Meltdowns

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I know that sounded like such a rough day...but you actually made me feel

better....I have 4 sons...apraxic 5 year old twins (that I think are possessed

at

times) and a 7 year old and a 9 year old.....I also have been driving when 1

or 2 or more decide to " freak out " ...I usually try to put on calming music for

me....and yes, I too have had candy thrown at me(twins) when driving and

cookies, etc and my children throw with good aim...must be all that OT and PT

(LOL)....A couple of times I pulled off to the side of the road and actually

shut

the motor off and did not say a word...they obviously thought that Mom really

went nuts this time and I think began to get a little nervous and they

stopped....I have also (only once) pulled into the police station and parked and

they were crying and apologizing....not that that lasted for long anyway....One

of my twins asked me for a piece of gum while we were driving and I said no so

he asked again and I said no again...I guess he thought (as they all do) that

sooner or later I would give in...My sister was with me and we decided to

count(secretly) how many times he asked me for the gum..I think we stopped

counting at like 40...it was just to annoy me and actually I was laughing at the

end

at how determined he was to get what he wanted (no I did not give in but jeez

it would have been so much easier on my nerves and I was pretty impressed with

his speech at the same time)....just remember how adorable they are when you

walk in their rooms at night and they are sleeping Kathy

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> Hello all!!

>

> I wanted to add my 2 cents about the meltdowns many of you are

talking about. My son started his meltdowns when he was 3. When I

would tell people (friends, family) about it they would shrug it off

like it was a normal tantrum. A normal tantrum it was not. They

were so much more intense, and so uncontrollable. I remember sitting

with my son in the isle of a grocery store holding him because he was

having one and that was all I could think of doing so he wouldn't

hurt himself! It was very frustrating not having anyone to

understand how severe they were.

>

> We tried preschool at the age of 3, but we had to take him out. He

was non-verbal and the school had no idea what to do with him - and

he didn't know what to do with himself. That was crushing for me as

I though if he can't even go to preschool - will he ever be able to

go to school? His neurologist and his SLP were both telling me to

put him on Prozac - can you imagine a 3 1/2 year old on Prozac? I

went numb. I think this was the lowest of the low for me. This is

when I found fish oils and it made all the difference in the world

with .

>

> What I am trying to say to all of you who are going through this

now is I understand how scared you are, and how desperate you are.

These meltdowns are so hard to get through - but you will get through

them. After would finally calm down, I would hold him and

kiss him and tell him how much I loved him over and over again. I

think that was important to both of us.

>

> I do believe these children mature at a later rate than the other

children. So these meltdowns are a combination of the " terrible

two's " , AND the frustrations of not being able to communicate their

wants, needs, etc.... CAn you imagine how hard that must be to

handle? I think I would have a meltdown too!! Just let them know

you are there and love them. This does NOT mean give in to

them....just explain to them that sometimes you don't get your way or

all your wants. Eventually the meltdowns will become fewer and

fewer. My son is now 6 1/2 and a gem.

>

> Just some inspiration.

>

> Carnell

> North Carolina

>

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Hi, how awful for you to hear that, prozac at 3 1/2?

Even now Adam is going to be 9 and still has his fits sometimes, like

Josh who will be 5. I don't know if it is brotherly thing sometimes

or a love hate relationship. It's great to have you back. Jeanne

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I just want to add. That talks about some of her meltdowns,

now. She is very embarrassed about them. I just try to praise her

good behavior now. I don't think these kids mean to act they way

that they do, but I think they cannot control themselves sometimes.

Thank God, it looks like most of them are growing out of them.