RE: I'm New to this group/

[Guest guest]

I'm also new to the group, and your story sounds familiar. My daughter,

Kate, used me as the object of her anger and aggression for years, until she

was diagnosed and finally (FINALLY!!) stable on meds. Kate was first

diagnosed with bipolar disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, and OCD - all

diagnosis that are still valid today. Two months ago - two months before

her 16th birthday - her psychiatrist told us that she has very severe

borderline personality disorder. She explained that until she's 18 she can

only write " borderline TRAITS " because of the thought (that she termed

outdated) that the personality is still developing until age 18. However,

she's directed treatment aimed at dealing with the BPD now that we finally

have the bipolar stable (it only took years and years!). Unfortunately,

there's not an adolescent DBT group anywhere in the state of Kentucky, and

the adult groups won't take her since she's only 16.

We're relocating to the Dallas, TX area after school's out this year, and

are hoping we can get her into a group down there. Her psychiatrist told us

it's really the only therapy that's been shown to have a significant impact.

Our hopes are up - and fingers crossed - that Kate can make this work. Her

therapist and psychiatrist told us that the probably cause, or trigger, was

the years of abuse she suffered at her father's hands when she was very

young. Kate wants nothing to do with him, and hasn't since she was 13. He

continues to send her cards and gifts, and honestly believes he did nothing

wrong!!

I really like the terminology Kate's come up with for our family. My

partner isn't her biological father, she says, but he's certainly her DAD.

We're in counseling together, apart from Kate, to learn new ways of coping

and some different ways to parent a BPD teenager. Raising Kate is certainly

different than it was raising the other two!

Thanks for listening to me vent

kath

[Guest guest]

WHERE IN KENTUCKY ARE YOU??????!!!! I am desparately seeking treatment for

my daughter with bpd, who is 21 almost 22 and she has now come to terms that

she is bpd!! She has hit bottom and is willing after 8 years to be

submissive to treatment but I live in Ashland and there are no dbt trained

professionals locally. Please help!!!! More than willing to start a parent

support group, also!!! I live 2 1/2 hours from Lexingtom, which is the

closest place that has dbt trained professionals. Too far to live at home &

get constant treatment; any ideas will be appreciated!

RE: I'm New to this group/

I'm also new to the group, and your story sounds familiar. My daughter,

Kate, used me as the object of her anger and aggression for years, until she

was diagnosed and finally (FINALLY!!) stable on meds. Kate was first

diagnosed with bipolar disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, and OCD - all

diagnosis that are still valid today. Two months ago - two months before

her 16th birthday - her psychiatrist told us that she has very severe

borderline personality disorder. She explained that until she's 18 she can

only write " borderline TRAITS " because of the thought (that she termed

outdated) that the personality is still developing until age 18. However,

she's directed treatment aimed at dealing with the BPD now that we finally

have the bipolar stable (it only took years and years!). Unfortunately,

there's not an adolescent DBT group anywhere in the state of Kentucky, and

the adult groups won't take her since she's only 16.

We're relocating to the Dallas, TX area after school's out this year, and

are hoping we can get her into a group down there. Her psychiatrist told us

it's really the only therapy that's been shown to have a significant impact.

Our hopes are up - and fingers crossed - that Kate can make this work. Her

therapist and psychiatrist told us that the probably cause, or trigger, was

the years of abuse she suffered at her father's hands when she was very

young. Kate wants nothing to do with him, and hasn't since she was 13. He

continues to send her cards and gifts, and honestly believes he did nothing

wrong!!

I really like the terminology Kate's come up with for our family. My

partner isn't her biological father, she says, but he's certainly her DAD.

We're in counseling together, apart from Kate, to learn new ways of coping

and some different ways to parent a BPD teenager. Raising Kate is certainly

different than it was raising the other two!

Thanks for listening to me vent

kath

[Guest guest]

I'm in Lexington - and we have a couple of adult DBT groups. That's quite a

drive for you, though. If you can make the drive in with her once a week,

she could go to the DBT group - then perhaps you could find a therapist in

your area willing to get DBT skills training to work with her the rest of

the time? The group requires a one-year commitment upon joining, so it's

something that'd need real serious thought - especially on days like today

when we're getting ice yet *again* (will we keep power this time? we shall

see At least we still have the power crews from NC here still from the

last ice storm!).

kath

RE: I'm New to this group/

I'm also new to the group, and your story sounds familiar. My daughter,

Kate, used me as the object of her anger and aggression for years, until she

was diagnosed and finally (FINALLY!!) stable on meds. Kate was first

diagnosed with bipolar disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, and OCD - all

diagnosis that are still valid today. Two months ago - two months before

her 16th birthday - her psychiatrist told us that she has very severe

borderline personality disorder. She explained that until she's 18 she can

only write " borderline TRAITS " because of the thought (that she termed

outdated) that the personality is still developing until age 18. However,

she's directed treatment aimed at dealing with the BPD now that we finally

have the bipolar stable (it only took years and years!). Unfortunately,

there's not an adolescent DBT group anywhere in the state of Kentucky, and

the adult groups won't take her since she's only 16.

We're relocating to the Dallas, TX area after school's out this year, and

are hoping we can get her into a group down there. Her psychiatrist told us

it's really the only therapy that's been shown to have a significant impact.

Our hopes are up - and fingers crossed - that Kate can make this work. Her

therapist and psychiatrist told us that the probably cause, or trigger, was

the years of abuse she suffered at her father's hands when she was very

young. Kate wants nothing to do with him, and hasn't since she was 13. He

continues to send her cards and gifts, and honestly believes he did nothing

wrong!!

I really like the terminology Kate's come up with for our family. My

partner isn't her biological father, she says, but he's certainly her DAD.

We're in counseling together, apart from Kate, to learn new ways of coping

and some different ways to parent a BPD teenager. Raising Kate is certainly

different than it was raising the other two!

Thanks for listening to me vent

kath

[Guest guest]

Bless your heart! I had set her up with The Comp Care Center in Richmond, Ky

where she was going to Eastern Ky University last year and then she moved to

a male friend's apartment and I set her up with the Comp Care Ctr in

Lexington, but she would not commit to getting into the program. She is now

saying she didn't remember that and didn't know it was a program. I will

give her the info that there is help in Lexington and if SHE wants to take

the initiative to set it up as I am SO tired of doing everything for her and

she not taking responsibility for her actions, that I have now stopped doing

anything! She moved back from Richmond, Ky three weeks ago and has been

sitting in her bedroom in pajamas, with the only effort being made is to

take a shower but this came after two years of spiraling down, 8 yrs of self

mutilation, drugs, sex with both genders, etc. A year ago in January, she

moved home, addicted to Oxycontin, this year she wasn't into drugs as she

did not have any money but has moved 5 times since August and had 4

different jobs since December, and this was just this year, I could go on

and on about the previous years but thank God, there have not been any run

ins with the legal system and she has not gotten pregnant, yet! My husband

gave her a stipulation that the only way she could come back home was if she

got into a place called Mercy Ministries in Nashville, Tn. She had to

complete a 28 page application, have a very in-depth physical and complete

bloodwork done and when she got all the info back and everything was clear

with the physical (as she had convinced herself she had aids or something)

and she went to the dentist and got an excellent checkup (she was positive

she had cracked a tooth-but was only stained)that she decided she was not

going to go to Mercy Ministries (you can look Mercy Ministries up on the

internet-www.MercyMinistries; for females aged 13-28 but they have to be

committed to wanting help or they will not accept them)She decided they

could not address her " mental issues " as they did not have a full-time

psychologist on staff and this is christian based (free of charge) and she

did not want the christianity shoved down her throat, she said. My husband,

my son (who is 13) and myself are all devote christians. We firmly believe

in prayer. The reason I had set her up with the Comp Care Centers as they

are familiar with DBT and I knew that was what she needs! If you don't mind,

I would very much like to pray for you and your daughter. Thank you so much

for responding. Do you mind giving me the name of the doctor you daughter

sees? I may have to go to Lexington, if that is what it takes.

RE: I'm New to this group/

I'm also new to the group, and your story sounds familiar. My daughter,

Kate, used me as the object of her anger and aggression for years, until she

was diagnosed and finally (FINALLY!!) stable on meds. Kate was first

diagnosed with bipolar disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, and OCD - all

diagnosis that are still valid today. Two months ago - two months before

her 16th birthday - her psychiatrist told us that she has very severe

borderline personality disorder. She explained that until she's 18 she can

only write " borderline TRAITS " because of the thought (that she termed

outdated) that the personality is still developing until age 18. However,

she's directed treatment aimed at dealing with the BPD now that we finally

have the bipolar stable (it only took years and years!). Unfortunately,

there's not an adolescent DBT group anywhere in the state of Kentucky, and

the adult groups won't take her since she's only 16.

We're relocating to the Dallas, TX area after school's out this year, and

are hoping we can get her into a group down there. Her psychiatrist told us

it's really the only therapy that's been shown to have a significant impact.

Our hopes are up - and fingers crossed - that Kate can make this work. Her

therapist and psychiatrist told us that the probably cause, or trigger, was

the years of abuse she suffered at her father's hands when she was very

young. Kate wants nothing to do with him, and hasn't since she was 13. He

continues to send her cards and gifts, and honestly believes he did nothing

wrong!!

I really like the terminology Kate's come up with for our family. My

partner isn't her biological father, she says, but he's certainly her DAD.

We're in counseling together, apart from Kate, to learn new ways of coping

and some different ways to parent a BPD teenager. Raising Kate is certainly

different than it was raising the other two!

Thanks for listening to me vent

kath