Re: [WTOParentsofBPs] WAS IT ALL A BAD DREAM?

[Guest guest]

First of all, a heartfelt " thank you " to those people who responded to my

first post. I learned a lot from each of you.

I was surprised but encouraged to read that 's BPD daughter graduated

from high school on the honor roll and Nana's BPD daughter graduated from

college. I had wrongly assumed it would be impossible for a person with BPD

to graduate from college. My BPD daughter barely graduated from high school

despite a high IQ. BPD has such strong control over her life that I can't

imagine she will ever complete college, regardless of how much love and

encouragement I give her or how many boundaries and limits I impose. For

now, I would be happy if she would just take her meds on a regular basis and

hold down a job for more than two weeks at a time.

Bill said, " ... I question whether my love, my support and my protection for

and of my daughter will help her. Then I ask, if I die tomorrow, where will

my daughter be? " That's a profound question, Bill. It really hit home with

me and is a question all parents of adult BPDs need to ask themselves. I

shudder to think about what might happen to my daughter if I were to die

tomorrow.

said, " There are a lot of good social programs out there... " I assume

each locality has different services available for adults with BPD, but

generally speaking, what medical, counseling, and mental health services are

available for adults with BPD who have no insurance and are unemployed? Who

would I call to find out about what services are available in my area?

While I'm at it, allow me to throw out a couple of other questions for you

folks: (1) Is there a possibility that a well-balanced diet can help manage

BPD symptoms? (2) Are there any tricks/gimmicks/methods you know of that

help BPDs remember to take their medication on a regular basis?

Again, thanks for your responses. This is a great group and I'm learning a

lot.

Tom

[Guest guest]

As far as a balanced diet - anytime anyone is depressed, nutrients

(vitamins & minerals) are depleted. B complex vitamins can help as well

as the old standby - a balanced diet, exercise, and the right amount of

sleep. Unfortunately - I know depression is only a part of the BPD but my

daughter told me that after taking the vitamins for a week, she was

already beginning to feel a difference. Many BPD's also have irregular

sleep patterns which doesn't help (them or the people they live with!).

As far as social programs - it depends on how " far " they've fallen. The

state (ValueOptions here in Texas) picked up the tab for her 2 month stay

at the mental hospital & some treatment centers will accept medicaid.

Check out google to search for social service agencies in your state /

area.