Re: 's surgery

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,

Of course, your family will be in my thoughts now and on March 23,

especially. I know everything will be fine. Don't worry about the

blood-they screen well. Brent and I are regular blood donors-every 8 weeks.

I don't know where you are but if you're in CA, I think we can donate in

your name to replace what you used and therefore take the blood off your

bill. Every state's blood banks do it differently though.

Also, as regular donors, when Abby needed blood and we wanted Brent to give

it to her, they gave us a break on the cost. It was several hundred

dollars-I think because it was for NICU and in a hurry, but they cut it down

quite a bit. They have to do a lot of expensive testing, cleaning, etc. We

donate because we want to help others but it also proved to benefit us when

Abby needed blood.

I'm sorry your family isn't being more supportive. Sounds like they have

their own issues and aren't capable of supporting anyone else in this

situation. You're going to get through this just fine though. You're a

great mom!

Kathleen [Mom to Abby--16 mos, 13 lbs., 26 1/4 in.- Close but not RSS ]

's surgery

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>

>Hi Everyone!

> Here is the scoop on 's surgery. He will have open heart

>surgery on March 23 for ASD (fancy way of saying a hole in his heart.)

>Because the hole is in an abnormal spot for this defect they are unable to

>use a scope & therefore have to go the whole nine yards (heat-lung bypass

>machine ect...) The surgery will last about 5 hrs which is going to be

>torture for us! I was wondering if maybe the could knock me out too!! Ha

>Ha! Anyway my parents informed me that they do not intend on being there,

>my dad isn't even taking they day off! Even after I told them that 5hrs is

>a long time to sit there by ourselves & that I would like them to be there,

>they replied with " You & Dwayne will probably want to be alone " What in

the

>world is that all about? Anybody have a clue? My guess is that they are

>not coping well and therefore want to avoid the issue. We have decided to

>send to pre-school that day to keep his schedule as normal as

>possible, he's too young to really understand anyway. We do have a couple

>of really supportive friends who have offered to help us out. My one

friend

>works in the children's psych department at the hospital and is going to

>hang out with us for awhile & bring us lunch. Anyway the surgeons nurse

>told me he should be home the following Monday, which works out because my

>sister-in law planned her daughter's baptism for that Sunday & Dwayne is

the

>godfather. (Nice of her huh?) But now I've been told that if he does well

>her could be home as early as Friday evening. Maybe I'm paranoid because

>he's my son, but don't you think maybe open heart surgery deserves at least

>a couple days of close monitoring? Also we decided to bank our own blood

>for Josh, so we figured that Dwayne could donate(he & Josh are the same

>type) and my brother-in-law & his wife are also the same. We found out

that

>Josh would have surgery in Nov & we told everyone that could donate not to

>do IV drugs, have gay sex, no tattoos or piercings ect. I said it

>sarcastically & as a joke but what do they do? They get matching tattoos

for

>Christmas!!!!!!!! Gotta love that one. So now they are ineligible to

donate

>for one year. So we figured we still had my husband to donate but they

>discourage that in the event that Josh would even need a transplant from

>Dwayne ( bone marrow, kidney ect) I guess Josh would then have built up

>antibodies and would reject. Also can you believe the hospital charges $75

>a pint to reserve blood? What a rip off. So now we have no donors and are

>trusting the Red Cross. I guess it's all in God's hands anyway! Thanks for

>letting me vent!! - Mom of (13mons) & (3yrs)

>

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[Guest guest]

,

Wow - you sure do have your hands full with this one. I will definately be

thinking of you on the 23rd. 5 hours sure is a long time. The most has

been under is 2-3 hours. His cochlear implant they tell me will be 4 hours, but

any amount of time is too long for me. Boy, I sure wish I could send some blood

your way. I have no problem in giving. I'm a 5 gallon donor. As far as your

Dad not being there, do you wish for him to be there? I know I would just want

my husband and I - I don't need any extra worries from other people as well. If

you truly want him to be there, maybe you should have a little talk with him and

express your needs for him to be there. I know for me this is always a tough

thing to do. I can tell you guys better what I need than my own family. In any

event, good luck with everything. I'll be thinking and praying for you.

Cheryl

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>

> Hi Everyone!

> Here is the scoop on 's surgery. He will have open heart

> surgery on March 23 for ASD (fancy way of saying a hole in his heart.)

> Because the hole is in an abnormal spot for this defect they are unable to

> use a scope & therefore have to go the whole nine yards (heat-lung bypass

> machine ect...) The surgery will last about 5 hrs which is going to be

> torture for us! I was wondering if maybe the could knock me out too!! Ha

> Ha! Anyway my parents informed me that they do not intend on being there,

> my dad isn't even taking they day off! Even after I told them that 5hrs is

> a long time to sit there by ourselves & that I would like them to be there,

> they replied with " You & Dwayne will probably want to be alone " What in the

> world is that all about? Anybody have a clue? My guess is that they are

> not coping well and therefore want to avoid the issue. We have decided to

> send to pre-school that day to keep his schedule as normal as

> possible, he's too young to really understand anyway. We do have a couple

> of really supportive friends who have offered to help us out. My one friend

> works in the children's psych department at the hospital and is going to

> hang out with us for awhile & bring us lunch. Anyway the surgeons nurse

> told me he should be home the following Monday, which works out because my

> sister-in law planned her daughter's baptism for that Sunday & Dwayne is the

> godfather. (Nice of her huh?) But now I've been told that if he does well

> her could be home as early as Friday evening. Maybe I'm paranoid because

> he's my son, but don't you think maybe open heart surgery deserves at least

> a couple days of close monitoring? Also we decided to bank our own blood

> for Josh, so we figured that Dwayne could donate(he & Josh are the same

> type) and my brother-in-law & his wife are also the same. We found out that

> Josh would have surgery in Nov & we told everyone that could donate not to

> do IV drugs, have gay sex, no tattoos or piercings ect. I said it

> sarcastically & as a joke but what do they do? They get matching tattoos for

> Christmas!!!!!!!! Gotta love that one. So now they are ineligible to donate

> for one year. So we figured we still had my husband to donate but they

> discourage that in the event that Josh would even need a transplant from

> Dwayne ( bone marrow, kidney ect) I guess Josh would then have built up

> antibodies and would reject. Also can you believe the hospital charges $75

> a pint to reserve blood? What a rip off. So now we have no donors and are

> trusting the Red Cross. I guess it's all in God's hands anyway! Thanks for

> letting me vent!! - Mom of (13mons) & (3yrs)

>

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[Guest guest]

, I hope you know that we will all be holding your hands on March 23,

even if we are not there in person. I know only too well how long those 5

hours will be. I hope that at least someone will come out periodically to

let you know how things are going.

As for your parents not waiting with you, yes, I can relate. My mother and

her husband left for Singapore two days before Max's surgery and never even

called to hear how it went. We called them after we got home and woke them

up (it was 8am there - 6pm here). My mother was angry for waking her! I

hope we don't do this to our kids.

Jodi

's surgery

>

>

> Hi Everyone!

> Here is the scoop on 's surgery. He will have open heart

> surgery on March 23 for ASD (fancy way of saying a hole in his heart.)

> Because the hole is in an abnormal spot for this defect they are unable to

> use a scope & therefore have to go the whole nine yards (heat-lung bypass

> machine ect...) The surgery will last about 5 hrs which is going to be

> torture for us! I was wondering if maybe the could knock me out too!! Ha

> Ha! Anyway my parents informed me that they do not intend on being there,

> my dad isn't even taking they day off! Even after I told them that 5hrs

is

> a long time to sit there by ourselves & that I would like them to be

there,

> they replied with " You & Dwayne will probably want to be alone " What in

the

> world is that all about? Anybody have a clue? My guess is that they are

> not coping well and therefore want to avoid the issue. We have decided to

> send to pre-school that day to keep his schedule as normal as

> possible, he's too young to really understand anyway. We do have a couple

> of really supportive friends who have offered to help us out. My one

friend

> works in the children's psych department at the hospital and is going to

> hang out with us for awhile & bring us lunch. Anyway the surgeons nurse

> told me he should be home the following Monday, which works out because my

> sister-in law planned her daughter's baptism for that Sunday & Dwayne is

the

> godfather. (Nice of her huh?) But now I've been told that if he does

well

> her could be home as early as Friday evening. Maybe I'm paranoid because

> he's my son, but don't you think maybe open heart surgery deserves at

least

> a couple days of close monitoring? Also we decided to bank our own blood

> for Josh, so we figured that Dwayne could donate(he & Josh are the same

> type) and my brother-in-law & his wife are also the same. We found out

that

> Josh would have surgery in Nov & we told everyone that could donate not to

> do IV drugs, have gay sex, no tattoos or piercings ect. I said it

> sarcastically & as a joke but what do they do? They get matching tattoos

for

> Christmas!!!!!!!! Gotta love that one. So now they are ineligible to

donate

> for one year. So we figured we still had my husband to donate but they

> discourage that in the event that Josh would even need a transplant from

> Dwayne ( bone marrow, kidney ect) I guess Josh would then have built up

> antibodies and would reject. Also can you believe the hospital charges

$75

> a pint to reserve blood? What a rip off. So now we have no donors and

are

> trusting the Red Cross. I guess it's all in God's hands anyway! Thanks

for

> letting me vent!! - Mom of (13mons) & (3yrs)

>

>

>

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