Guest guest Posted September 30, 2003 Report Share Posted September 30, 2003 Hi Melody No one can make this decision for you. But if you are looking for opinions (based on the info you've given, which is, admittedly, very little) my suggestion would be kick his ass to the curb. First of all, anyone who loved you would never give you that kind of an ultimatum. Secondly, he sounds like a controller and no woman needs that. Sounds like he could be insecure, afraid that once you lose weight, you won't want him anymore - and if he is like he sounds, you may not. Maybe because of your weight you have a low self-esteem, but no one deserves to be treated like he is treating you - and you shouldn't let him. This is your decision and yours alone. He needs to be supportive of your decision or butt out. ~ami~ Lap RNY 5-13-03 261/199.6/130 In a message dated 9/30/2003 5:31:30 PM Central Standard Time, pimpgirl7777@... writes: > could someone please help me my boyfriend wants me to choose the wls or him > weve been together 2 years and have no kids he said if i have the wls hes > gone but i know i need it for healt reason hes the only boyfriend ive ever had > so if theres anyone out there can give me a little help i would really > appriacate it thanks > melody in > ohio Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 30, 2003 Report Share Posted September 30, 2003 In a message dated 9/30/2003 7:31:30 PM Central Standard Time, pimpgirl7777@... writes: melody in ohio Melody, Cut him loose. So what if so far he is the only boyfriend you have ever had? You get the surgery for your health. Concentrate on you and then you will see the guys lining up. Don't let some wimpy insecure foolish boy of a man dictate to you what you should do in order to keep him. What is his problem anyway. Is he one of these men that is afraid that someone else might think you attractive. Girl life is to short to be burdened down with a so called man like that. Take your leg and kick backward as far as you can then swing forward and kick him so hard to the curb you almost lose your foot in his tail. YOU DON'T NEED THAT BULLSH**! Wolf Keep 'Em Laughing Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 30, 2003 Report Share Posted September 30, 2003 Melody, Your not alone. My cousin went thru the same thing. Once her boyfriend found out she was going to have the surgury he told not to have it done. She told him that now man is worth her health or her life. So she left him.... Do this for you and not for someone else. If this is what is going to make you happy more power to you. If he can't understand this then hes not worth effort in wasting your time or breath on explaining to him that this is for you. Maybe he has some issues or some insecurites that keeping you big is his only way in making hisself feel good. Making him feel like he has the power. I wish you all the luck in the world....Do what is best for you and not for someone else..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 30, 2003 Report Share Posted September 30, 2003 melody, choosing wls is choosing empowerment & a better future. have you had a heart-to-heart chat w/ your guy? is the ultimatum a result of his fears & concerns? or is it a control thing? keep us posted. lori h. > could someone please help me my boyfriend wants me to choose the wls or him weve been together 2 years and have no kids he said if i have the wls hes gone but i know i need it for healt reason hes the only boyfriend ive ever had so if theres anyone out there can give me a little help i would really appriacate it thanks > melody in ohio > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 30, 2003 Report Share Posted September 30, 2003 Good for you....If you want to chat you can always Im me or email me.....Like I said before your not alone in this....you have so many people here to help you along the process....Im in the beginning stages myself and so many of the people here has shared there experiences that I dont really feel scared...I know that everyone is different and the WLS effects everyone differently....But WE are not Alone in this.....We all have someone rather its family or FRIENDS on here..........Good Luck To You......... LEslie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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