Re: My posting style/apologies

[Guest guest]

>

> This is a difficult post for me, and I apologise in advance if

anyuone

> is offended. Sorry for the length but I need to get some things off

my

> chest.

>

> It has been made clear to me that people find me bossy and that I

come

> off as forceful and picky.

>

> I don't often reply to light social mails because basically, and

this

> is hard to say, I am shy and it's difficult for me to keep up with

> light social banter. I am the typical nerd with thick glasses who

sat

> in the corner and did other people's homework, who was bullied for

> having the right answer and the foolishness to raise my hand.

>

> My posting style is very direct; I guess this is because I both

write

> for a living and am accustomed to report writing. I will try my

best

> to be softer in the way I put forth my information, but also I

would

> be grateful if you cut me a little slack and take it for granted

that

> I:

> - would never mean to offend or hurt anyone's feelings

> - always respect others opinions,

> - never feel that anyone's beliefs or feelings are less or more

> important than mine,

> - do not believe myself to be above or below anyone else

> - tend to write things without an agenda or hidden purpose; what

you

> see is what you get.

> - respect you, for your intelligence and abilitities, as I do

> colleagues at work.

>

> If I have hurt any of you in the past, I am geuinely sorryy. Should

I

> offend someone in the future bring your problems as the only person

> who can change my behaviour is me; do not go behind my back. Trust

> that you will be received with respect if you approach me with

respect.

>

> Bringing this type of message to the group is only to make sure

that

> my posts do not offend, that I do not hurt anyone, because right

now I

> feel decidly uncomfortable and feel that in order to stay I must

make

> this kind of disclaimer.

>

> It was last 1 January that I fell ill and only returned to work for

> two weeks since, although I continue to write for publication. In

the

> year that I have been off waiting to return to my very beloved job,

I

> felt like I was a rusting combine sitting out in the field,

unwanted

> and getting less useful byu the day.

>

> The, I found a place where I could help by looking things up,

> researching for answers and finding out about new things and

posting

> them when people asked about things. This has been a real blessing,

> helping me remember that I can still do the things I need to do at

> work. You have no clue how much it has helped me redevelop my

> confidence and shore up my sagging self esteem. It has helped me

keep

> the gears turning to continue to use the type of reasoning

essential

> for my work. I always felt that people would see my posts for what

> they were- bits of information intended to serve as background in

> making up your own mind.

>

> Now I know that I am unwanted, that my posts have all been

compleely

> misconstrued and that I am seen as an arrogant idiot who looks down

on

> all of you thinking myself to be the only one who knows anything.

How

> far from the truth this belief is! I am crushed, and wish I knew a

way

> to open my heart so you all could see.

>

> Sometimes, I am clumsy as we all are; please do not attribute

anything

> more than human error to such times. I anm direct, yes, but never

> offensive in my words- I say what I think and then its done. I

respect

> others who do the same.

>

> Please do not reply to this email in the group- it is not an

attempt

> to get you all to say nice things to me, its just an attempt to

> salvage my place on this list since I have been made aware of how

> reviled I am by so many people. Please all give me a second chance

to

> earn your respect and friendship and in return I promise I will not

> post at all unless someone asks me to or I feel it is absolutely

> essential for me to do so.

>

> Submitted respectfully,

> Bethann

>

Hi Bethann..

This is Madonna here, I don't post very often, I'm mostly a reader of

the posts. I'm not responding to insult your intelligence or try to

get on your good side, or anything phoney. I sincerely enjoy reading

all of your post and have learned a lot from them. I truly hope that

you don't stop posting, I found your post intelligent, informative

and sincere. I'm sorry that there were others who mistook those for

anything else but that. Please keep posting and keeping us who care

informed.

Respectfull,

Madonna

[Guest guest]

Bethann,

I feel the same way I love to read your postings. You have alot of

great informationa and wit. Do not go away!

Turbo

>

> This is a difficult post for me, and I apologise in advance if

anyuone

> is offended. Sorry for the length but I need to get some things off

my

> chest.

>

> It has been made clear to me that people find me bossy and that I

come

> off as forceful and picky.

>

> I don't often reply to light social mails because basically, and

this

> is hard to say, I am shy and it's difficult for me to keep up with

> light social banter. I am the typical nerd with thick glasses who

sat

> in the corner and did other people's homework, who was bullied for

> having the right answer and the foolishness to raise my hand.

>

> My posting style is very direct; I guess this is because I both

write

> for a living and am accustomed to report writing. I will try my

best

> to be softer in the way I put forth my information, but also I

would

> be grateful if you cut me a little slack and take it for granted

that

> I:

> - would never mean to offend or hurt anyone's feelings

> - always respect others opinions,

> - never feel that anyone's beliefs or feelings are less or more

> important than mine,

> - do not believe myself to be above or below anyone else

> - tend to write things without an agenda or hidden purpose; what

you

> see is what you get.

> - respect you, for your intelligence and abilitities, as I do

> colleagues at work.

>

> If I have hurt any of you in the past, I am geuinely sorryy. Should

I

> offend someone in the future bring your problems as the only person

> who can change my behaviour is me; do not go behind my back. Trust

> that you will be received with respect if you approach me with

respect.

>

> Bringing this type of message to the group is only to make sure

that

> my posts do not offend, that I do not hurt anyone, because right

now I

> feel decidly uncomfortable and feel that in order to stay I must

make

> this kind of disclaimer.

>

> It was last 1 January that I fell ill and only returned to work for

> two weeks since, although I continue to write for publication. In

the

> year that I have been off waiting to return to my very beloved job,

I

> felt like I was a rusting combine sitting out in the field,

unwanted

> and getting less useful byu the day.

>

> The, I found a place where I could help by looking things up,

> researching for answers and finding out about new things and

posting

> them when people asked about things. This has been a real blessing,

> helping me remember that I can still do the things I need to do at

> work. You have no clue how much it has helped me redevelop my

> confidence and shore up my sagging self esteem. It has helped me

keep

> the gears turning to continue to use the type of reasoning

essential

> for my work. I always felt that people would see my posts for what

> they were- bits of information intended to serve as background in

> making up your own mind.

>

> Now I know that I am unwanted, that my posts have all been

compleely

> misconstrued and that I am seen as an arrogant idiot who looks down

on

> all of you thinking myself to be the only one who knows anything.

How

> far from the truth this belief is! I am crushed, and wish I knew a

way

> to open my heart so you all could see.

>

> Sometimes, I am clumsy as we all are; please do not attribute

anything

> more than human error to such times. I anm direct, yes, but never

> offensive in my words- I say what I think and then its done. I

respect

> others who do the same.

>

> Please do not reply to this email in the group- it is not an

attempt

> to get you all to say nice things to me, its just an attempt to

> salvage my place on this list since I have been made aware of how

> reviled I am by so many people. Please all give me a second chance

to

> earn your respect and friendship and in return I promise I will not

> post at all unless someone asks me to or I feel it is absolutely

> essential for me to do so.

>

> Submitted respectfully,

> Bethann

>

[Guest guest]

Bethann,

your words have helped me on many occasions, this is

the internet and I had a problem once here with

misunderstanding due to that people cannot

appropriately understand the feeling behind typing

sometimes and it can easily be misconstrued, you have

never offended me personally though!! Keep your chin

up sis, I was the geek in the back too and I am darn

proud of it lol!!!

Deb R

--- Bethann

wrote:

> This is a difficult post for me, and I apologise in

> advance if anyuone

> is offended. Sorry for the length but I need to get

> some things off my

> chest.

>

> It has been made clear to me that people find me

> bossy and that I come

> off as forceful and picky.

>

> I don't often reply to light social mails because

> basically, and this

> is hard to say, I am shy and it's difficult for me

> to keep up with

> light social banter. I am the typical nerd with

> thick glasses who sat

> in the corner and did other people's homework, who

> was bullied for

> having the right answer and the foolishness to raise

> my hand.

>

> My posting style is very direct; I guess this is

> because I both write

> for a living and am accustomed to report writing. I

> will try my best

> to be softer in the way I put forth my information,

> but also I would

> be grateful if you cut me a little slack and take it

> for granted that

> I:

> - would never mean to offend or hurt anyone's

> feelings

> - always respect others opinions,

> - never feel that anyone's beliefs or feelings are

> less or more

> important than mine,

> - do not believe myself to be above or below anyone

> else

> - tend to write things without an agenda or hidden

> purpose; what you

> see is what you get.

> - respect you, for your intelligence and

> abilitities, as I do

> colleagues at work.

>

> If I have hurt any of you in the past, I am geuinely

> sorryy. Should I

> offend someone in the future bring your problems as

> the only person

> who can change my behaviour is me; do not go behind

> my back. Trust

> that you will be received with respect if you

> approach me with respect.

>

> Bringing this type of message to the group is only

> to make sure that

> my posts do not offend, that I do not hurt anyone,

> because right now I

> feel decidly uncomfortable and feel that in order to

> stay I must make

> this kind of disclaimer.

>

> It was last 1 January that I fell ill and only

> returned to work for

> two weeks since, although I continue to write for

> publication. In the

> year that I have been off waiting to return to my

> very beloved job, I

> felt like I was a rusting combine sitting out in the

> field, unwanted

> and getting less useful byu the day.

>

> The, I found a place where I could help by looking

> things up,

> researching for answers and finding out about new

> things and posting

> them when people asked about things. This has been a

> real blessing,

> helping me remember that I can still do the things I

> need to do at

> work. You have no clue how much it has helped me

> redevelop my

> confidence and shore up my sagging self esteem. It

> has helped me keep

> the gears turning to continue to use the type of

> reasoning essential

> for my work. I always felt that people would see my

> posts for what

> they were- bits of information intended to serve as

> background in

> making up your own mind.

>

> Now I know that I am unwanted, that my posts have

> all been compleely

> misconstrued and that I am seen as an arrogant idiot

> who looks down on

> all of you thinking myself to be the only one who

> knows anything. How

> far from the truth this belief is! I am crushed, and

> wish I knew a way

> to open my heart so you all could see.

>

> Sometimes, I am clumsy as we all are; please do not

> attribute anything

> more than human error to such times. I anm direct,

> yes, but never

> offensive in my words- I say what I think and then

> its done. I respect

> others who do the same.

>

> Please do not reply to this email in the group- it

> is not an attempt

> to get you all to say nice things to me, its just an

> attempt to

> salvage my place on this list since I have been made

> aware of how

> reviled I am by so many people. Please all give me a

> second chance to

> earn your respect and friendship and in return I

> promise I will not

> post at all unless someone asks me to or I feel it

> is absolutely

> essential for me to do so.

>

> Submitted respectfully,

> Bethann

>

>

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