Guest guest Posted September 2, 2003 Report Share Posted September 2, 2003 I WILL come take care of you and the kids, you'd do the same for me ) ~~Matter of fact, aren't you doing the same for me? LOL Hugssssssss -- Optifast vs Surgery I am having a problem....... I am wondering if this surgery is the right thing for me. I have the insurance approval but, they require me to go on Optifast for 12 wks first and my husband and his sister think maybe I should just do the Optifast program and not have the surgery. My husband says he's not gonna be able to take off work and take care of me and my kids (the kids are 2 and 5). I am afraid that I am gonna be stuck here with no energy and no way to take care of my kids. Maybe I shouldn't have the surgery?? I'm so confused! Any body got any advice?? Jess in MI 330/Pre-OP (maybe) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 2, 2003 Report Share Posted September 2, 2003 Where are you located? Do you have friends or a church family you can get some help from? I too am having to lose some weight prior to surgery....like if it was that easy....why would I be doing the surgery....LOL! Just didn't know if you were in the Texas/Houston area, I would be more than willing to help. Luckily, my parents are coming to help take care of me and my son, but he is 10 so he can do a lot of things himself. Yours are young enough that won't understand they can't jump on mommy's lap. I'll be praying for you! Carol Matar Optifast vs Surgery I am having a problem....... I am wondering if this surgery is the right thing for me. I have the insurance approval but, they require me to go on Optifast for 12 wks first and my husband and his sister think maybe I should just do the Optifast program and not have the surgery. My husband says he's not gonna be able to take off work and take care of me and my kids (the kids are 2 and 5). I am afraid that I am gonna be stuck here with no energy and no way to take care of my kids. Maybe I shouldn't have the surgery?? I'm so confused! Any body got any advice?? Jess in MI 330/Pre-OP (maybe) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 2, 2003 Report Share Posted September 2, 2003 In a message dated 9/2/2003 1:13:43 PM Eastern Daylight Time, lilcomfycouch@... writes: am afraid that I am gonna be stuck here with > no energy and no way to > take care of my kids. Maybe I shouldn't have the > surgery?? I'm so confused! > Any body got any advice?? > > Jess in MI > 330/Pre-OP (maybe) Hello Jess I can see the dilemma that you are in and you are in my prayers. I would do the Optifast portion to prepare for surgery and not just do it for it's sake alone because sweetie how many times have you attempted to lose weight and keep it off with various kinds of diet programs or modifying your eating habits to where you are eating strictly rabbit food? Well, I know I have done and tried it all from starving myself to soup diets to working my self out into a frenzy and every time I gained whatever I lost back and sometimes even more to boot If you decide to simply do the Optifast alone and no surgery please whatever you do keep the weight off that you lose. The danger in yo yo dieting is the body just can't handle the stress of losing and gaining and a lot of people die by continuing to do this pattern. So long story short lose it and keep it off with the Optifast or go for the surgery and the lifestyle change. Your family will come around and help you if you decide to do the surgery especially if you let them know that you are doing this permanent thing in order to survive and be around with them for as long as possible. I had my Lap RNY surgery on 8/25/03 with no pain after surgery no pain at home I have lost 13 pounds to date and I have so much joy, energy and for once optimism about a wonderful future with getting back to who I really am. God Bless You in your decision dear one Lori Anne post op Lap RNY 8/25/03 274/261/135 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 2, 2003 Report Share Posted September 2, 2003 I live in Michigan and my family is close by but, they're all busy with thier lives so I don't know who would help me. Thankyou for your prayers. Jess in MI Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 2, 2003 Report Share Posted September 2, 2003 Jess I wouldn't give up on surgery yet. Isn't optifast a liquid diet program? I would be fearfull that after I lost weight I would go back to the same old eating habits. Double check with people and friends around you. see if they can help out a day or so here and there. Is day care an option? I wish you the best. Jill H. 271/preop > I am having a problem....... I am wondering if this surgery is the right > thing for me. I have the insurance approval but, they require me to go on > Optifast for 12 wks first and my husband and his sister think maybe I should just do > the Optifast program and not have the surgery. My husband says he's not > gonna be able to take off work and take care of me and my kids (the kids are 2 and > 5). I am afraid that I am gonna be stuck here with no energy and no way to > take care of my kids. Maybe I shouldn't have the surgery?? I'm so confused! > Any body got any advice?? > > Jess in MI > 330/Pre-OP (maybe) > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 3, 2003 Report Share Posted September 3, 2003 I will help!!!!!!!!! After I get rid of the idiot, I won't have anything to do. LOL Hugssssssssss -- Re: Optifast vs Surgery I live in Michigan and my family is close by but, they're all busy with thier lives so I don't know who would help me. Thankyou for your prayers. Jess in MI Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 3, 2003 Report Share Posted September 3, 2003 I think there is another Bridget on our board now. I'm Bridget Northam from California. I will sign my messages Bridget N. so we don't get mixed up. Welcome to the other Bridget or Bridg! As far as the Optifast compared to surgery - there is no comparison. I've tried the Optifast and can't wait to try the surgery:) The Optifast works for some people. Unfortunately, I wasn't one of those people. The important thing to remember is that with shake-type diets is that they are usually only temporary. They can be helpful for taking off a few pounds in a short time but who would want to stick with Optifast permanently? Noone! The surgery is a tool that will help you lose weight permanently by forcing you to change your eating habits permanently. The best advice I can give is to talk to your doctor. I'm around 350 pounds and I've been dieting my whole life. My doctor feels the surgery is the best thing for me but maybe you don't have as much weight to lose or maybe you'll be one of the lucky ones that can lose it on your own. Let us know what the doctor says and be happy you're working on a solution! Bridget Northam > > I am having a problem....... I am wondering if this surgery is the > right > > thing for me. I have the insurance approval but, they require me > to go on > > Optifast for 12 wks first and my husband and his sister think maybe > I should just do > > the Optifast program and not have the surgery. My husband says > he's not > > gonna be able to take off work and take care of me and my kids (the > kids are 2 and > > 5). I am afraid that I am gonna be stuck here with no energy and > no way to > > take care of my kids. Maybe I shouldn't have the surgery?? I'm so > confused! > > Any body got any advice?? > > > > Jess in MI > > 330/Pre-OP (maybe) > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 3, 2003 Report Share Posted September 3, 2003 I think there is another Bridget on our board now. I'm Bridget Northam from California. I will sign my messages Bridget N. so we don't get mixed up. Welcome to the other Bridget or Bridg! As far as the Optifast compared to surgery - there is no comparison. I've tried the Optifast and can't wait to try the surgery:) The Optifast works for some people. Unfortunately, I wasn't one of those people. The important thing to remember is that with shake-type diets is that they are usually only temporary. They can be helpful for taking off a few pounds in a short time but who would want to stick with Optifast permanently? Noone! The surgery is a tool that will help you lose weight permanently by forcing you to change your eating habits permanently. The best advice I can give is to talk to your doctor. I'm around 350 pounds and I've been dieting my whole life. My doctor feels the surgery is the best thing for me but maybe you don't have as much weight to lose or maybe you'll be one of the lucky ones that can lose it on your own. Let us know what the doctor says and be happy you're working on a solution! Bridget Northam > > I am having a problem....... I am wondering if this surgery is the > right > > thing for me. I have the insurance approval but, they require me > to go on > > Optifast for 12 wks first and my husband and his sister think maybe > I should just do > > the Optifast program and not have the surgery. My husband says > he's not > > gonna be able to take off work and take care of me and my kids (the > kids are 2 and > > 5). I am afraid that I am gonna be stuck here with no energy and > no way to > > take care of my kids. Maybe I shouldn't have the surgery?? I'm so > confused! > > Any body got any advice?? > > > > Jess in MI > > 330/Pre-OP (maybe) > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 3, 2003 Report Share Posted September 3, 2003 " I guess the Optifast > is suppose to be nutrionally a boost for my system?? " Hi Jess, my guess is that your dr would like you to get a head start on your weight loss with the Optifast. I was on a similar program called HMR for 10 months a few years before my surgery, and I lost 125 lbs on it in less than 9 months. Had I had the surgery then, I'd have been in GREAT shape... " He knows the reasons why I want it but, he just doesn't understand why I > just can't have the will power now not to eat if I'm gonna have the will power > after not to eat. " The thing is is that once you have the surgery, it will NOT be about willpower anymore. Speaking for myself, the whole reason I could never maintain any weight lost is because willpower eventually runs thin and then one is back to doing old habits again. Once you have the surgery, your body simply won't let you eat how and what you want... In the past, if I wanted ice cream (my favorite binge food then), the only thing between me and that ice cream was my willpower, and eventually I " lost " the battle. Now, while ice cream still sounds good, I won't touch it. And the reason is simple - because if I dare even take one spoonful, I'll regret it. When the food you turn to for comfort is no longer a comfort, you stop turning to it, and this is what it's all about in my opinion... Hope this helps, Caroline Lap RNY 5/2/03 367/287/150 (-80 lbs in 4 fast months!) My WLS Progress & Photos: www.tinyurl.com/bkld Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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