Re: break-up

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WOW! Six years in one relationship is a long time, for just

boyfriend/girlfriend. I can say that because Robin and I met when I

was 17, dated for a while, broke up, and then got back together when

I was 24 and then got married. So all total we have been together

for about 20 years. YIKES, I hadn't thought about that in a while.

I guess my point is that if you two are meant to be together you will

be. Just hang in there and give each other some time to think it

through. I never really thought that we would get back together when

we broke up, but we did. Now, we both admit that we never should

have broke up in the first place, but things just weren't going right

at the time.

DON'T turn to food!!! Try to find something else to keep yourself

busy. Anything will work....reading, coming here, any hobby, etc...

Hang in there and post when you need help!

Maureen

> Okay, so this afternoon I broke up with my

> boyfriend. We have been together for six years,

> and I think he sort of knew it was coming. Geez,

> for the last few months we have been dancing

> around it. The thing is...the two of us are great

> together. Neither of us wanted to break-up, but

> outside forces were just making it harder and

> harder to stay together. It's so weird though,

> because normally he would be who I would go to

> whenever I was feeling down and now I can't go to

> him. I ate a banana with peanut butter. I'm not

> hungry, but I keep wandering around the kitchen

> looking for something. I can't excersize because

> of my foot. And all I want to do is email him and

> tell him it was all a mistake, even though I know

> that breaking up is the best thing for him, and I

> guess fr me too. I was pressuring him too much

> and he hasn't been able to be supportive enough

> for me. But when we are together (it's been long

> distance since I went to school), we are

> fabulous. Sorry this is so rambling. I've never

> been through this before. Thanks for listening.

>

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>

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You will not like my response but get out of the house and go for a

walk, sore foot and all, it will do 2 things one remove you from the kitchen

and 2 raise those endorphins wich will help you think more clearly. This

will help you sort out how you really feel. Remmember that food is only

going to make you feel worse about yourself and fog your thinking. Give

yourself some time to think. I will be around the computer tonight if you

need to chat I will check back.

Zephyr

break-up

> Okay, so this afternoon I broke up with my

> boyfriend. We have been together for six years,

> and I think he sort of knew it was coming. Geez,

> for the last few months we have been dancing

> around it. The thing is...the two of us are great

> together. Neither of us wanted to break-up, but

> outside forces were just making it harder and

> harder to stay together. It's so weird though,

> because normally he would be who I would go to

> whenever I was feeling down and now I can't go to

> him. I ate a banana with peanut butter. I'm not

> hungry, but I keep wandering around the kitchen

> looking for something. I can't excersize because

> of my foot. And all I want to do is email him and

> tell him it was all a mistake, even though I know

> that breaking up is the best thing for him, and I

> guess fr me too. I was pressuring him too much

> and he hasn't been able to be supportive enough

> for me. But when we are together (it's been long

> distance since I went to school), we are

> fabulous. Sorry this is so rambling. I've never

> been through this before. Thanks for listening.

>

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

,

It is amazing that my story is very similiar to Maureen's We dated for

two years and broke up for six we both moved all over the country and grew

up and changed a lot and now have been married for almost 8 years. We would

not be together today if we had stayed together then the things we had to go

through and the changes we made were all for the better. So I am a big

believer in if it is meant to be it will be.I hope this helps.

Zephyr

Re: break-up

> {{{{}}}},

>

> WOW! Six years in one relationship is a long time, for just

> boyfriend/girlfriend. I can say that because Robin and I met when I

> was 17, dated for a while, broke up, and then got back together when

> I was 24 and then got married. So all total we have been together

> for about 20 years. YIKES, I hadn't thought about that in a while.

>

> I guess my point is that if you two are meant to be together you will

> be. Just hang in there and give each other some time to think it

> through. I never really thought that we would get back together when

> we broke up, but we did. Now, we both admit that we never should

> have broke up in the first place, but things just weren't going right

> at the time.

>

> DON'T turn to food!!! Try to find something else to keep yourself

> busy. Anything will work....reading, coming here, any hobby, etc...

>

> Hang in there and post when you need help!

> Maureen

>

>

>

> > Okay, so this afternoon I broke up with my

> > boyfriend. We have been together for six years,

> > and I think he sort of knew it was coming. Geez,

> > for the last few months we have been dancing

> > around it. The thing is...the two of us are great

> > together. Neither of us wanted to break-up, but

> > outside forces were just making it harder and

> > harder to stay together. It's so weird though,

> > because normally he would be who I would go to

> > whenever I was feeling down and now I can't go to

> > him. I ate a banana with peanut butter. I'm not

> > hungry, but I keep wandering around the kitchen

> > looking for something. I can't excersize because

> > of my foot. And all I want to do is email him and

> > tell him it was all a mistake, even though I know

> > that breaking up is the best thing for him, and I

> > guess fr me too. I was pressuring him too much

> > and he hasn't been able to be supportive enough

> > for me. But when we are together (it's been long

> > distance since I went to school), we are

> > fabulous. Sorry this is so rambling. I've never

> > been through this before. Thanks for listening.

> >

> > __________________________________________________

> >

[Guest guest]

You can make it through this, . I know it is so hard to break up with someone you have been with for so long. Think of it as an opportunity to do some new things. During the time you might have spent on the phone with him, take up a new hobby or a sport (is you leg better?) or something you have always wanted to try. I know there is nothing much we can say to make you feel better, but come and vent all the time if that helps.

-----Original Message-----From: Conaty Sent: Friday, April 05, 2002 5:51 PMTo: wwliterside Subject: break-upOkay, so this afternoon I broke up with myboyfriend. We have been together for six years,and I think he sort of knew it was coming. Geez,for the last few months we have been dancingaround it. The thing is...the two of us are greattogether. Neither of us wanted to break-up, butoutside forces were just making it harder andharder to stay together. It's so weird though,because normally he would be who I would go towhenever I was feeling down and now I can't go tohim. I ate a banana with peanut butter. I'm nothungry, but I keep wandering around the kitchenlooking for something. I can't excersize becauseof my foot. And all I want to do is email him andtell him it was all a mistake, even though I knowthat breaking up is the best thing for him, and Iguess fr me too. I was pressuring him too muchand he hasn't been able to be supportive enoughfor me. But when we are together (it's been longdistance since I went to school), we arefabulous. Sorry this is so rambling. I've neverbeen through this before. Thanks for listening. __________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

! I think we can all empathize with how you feel... It sounds like youre resigned that you made the right decision for both of you and things will be ok. School changes things and distance only makes the changes more difficult. You ahve the right frame of mind and you will get thru this... we are here to help if we can!

JENN

break-up

Okay, so this afternoon I broke up with myboyfriend. We have been together for six years,and I think he sort of knew it was coming. Geez,for the last few months we have been dancingaround it. The thing is...the two of us are greattogether. Neither of us wanted to break-up, butoutside forces were just making it harder andharder to stay together. It's so weird though,because normally he would be who I would go towhenever I was feeling down and now I can't go tohim. I ate a banana with peanut butter. I'm nothungry, but I keep wandering around the kitchenlooking for something. I can't excersize becauseof my foot. And all I want to do is email him andtell him it was all a mistake, even though I knowthat breaking up is the best thing for him, and Iguess fr me too. I was pressuring him too muchand he hasn't been able to be supportive enoughfor me. But when we are together (it's been longdistance since I went to school), we arefabulous. Sorry this is so rambling. I've neverbeen through this before. Thanks for listening. __________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

thanks for all the support. i went to the mall

with two of my roommates (one apparently has had

the same problems with the girl i have been, but

just hasn't said anything). neither of them know

what i am going through, but it was good to go

out for dinner and i had to buy socks. i then

went to work, but they sent me home because i

started limping and there were a lot of people

on. so i haven't turned towards food. i keep

thinking this is all a dream though, that i am

just thinking it happened and it really didn't.

it's odd. your stories helped, i really do think

we are meant to be. but i don't think he does; i

think he is scared of change. he is older than i

am and he is afraid of making me miss out on

things, but i haven't missed anything i wanted to

do, even when they were things he didn't like.

another funny thing is that since he is (was?) my

best friend, i keep thinking that i need to get

his advice on what to do, forgetting that i

can't. ugh. it's gonna be a long, lonely weekend.

my roommates have a rugby meet this weekend and

my friends are all off campus till monday. i

think i will rent movies and veg.

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[Guest guest]

I don't know you very well, but I am sorry that you are having to go through this.

Sharon

break-up

Okay, so this afternoon I broke up with myboyfriend. We have been together for six years,and I think he sort of knew it was coming. Geez,for the last few months we have been dancingaround it. The thing is...the two of us are greattogether. Neither of us wanted to break-up, butoutside forces were just making it harder andharder to stay together. It's so weird though,because normally he would be who I would go towhenever I was feeling down and now I can't go tohim. I ate a banana with peanut butter. I'm nothungry, but I keep wandering around the kitchenlooking for something. I can't excersize becauseof my foot. And all I want to do is email him andtell him it was all a mistake, even though I knowthat breaking up is the best thing for him, and Iguess fr me too. I was pressuring him too muchand he hasn't been able to be supportive enoughfor me. But when we are together (it's been longdistance since I went to school), we arefabulous. Sorry this is so rambling. I've neverbeen through this before. Thanks for listening. __________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

, I'm a little behind on my post. How are you doing this am. Please feel free to vent or cry on our shoulders anytime. This is a support group! I'm sorry your going through this, I'm a strong believer that things usually happen for a reason, even though we may not see them at the time. I agree with the post about the hobby. What do you think?

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I too am a little late in posting this, forgive me. My husband and I broke up for 5 months about 4 years ago (we married 3 1/2 later), at the time it just seemed right. We were wanting different things, heading in different directions. The funny part of my story is how we got back together. We had gotten 2 dogs together, he couldn't have them where he lived so he had "visitation" with them. One day I was having car problems, he offered to fix it, I offered to make dinner. It all just worked back together from there. Everything really does happen for a reason, and I'm sorry you are in pain now, but you will see some light. I promise!

Hugs,

Maggie

-----Original Message-----From: Sherrie Klugherz Sent: Saturday, April 06, 2002 9:35 PMTo: wwliterside Subject: Re: break-up

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I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason even though that reason may not be evident right now. Maybe you both just need some time or perhaps it wasn't meant to be. Which ever the case may be, if you were meant to be together someday you will be. My husband and I spent a year and a half separated from each other after we began our relationship. We found each other again after that time and were both older and wiser. We have been together for 23 years now. I know this probably doesn't give you much comfort at this time but hang in there and keep your head up. I know you are a strong person and will make it with or without this man. You are awesome and you have goals!

Hugs - Sherrie K

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