Guest guest Posted December 25, 2001 Report Share Posted December 25, 2001 Stregakat, Safe and secure are two very very important words. In fact, we were on an interview at a potential school, and I didn't think they had the resources to handle my son's violence, and the RN and teacher who were interviewing turned to him and asked him if he thought he could handle it. And he said, that sometimes he can handle it but sometimes he still can't handle it and that he would -- get this!! -- be worried about the OTHER people's safety if he got violent in an unsafe situation! I'm glad your dau is safe and secure. Sounds like you're being a really terrific parent. Liz Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 26, 2001 Report Share Posted December 26, 2001 I believe that we are all terrific parents who are dealing with a very difficult situation. We are not what our children show the world. It took me a long time before I could say that my daughters behavior and problems were not my fault. I felt that she acted the way she did because of my bad parenting. That was not true then and it isn't true now. My daughter has a mental disability not a bad mom. We are great parents!! :-) Peace and Love, phine --- elizabeth m kerr wrote: > Stregakat, > > Safe and secure are two very very important words. > In fact, we were on > an interview at a potential school, and I didn't > think they had the > resources to handle my son's violence, and the RN > and teacher who were > interviewing turned to him and asked him if he > thought he could handle > it. And he said, that sometimes he can handle it > but sometimes he still > can't handle it and that he would -- get this!! -- > be worried about the > OTHER people's safety if he got violent in an unsafe > situation! I'm glad > your dau is safe and secure. Sounds like you're > being a really terrific > parent. > > Liz > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 26, 2001 Report Share Posted December 26, 2001 Hi,phine Amen to that. I used to feel the same way. Not as much any more but some times I wonder if my daughter would be BPD if it were not for my ex-husbands sexually abusing her. God Bless Cheryl Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 26, 2001 Report Share Posted December 26, 2001 I'm convinced it was my ex husband's sexual abuse that caused my daughters mind to snap and have all the problems she is having mentally. She was an innocent 7 year old dealing with a father who wanted sex from her...something no child should ever have to deal with. The damage he has caused her is going to affect her for the rest of her life. Her dad has no clue what damage he has caused and refuses to take responsibility for any of her problems. As a result my daughter is left feeling broken, used, rejected and unlovable. No matter what I say or have done to help her she wil always carry that horrible feeling she has about her father and what he has done to her. I hope she chooses to heal the pain and move on but I know that even if she does try to heal the pain the horrible things her father did will always be a part of her memories. Makes me want to rip her dads genitals off and choke him with them!! Yes, I am angry again...especially because I have watched my daughter suffer all these years while he sat back all smug like he had nothing to do with her bad behaviors and he even had the nerve to blame me for the problems she was having. GROWL!!! Ok, I have to calm down now. Breathe....breathe..breathe...ok, I'm ok now. Thanks for listening and giving me a chance to share my true feelings safely. Peace and love, phine --- Cheryl Tubiak wrote: > Hi,phine > > Amen to that. I used to feel the same way. Not as > much any more but some > times I wonder if my daughter would be BPD if it > were not for my ex-husbands > sexually abusing her. > > God Bless > Cheryl > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 26, 2001 Report Share Posted December 26, 2001 phine your situation is so similar. I to when I found out what my ex-husband felt like doing the same thing. As a matter of face at the time I was not a Christian and I was much worse. Well believe it or not he told his mom that once she talked to me she would know he did not do it. Then when my daughter was in a placement when she was in her teens she had written him in prison I don't remember what she said to him but guess he did not like it. He wrote a letter to the place she was at and told them he did not want to talk with her because she took the one person who really loved her and destroyed his life and until she told the truth he did not want to know her. He also wanted permission to talk to them and tell his side but they said no. The dr. there told me he was the kind of guy who would take it to his grave. August he comes up for his first parole hearing and I will be attending. I just don't understand what kind of person does such a thing to a child? I will keep you both in my prayers and it is ok to be angry. hugs Cheryl Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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