Guest guest Posted May 7, 1999 Report Share Posted May 7, 1999 , When I said it was a joke. I meant a total joke for me. I tried with Kaija as she was and is an incredibly reluctant sleeper. The day after she was born she was awake for 16 hours with 2 naps consisting of 1 hour and 20 min. I tried to let her cry it out but she could go forever and then would fall asleep gasping and purple. I just couldn't do it. I won't do it with Zaid either, but I have the luxury of being home with my children. We do what we have to and it seems like it really worked for you. If it had been two nights I probably would have done it as well but Kaija would never stop. Wendi Crying it out From: LilNukie@... I know letting your baby cry it out is a very controversial topic and unfortunately one I had to resort to. Davian was to the point the ONLY place he wanted to sleep was in my arms or laying down in the bed next to me while nursing. That was it...no if, ands, or buts. We tried the swing, the sling, the baby hammock vibrator chair, music, pacifier, EVERYTHING. I finally bought a video called " Your Baby Can Sleep " that I ordered through One Step Ahead. I feel this video saved my life. The first night was pure hell and about the time I broke down to go get Davian he finally quit crying. The second night he only cried for 10 minutes and since then he doesn't cry at all. I do think I got very lucky that it didn't take very long or else I too would have caved in. Davian is not 5 months old and sleeps 7 - 10 hours at night before waking up to eat and then goes back to sleep. Davian did sleep with us for quiet a while but I am a VERY LIGHT sleeper and everytime he would stir (which was lot) I would wake up - only one of us was sleeping and I had to be at work at 1:00p so sleeping in wasn't an opting. I had to be up by 9:00 to make it to work on time. Anyway...there are times that I feel like the worst mother in the world for ever having tried this method, but it did work for us and I am getting quite a few hours of uninterupted sleep at night even though I may wake up with a wet T-shirt LOL :-) BTW, this particular Dr.'s method is a little different than Ferber's. Ferber wants you to have your child cry it out for naps and night time. The Dr. that is in the video I bought says nap time is very important so let your child nap wherever he will. Davian mostly sleeps in his swing for naps. In a message dated 5/6/99 11:27:54 PM Central Daylight Time, naturebaby@... writes: << Stacie, Thanks for the suggestion. I have a few more that I am going to send her. She seemed like the mom knew. Anyway crying it out is a joke to me and I really think it breaks connections with your baby. Wendi >> ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Join the Star Wars craze! http://www.onelist.com Set up your Star Wars list at ONElist. ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Breastfeeding is Best!! http://www.maclee.com/breastfeeding If you like this list also check out http://www.onelist.com/subscribe.cgi/weanedbuddies Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 7, 1999 Report Share Posted May 7, 1999 In a message dated 5/7/99 8:27:28 AM Pacific Daylight Time, LilNukie@... writes: << Anyway...there are times that I feel like the worst mother in the world for ever having tried this method, but it did work for us and I am getting quite a few hours of uninterupted sleep at night even though I may wake up with a wet T-shirt LOL :-) BTW, this particular Dr.'s method is a little different than Ferber's. Ferber wants you to have your child cry it out for naps and night time. The Dr. that is in the video I bought says nap time is very important so let your child nap wherever he will. Davian mostly sleeps in his swing for naps. >> Oh no, I did not mean to imply that you were an awful mother. You are not, Hey I even " TRIED " it. And it did not work for us, but it did for you, so that is good. It works for some, and not for others. I KNOW, you would not have continued had you seen it was truly harmful for Davian. And from what you say he took very well to it. Lexi on the other hand didn't, she would have screamed forever had I let her. But Lexi is also a very high sprited child anyways. So for us, it was just easier for me to get her. Also I stay at home with her, and so that made it so I could sleep in...LOL! You have to do what is right for you and your family. I am sorry if I implied anything, I did not mean to......=) Stacie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 7, 1999 Report Share Posted May 7, 1999 In a message dated 5/7/99 10:00:29 AM Pacific Daylight Time, naturebaby@... writes: << I tried to let her cry it out but she could go forever and then would fall asleep gasping and purple. I just couldn't do it. I won't do it with Zaid either, but I have the luxury of being home with my children. We do what we have to and it seems like it really worked for you. If it had been two nights I probably would have done it as well but Kaija would never stop. Wendi >> This is exactly how Lexi is as well......It would have never worked for us. And you are so right Wendi, about doing what works for you. I also would have continued, if Lexi had not gone for over an HOUR, each night with me going in to her every 10min, only to have her scream even louder each time I left again!! And she never did even lay down, she stood at the side of her crib screaming at the top of her lungs, and the very SECOND I picked her up, she calmed down, we nursed and she went to sleep. So it was just much easier for me not to have to deal with her screaming forever Stacie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 7, 1999 Report Share Posted May 7, 1999 Stacie- No, nobody on here made me feel that way at all I swear. I was just stating that it DID work for me and I feel lucky. Davian was also 3 months old at the time and I think that had a lot to do with it. I CAN tell you that if the second night wouldn't have gone as well as it did I would have caved...my nerves were already on edge from the previous night. :-) LOVE YOU ALL! In a message dated 5/7/99 4:56:52 PM Central Daylight Time, MamaToLexi@... writes: << Oh no, I did not mean to imply that you were an awful mother. You are not, Hey I even " TRIED " it. And it did not work for us, but it did for you, so that is good. It works for some, and not for others. I KNOW, you would not have continued had you seen it was truly harmful for Davian. And from what you say he took very well to it. Lexi on the other hand didn't, she would have screamed forever had I let her. But Lexi is also a very high sprited child anyways. So for us, it was just easier for me to get her. Also I stay at home with her, and so that made it so I could sleep in...LOL! You have to do what is right for you and your family. I am sorry if I implied anything, I did not mean to......=) Stacie >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 7, 1999 Report Share Posted May 7, 1999 In a message dated 5/7/99 9:54:40 PM Pacific Daylight Time, naturebaby@... writes: << Stacie, Same! She would stand up and scream and turn purple and almost throw up. It felt like torture to me. Zaid does the same thing but he is so easy to put to sleep that I don't need to do anything. He will rock or nurse or take a bottle to go to sleep. So much of a break after what I have been through with Kaija. I certainly had no where like this list when she was little. Boy did I make a lot of mistakes. Wendi >> Sounds like I am raising Kaija's Irish Twin.....LOL!! And on Lexi when she gets REALLY upset, her eyelids, and forehead turn BEAT RED, so she looks absolutely pathetic. Which of course makes me feel even worse. A friend of mine once said, because of everything I have had to deal with, with Lexi, That my second will be a breeze, because NOTHING will suprise me after her....! And that even if my second is the same way, that it will be second nature to me by then. I am hoping it is not the latter of the two....LOL! What a way for me to get broken in as a mother, EH? LOL! Stacie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 7, 1999 Report Share Posted May 7, 1999 Stacie, Same! She would stand up and scream and turn purple and almost throw up. It felt like torture to me. Zaid does the same thing but he is so easy to put to sleep that I don't need to do anything. He will rock or nurse or take a bottle to go to sleep. So much of a break after what I have been through with Kaija. I certainly had no where like this list when she was little. Boy did I make a lot of mistakes. Wendi Re: Crying it out From: MamaToLexi@... In a message dated 5/7/99 10:00:29 AM Pacific Daylight Time, naturebaby@... writes: << I tried to let her cry it out but she could go forever and then would fall asleep gasping and purple. I just couldn't do it. I won't do it with Zaid either, but I have the luxury of being home with my children. We do what we have to and it seems like it really worked for you. If it had been two nights I probably would have done it as well but Kaija would never stop. Wendi >> This is exactly how Lexi is as well......It would have never worked for us. And you are so right Wendi, about doing what works for you. I also would have continued, if Lexi had not gone for over an HOUR, each night with me going in to her every 10min, only to have her scream even louder each time I left again!! And she never did even lay down, she stood at the side of her crib screaming at the top of her lungs, and the very SECOND I picked her up, she calmed down, we nursed and she went to sleep. So it was just much easier for me not to have to deal with her screaming forever Stacie ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Looking for a fun, easy way to stay in touch with family members? http://www.onelist.com Create a ONElist community just for your family! ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Breastfeeding is Best!! http://www.maclee.com/breastfeeding If you like this list also check out http://www.onelist.com/subscribe.cgi/weanedbuddies Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 8, 1999 Report Share Posted May 8, 1999 I think it all probably depends on each individual child. I have a couple that absolutely had to nurse to fall asleep, and when weaned had to have me lie down next to them and rub their head, back, let them play with my hair, etc. just to settle down and fall to sleep. One of my daughters would never nurse to sleep - she had to cry for 5-10 min. in the crib and then would fall off to sleep for the rest of the evening - took me a little while to figure that one out <g>. One of my son's would not nurse to sleep either, he would have to lie in his crib and " fly " with his arms stretched out to the side and his legs straight out, he would look like an airplane lol, he never cried to sleep, he just " flied " to sleep lol. My daughter Jen, the one who is still bf, absolutely has to be nursed to sleep at night, she will not go to sleep in her crib on her own, she also does not want to wean yet <smile>. Joan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 8, 1999 Report Share Posted May 8, 1999 In a message dated 5/7/99 7:05:26 PM Central Daylight Time, Mparker90@... writes: << , No need to feel like a bad Mommy! We all do what we have to do and what works best for us. The point here is that YOU are the Mommy and YOU have the right to make those decisions for YOUR family. This woman is a care giver and is NOT communicating with the baby's Mom. I am glad you found something that works for you. >> Thanks . BTW, if you do leave the list you will be missed dearly!!! Love, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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