Re: ATTENTION---SUE BIRNEY, LIST MANAGER

July 27, 1999

Maybe I am just missing something here, but what is the big deal with having

list members who don't post? I would much rather have a list full of people

who listen and say something meaningful once in a while IF THEY FEEL LIKE

IT, than a whole day full of " yes, that's right " , " okay, i'll try that " s.

what gives?

>Dear Sue,

> I am very confused and angry with our list this morning and with your

>decision to boot off people from the list simply because you don't think

they

>post enough. Why is this a big deal? Because my wife was one of those

that

>you gave the boot to! Screen name TerriE1705@.... She has been

posting

>and when I talked with her about being kicked off she said she was

wondering

>why there were no e-mails coming from our list. I guess I would have known

>this sooner had I been to the web site sooner to see the list of people.

You

>of all people should know that when people are overweight and/or fat that

>they are self-conscious and perhaps quite shy about speaking up about their

>weight problems. I suppose I could understand eliminating people if it was

>costing you money or if there were no good ideas or recipes being passed

>around by this list but, there are many, many good ideas and lots of good

>suggestions to be gained just by reading the posts.

> At this point I am really contemplating if I wish to be part of a

>support group that has gotten too big for it's own good and apparently too

> " high and mighty. " I want to help people and I thought that was what we

were

>doing and that is why I chose to be a moderator for you. However, if this

is

>going to be how the way this list is going I will no longer want to be a

>moderator nor will I continue to be a part of this list.

> My apologies to anyone I have offended with this e-mail but I am very

>angry about this.

>

> By the way, our " group " has lost a combined total of 551 lbs. in case

>anyone was still wondering.

>

>Thank you.

>

>Bill Elias

>

>---------------------------

July 27, 1999

Maybe I am just missing something here, but what is the big deal with having

list members who don't post? I would much rather have a list full of people

who listen and say something meaningful once in a while IF THEY FEEL LIKE

IT, than a whole day full of " yes, that's right " , " okay, i'll try that " s.

what gives?

>Dear Sue,

> I am very confused and angry with our list this morning and with your

>decision to boot off people from the list simply because you don't think

they

>post enough. Why is this a big deal? Because my wife was one of those

that

>you gave the boot to! Screen name TerriE1705@.... She has been

posting

>and when I talked with her about being kicked off she said she was

wondering

>why there were no e-mails coming from our list. I guess I would have known

>this sooner had I been to the web site sooner to see the list of people.

You

>of all people should know that when people are overweight and/or fat that

>they are self-conscious and perhaps quite shy about speaking up about their

>weight problems. I suppose I could understand eliminating people if it was

>costing you money or if there were no good ideas or recipes being passed

>around by this list but, there are many, many good ideas and lots of good

>suggestions to be gained just by reading the posts.

> At this point I am really contemplating if I wish to be part of a

>support group that has gotten too big for it's own good and apparently too

> " high and mighty. " I want to help people and I thought that was what we

were

>doing and that is why I chose to be a moderator for you. However, if this

is

>going to be how the way this list is going I will no longer want to be a

>moderator nor will I continue to be a part of this list.

> My apologies to anyone I have offended with this e-mail but I am very

>angry about this.

>

> By the way, our " group " has lost a combined total of 551 lbs. in case

>anyone was still wondering.

>

>Thank you.

>

>Bill Elias

>

>---------------------------

July 27, 1999

Bill I requested that ppl who WANTED TO STAY ON THIS LIST TO PLEASE LET

ME KNOW BY A CERTAIN DATE. I had 60 ppl say they wanted to stay I had

alot of ppl joining the group and then going to no mail and checking in

once in a while but never posting. I made this decion because of

haveing ppl on here from day one on this list and who had never

posted. and they where always in no mail when I would check the list

out those where the ppl i was trying to get rid of those not really

interested in the list not because theydidnt post. I am sorry if this

offended you but i left your nick on here and had never heard from

you either figureing you were to busy I didnt know terri's if you

want to unsubscribe that is your desicion but my desion stands i want

this to be a productive list and to be able to help everyone not just

have a few post here and there and by the way the origanal msg was

posted over a week and a half ago.

--- ISSAMember@... wrote:

> From: ISSAMember@...

>

> Dear Sue,

> I am very confused and angry with our list this

> morning and with your

> decision to boot off people from the list simply

> because you don't think they

> post enough. Why is this a big deal? Because my

> wife was one of those that

> you gave the boot to! Screen name

> TerriE1705@.... She has been posting

> and when I talked with her about being kicked off

> she said she was wondering

> why there were no e-mails coming from our list. I

> guess I would have known

> this sooner had I been to the web site sooner to see

> the list of people. You

> of all people should know that when people are

> overweight and/or fat that

> they are self-conscious and perhaps quite shy about

> speaking up about their

> weight problems. I suppose I could understand

> eliminating people if it was

> costing you money or if there were no good ideas or

> recipes being passed

> around by this list but, there are many, many good

> ideas and lots of good

> suggestions to be gained just by reading the posts.

> At this point I am really contemplating if I

> wish to be part of a

> support group that has gotten too big for it's own

> good and apparently too

> " high and mighty. " I want to help people and I

> thought that was what we were

> doing and that is why I chose to be a moderator for

> you. However, if this is

> going to be how the way this list is going I will no

> longer want to be a

> moderator nor will I continue to be a part of this

> list.

> My apologies to anyone I have offended with

> this e-mail but I am very

> angry about this.

>

> By the way, our " group " has lost a combined

> total of 551 lbs. in case

> anyone was still wondering.

>

> Thank you.

>

> Bill Elias

>

> ---------------------------

July 27, 1999

<< From: ISSAMember@... >>

Please don't unsub, I'm new to the list and I need all the help I can get!

Perhaps your wife wouldn't mind resubscribing? I'm sure it was just a

mistake.

Kathy

July 27, 1999

Sue,

As of tonight please remove me as a moderator. Terri is hospitalized

and as soon as I have time I will be leaving this list. It's seems to me to

be a " no-brainer " to leave a moderator and his wife on a list but maybe I'm

just stupid for thinking that. Thanks.

Bill

July 28, 1999

This is the last time I am going to explain myself. I deleted ppl who

never posted and didnt say that they wanted to stay on I realized the

one that were on vacation and all. But dont you think that Bill as a

moderator should have known about this a week ago when it was all

happening. neither he or his wife asked to stay I figure bill was busy

and left him on as i explained before i didnt know terries address or

i would have left her on. I wanted to get the ppl off of here who

never posted never participated and were always on no mail and only

checking archives for things.

--- CELIA C MILTON wrote:

>

> Maybe I am just missing something here, but what is

> the big deal with having

> list members who don't post? I would much rather

> have a list full of people

> who listen and say something meaningful once in a

> while IF THEY FEEL LIKE

> IT, than a whole day full of " yes, that's right " ,

> " okay, i'll try that " s.

>

> what gives?

>

> >Dear Sue,

> > I am very confused and angry with our list

> this morning and with your

> >decision to boot off people from the list simply

> because you don't think

> they

> >post enough. Why is this a big deal? Because my

> wife was one of those

> that

> >you gave the boot to! Screen name

> TerriE1705@.... She has been

> posting

> >and when I talked with her about being kicked off

> she said she was

> wondering

> >why there were no e-mails coming from our list. I

> guess I would have known

> >this sooner had I been to the web site sooner to

> see the list of people.

> You

> >of all people should know that when people are

> overweight and/or fat that

> >they are self-conscious and perhaps quite shy about

> speaking up about their

> >weight problems. I suppose I could understand

> eliminating people if it was

> >costing you money or if there were no good ideas or

> recipes being passed

> >around by this list but, there are many, many good

> ideas and lots of good

> >suggestions to be gained just by reading the posts.

> > At this point I am really contemplating if I

> wish to be part of a

> >support group that has gotten too big for it's own

> good and apparently too

> > " high and mighty. " I want to help people and I

> thought that was what we

> were

> >doing and that is why I chose to be a moderator for

> you. However, if this

> is

> >going to be how the way this list is going I will

> no longer want to be a

> >moderator nor will I continue to be a part of this

> list.

> > My apologies to anyone I have offended with

> this e-mail but I am very

> >angry about this.

> >

> > By the way, our " group " has lost a combined

> total of 551 lbs. in case

> >anyone was still wondering.

> >

> >Thank you.

> >

> >Bill Elias

> >

> >---------------------------

July 28, 1999