Re: Wish people would ask instead of stare!

[Guest guest]

Holly,

You are doing the best thing for your child and do not worry about the

ignorant people that stare and assume that you broke your child's feet. I

know the looks that people give can stare right through you but some people

just do not get it even when you take time to explain yourself and the

treatments for clubfeet. Take it easy your child is better off with the

casts and treatment now then all the ignorant people will be the rest of

thier lives. Kathy

[Guest guest]

Holly,

Feel free to vent anytime. Take it easy, Kathy

[Guest guest]

Kathy,

You're right, that's exactly what they must think, that I dropped her or

something. Oh well, let them think it! If all those people who just stare

have children of their own, I hope they realize what a precious gift they've

been given to have a healthy child. I know I do, has taught me more in

the last 6 1/2 months about faith and unconditional love than I ever could

have learned on my own. I'm just extremely grateful that she is healthy and

strong.

Take Care,

Holly

Re: Re: Wish people would ask instead of

stare!

>

>Holly,

>You are doing the best thing for your child and do not worry about the

>ignorant people that stare and assume that you broke your child's feet. I

>know the looks that people give can stare right through you but some people

>just do not get it even when you take time to explain yourself and the

>treatments for clubfeet. Take it easy your child is better off with the

>casts and treatment now then all the ignorant people will be the rest of

>thier lives. Kathy

>

>

[Guest guest]

Kathy,

You're right, that's exactly what they must think, that I dropped her or

something. Oh well, let them think it! If all those people who just stare

have children of their own, I hope they realize what a precious gift they've

been given to have a healthy child. I know I do, has taught me more in

the last 6 1/2 months about faith and unconditional love than I ever could

have learned on my own. I'm just extremely grateful that she is healthy and

strong.

Take Care,

Holly

Re: Re: Wish people would ask instead of

stare!

>

>Holly,

>You are doing the best thing for your child and do not worry about the

>ignorant people that stare and assume that you broke your child's feet. I

>know the looks that people give can stare right through you but some people

>just do not get it even when you take time to explain yourself and the

>treatments for clubfeet. Take it easy your child is better off with the

>casts and treatment now then all the ignorant people will be the rest of

>thier lives. Kathy

>

>

[Guest guest]

Holly:

I totally agree--I wish people would just ask instead of staring and

glaring. I have " stare radar " which means I can sense someone staring

from what feels like a mile away. I feel for you, but just try to

take a deep breath when it happens. I'm hoping that since is

in his DBB now I won't get the " you have abused your son " look. We

haven't ventured out with yet since he's been so

uncomfortable. We'll see . . . .

Hang in there! Lorna

> I know I should be used to people staring everytime we leave the

> house and basically it does'nt bother me too much anymore, but

today

> I guess I just was'nt in the mood. We went to the grocery store

this

> afternoon and it seemed was as usual the center of attention.

> This woman passed by us, turned around, stopped and her jaw hit the

> floor as she continued to stare at 's casts. At first it

did'nt

> hit me what she was looking at, I was'nt thinking about anything

but

> what we were there for. I stood looking at her wondering what the

> problem was and she never glanced at Dave or I, she just stood

frozen

> with this horrible look on her face. Then I realized why she was

> staring. She finally looked over at me. Usually I pipe up by this

> point and tell my story, but I just did'nt feel like telling it to

> this particular person. All I said was, " she's fine, just being

> corrected for something she was born with. " She said, " well, I feel

> sorry for the poor thing, she must be miserable with those things

on

> her legs. " then she turned and walked away. From that point on I

was

> aware of every look that came my way, usually people look at

> first and then immediately at me. I wish people would just ask and

> not assume that she had some horrible accident. I love having

> (my 3 1/2 year old)with me at those times, she just looks at them

and

> matter of factly says, " is getting her " silly feet " fixed. " I

> should learn to be more like her! Just had to vent, thanks for

> listening.

> Holly

[Guest guest]

Holly:

I totally agree--I wish people would just ask instead of staring and

glaring. I have " stare radar " which means I can sense someone staring

from what feels like a mile away. I feel for you, but just try to

take a deep breath when it happens. I'm hoping that since is

in his DBB now I won't get the " you have abused your son " look. We

haven't ventured out with yet since he's been so

uncomfortable. We'll see . . . .

Hang in there! Lorna

> I know I should be used to people staring everytime we leave the

> house and basically it does'nt bother me too much anymore, but

today

> I guess I just was'nt in the mood. We went to the grocery store

this

> afternoon and it seemed was as usual the center of attention.

> This woman passed by us, turned around, stopped and her jaw hit the

> floor as she continued to stare at 's casts. At first it

did'nt

> hit me what she was looking at, I was'nt thinking about anything

but

> what we were there for. I stood looking at her wondering what the

> problem was and she never glanced at Dave or I, she just stood

frozen

> with this horrible look on her face. Then I realized why she was

> staring. She finally looked over at me. Usually I pipe up by this

> point and tell my story, but I just did'nt feel like telling it to

> this particular person. All I said was, " she's fine, just being

> corrected for something she was born with. " She said, " well, I feel

> sorry for the poor thing, she must be miserable with those things

on

> her legs. " then she turned and walked away. From that point on I

was

> aware of every look that came my way, usually people look at

> first and then immediately at me. I wish people would just ask and

> not assume that she had some horrible accident. I love having

> (my 3 1/2 year old)with me at those times, she just looks at them

and

> matter of factly says, " is getting her " silly feet " fixed. " I

> should learn to be more like her! Just had to vent, thanks for

> listening.

> Holly

[Guest guest]

Holly, :-)

We made a big thing about the casts, or as we called them, 's

new pair of booties. We kept pens and markers available for friends

to sign them, starting with his orthopedist, taped teddy bears to

them, anything to make it fun, especially in the heat of late June

and July. We lived by the air conditioner and Veggie Tale videos to

keep him comfy and happy and he was sooo good; he rarely complained.

I think the worst of it was when they used the cast saw to take them

off. Poor baby was soooooo scared of the sound...

Hope all is going well. You guys will be past this before long.

Blessings,

Pam

P.S. Holly, walking through something like this is never for naught.

You will be amazed at the good that comes out of it in time. Walking

through this with is sooo tough sometimes, but we have met some

terrific people along the way (like the folks on this board) and have

had the opportunity to help others as a result of what we are walking

through. We have also met some of the jerks out there (some who, in

our case, happen to be family members, unfortunately), but we have

learned to deal with that and remember that true friends and true

family are the ones who stick with you in good times and in times

that are not so good. Hold your head up and keep smilin'!!! :-)

> >> I know I should be used to people staring everytime we leave the

> >> house and basically it does'nt bother me too much anymore, but

> >today

> >> I guess I just was'nt in the mood. We went to the grocery store

> >this

> >> afternoon and it seemed was as usual the center of

attention.

> >> This woman passed by us, turned around, stopped and her jaw hit

the

> >> floor as she continued to stare at 's casts. At first it

> >did'nt

> >> hit me what she was looking at, I was'nt thinking about anything

> >but

> >> what we were there for. I stood looking at her wondering what the

> >> problem was and she never glanced at Dave or I, she just stood

> >frozen

> >> with this horrible look on her face. Then I realized why she was

> >> staring. She finally looked over at me. Usually I pipe up by this

> >> point and tell my story, but I just did'nt feel like telling it

to

> >> this particular person. All I said was, " she's fine, just being

> >> corrected for something she was born with. " She said, " well, I

feel

> >> sorry for the poor thing, she must be miserable with those things

> >on

> >> her legs. " then she turned and walked away. From that point on I

> >was

> >> aware of every look that came my way, usually people look at

> >> first and then immediately at me. I wish people would just ask

and

> >> not assume that she had some horrible accident. I love having

> >

> >> (my 3 1/2 year old)with me at those times, she just looks at them

> >and

> >> matter of factly says, " is getting her " silly feet "

fixed. " I

> >> should learn to be more like her! Just had to vent, thanks for

> >> listening.

> >> Holly

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Wow, I had the same sort of feeling the last time I went grocery

shopping. I don't know why either. I am so proud that we found a

way to treat our daughter without surgery and feel she is one of the

lucky ones! But I found my cheeks burning from all the looks. The

next time someone says they feel sorry for her I will try to remember

to tell them not to because she is so lucky compared to the little

boy I know who has had to have surgery three times now for his

clubfoot and almost died from complications (he was not treated with

Ponseti method).

It's funny because when I was flying back and forth to Iowa getting

treated I got to the point where I purposely showed off her

cast so that I could get early boarding. United won't allow people

with small children pre-boarding anymore and after some woman banged

the back of 's head with her suitcase I decided that I would

not put her at risk anymore from rude passengers. I demanded pre-

boarding on the basis of a disabled passenger!

Hope this helps.

> I know I should be used to people staring everytime we leave the

> house and basically it does'nt bother me too much anymore, but

today

> I guess I just was'nt in the mood. We went to the grocery store

this

> afternoon and it seemed was as usual the center of attention.

> This woman passed by us, turned around, stopped and her jaw hit the

> floor as she continued to stare at 's casts. At first it

did'nt

> hit me what she was looking at, I was'nt thinking about anything

but

> what we were there for. I stood looking at her wondering what the

> problem was and she never glanced at Dave or I, she just stood

frozen

> with this horrible look on her face. Then I realized why she was

> staring. She finally looked over at me. Usually I pipe up by this

> point and tell my story, but I just did'nt feel like telling it to

> this particular person. All I said was, " she's fine, just being

> corrected for something she was born with. " She said, " well, I feel

> sorry for the poor thing, she must be miserable with those things

on

> her legs. " then she turned and walked away. From that point on I

was

> aware of every look that came my way, usually people look at

> first and then immediately at me. I wish people would just ask and

> not assume that she had some horrible accident. I love having

> (my 3 1/2 year old)with me at those times, she just looks at them

and

> matter of factly says, " is getting her " silly feet " fixed. " I

> should learn to be more like her! Just had to vent, thanks for

> listening.

> Holly