RE: Help. Has this happened to you

[Guest guest]

Beth,

Altho I have never had this experience myself with my BP daughter, I have

been on this group for about a year and read each and every post. From what

I've gathered, BP's like structure and they feel safe in a structured

environment. She, like my daughter need structure, they do so much better.

From what I understand that is why prolonged or long term residential care

is not recommended for people with Borderline because they don't progress in

being independent and in control of themselves when they have this " crutch "

to depend on. (residential) Recommended therapy is Dialectical Behavioral

Therapy on an outpatient basis, along with individual therapy. DBT therapy

teaches them how to control their behavior and manage their stress so they

can go out in the world and be functioning people.

My daughter was also diagnosed right after her 17th birthday with

" borderline tendencies " . They said diagnoses in adolesents was premature.

I guess the actual diagnosis would come after they were adults and had been

exhibiting this behavior for many years. In adolesents, this behavior is

confusing because teens have a tendency to be hormonal, and dramatic, etc.

so an actual diagnosis is hard to make.

Hope this helps.

Jan

Help. has this happened to you

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> It has been " suggested " although not diagnosed yet, that my 16 year

> old has BPD. I am in the middle of reading " Stop Walking On

> Eggshells " and for the first time in years, I finally realize that I

> am not crazy, and that there are reasons why she does these things.

> My question is, have any of you experienced a BPD being admitted to

> a Mental Health facility for a 72 hour observation, that liked it

> and wants to go back? If so, do you understand why and can you share

> that please.

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> Send questions & concerns to WTOParentsOfBPs-owner . " Stop

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[Guest guest]

Hi Beth,

Yes it has happened to me. My 15 Yr. old daughter was admitted to the

hospital acute unit and was there for 3 weeks on her first admittance,

and came home worse than she was when she was admitted. She was home for

6 weeks and basically told her therapist and myself that she wanted to

go back to the hospital, because there was too much stress for her to

handle. We told her we were not going to admit her and she forced our

hand by stating if we did not admit her she would do something (harm

herself) so we would have to admit her. We admitted her for the second

time that evening. She was at the acute unit for 2 weeks without a hint

of them releasing her, as a matter of fact the doctor suggested she be

put in a long term facility and my daughter jumped at the chance to do

that.

She was in a Residential Treatment facility for 4 months. I have heard

many mixed feelings on RTC units...for us the only good it did was scare

her into not wanting to go back. She discovered that the stress there

was much worse than the stress at home. At any rate I checked her out of

the facility against doctors orders and although we have had our share

of ups and downs things are much better as far as communication between

my daughter and I as well as her self-harm going from an everyday

occurrence to 3 times in a 12 week period.

The following is only my opinion and it was supported by my daughter's

therapist...The reason she wanted to be in a facility was because she

did not have the stress of having to make decisions, the facility

basically told her when she would eat, bath, ect. Being in some

facilities sometimes allows them to not be responsible for there actions

because there behavior is expected as well as the fact that if they

really act out they are sedated. In my daughters case the sedation

allowed her to escape everything going on. She literally started acting

out in order to be sedated and not have to deal with life. Once I spoke

to the staff about her saying this they stopped sedating her. For the

first week thing got worse but when she was informed she was no longer

going to be medicated she made a 180.

Hang in there and know you are never alone. Take care

Theresa

Hoping to shine a new light into a beautifully dark life.

[Guest guest]

To those of you that responded to my post, I am curious to know if

your BPD is aware that they have it and did it have an impact on

their behavior when they became aware of it. Was it a trigger that

make them want to be readmitted? My daughter is wanting answers as

why she acts this way, but the book I'm reading says that the Dr.

should be the one to tell them they have this disorder. This

diagnosis is VERY new to us. The Dr. suggested this diagnosis only 2

weeks ago when my husband and I saw the Dr. alone. Our daughter had

just been released from the Hospital. The Dr. seemed relectant to go

any further with the issue saying that we needed to get the Bipolar

Disorder under control first. Now that I have done reading and

research and have some answers for her, I would really like to share

them with my daughter, but I won't unless the Dr. says so. Please

share your experiences.