Re: Re: My posting style/apologies

[Guest guest]

Sometimes what I have taken as criticism is just someone else's insecurities.

And I can't, make that won't, carry their baggage for them. Keep your head

high, Bethann.

Becca

dodgeturbo99 wrote:

Bethann,

I feel the same way I love to read your postings. You have alot of

great informationa and wit. Do not go away!

Turbo

>

> This is a difficult post for me, and I apologise in advance if

anyuone

> is offended. Sorry for the length but I need to get some things off

my

> chest.

>

> It has been made clear to me that people find me bossy and that I

come

> off as forceful and picky.

>

> I don't often reply to light social mails because basically, and

this

> is hard to say, I am shy and it's difficult for me to keep up with

> light social banter. I am the typical nerd with thick glasses who

sat

> in the corner and did other people's homework, who was bullied for

> having the right answer and the foolishness to raise my hand.

>

> My posting style is very direct; I guess this is because I both

write

> for a living and am accustomed to report writing. I will try my

best

> to be softer in the way I put forth my information, but also I

would

> be grateful if you cut me a little slack and take it for granted

that

> I:

> - would never mean to offend or hurt anyone's feelings

> - always respect others opinions,

> - never feel that anyone's beliefs or feelings are less or more

> important than mine,

> - do not believe myself to be above or below anyone else

> - tend to write things without an agenda or hidden purpose; what

you

> see is what you get.

> - respect you, for your intelligence and abilitities, as I do

> colleagues at work.

>

> If I have hurt any of you in the past, I am geuinely sorryy. Should

I

> offend someone in the future bring your problems as the only person

> who can change my behaviour is me; do not go behind my back. Trust

> that you will be received with respect if you approach me with

respect.

>

> Bringing this type of message to the group is only to make sure

that

> my posts do not offend, that I do not hurt anyone, because right

now I

> feel decidly uncomfortable and feel that in order to stay I must

make

> this kind of disclaimer.

>

> It was last 1 January that I fell ill and only returned to work for

> two weeks since, although I continue to write for publication. In

the

> year that I have been off waiting to return to my very beloved job,

I

> felt like I was a rusting combine sitting out in the field,

unwanted

> and getting less useful byu the day.

>

> The, I found a place where I could help by looking things up,

> researching for answers and finding out about new things and

posting

> them when people asked about things. This has been a real blessing,

> helping me remember that I can still do the things I need to do at

> work. You have no clue how much it has helped me redevelop my

> confidence and shore up my sagging self esteem. It has helped me

keep

> the gears turning to continue to use the type of reasoning

essential

> for my work. I always felt that people would see my posts for what

> they were- bits of information intended to serve as background in

> making up your own mind.

>

> Now I know that I am unwanted, that my posts have all been

compleely

> misconstrued and that I am seen as an arrogant idiot who looks down

on

> all of you thinking myself to be the only one who knows anything.

How

> far from the truth this belief is! I am crushed, and wish I knew a

way

> to open my heart so you all could see.

>

> Sometimes, I am clumsy as we all are; please do not attribute

anything

> more than human error to such times. I anm direct, yes, but never

> offensive in my words- I say what I think and then its done. I

respect

> others who do the same.

>

> Please do not reply to this email in the group- it is not an

attempt

> to get you all to say nice things to me, its just an attempt to

> salvage my place on this list since I have been made aware of how

> reviled I am by so many people. Please all give me a second chance

to

> earn your respect and friendship and in return I promise I will not

> post at all unless someone asks me to or I feel it is absolutely

> essential for me to do so.

>

> Submitted respectfully,

> Bethann

>

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[Guest guest]

I wish to state my opinion of the unjust criticism of Bethann's

posts. I do not know her, but the information she gives to us is

quite informative, interesting, and helpful. I personally have

learned a lot from her posts - are we really afraid when someone who

is intelligent and trained in research gives her opinion? She is

trying to help us, not trying to be superior or have a hidden

agenda. Even though some of her information does not apply to me

personally, I enjoy reading it anyway as she is such a good writer.

For those who don't enjoy her writings, skip them, but please don't

try to stop her from helping others. I found her information on

growing pains fascinating reading and wish I had had it when I was

raising my achondroplastic daughter.

Bethann, please don't stop your posts! There are many many people on

this list, and surely among them are people who enjoy reading them.

The rest can skip them but I hope they do not complain to you anymore.

Margaret B

[Guest guest]

I second Margaret B and any others who don't want Bethann to stop posting!

Keep them coming!

Later...

" A heart at peace gives life to the body. "

-- Re: Re: My posting style/apologies

I wish to state my opinion of the unjust criticism of Bethann's

posts. I do not know her, but the information she gives to us is

quite informative, interesting, and helpful. .