Re: My Sister in law...continued

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In a message dated 30/04/99 22:44:48 GMT Daylight Time,

indigomoon@... writes:

<< Well I just thought I'd post that my Mom told me last night that my SIL

gave up on the nursing (

I feel that she received mis-information from too many well intending

friends and family. She wasn't nursing on demand, also she gave the baby

formula instead of building and keeping her milk supply up.

I feel sad about it, but we all have to do what works for us. Just thought

I'd let you ladies know.

Love, /indigo >>

Oh I'm sorry to hear that! You did the best you could to help. )

Hannah(UK)

Mum to Bethany nearly 5, Lawrence 3 and Verity 11 months

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,

BooHoo! (

Wendi

My Sister in law...continued

Well I just thought I'd post that my Mom told me last night that my SIL gave up

on the nursing (

I feel that she received mis-information from too many well intending friends

and family. She wasn't nursing on demand, also she gave the baby formula

instead of building and keeping her milk supply up.

I feel sad about it, but we all have to do what works for us. Just thought I'd

let you ladies know.

Love, /indigo

indigomoon@...

http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Lake/2570

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Yes I know !

Love, /indigo

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My Sister in law...continued

Well I just thought I'd post that my Mom told me last night that my SIL gave

up on the nursing (

I feel that she received mis-information from too many well intending

friends and family. She wasn't nursing on demand, also she gave the baby

formula instead of building and keeping her milk supply up.

I feel sad about it, but we all have to do what works for us. Just thought

I'd let you ladies know.

Love, /indigo

indigomoon@...

http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Lake/2570

ICQ # 28220116

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I did really try hard...but it is up to her to make her final choice.

Thank you!

Love, /indigo

Re: My Sister in law...continued

> From: HHamer1810@...

>

> In a message dated 30/04/99 22:44:48 GMT Daylight Time,

> indigomoon@... writes:

>

> << Well I just thought I'd post that my Mom told me last night that my SIL

> gave up on the nursing (

> I feel that she received mis-information from too many well intending

> friends and family. She wasn't nursing on demand, also she gave the baby

> formula instead of building and keeping her milk supply up.

> I feel sad about it, but we all have to do what works for us. Just

thought

> I'd let you ladies know.

>

> Love, /indigo >>

>

> Oh I'm sorry to hear that! You did the best you could to help. )

>

> Hannah(UK)

> Mum to Bethany nearly 5, Lawrence 3 and Verity 11 months

>

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that is sad - i know the pressures of being around too many mis-informed people

that only formula fed (not that they are one in the same) and the pressure can

make you just decide " i give up " - we really need to change things in this

country so that it is MORE pro-breastfeeding!

Felicia

Hannah 12/10/97

Tarah 3/31/99

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Too bad se didn't get on this list...you all changed me :0)

Stevie~Mommy to a 10/10/96 & 2/22/99

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,

You should go to her some day this week, and suggest that now that she has

had a few good nights sleep to recover, maybe she is ready to give nursing

a shot again.

It is never too late to try!

At 09:48 PM 4/30/99 , you wrote:

Well I just thought I'd post that my Mom told me last night that my SIL

gave up on the nursing (

I feel that she received mis-information from too many well intending

friends and family. She wasn't nursing on demand, also she gave the baby

formula instead of building and keeping her milk supply up.

I feel sad about it, but we all have to do what works for us. Just thought

I'd let you ladies know.

Love, /indigo

indigomoon@...

http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Lake/2570

ICQ # 28220116

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I think she'd feel I was being pushy. I don't feel that she has the desire

to nurse, you know what I mean?

The drive to want to do it, her heart isn't in it. I feel it's up to her. I

really did my very best to help her without making her feel guilty or

pushed, it's a fine line.

When I was pg. with my first (21 years ago) I was hungry for information. I

bought tons of books and read them all. I am that type of a person with all

I do....but I know that I'm not normal, LOL!

Maybe I'm not using the correct words, but I feel in my heart that she lacks

the desire to nurse & therefore can't/won't. I know that she would ask me

for help if she wanted it. ...I'd be there in a minute.

In fact I know/feel that she's feeling guilty about it & will probably have

a hard time telling me, so I will call her & say something to break the

ice...I don't want her to feel bad at all.

Love,

Re: My Sister in law...continued

>

>

> ,

>

> You should go to her some day this week, and suggest that now that she has

> had a few good nights sleep to recover, maybe she is ready to give nursing

> a shot again.

>

> It is never too late to try!

>

>

>

> At 09:48 PM 4/30/99 , you wrote:

> Well I just thought I'd post that my Mom told me last night that my SIL

> gave up on the nursing (

> I feel that she received mis-information from too many well intending

> friends and family. She wasn't nursing on demand, also she gave the baby

> formula instead of building and keeping her milk supply up.

> I feel sad about it, but we all have to do what works for us. Just thought

> I'd let you ladies know.

>

> Love, /indigo

> indigomoon@...

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>

>

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That is great I think the best thing you can do its to support her

and her decision. It was her choice and in my opinion that choice makes

her no worse or better of a mother than our choices have made us. Don't

get me wrong.. I am very pro-breastfeeding, just not when it gets to the

extreme of a mother feeling bad for her choices. I am glad that you are

going to give her a call and break the ice, maybe in the future she will

decide differently because you were there for her even when she chose to do

it different than you... wow sorry to ramble.. I just wanted to share some

thoughts on this.

I have a friend that was going to give breasfeeding a shot, but after

hearing some rather exteme comments about the " selfishness " of

bottlefeeding mothers, got very offended because her first born was

bottlefed. that along with other reasons.. made her lean towards

bottlefeeding again, and I have decided to support her in which ever

decision she makes. I am just there to answer any ?? she has about bf,

throughout her pregnancy and maybe she might change her mind, who knows:)

Jenn

At 05:27 PM 4/30/99 -0700, you wrote:

>

>

>I think she'd feel I was being pushy. I don't feel that she has the desire

>to nurse, you know what I mean?

>The drive to want to do it, her heart isn't in it. I feel it's up to her. I

>really did my very best to help her without making her feel guilty or

>pushed, it's a fine line.

>

>When I was pg. with my first (21 years ago) I was hungry for information. I

>bought tons of books and read them all. I am that type of a person with all

>I do....but I know that I'm not normal, LOL!

>

>Maybe I'm not using the correct words, but I feel in my heart that she lacks

>the desire to nurse & therefore can't/won't. I know that she would ask me

>for help if she wanted it. ...I'd be there in a minute.

>In fact I know/feel that she's feeling guilty about it & will probably have

>a hard time telling me, so I will call her & say something to break the

>ice...I don't want her to feel bad at all.

>

>Love,

>

> Re: My Sister in law...continued

>

>

>>

>>

>> ,

>>

>> You should go to her some day this week, and suggest that now that she has

>> had a few good nights sleep to recover, maybe she is ready to give nursing

>> a shot again.

>>

>> It is never too late to try!

>>

>>

>>

>> At 09:48 PM 4/30/99 , you wrote:

>> Well I just thought I'd post that my Mom told me last night that my SIL

>> gave up on the nursing (

>> I feel that she received mis-information from too many well intending

>> friends and family. She wasn't nursing on demand, also she gave the baby

>> formula instead of building and keeping her milk supply up.

>> I feel sad about it, but we all have to do what works for us. Just thought

>> I'd let you ladies know.

>>

>> Love, /indigo

>> indigomoon@...

>> http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Lake/2570

>> ICQ # 28220116

>>

>>

>>

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I made many mistakes when I was younger, LOL...I still do. I believe it's

how we learn...how we acquire wisdom.

love,

Re: My Sister in law...continued

>

>

> >Maybe I'm not using the correct words, but I feel in my heart that she

lacks

> >the desire to nurse & therefore can't/won't. I know that she would ask me

> >for help if she wanted it. ...I'd be there in a minute.

> >In fact I know/feel that she's feeling guilty about it & will probably

have

> >a hard time telling me, so I will call her & say something to break the

> >ice...I don't want her to feel bad at all.

>

> Thats so sad. And I do understand what you are trying to say. Her

> desire to breastfeed does make all the difference.

>

> I just remember when my first child stopped nursing at 2-3 months and how

> disappointed I was, but not too concerned with it then. I just wonder if

> it would have ended differently if someone had told me that I could

> relactate, or put his back to the breast without hurting him or causing

any

> weight problems.

>

> I still have a lot of guilt from not finding out more information on my

own

> when he was younger.

>

> A friend of mine breastfed her two children when my oldest was around one

> year. When we talked about differences in our children, or in our

> parenting, she would credit breastfeeding almost apologetically to me. It

> just didnt occur to me until I had nursed my second one much longer then

my

> first that there were very real differences between the two.

>

> Guilt comes from regret of wishing you could change things that you

> should/could have done differently.

>

> If my friend had shared more information with me about how breastfeeding

> was different, or how I could get back to breastfeeding, who knows what

> would have happened.

>

> But then, when he was one year old, I thought most of the credit given to

> breastfeeding was just hype.

>

>

>

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