Re: Advice to deal with jerk doctor

[Guest guest]

,

How horrible that he focused on that vulvodynia when you were

there about nausea and a headache.

I would definitely file a complaint with the State Medical Board

about this.

Also, you mentioned that you had a son with special needs, I

know you have your hubby too to help which is great but it

sounds like you may need some additional help so contact the

State Dept of Health to ask if they can tell you who to contact

for resources for additional help. At least the info will be

there for you whenever you find that you really need it. That's

why I say it sounds like you may need some additional help.

Caregiving whether it's for your child or your parent or as in

my case my grandparent is quite stressful and I found that

during that time that my vulvodynia was quite intense for a

while.

Kristy

--- Pacifico wrote:

> Tonight I went to the walk in clinic at my primary dr.s

> office. I cannot go to the dr. during the day because I

> homeschool, have an infant and a special needs son. I have no

> family around and most people are afraid to watch my son so I

> have to do things at night when my husband is home. Makes

> sense to me.

Anyway, I have had horrible headaches and

> nausea and upset stomach for nine days. Advil has not helped

> the pain at all so I thought it was time to see the doctor.

> After a two hour wait to get in, the dr. asked me why I was

> taking desipramine and I told him vulvadynia and that it was

> perscribed by a doctor in AZ. that i see. He stood about 18

> in from my face with a smug little grin and asked what he was

> supposed to do. I was completely dumbstruck and just said

> " what " ? He said " really, this is urgent care. I think what

> you need is a psychiatrist, and an antidepressant. That is

> probaby why you have vulvadynia too. " I was so shocked I just

> burst into tears! What in

> ignorant, arrogant # & *!!! I couldn't stop sobbing(I had just

> spent two hours in a waiting room holding back my stomach with

> a raging headache)and he said, " see, your obviously

> depressed " . I couldn't get off the table because he was so

> close to me and I kept saying I was leaving and finaly had to

> physically push past him to get down, grab my purse and get

> the heck out of there. He never said another word. So, my

> question is, who should i call to complain about this guy to?

> Then, what would be the best approach? Sorry this is so long!

> Thanks for listening!

>

>

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[Guest guest]

You are in a terrible situation. You are stuck at home all day long and cannot

even make an appointment to see your own doctor (I presume you did not visit

your own doctor) and need to go to urgent care. Why doesn't your husband help

you out? What does he do when he is sick? You should be able to go to your

doctor when you are sick. Did you tell that idiot doctor that you have nausea,

headaches, upset stomach, etc? If you have a child with special needs you

should be able to get help from your County Social Services Department so you

can at least go to your doctor when you are sick.

People who have children with special needs can get help and support from

Government authorities. You pay taxes for that sort of thing.

You have my sincere sympathies and I hope you can get the help you need so that

you will get your health back.

Hugs, Ora

On Thu, 30 Mar 2006 21:32:49 -0800 (PST), Pacifico

wrote:

>Tonight I went to the walk in clinic at my primary dr.s office. I cannot go to

the dr. during the day because I homeschool, have an infant and a special needs

son. I have no family around and most people are afraid to watch my son so I

have to do things at night when my husband is home. Makes sense to me. Anyway,

I have had horrible headaches and nausea and upset stomach for nine days. Advil

has not helped the pain at all so I thought it was time to see the doctor.

After a two hour wait to get in, the dr. asked me why I was taking desipramine

and I told him vulvadynia and that it was perscribed by a doctor in AZ. that i

see. He stood about 18 in from my face with a smug little grin and asked what

he was supposed to do. I was completely dumbstruck and just said " what " ? He

said " really, this is urgent care. I think what you need is a psychiatrist, and

an antidepressant. That is probaby why you have vulvadynia too. " I was so

shocked I just burst into tears! What in

> ignorant, arrogant # & *!!! I couldn't stop sobbing(I had just spent two hours

in a waiting room holding back my stomach with a raging headache)and he said,

" see, your obviously depressed " . I couldn't get off the table because he was

so close to me and I kept saying I was leaving and finaly had to physically push

past him to get down, grab my purse and get the heck out of there. He never

said another word. So, my question is, who should i call to complain about this

guy to? Then, what would be the best approach? Sorry this is so long! Thanks

for listening!

>

>

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[Guest guest]

Hi ,

It's Kristy again. Ora brings up a good question about when

your husband is sick and you can't help. I'm glad she also

mentioned Social Services for your County. Check on a State

level as well.

Stress from caregiving can also cause the symptoms you describe.

Something else I learned from being a caregiver is that it is

often the caregiver that ends up sicker than the patient

themselves b/c the work is so stressful.

I know I said that I think you may need help but after reading

what Ora read and thinking more about your original message and

what I said you really do need help with your son so that you

can not only go to the dr when you need to but also have some

personal time to yourself away from the house.

Kristy

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[Guest guest]

Probably Kristy is right - you should go to the State level. If you will tell

us your city and state I will look it up for you. I have been through that

myself with a retarded son and an Alzheimer's husband. I was pretty dumb about

it when my son was quite young and the doctors didn't give us any help at all -

I had to find out everything myself. That was before they had programs for

retarded children and they wouldn't tell us about the resources out there. I

remember well when I asked about a program that I had found the doctor said to

me " who told you that " . It was like they didn't want us to know what we could

do.

Ora

On Thu, 30 Mar 2006 23:59:52 -0800 (PST), Kristy Sokoloski

wrote:

>Hi ,

>

>It's Kristy again. Ora brings up a good question about when

>your husband is sick and you can't help. I'm glad she also

>mentioned Social Services for your County. Check on a State

>level as well.

>

>Stress from caregiving can also cause the symptoms you describe.

> Something else I learned from being a caregiver is that it is

>often the caregiver that ends up sicker than the patient

>themselves b/c the work is so stressful.

>

>I know I said that I think you may need help but after reading

>what Ora read and thinking more about your original message and

>what I said you really do need help with your son so that you

>can not only go to the dr when you need to but also have some

>personal time to yourself away from the house.

>

>Kristy

[Guest guest]

Hi , Complain to the state medical board. I am so sorry you went through that. I wish I could give you a hug. Please remember that he is the one who needs psychiatric care, not you. You may need it because you are being tortured every day by pain and have extremely stressful circumstances at home, but he needs it because he is evil and has a complex when dealing with women. When you are better you will be so much stronger, but he'll still be a loser. Hugs, Sandi

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[Guest guest]

Hi , I think so many people here sympathize with your situation. Not just the jerk doctor, but with the fact that you are under so much stress at home. Your husband needs to sacrifice some time so that you can go to the doctor. Also, it sounds like you have enough to handle taking care of a special needs child w/o having to homeschool the other child. Why doesn't he/she go to public school? I went to a born again church and they stressed homeschooling b/c the real world has so many bad influences. I could never home school b/c I am too sick. I truly believe in that old stewardess saying "put your mask on first and then help the children around you." You must help yourself first. You must get strong. Then you'll be able to give your children 100% of yourself. Take care of yourself,Love, Sandi

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[Guest guest]

" So, my question is, who should i call

to complain about this guy to? "

,

Unfortunately the doctors are really very powerful and

unfortunately women are always at the mercy of

somebody more powerful than they are even if they are

insane and vicious.

I don't have any confidence that complaining to

anybody would do any good whatsoever but it might come

back on you in some kind of retribution. They have

their own little communication systems and they do get

even with patients who annoy them. You do as you like

but perhaps what little energy you have left should be

used to take care of yourself in some way and stay

away from him and other idiots, medical or otherwise.

It just seems to me that you are not strong enough to

bother with it. Let somebody else take care of him.

Somebody will.

I am so sorry you are having such a terrible time.

Arline

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[Guest guest]

go back with a tape recorder in your purse and get this guy's license revoked, or at least fired from there or a big black mark on his record. I was verbally abused, too, by doctors. Even my surgeons, who had their hands inside me countless times and when their surgery failed, told me to go to a psychiatrist. Keep your chin up. He is a sick man. love Molly Pacifico wrote: Tonight I went to the walk in clinic at my primary dr.s office. I cannot go to the dr. during the day because I homeschool, have an infant and a special needs son. I have no family around and most people are afraid to watch my son so I have to do things at night when my husband is home. Makes sense to me. Anyway, I have had horrible headaches and nausea

and upset stomach for nine days. Advil has not helped the pain at all so I thought it was time to see the doctor. After a two hour wait to get in, the dr. asked me why I was taking desipramine and I told him vulvadynia and that it was perscribed by a doctor in AZ. that i see. He stood about 18 in from my face with a smug little grin and asked what he was supposed to do. I was completely dumbstruck and just said "what"? He said "really, this is urgent care. I think what you need is a psychiatrist, and an antidepressant. That is probaby why you have vulvadynia too." I was so shocked I just burst into tears! What in ignorant, arrogant # & *!!! I couldn't stop sobbing(I had just spent two hours in a waiting room holding back my stomach with a raging headache)and he said, "see, your obviously depressed". I couldn't get off the table because he was so close to me and I kept saying I was leaving and

finaly had to physically push past him to get down, grab my purse and get the heck out of there. He never said another word. So, my question is, who should i call to complain about this guy to? Then, what would be the best approach? Sorry this is so long! Thanks for listening! Blab-away for as little as 1¢/min. Make PC-to-Phone Calls using Yahoo! Messenger with Voice.

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[Guest guest]

HI Sam,

I am just SO sorry to hear of that experience you just went through

with that arrogant SOB of an idiot (I can't even say doctor)

*sigh*.... what a shame. Today you're probably more furious than

upset, but I sure don't blame you for bursting out in tears, just

another brick on that already heavy load. arghhhhhhh

Talk about a headache that was probably made 10 times worse. I am

just so sorry hon. I've no advice on who to report him to but I'm

sure someone here will give you some good ideas hon. Hang in there

and 'never let'm see ya sweat' as they say. *GROAN* hope the

headache's let up some for you too.

I know this may seem off the wall..... but have you ever heard of

histamine headaches? They're quite common and often overlooked and

many times a simple OTC antihistamine can work wonders, some people

told me they were absolutely shocked when it worked for them, so it

might be worth a try. Something like Actifed, Sudafed, Clariten,

etc., they've helped me when nothing else has.

Hugs hon

Dee~

[Guest guest]

Start with the clinic itself. Tell the receptionist , via phone, that you'd like to lodge a complaint against one of the doctors and you'd like to know the chain command so that you can file the complaint properly. Advise her that you are also writing to the State Medical Board. I once filed against a doc in an emergency room at a hospital and had to do so in person before a 'committee', after my written complaint. No one who treats people in that manner should be allowed to call himself a healer. Do file the complaints...... its the only recourse we medical 'consumer's' have.

Dusty

-----Original Message-----From: VulvarDisorders [mailto:VulvarDisorders ] On Behalf Of PacificoSent: Friday, March 31, 2006 12:33 AMTo: vulvardisorders Subject: Advice to deal with jerk doctor

Tonight I went to the walk in clinic at my primary dr.s office. I cannot go to the dr. during the day because I homeschool, have an infant and a special needs son. I have no family around and most people are afraid to watch my son so I have to do things at night when my husband is home. Makes sense to me. Anyway, I have had horrible headaches and nausea and upset stomach for nine days. Advil has not helped the pain at all so I thought it was time to see the doctor. After a two hour wait to get in, the dr. asked me why I was taking desipramine and I told him vulvadynia and that it was perscribed by a doctor in AZ. that i see. He stood about 18 in from my face with a smug little grin and asked what he was supposed to do. I was completely dumbstruck and just said "what"? He said "really, this is urgent care. I think what you need is a psychiatrist, and an antidepressant. That is probaby why you have vulvadynia too." I was so shocked I just burst into tears! What in ignorant, arrogant # & *!!! I couldn't stop sobbing(I had just spent two hours in a waiting room holding back my stomach with a raging headache)and he said, "see, your obviously depressed". I couldn't get off the table because he was so close to me and I kept saying I was leaving and finaly had to physically push past him to get down, grab my purse and get the heck out of there. He never said another word. So, my question is, who should i call to complain about this guy to? Then, what would be the best approach? Sorry this is so long! Thanks for listening!

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[Guest guest]

Oh Sandi, I so disagree with you here. Doctors are only powerful if we

give them the power - if we allow them to bend or break us. We are

consumers of medical advice - they are in our employ and it is wise for us

to maintain the balance of power. I have taken my complaints before a

board at a local hospital and an emergency room doc was suspended for a week

because of my complaint. Every little step towards dignity counts -

just look at Parks.

Dusty

Re: Advice to deal with jerk doctor

" So, my question is, who should i call

to complain about this guy to? "

,

Unfortunately the doctors are really very powerful and unfortunately women

are always at the mercy of somebody more powerful than they are even if they

are insane and vicious.

I don't have any confidence that complaining to

anybody would do any good whatsoever but it might come

back on you in some kind of retribution. They have

their own little communication systems and they do get

even with patients who annoy them. You do as you like

but perhaps what little energy you have left should be

used to take care of yourself in some way and stay

away from him and other idiots, medical or otherwise.

It just seems to me that you are not strong enough to

bother with it. Let somebody else take care of him.

Somebody will.

I am so sorry you are having such a terrible time.

Arline

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[Guest guest]

Dear ,

I agree with Dusty,

Definitely write to the licensing and discipline board in your state,

if you do not know how to contact your state board a website that has

almost all of the licensing sites complied is

http://www.drjob.com/Jobs/StateBoards.htm

I wish you the best.

P. JD/LlM

Chicago, IL

[Guest guest]

Dusty,

It wasn't Sandi that said what you quoted below.

Kristy

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