Re: New Here

[Guest guest]

Hi Suzanne,

Welcome to the group. My name is and I live in Australia. I had my WLS on

the 10th May and I was back at work 4 weeks later but alot of people go back

sooner. When is your WLS?

NEW HERE

Hi there Im new to this group .

I am wondering about the recovery time for the gastric bypass surgery ?

how long ?

thanks

suzanne

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First I will tell you that it was not as bad as I thought it was going to

be. I did not have the pain that I thought I would. I had some pain

medication and I only took that for a few days after going home. The hardest

part for me was that for a few weeks to like a month, I was just tired. I

had no energy and was dragging. Now I am just about two months out, I feel

pretty normal now. I had this big monster built up in my head about how bad

this was going to be, and I was suprised how easy the whole thing was.

Mike T

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[Guest guest]

Hi Mark - You sound like a wonderful man. My husband and I have been married 21

years next month, and we have had a couple years where we were celibate. In my

case, I had actual physical pain during intercourse and also when I had my

annual women's exams. It was hard to tell him that he was just going to have to

do without me to relieve his urges. Thankfully, he has never strayed from our

marriage. He is very active in our church and that is his outlet for stress.

I finally started getting some sexual desire back about a year and a half

ago. My doctor prescribed a lidocaine ointment that I could use vaginally to

help with the pain. She said we took the risk of the medication numbing my

husband as well, and that might make things more frustrating, but that wasn't a

problem for us.

Your wife's problem maybe is not this specific. Obviously she is in pain at

various parts of her body and she is depressed and the meds she takes all effect

her libido. I'm sure she feels like she's not a worthy woman or wife for you

anymore. I hope you can convince her that she is.

I would encourage you to go to counseling together, spend time together

being intimate(not necessarily having sex), and keep the lines of communication

open. I know when I had that pain, I just had to tell my husband to not try to

start anything, because that just made me feel worse, feel guilty. I would let

him know when I was able to make love.

It's a very difficult situation for you. I wish you luck with it. Hang in

there.

Jeanne in WI

New Here

Wanted to say hi to everyone and ask a really troubling question.My

wife and I have been together for13 years,married 12 and have a great

relationship.I love her with all my heart but I am terribly troubled

over our sex life.Since she has been sick it has gradually gone down

hill but has been to the point of non exsistence for about nine

months.I really hope this doesn't sound selfish because that's not what

it is about.Although it is difficult to not have any physical contact

in that sense.I just want her to get help for this.She is so depressed

about it and cries alot over it and has even said she would not blame

me if I had an affair.I try to tell her that it will be ok and we will

figure it out but that only goes so far.I have heard of spouses walking

away when this happens and I promised her that I will Not do that.It is

so difficult to watch the one who holds your heart to be in so much

pain both physially and emotionally especially when you can't do

anything tangenable for them.So I guess I want to know what I or we can

do to make this better.Thank you all and may you be blessed for all you

do.Mark & Jo