Guest guest Posted April 10, 2003 Report Share Posted April 10, 2003 , Ugh! Doesn't it just blow your mind that there are people out there that are soo ignorant. What he may not be aware of is that before the days when c-section existed, most women with MA's lost their babies during childbirth due to difficult breech births and uterine ruptures. Many of these women lost their own lives as well. Is it really worth the risk just to have a vaginal delivery. Geez, I sure don't think so. Perhaps your friend should discuss the matter with his midwife mother....I am willing to bet that even she will agree that in your particular case, an external version just isn't an option. An external version is an extremely dangerous situation for MA women. Risk of uterine rupture is extremely high. Women with MA tend to have less fluid because of the limited space. The uterus tends to be more tense, and can burst like a tire that has too much air pressure. In addition, many MA babies are in a breech position because this is the safest position for them in an oddly shaped uterus. Some of these babies may be jammed in soo tight (like my son was) that they may actually be stuck slightly in your ribs. The doctors actually had a hard time pulling my son out during the c-section because his poor little head was jammed tightly into my ribs (no harm done however:)). Had someone tried to turn him, it could have caused damage to his brain, neck or spine. Like you, I am not so sure I trust in nature as much as I did before I knew about my MA. I mean, this wonderful mother nature was the one who decided to give me only half a uterus, and only one functioning tube. WTF! There is nothing natural about that as far as I am concerned! Sounds to me like mother nature had no clue what she was doing when it came to me. lol. And look at all of the wonderful couples in the world who cannot conceive at all. What the heck is soo natural about that? I mean, were we not put on this earth with the main objective being to pro-create? Mother nature can kiss my rear end! I am sorry if this sounds like a rather strong post with I am just soo sick and tired of people who feel like they know it all. You all know the ones I am talking about: " let nature take it's course " , or " leave it in god's hands " . The way I see it, god gave us modern medicine to make up for the times when good ol' mother nature was slacking in her job, and I intend to take full advantage of it:) (UU) Gentile wrote:Hi guys, I have a very stupid friend. His mom was a midwife so he thinks he knows everything about child birth and spent an hour last night lecturing me on the fact that if I have a c-section, its would be my own fault b/c (and I quote) " even [he] could do an external version " . He went on to say that if I felt like ruining my baby's entrance into this world, I could certainly choose to do so with a hospital birth, but that he'd look at me differently after that. How ironic that we were just discussing c-section here! All this came out after I shared the news with him that my dear best friend had her baby (another bittersweet blow to me) and had almost needed a section b/c the baby was 8 lbs 15 oz and went into distress. The " friend " is single and childless and MALE. Idiot. Anyhow, you can imagine the lecture he got on mullerian anomalies. He knew I had uterine issues but I just hadn't WANTED to share my diagnosis with him. I went off on him and he backed down, but at the end mused, " You have such a unique uterus ... I can't understand why you don't let nature be. I can't understand why you'd alter it. " This is after I explained the avascular-septum-implanation issues and preterm labor risks he still has the cluelessness to say this. After I told him that I might have lost my precious babies due to this. Nature my frickin toe! Nature hasn't done a whole heck of a lot for me, you know. I have 8 congenital anomalies, two syndromes, tachycardia and hypertension! I do my best ... I gather my own herbs for herbal medicine, practice yoga and tai chi, and am trained in theraputic touch and hyponotic pain control. I've weaned myself from nine medications down to three. I think Nature's great! But I'm not going to sit here and loose more babies because its more natural to leave a stupid wedge of tissue in my body! Ahem ... obviously I need to meditate or something :-) Anywho, the reason I suggested newbies read this is because PEOPLE WILL SAY STUPID THINGS TO YOU. And even if you've processed your pain and are doing great, sometimes it will make you mad or depressed. I was diagnosed years ago, and sometimes are still hurt and angered. I guess I just wanted you to know that its normal to feel this way and that this forum is somewhere that other folks will understand what your going through. See ... I feel a bit better already :-) (awaiting lap/hyst 4/15) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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