Re: Breastfeeding Question

[Guest guest]

OK here's the advise - I don't know. She may or she may not.

Some mothers find that their child goes straight back on the boob after a break

- as

they identify Mummy with boo-boo, and are quite happy to drink substitutes in

the

meantime.

Other babies refuse Mum when they get back together. This may be because they

identify boo-boo with comfort and security. When this is removed they find

other

forms of comfort and then don't need the boob when they get back.

I would say - IMNSHO and purely anecdotal evidence here - that the older the

child

the more likely they are to go back to it.

So my 'advise' is be prepared that this may mean the end of BF. When you get

back,

first thing to do is to offer her the boob. Nice way to bond again. If she

does

refuse, and you don't want to finish BF then keep offering for a few weeks, lots

of

skin to skin, get in a bath together, try to feed her when she is asleep. She

may

just be sulking and will come round.

But I bet after being prepared like this, she goes back on without a murmur and

you

will be off again. Oh yes and only pump as often as you would have fed for.

She

will soon bring supply up to what she needs in a few days when you get back.

--

Sue H.

--

SAHM Emma (4)

BFC

Co-chair Breastfeeding Counsellors Panel

Region 7 Secretary

Harrogate, Wetherby and District Branch

" There is no finer investment for any community than putting milk into

babies. " - Sir Winston Churchill, BBC Radio broadcast, 21 Mar. 1943

[Guest guest]

" sue.holden " wrote:

> -

>

> OK here's the advise - I don't know. She may or she may not.

>

>

>

> Other babies refuse Mum when they get back together. This may be because they

> identify boo-boo with comfort and security. When this is removed they find

other

> forms of comfort and then don't need the boob when they get back.

I think that this is the thing that is worrying me most about this trip. I

don't feel

ready to give up yet. However, on the plus side, I know I am far more likely to

get

pregnant again if I stop bf. (It took 6 months for me to start ovulating again

after I

stopped bf and by the end he was only bf once a day) And DH has said that

he is

happy for us to have another baby - he even said that he thinks 4 is probably a

better

idea than 3!!!

Emotionally I've been reluctant to give up as I regard Kitty as my baby and I

don't want

her to grow up! This breast feeding is a lot more complicated than it looks and

I'm not

just talking about the physical act of getting milk into babies!

[Guest guest]

wrote:-

>

> Oh, and I guess I'll have to remember to take a breast pump with me or

I'll be

> looking like Dolly Parton by the time I get on the aeroplane!

>

Don't forget it (the pump) on pain of breasts - believe me I know!!!!!

(or was it Pamela !)

[Guest guest]

The 's wrote:

>

> >

> > Oh, and I guess I'll have to remember to take a breast pump with me or

> I'll be

> > looking like Dolly Parton by the time I get on the aeroplane!

> >

>

> Don't forget it (the pump) on pain of breasts - believe me I know!!!!!

> (or was it Pamela !)

>

IKWYM!! I had to run out and buy a pump in an emergency once, had

decided that he'd like Kitty to stay at the childminders that morning, and

as the childminder was willing it seemed as good a time as any to leave her

there. I'd fed her when she'd woken up, and wouldn't normally feed her

again until lunchtime, but within 15 minutes of leaving her I was in

*agony* managed to make it the rest of the way to Guildford, bought a pump,

and had it attached to my boobs before I could make it to the mother and

baby room!! (I'm much more prudish about expressing than feeding - haven't

expressed in front of DH yet!)

[Guest guest]

thanks fo rthis sue, i was aboutto ask the same question, for the same age

child for the same reason!! (only away 3 nights though)

hadn't thought about the pump though as i have aleays managed to drop feeds

with minimal discomfort...think i will pack it though!!!

DH is hoping (i think) that this will be the end of bf...but if i can go

away occasionally (and i have left her one night at a time b4 anyway) then

its not as tying as he thinks

and speaking as someone who got pg on the pill and then while bf even if he

agreed " in principle! " to a third little nut i don't think 1 or 2 bfs will

make any diff...! (sorry ! but it sthe pay off for getting periods

back at 4 months!)

Angi

>OK here's the advise - I don't know. She may or she may not.

>

>Some mothers find that their child goes straight back on the boob after a

break - as

>they identify Mummy with boo-boo, and are quite happy to drink substitutes

in the

>meantime.

>

>Other babies refuse Mum when they get back together.

[Guest guest]

We went over to France for a w/e when DD2 was 7mths, no problem, though we

got back late night, sneaked into the bedroom at my DB`s house to sleep - I

was fully expecting her to wake for a feed early a.m. (and looking forward

to reestablishing contact!) but she slept through till late a.m! I was

bursting - didn`t want to relieve m/self as all along I thought she would

wake soon. I found it just as easy to hand express as using a bottle esp if

not wanting to keep the ebm, have you tried that ?

Barbara

[Guest guest]

Barbara Wyant wrote:

> - I found it just as easy to hand express as using a bottle esp if

> not wanting to keep the ebm, have you tried that ?

> Barbara

>

>

Have tried but it takes sooooooo loooooooooong!

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[Guest guest]

, I did have some of the feelings you are talking about during

breastfeeding with my son, now 4 years old. I was afraid I would, and I

did. I was sexually abused by my father and the abuse directly involved

breast stimulation. I had been in counseling for several years to deal

with the abuse. But I decided I was not going to let my fears and what

my dad did affect what I did for my baby. I know breast is best and

worked through it for him. In fact to this day, I still have issues

with my husband stimulating my breasts (due to the abuse, not the

breastfeeding), although it gets easier and easier.

You may not have any sexual feelings while breastfeeding, and you may.

Some women do, and others don't. Breastfeeding is a very intimate act

between you and your baby. The nipples are very sensitive due to many

nerve endings. There should be no guilt involved if you do experience

some " sexual " feelings. I would talk to your OB and your partner about

your feelings, so you do not add to your guilt by hiding your feelings.

Good luck with your decision.

Vickie Dawson

Edd 8-26-02

" As long as we are on the subject I have a question for all of you

that have breastfed. I bottle fed both me sons primarily because I

was a young mom 17 and 19 years with both of them. Now that I'm older

and a lot more mature I really want to breastfeed but this may seem

silly to some of you I'm worried about the sexual feelings. First

I've heard that some women do feel sexual type feelings during

breastfeeding that scares me. And second my breasts are highly sexual

to me and I'm afraid that after breastfeeding I won't be able to

share them with my husband in a sexual way. Please any expereinces

you guys could share would help me alot. I know breast is best and

all of the benefits but honestely I need to know the pitfalls too. "