A bunch of different thoughts

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In a message dated 3/29/00 5:34:42 PM Pacific Standard Time,

nini2u10@... writes:

<< Also, my mom, Shelby's grandma passed away 10 days

before Shelby was born so to the Grandma's on the

list, I admire you so much for being so active in your

grandchildrens lives and for only wanting what is best

for them....I just know my mom would have been the

same way. >>

Dear ,

I'm sorry your mother is not here to share in your joys and your fears for

Shelby. And thank you for the comment about grandmothers. Sometimes I'm

afraid I will be considered " meddling " .

Grandma Ann(grandma to Blair, 18 months old today)

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Grandma Ann

Nonsense! " caring " - not medling!

, Mom to Jes,

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Hello everyone,

I have not posted anything in awhile, but like so many

others, do read the emails daily. I want to say that

each of you are GREAT parents and I think it is

important to hear that especially when we start

feeling a little down and questioning our parenting

skills.

Jodi and Cheryl I admire you both so much.....I as

read your emails I find myself thinking, how much

fuller can their plates get...and yet the two of you

keep going and going. Your children are very lucky!!

Also, Cheryl~~I have been deeply touched by your

....probably because I can see so much of

Shelby in him...he will be a sure eye catcher to all

the girls one day. =)

Yesterday was the first time in a long time that I

have had to experience a SLEEPLESS night. Shelby had

been complaining of a headache the day before so I

gave her some Motrin and that got us through.

Yesterday morning....she kept telling me her mouth was

burning whenever she ate or drank anything....she

started running a fever and I dont know about the rest

of you, but Shelby can spike a fever in a hurry. So

all day and night bless her heart she was hungary and

thirsty and would ask for something, I would get it

only to have her take one bite or drink...and start

crying that it still hurt. Well, I called the Dr.

first thing this morning and I took her in..they did a

strep test which came back negative but he did say

there were some blisters on her right tonsil and to

just try pushing cold items like ice cream, popsicles,

shakes, jello, pudding...and to call in the morning if

things have not changed. I pray that they will...as

she looks so lifeless...but the Dr. seems to think it

is a viral infection. So hard to explain to a 3 year

old that we are gonna just have to let it take its

course. Once again, I was wishing her pain could

become mine....

Have any of you with older children experienced the

" why " questions in regards to the smallness of the

child? Shelby has just now started noticing that she

is smaller and today out of the blue was looking at

her fingers and she said mommy...my pinkys got little.

I guess her way of telling me that she noticed that

her pinkys were smaller than the rest of her fingers.

A few days ago, while playing with the neighbor girl

who is her same age but taller and fuller, she asks me

if she was ever gonna be BIG!! I simple replyed that

she was my BIG girl and that if she kept eating good

she would get even bigger.

I think it was a who said that sometimes she

catches herself not enjoying her child as much as she

should...I use to feel that way..and guess to a

certain degree I still do...but it is more of a pity

party for myself...as Shelby knows no different. I

use to dwell on the fact that she was so much

smaller...but in reading emails..I realize that like

others. Shelby is my one and only child so she is

normal to me. Who came up with the definition of

NORMAL anyway? =)

I too tire of the she is so tiny comments....and I

have my good and bad days...I usually find myself here

lately replying with " Oh, don't let that size fool

you "

When I am asked her age, I tell Shelby to tell them

and happily replys 3!!! So see, she is my NORMAL 3

year old just in a smaller body.

Guess I am just feeling a little blue today and I dont

know if that is due to lack of sleep or the fact that

I have been spending alot of time thinking just how

far we have come together since she was born. Reading

some of the emails from those of you with younger

children brings back alot of memories....

Also, my mom, Shelby's grandma passed away 10 days

before Shelby was born so to the Grandma's on the

list, I admire you so much for being so active in your

grandchildrens lives and for only wanting what is best

for them....I just know my mom would have been the

same way.

I guess I will end here for those of you that have

made it this far....and are still awake...this list is

so good...especially when one needs a little

" uplifting "

One Breath at a time,

~~ Shelby's mommy~~ age 3 with RSS no meds

18 lbs 4 1/4 oz. still not sure of that height

thing...tall enough to reach the doorknobs now... =)

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~~~~~Life isn't a matter of milestones, But of moments.~~~

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I'm glad I could help.

Jodi

Re: A bunch of different thoughts

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> Jodi,

> Thank you for helping me view the " half full " glass

> instead of the normal... " Half empty "

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> I have printed your email and will reread it when I

> feel myself needing to put things into perspective

> again.

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> ~~~~~Life isn't a matter of milestones, But of moments.~~~

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Goodmorning ,

First and formost you are a great, caring, loving mom. That will go a

long way in giving Shelby the confidence and 'tools' to handle any

differences she notices. Others have already expressed the same way I feel so

I won't ramble too much.I just think that if we love our children and build

their self esteem they will be able to process any ways they feel different

from others. The process can hurt(sometimes the parent more than the child),

but when all is said and done ouyr kids will learn that its the differences

that make us special.

May you find strength and peace in the love you have for Shelby, as she

will find peace,stength and self acceptance in the love you have for her.

To my friends,

Peace and Prayers

Mark dad to 4 ( 5 in April), G-tube