re: parenting a resistant teen

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My personal opinion is not based on tons of experience. But, logic

tells me that a significant improvement in diet should yield some

improvement in how we feel. Of course, SCD advocates generally

advise strict adherance and I agree there will probably not be

complete healing without being strict. But, I would say do what you

can and see if her symptoms improve some. Offer to pack her a lunch

when you can, and have her for dinner as much as possible. I liked

the idea someone said where her son went off sugar for a time and

felt so much better he was willing to try SCD whole-heartedly.

Perhaps if your daughter sees some improvement she will be convinced

to further change her diet. Maybe she could be persuaded to try SCD

for a month, or even a week or two between terms. Ultimately,

though, you have to leave her to her own decision. Keep praying!

>

> I pray my daughter will come to the wisdom your son found. She is

also mostly living at home, so I can at least make that food legal.

Does that help at all, if she is still doing some nonlegal food?

> Thanks for your response.

> Sally

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i have a 12 yr old. it's tough. luckily we started this diet when

he was 11. he's seen it work. though i KNOW he is cheating when

he's not at home. not much i can do about it. whatever he is doing,

he's OK right now so i leave him alone about it. however, when he's

at home he strictly adheres to the diet; we don't have anything at

the house that isn't on the diet.

adam

cd 15 mo

scd 9 mo

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Adam ow (Cowell '97)

University Relations

UR Delaware

University of California@ Santa Cruz

Santa Cruz, CA 95064

http://giveto.ucsc.edu/

http://giveto.ucsc.edu/planned_giving.asp

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Thank you. I think we need that serenity prayer! SallyAdam ow wrote: i have a 12 yr old. it's tough. luckily we started this diet when he was 11. he's seen it work. though i KNOW he is cheating when he's not at home. not much i can do about it. whatever he is doing, he's OK right now so i leave him alone about it. however, when he's at home he strictly adheres to the diet; we don't have anything at the house that isn't on the diet.adamcd 15 moscd 9 mo-- Adam

ow (Cowell '97)University RelationsUR DelawareUniversity of California@ Santa CruzSanta Cruz, CA 95064http://giveto.ucsc.edu/http://giveto.ucsc.edu/planned_giving.asp

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From someone who was that resistant teen not too long ago, I have to say that she needs to come to it on her own. I was diagnosed with CD at 15 years old, and have only just now, three months ago, at 25, finally decided that my eating must change if my body is to heal. I did remicade, prednisone, and a host of other meds. When the last of them finally failed, I gave in and tried this. It's been incredible for me, but teenagers are stubborn and imposing something they don't want to do, is just going to make them fight harder in the other direction. Though i am not an SCD expert by any means, I know that if my parents had tried to force this on me, even in reducing grains or other illegals, i would have rebelled hugely in the other direction. She'll come to it when she's ready, and as frustrating as that must be for you, since she's 19, there's not much else you can do. Hope this was helpful, and if you'd like to pass along my e-mail to her in terms of a kindred spirit who understands her lack of desire to change her diet, feel free. CD 10 yearsSCD 3 months6MP

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I will pass on your email. You are wonderful! Are you feeling better now that you are eating better? Thank you! Sally wrote: From someone who was that resistant teen not too long ago, I have to say that she needs to come to it on her own. I was diagnosed with CD at 15 years old, and have only just now, three months ago, at 25, finally decided that my eating must change if my body is to heal. I did remicade, prednisone, and a host of other meds. When the last of them finally

failed, I gave in and tried this. It's been incredible for me, but teenagers are stubborn and imposing something they don't want to do, is just going to make them fight harder in the other direction. Though i am not an SCD expert by any means, I know that if my parents had tried to force this on me, even in reducing grains or other illegals, i would have rebelled hugely in the other direction. She'll come to it when she's ready, and as frustrating as that must be for you, since she's 19, there's not much else you can do. Hope this was helpful, and if you'd like to pass along my e-mail to her in terms of a kindred spirit who understands her lack of desire to change her diet, feel free. CD 10 yearsSCD 3 months6MP

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I wanted to respond as someone who has lived with Crohn's almost all my life as well. As I grew older, I just came to accept that this was me -- I defined myself as someone with an illness, and I guess part of me was scared to be someone who was well. I was in my late twenties when I finally sought some psychological therapy to help me figure out why and how I could change (I had been encouraged for years to see a therapist, but since I was dealing so well with having an illness, I never thought it was necessary). It really helped me realize my destructive health habits and gave me that extra push that I needed to really start SCD in earnest. I know getting your teenager to see a therapist might be as difficult (or harder) than getting her to start SCD, but it

really helped me. Also, my therapist specialized in helping people with food allergies/restrictions -- she was a former chef at a highly acclaimed restaurant and had dealt with her own food issues as well...I really think that helped that she knew what I was going through, so if you do go this route, I suggest interviewing a few therapists to find someone who is at least familiar with dietary restrictions (I admit I was extremely lucky to find someone who specialized in this!)

Best of luck -- she is so fortunate to have such a caring, informed mom like you,

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