Re: To hanging on .........

[Guest guest]

Can someone please explain what MI is?

funnygirl1154@... wrote:

> I cant see how he would have brain damage. Why wouldnt the hospital check

> that out?

> If he truly has damage, how can they possible refuse to treat him? With

> trying to get someone you are trying to have a relationship with understand

all

> that you are going thru, I guess you need to find someone who is willing to

work

> with you and give you support and understanding.......someone who possibly is

> aware of MI and how to deal with it. I myself find it very frustrating and

> stressful dealing with my daughter's issues and trying to cope with my spouse.

> It it very difficult, because sometimes he will just leave me alone and

> understands what I'm dealing with, other times he gets so mad and upset at

what she

> does to me. I dont know. I keep feeling like I want her to go away, and

> then feel guilty and dont want to abandon her. It's totally frustrating. It

> seems if that's what you and your son feel about his brain, then I guess you

have

> a long road ahead of you, and you have to ask yourself if you are ready to

> totally commit yourself to a lifetime of taking care of him. At this point in

> time, I could not do this with mine the rest of my life. She's got to move

on.

> Right now its a struggle just trying to get her to finish high school. Good

> luck to you.

>

>

[Guest guest]

Amy, dear girl. We are here for you. Is your son working at all? Taking

his meds?

Or will that be done once he is with you. I cant believe no one will take

him in. If he's so bad, why not start with the ER at the local hosp. which I'm

sure you've done before.

Crisis intervention should evaluate him there and place him. Does he have

insurance?

or is he on SS? I wish I could be there to give you hugs, we know you need

them now.

I also understand how it is to get a partner to understand and cope with MI.

Mine surely doesnt, he just sees my daughter as a rebellious, defiant

teenager. Will your son listen to you and do what he has to like take his meds,

go

to work, etc.? I'm not much help to anyone today. Just when you think all is

well.............duh. another issue. two days now cant get daughter up and

out to school, and she was finally doing so good this semester. This " I dont

feel good " crap she pulls, usually follows a weekend of her going out and

getting high, like smoking pot. Knew she did it sat. nite, but of course she

denied it, then on sunday fessed up. I'm a mess right now myself, or I would be

better at helping you out. Dont know what to tell you, except that I wish you

much luck, and hope all works out with your son. I know we keep trying this

" one last time " approach with them. Mine I have no choice with as she is a

minor. I had to let my son go at 18, and never took him back in. He's 27 now,

still has a long road ahead of him, but doing much better. He didnt have any MI

issues, just a lot of bad drugs and alcohol, which he still does. But his

life is still a mess, but I surely wont take him back in. I wish you all the

luck in the world with yours. And hugs to you too. Debbie

[Guest guest]

I cant see how he would have brain damage. Why wouldnt the hospital check

that out?

If he truly has damage, how can they possible refuse to treat him? With

trying to get someone you are trying to have a relationship with understand all

that you are going thru, I guess you need to find someone who is willing to work

with you and give you support and understanding.......someone who possibly is

aware of MI and how to deal with it. I myself find it very frustrating and

stressful dealing with my daughter's issues and trying to cope with my spouse.

It it very difficult, because sometimes he will just leave me alone and

understands what I'm dealing with, other times he gets so mad and upset at what

she

does to me. I dont know. I keep feeling like I want her to go away, and

then feel guilty and dont want to abandon her. It's totally frustrating. It

seems if that's what you and your son feel about his brain, then I guess you

have

a long road ahead of you, and you have to ask yourself if you are ready to

totally commit yourself to a lifetime of taking care of him. At this point in

time, I could not do this with mine the rest of my life. She's got to move on.

Right now its a struggle just trying to get her to finish high school. Good

luck to you.

[Guest guest]

I have to keep telling myself, and have been told by others, that God does

not dish out more than we can handle. Sometimes I think the reason we have

these children is that someone else could not. We are special people for

special

children. Your son, I think, needs a psych. that can get him on the combo of

meds that he needs. He def. needs to be evaluated by a psychiatrist, then

therapy from there. He needs some type of mood altering drug. My daughter had

been on three different ones. Now she's just down to the Zoloft. I had more

trouble with her on the mood drugs because of side effects.

such as weight gain, which she hated as she was overweight to begin with.

That just led to an eating disorder. It's tough, and I dont know that I could

live without the love of my life. At this point, my third (and final)

marriage, I could not lose him. But I know where you are coming from. The

arguments

we have are only about her. We never argue otherwise. We are totally

blissful and happy with each other. Are you footing the bill where drs. and

meds are

concerned? Or is he on some kind of assistance.

[Guest guest]

mental illness