no quality of life anymore, and hasn't had in quite awhile. I know that most of you already know this. I guess in some ways, it doesn't matter whether he's making the decision or it just happens on it's own. I guess, later yesterday while my brother was visiting, was able to poke a little more "boost" into him. I'm glad that he still has time to visit a little bit. He has lost sight in one eye, and basically rarely has speech capability. He's very weak and tired. I guess even when he tries to nod his head, you have to look closely or you miss what little movement occurs. Hopefully, today, hospice will connect with . I'll continue to keep everyone posted. Smiles and hugs, Diane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 20, 2001 Report Share Posted January 20, 2001 They both fought a good fight. Our thoughts and prayers are with them and the entire family. Marillyn in TN ---------- > >To: SDSNEW <shydrageregroups> >Subject: 's Ralph >Date: Sat, Jan 20, 2001, 4:36 PM > > > >I just heard from . Ralph passed away shortly after 3 PM today. It sounds >like the whole family was there at the end. thanks everyone for their >prayers and well wishes. > >Take care, Bill and Charlotte > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 20, 2001 Report Share Posted January 20, 2001 They both fought a good fight. Our thoughts and prayers are with them and the entire family. Marillyn in TN ---------- > >To: SDSNEW <shydrageregroups> >Subject: 's Ralph >Date: Sat, Jan 20, 2001, 4:36 PM > > > >I just heard from . Ralph passed away shortly after 3 PM today. It sounds >like the whole family was there at the end. thanks everyone for their >prayers and well wishes. > >Take care, Bill and Charlotte > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 20, 2001 Report Share Posted January 20, 2001 , I'm glad the family was able to gather for the last moments of Ralph's life. He and the whole family fought a good fight. May he rest in peace. Carol & Rob > > > I just heard from . Ralph passed away shortly after 3 PM today. It sounds > like the whole family was there at the end. thanks everyone for their > prayers and well wishes. > > Take care, Bill and Charlotte Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 20, 2001 Report Share Posted January 20, 2001 , I am so sorry to hear of your loss. You have done everything in your power for him. I will pray for you. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. Take care of yourself, Kathy T. 's Ralph I just heard from . Ralph passed away shortly after 3 PM today. It soundslike the whole family was there at the end. thanks everyone for theirprayers and well wishes.Take care, Bill and Charlotte Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 21, 2001 Report Share Posted January 21, 2001 Dear , Dianne and all: So sorry to hear of your loss. You are all in my thoughts today. (Ont. Can.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 21, 2001 Report Share Posted January 21, 2001 , Please also accept my condolences. Know that you did all that you could for Ralph. The love the two of you shared was very evident in your emails. Rejoice in that love. Though you will miss him, that love will endure forever. You and your family will be in my prayers. Regards, =jbf= B. Fisher Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 21, 2001 Report Share Posted January 21, 2001 , So sorry to hear about Ralph. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Barbara Pond in VA. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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