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Ugh! Doesn't it just blow your mind that there are people out there that are soo

ignorant. What he may not be aware of is that before the days when c-section

existed, most women with MA's lost their babies during childbirth due to

difficult breech births and uterine ruptures. Many of these women lost their

own lives as well. Is it really worth the risk just to have a vaginal delivery.

Geez, I sure don't think so. Perhaps your friend should discuss the matter with

his midwife mother....I am willing to bet that even she will agree that in your

particular case, an external version just isn't an option. An external version

is an extremely dangerous situation for MA women. Risk of uterine rupture is

extremely high. Women with MA tend to have less fluid because of the limited

space. The uterus tends to be more tense, and can burst like a tire that has too

much air pressure. In addition, many MA babies are in a breech position because

this is the safest position for them in an oddly shaped uterus. Some of these

babies may be jammed in soo tight (like my son was) that they may actually be

stuck slightly in your ribs. The doctors actually had a hard time pulling my son

out during the c-section because his poor little head was jammed tightly into my

ribs (no harm done however:)). Had someone tried to turn him, it could have

caused damage to his brain, neck or spine.

Like you, I am not so sure I trust in nature as much as I did before I knew

about my MA. I mean, this wonderful mother nature was the one who decided to

give me only half a uterus, and only one functioning tube. WTF! There is nothing

natural about that as far as I am concerned! Sounds to me like mother nature had

no clue what she was doing when it came to me. lol.

And look at all of the wonderful couples in the world who cannot conceive at

all. What the heck is soo natural about that? I mean, were we not put on this

earth with the main objective being to pro-create?

Mother nature can kiss my rear end!

I am sorry if this sounds like a rather strong post with I am just soo sick and

tired of people who feel like they know it all. You all know the ones I am

talking about: " let nature take it's course " , or " leave it in god's hands " . The

way I see it, god gave us modern medicine to make up for the times when good ol'

mother nature was slacking in her job, and I intend to take full advantage of

it:)

(UU)

Gentile wrote:Hi guys,

I have a very stupid friend. His mom was a midwife so he thinks he

knows everything about child birth and spent an hour last night

lecturing me on the fact that if I have a c-section, its would be my

own fault b/c (and I quote) " even [he] could do an external version " .

He went on to say that if I felt like ruining my baby's entrance into

this world, I could certainly choose to do so with a hospital birth,

but that he'd look at me differently after that. How ironic that we

were just discussing c-section here!

All this came out after I shared the news with him that my dear best

friend had her baby (another bittersweet blow to me) and had almost

needed a section b/c the baby was 8 lbs 15 oz and went into distress.

The " friend " is single and childless and MALE. Idiot.

Anyhow, you can imagine the lecture he got on mullerian anomalies. He

knew I had uterine issues but I just hadn't WANTED to share my

diagnosis with him. I went off on him and he backed down, but at the

end mused, " You have such a unique uterus ... I can't understand why

you don't let nature be. I can't understand why you'd alter it. " This

is after I explained the avascular-septum-implanation issues and

preterm labor risks he still has the cluelessness to say this. After

I told him that I might have lost my precious babies due to this.

Nature my frickin toe! Nature hasn't done a whole heck of a lot for

me, you know. I have 8 congenital anomalies, two syndromes,

tachycardia and hypertension! I do my best ... I gather my own herbs

for herbal medicine, practice yoga and tai chi, and am trained in

theraputic touch and hyponotic pain control. I've weaned myself from

nine medications down to three. I think Nature's great! But I'm not

going to sit here and loose more babies because its more natural to

leave a stupid wedge of tissue in my body!

Ahem ... obviously I need to meditate or something :-)

Anywho, the reason I suggested newbies read this is because PEOPLE

WILL SAY STUPID THINGS TO YOU. And even if you've processed your pain

and are doing great, sometimes it will make you mad or depressed. I

was diagnosed years ago, and sometimes are still hurt and angered. I

guess I just wanted you to know that its normal to feel this way and

that this forum is somewhere that other folks will understand what

your going through.

See ... I feel a bit better already :-)

(awaiting lap/hyst 4/15)

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