Guest guest Posted November 23, 2004 Report Share Posted November 23, 2004 I agree with Jean. My daugther actually believes that she is telling the truth. Her stories are very convincing even when I know that it is not the truth. Bridgette > > Does anyone know if lying and stealing are traits of a BP, or > caused by > > something else? These two things are prominent in my daughter's > personality and it > > almost seems like she is a pathological liar at times. She steals > things > > that she doesn't need and lies about things that there is no reason > to lie about. > > Drs have not given me any satisfaction about these symptoms. She > is on > > lithium(950 mgs per day), lexapro(10mgs a day). Thanks for any > thoughts on this > > problem.....LInda > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 23, 2004 Report Share Posted November 23, 2004 , my daughter 17, bpd 4 yrs. now, lies all the time..............always to cover up something she's doing wrong, or like saying she's with someone else, when she is hanging with someone I dont approve of. Havent had a problem (yet) with any stealing. Now that she has a job, she's using her tip money to buy her bags of stuff, which is sad, because with this wonderful Honor Roll report card she just brought home last week, she's messed up this past wknd. and wouldn't get up for school yesterday or today. Here we go again the virtual roller coaster ride...........I can't wait for June and (hopefully) graduation, considering I've just shelled out $300 on senior portraits and she's hitting her father up for the $300+ ring. Just when you think all is going well.................. another chapter. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 23, 2004 Report Share Posted November 23, 2004 To Janna, Ann, Bobby and others who have experienced the lying and stealing traits in their BP children. I had mentioned when I first joined this group that my daughter is 19 now and is her senior year of high school(after quitting last year in Oct.). She just started Dialectical Behavioral Therapy and I'm praying that she wants to get better enough to stick with it for the required 12 months to complete the program. She is currently on probation for a year for stealing money(over $600) from her last employer. She owes almost $1500 now for taking the money plus court costs,etc. plus is required to do 35 hours of community service and complete an ARD program so that the charges won't result in a felony on her records. Now, she has just recently stole cell phones at school and will have some consequences for that. We don't know what they are yet. She says that she is afraid of going to jail, but she keeps doing the same things over and over again. Before, all of this happened, she stole a large amount of money from us($2500), and gave it all away at school. She has also stole things from family members. We now keep all of our bedroom doors locked! She also recently was going to a church and becoming very active in it. Then I had a conversation with the Pastor and found out that she got up in front of the whole congregation and made up a sob story about how bad her life has been (all of it lies). She also lied to him about other members in her family,etc. We had a meeting with the Pastor and his wife, and they confronted her about the lies. Now she isn't going there anymore, but I doubt that the lying will stop. She will just lie to other people. This is so frustrating because there doesn't seem to be a way out of this madness at times. I wish there was some rehabilitative place for her to go where she could finish her education and learn to be more independent as well as complete her therapy. Because she is 19, I guess she is too old for a juvenile detention center, and how is she supposed to pay back her fines, etc. if she steals from her employers? I know that all of this is bothering me a lot more than it is bothering her. She has a comfortable home, and everything she needs to survive when she is with us. My goal is to get her through school, but I told her that if she doesn't graduate because she is being lazy and not doing the work( which has been the case so far) she will have to move out to a group home or someplace like that. I'm praying that the DBT will have a positive effect on her and that she sticks with it!! Thanks everyone for all the support. We all have to stick together. LInda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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