and school

[Guest guest]

Well, after days of trying I've finally managed to get to talk

to me about the situation at school and the bullying. has never

actually been hurt by the child concerned, and school have given him

the option of walking to class with a teacher, but he doesn't want

that.

Now I can understand why is at risk from this boy. Under normal

circumstances doesn't have a clue about reading emotions as far

as he is concerned shouting means anger, touching (unless obviously

cuddly) is agressive -toddler tooth cleaning was a total nightmare as

he genuinely thought we were trying to do him harm- and he knows

about teasing, but doesn't really understand it. ***But*** if you try

and hide your feelings from him DS1 picks up what is going on with

pinprick accuracy. DS1 says the other child is worrying about his

(absent) father and that is why he is aggressive/ misbehaves in class

etc. And if has recognised the emotions this boy is trying to

hide then he would be a threat.

seems to be happy at the moment, he happily goes to school and

doesn't seem upset when he gets home and we've had no " end of term

tantrums " and even our regualr Friday tantrum has dwindled. My

instincts tell me he is OK and he is not a child to suffer in silence

*ever*.

The bully's behavior hasn't escalated over the last weeks, school

have been unable to defuse it and mediation hasn't worked. I'm

confident school is handling things well as far as is

concerned, but I wish I had a sense that they were also

supporting/helping the other boy and his is the long term problem. I

think the teacher we saw used inappropriate language, next term they

will be in different forms and if things don't improve one of them

will go to the other school site.

After was pushed into the road the police were involved and I

wouldn't hesitate to contact them again as bullying is assault.

Roll on the summer holidays.... and why are they so short? Once we've

camped on a farm; been to the seaside; had a couple of days out; been

to Taize; job-hunted and moved the boys possessions back upstairs

(I'm mid-decorating) from the our now-unnavigatable living room there

will be no time for just chiling out.

Jan