Guest guest Posted April 7, 2000 Report Share Posted April 7, 2000 hi jennifer i have lost so far 124 lbs. i have actually gained a couple in the past month. that is really hard to do for me. yeah, i guess you should be ok. this is a good group to be with. julie Re: Newbie Hi ! I'm on Depo Provera...it's worked for years...surely it won't fail me now. <g>. How much have you lost? I too think this was the best thing I have ever done for myself. It's good to be here, Newbie Hi! I had a lap RNY on March 9th of this year. Before I decided that WLS was for me, my husband and I began discussing having a child. I am 27 and my husband is 38. He has 2 children from a previous marriage, but I have never been pregnant. I was assured that after waiting until my weight stablized (approx. 2 years) I could get pregnant. I'm here because I want to find out if it was hard to get pregnant after WLS, what you had to eat while you were pregnant, how did being pregnant affect your WLS and were you considered high risk. I decided that right now in our lives, my health was more important than getting pregnant, so I had my surgery. We are planning to try and get pregnant in the summer of 2002. Any help would be much appreciated. ~ Lap RNY 3-9-00 Was 261 Now 230 http://www.crosswinds.net/~mywls ICQ# 29169714 AOL: Ellerbe97 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 8, 2000 Report Share Posted April 8, 2000 It's always interesting to find other women who are married to older men... I am 33 and my husband is 47... anyway, I waited a year post-op and got pregnant on the first try after having previously been infertile. I delivered a normal, healthy, CUTE baby boy (see pics in the Shared Files section) in August of last year. : ) I'm glad you joined us, ! -Kris - Newbie Hi! I had a lap RNY on March 9th of this year. Before I decided that WLS was for me, my husband and I began discussing having a child. I am 27 and my husband is 38. He has 2 children from a previous marriage, but I have never been pregnant. I was assured that after waiting until my weight stablized (approx. 2 years) I could get pregnant. I'm here because I want to find out if it was hard to get pregnant after WLS, what you had to eat while you were pregnant, how did being pregnant affect your WLS and were you considered high risk. I decided that right now in our lives, my health was more important than getting pregnant, so I had my surgery. We are planning to try and get pregnant in the summer of 2002. Any help would be much appreciated. ~ Lap RNY 3-9-00 Was 261 Now 230 http://www.crosswinds.net/~mywls ICQ# 29169714 AOL: Ellerbe97 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 8, 2000 Report Share Posted April 8, 2000 , Do yourself a favor -- if you are not using birth control get on it now! When we lose weight after surgery we are losing fat which stores estrogen. hence we are releaseing estrogen into our system which can make us more fertile than we ever thought! So please make sure you are using birth control until you are cleared to get pregnant. Currently pregnant, I eat every 90 minutes or so to make sure I am getting enough calories and nutrients. I am NOT considered high risk and have only gained 5 pounds so far (I am in week 25 out of 40). Rasley mailto:drasley@... BTC, Columbus, 10/7/98 Start: 348 pounds and infertile Gained: Health and I AM PREGNANT! > Newbie > > > Hi! > I had a lap RNY on March 9th of this year. Before I decided that > WLS was for me, my husband and I began discussing having a child. > I am 27 and my husband is 38. He has 2 children from a previous > marriage, but I have never been pregnant. I was assured that > after waiting until my weight stablized (approx. 2 years) I could > get pregnant. I'm here because I want to find out if it was hard > to get pregnant after WLS, what you had to eat while you were > pregnant, how did being pregnant affect your WLS and were you > considered high risk. I decided that right now in our lives, my > health was more important than getting pregnant, so I had my > surgery. We are planning to try and get pregnant in the summer > of 2002. Any help would be much appreciated. > ~ > Lap RNY 3-9-00 > Was 261 Now 230 > http://www.crosswinds.net/~mywls > ICQ# 29169714 AOL: Ellerbe97 > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 8, 2000 Report Share Posted April 8, 2000 I'm on Depo-Provera. ) Not ready for a baby just yet....not counting the surgery. ~ Lap RNY 3-9-00 Was 261 Now 229 http://www.crosswinds.net/~mywls ICQ# 29169714 AOL: Ellerbe97 Newbie > > > Hi! > I had a lap RNY on March 9th of this year. Before I decided that > WLS was for me, my husband and I began discussing having a child. > I am 27 and my husband is 38. He has 2 children from a previous > marriage, but I have never been pregnant. I was assured that > after waiting until my weight stablized (approx. 2 years) I could > get pregnant. I'm here because I want to find out if it was hard > to get pregnant after WLS, what you had to eat while you were > pregnant, how did being pregnant affect your WLS and were you > considered high risk. I decided that right now in our lives, my > health was more important than getting pregnant, so I had my > surgery. We are planning to try and get pregnant in the summer > of 2002. Any help would be much appreciated. > ~ > Lap RNY 3-9-00 > Was 261 Now 230 > http://www.crosswinds.net/~mywls > ICQ# 29169714 AOL: Ellerbe97 > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 22, 2000 Report Share Posted May 22, 2000 hi i wouldnt say i freaked out....i got on the scale and gained 5 lbs in 3 weeks. i went home, told my husband i was never eating again and locked myself in my room. well, that didnt last long and i was hungry again. some of it was water from all the dill pickles but was still upseting. this was my first real gain so i really cant complain. i am 26 weeks and counting. i sure hope i deal with the gain when i really happens better than i did this time. have a good day. julie newbie Hi everyone, My name is tammy,I am 36(almost 37)I had open ryn june 2,1999.I have lost 115 pounds and I feel wonderful.One reason I had the surgery (besides being overweight)was so that I could have another child.Before I felt that I was to heavy to even attempt to get pregnant.Now that I have lost the weight I am a little worried about getting pregnant and gaining weight.I have read alot of the archives and had some of my questions answered,it seems most of the women do not gain all that much.With my first pregnacy I gained 80 pounds(he was stillborn ) with my son I gained about 40-50.That is why I am really afraid to get pregnant now,even the thought of gaining 10 pounds kinda freaks me out. I just wanted to know what your experiences with gaining the weight has been?Also I do not want to wait much longer being as I am almost 37 and my son is now 9 1/2 ,I feel as I have waited long enough. Thanks for the input Tammy -------------------------------- Children are a reward from the Lord. Psalm 127:3 ______________________________________________ FREE Personalized Email at Mail.com Sign up at http://www.mail.com/?sr=signup ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Air purifiers, bedding, household cleaning & more! gazoontite.com! http://click./1/4195/5/_/551092/_/959023732/ ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Children are a reward from the Lord. Psalm 127:3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 22, 2000 Report Share Posted May 22, 2000 hi my constant reminder to myself is that what i gain is going to be all baby. i eat healthy overall and dont eat too much at a time. it doesnt make the gain any easier but decided even if i gained 20 lbs, i could handle it...i read someplace that like 16-18 lbs is baby and related material. good luck in your decisions. julie newbie Hi everyone, My name is tammy,I am 36(almost 37)I had open ryn june 2,1999.I have lost 115 pounds and I feel wonderful.One reason I had the surgery (besides being overweight)was so that I could have another child.Before I felt that I was to heavy to even attempt to get pregnant.Now that I have lost the weight I am a little worried about getting pregnant and gaining weight.I have read alot of the archives and had some of my questions answered,it seems most of the women do not gain all that much.With my first pregnacy I gained 80 pounds(he was stillborn ) with my son I gained about 40-50.That is why I am really afraid to get pregnant now,even the thought of gaining 10 pounds kinda freaks me out. I just wanted to know what your experiences with gaining the weight has been?Also I do not want to wait much longer being as I am almost 37 and my son is now 9 1/2 ,I feel as I have waited long enough. Thanks for the input Tammy ------------------------------------------------------------------------ SHOPPING for DEALS? The merchants at BuyItOnline.com are offering up to 30% OFF great gear, wear, gadgets and more, now through April 15, 2000. Real stores. Real Deals. Real Easy. Go get something great! http://click./1/3025/5/_/551092/_/958961766/ ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Children are a reward from the Lord. Psalm 127:3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2000 Report Share Posted May 23, 2000 thanks for all of the info.everyone :-) Tammy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2004 Report Share Posted May 23, 2004 Judy, Glad you found this list...I know it was quite a relief to me to read SWOE and to find this support. I, too, am a single adoptive mom, with 10 kids, two of whom are BP. It's been heartbreaking, as the rest of my kids all have physical and/or intellectual limitations, and these 2 BP sons are both extremely intelligent (125+ IQs) and appeared to be the ones who could have had a " normal " life. But it's been anything but. Both have had serious drug problems (one is doing better, the other is still free falling, totally out of control). The oldest who is doing better with the drug problem, is the most narcisistic person I've ever known...he can carry on a non-stop monologue about himself for an entire 30 min car ride, and all I have to do is grunt and nod from time to time. He moves from one crisis or drama to another. He wonders why no one ever invites him to go do something. The one who is in such a downward spiral with the drugs was arrested a year ago on a felony drug possession. It wasn't a wake up call...he's only gotten deeper and deeper into methamphetamine use. Meanwhile he was so emotionally and verbally abusive to me. I finally kicked him out after he bragged that he was doing drugs in my house and after he assaulted my other BP son. If you'd like to talk more, you can write me at momgag@.... Galen _________________________________________________________________ MSN Toolbar provides one-click access to Hotmail from any Web page – FREE download! http://toolbar.msn.click-url.com/go/onm00200413ave/direct/01/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 24, 2004 Report Share Posted May 24, 2004 We're all walking with you! I'm starting to see through the posts that the problems with BPD's continue throughout the years and this is very depressing for a parent to hear. I must still be in denial because I'm hoping that my 18 yr. old daughter will eventually " grow out of it. " If it's biological/chemical, whatever, then I know she may always be this way (moody, depressed, too happy, irrational, impulsive). My mind is on her 24/7 (even though she lives with her grandfather now) wondering what she's " really " doing and if she's safe. Thinking of this and how long it can go on scares me too. Talking to her has become uncomfortable now and conversations are usually short. I'm so frustrated with the situation and I wish for a miracle cure for the pain I know she feels as well as our own. Good news...she graduated from high school yesterday and that is a relief for all of us who love her. Sad, though, to accept that this is as high as our hopes go for her (former honor roll student) at this point in her life. Also, I'm starting to look at a lot of people I know and see similar traits in them as BPD's have and am wondering if half of the popuplation is BPD! This is frightening! Is it in the water? Just kidding. Growing up, I just thought this type of personality was " eccentric or liked to be spontaneous) and never thought anything of it. Really makes me think, though. My daughter would love your daughter's poster (perfect!) and she can be very loving and charming as well as manipulative. I still fall apart thinking about our dreams for her and what we've all gone through. I raised my 3 daughters by myself as a single/divorced mom for over 7 years, so I know what it feels like to deal with the moods and tantrums alone. I did have support while bringing them up, but had no clue that her continuing tantrums may have been an early sign. I still don't know. Hang in there. It sounds like you really do love your daughter and hopefully, the love and support will win out someday. Holly > Hi, All, > I'm Judy, the mom of J, 25 yrs old, currrently hospitalized and > being diagnosed as BP. I adopted J as a 2 1/2 yr old and have often > suspected she was BP, but lived in denial for years. Scared to > death, I guess. " Stop Walking on Eggshells " is helping to change > that. Fabulous book! Anyway, I'm so grateful to find thhis support > group as I've been going it alone all these years. Single parent > adoption, you see. J has been a very difficult kiddo from the get- > go, but also can be very loveable and dear. She's very manipulative, > and has a poster in her apartment that says it all: " It's all about > me. Deal with it. " Ain't it the truth. J is suffering from extreme > depression right now, hence the hospitalization. She wasn't taking > her meds, so spiraled downward. I saw someone described their adult > child as 26 yrs old, but 16 emotionally. Wow, I can really relate to > that. I don't know how to deal with a daughter who may be 14 > forever. Fourteen wasn't my most favorite age for her > chronologically; how to cope with the emotionally ups and downs of 14 > for the rest of my life? It scares me. I cry a lot. I'm worried > about what happens when I'm gone. How do you guys cope? Please > write back 'cause I need someone to walk with me on this lonely > journey. Thanks, Judy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2004 Report Share Posted May 25, 2004 Dear Jana, Hang in there! I went and spoke to my priest. Talk about a miracle. Usually takes 2-3 months to get in to him. (very saintly priest, very large parish) I called on Monday and saw him on Thursday. Hand of God stuff! Somebody had cancelled! Anyway, he gave a couple of good insights. 1. When Mother Theresa picked up the dying in Calcutta, was she trying to heal them? No Just love them as they were. He said that's what I'm to do with my BP daughter - just love her where she is. Believe me,. I'm no Mother Theresa! But I can try to love my daughter as she is, as painful as that can be sometimes. 2. When I said that J has no memory for love,; everything I do is brand new, and a 'no' answer to anything means 'no love', not 'no you can't borrow any more money', he said that his 85 yr-old mother has Alzheimers and though he goes weekly to see her, visits with her, dances with her, 5 minutes after he's gone, she'll say to the staff, " Why doesn't my son ever come and visit me? " But while he's there, she feels his love, even though she's gonna forget it soon. So with our kids, I guess. They feel our love while they're receiving it, even though they're gonna forget it soon. Best of luck, Judy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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