RE: Guilt feelings

[Guest guest]

yes the guilt seems to be universal with us all. But we need to try to be

easier on ourselves. I tell myself I did not ask for this illness and I am

doing the best I can. We are not always able to live the life we did before the

fibro beast moved in. Hope you can find a way to put the guilt away. I mean,

if someone had a heart condition or a broken leg or MS, the world understands.

This illness is just as real although we can be thankful it is not fatal.

Take care of yourself,

remember you are still you but fibro lives with you,

Debra V.

wrote:

Yes there are days I feel guilty because ny hubby works his butt off

and I am unable to keep up with the chores and such. But ya know, we are sick

and not normal any longer, so i have learned to not look on days I am unable to

do all the chores and I have learned to ask for help when I need to. Sometimes I

distract myself from looking at all the undone. Otherwise it would be all I

dwell on.

Dave and Jeanne wrote: Ruthie asked, " I thank God

everyday for such a wonderful and understanding husband as he tells me not to

worry about the house and to go and rest, but

it's hard to do as I feel guilty when he works his butt off and I can barely do

anything. Does anyone else suffer these guilt feelings? Sometimes I think maybe

I am just lazy but I look back at my pre FM days and realize that it's not

laziness, my body is telling me I am sick and to listen to it and stop harping

on the past and to live for the future. Thanks all for listening.....Ruthie

>>>>Ruthie, of course we suffer guilt feelings. I hate that my house is a dirty,

cluttered pig-sty. I hate that my 14 year old daughter does all the laundry. I

hate that there were years when I couldn't be intimate with my husband because

it hurt. I swear the man deserves a medal because he's still with me, and he's

never cheated. But you are right, we have to try not to dwell on what we can't

do anymore, and look forward. Just because we can't do something now, doesn't

mean we'll never do it again. We have to remain hopeful. Hang in there, Ruthie.

Jeanne in WI

[Guest guest]

So true. I have had to learn to take care of myself better. If i am not well, I

cannot function normally and that is ok. The guilt feelings always pass as fast

as they come in. I am doing the best I can. I just keep telling myself that.

debra van ness wrote: yes the guilt seems to

be universal with us all. But we need to try to be easier on ourselves. I tell

myself I did not ask for this illness and I am doing the best I can. We are not

always able to live the life we did before the fibro beast moved in. Hope you

can find a way to put the guilt away. I mean, if someone had a heart condition

or a broken leg or MS, the world understands. This illness is just as real

although we can be thankful it is not fatal.

Take care of yourself,

remember you are still you but fibro lives with you,

Debra V.

wrote:

Yes there are days I feel guilty because ny hubby works his butt off and I am

unable to keep up with the chores and such. But ya know, we are sick and not

normal any longer, so i have learned to not look on days I am unable to do all

the chores and I have learned to ask for help when I need to. Sometimes I

distract myself from looking at all the undone. Otherwise it would be all I

dwell on.

Dave and Jeanne wrote: Ruthie asked, " I thank God

everyday for such a wonderful and understanding husband as he tells me not to

worry about the house and to go and rest, but

it's hard to do as I feel guilty when he works his butt off and I can barely do

anything. Does anyone else suffer these guilt feelings? Sometimes I think maybe

I am just lazy but I look back at my pre FM days and realize that it's not

laziness, my body is telling me I am sick and to listen to it and stop harping

on the past and to live for the future. Thanks all for listening.....Ruthie

>>>>Ruthie, of course we suffer guilt feelings. I hate that my house is a dirty,

cluttered pig-sty. I hate that my 14 year old daughter does all the laundry. I

hate that there were years when I couldn't be intimate with my husband because

it hurt. I swear the man deserves a medal because he's still with me, and he's

never cheated. But you are right, we have to try not to dwell on what we can't

do anymore, and look forward. Just because we can't do something now, doesn't

mean we'll never do it again. We have to remain hopeful. Hang in there, Ruthie.

Jeanne in WI

[Guest guest]

, If you are a suspect(in your minds eye)and you prosecute yourself,convict

yourself,sintence yourself,

then by all means pardon yourself and don't go on a guilt trip to an imaginary

place of punishment. Give yourself a break because GOD knows you desrve one. You

didn't choose to have this disease. And don't let this disease victomize you.

That was hard to say because I feel like a victom and maybe we are victoms

but we can choose to fight back or just let it kick our ass. For myself I've

been fight since I learned what it was I had to fight. I may or maynot have

addressed this to the right person but I don't believe that maters to

much............................................................................\

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To: Fibromyalgia_Support_Group@...: herbal7@...:

Thu, 18 Oct 2007 17:06:14 -0700Subject: Guilt feelings

Yes there are days I feel guilty because ny hubby works his butt off and I am

unable to keep up with the chores and such. But ya know, we are sick and not

normal any longer, so i have learned to not look on days I am unable to do all

the chores and I have learned to ask for help when I need to. Sometimes I

distract myself from looking at all the undone. Otherwise it would be all I

dwell on.Dave and Jeanne wrote: Ruthie asked, " I

thank God everyday for such a wonderful and understanding husband as he tells me

not to worry about the house and to go and rest, butit's hard to do as I feel

guilty when he works his butt off and I can barely do anything. Does anyone else

suffer these guilt feelings? Sometimes I think maybe I am just lazy but I look

back at my pre FM days and realize that it's not laziness, my body is telling me

I am sick and to listen to it and stop harping on the past and to live for the

future. Thanks all for listening.....Ruthie>>>>Ruthie, of course we suffer guilt

feelings. I hate that my house is a dirty, cluttered pig-sty. I hate that my 14

year old daughter does all the laundry. I hate that there were years when I

couldn't be intimate with my husband because it hurt. I swear the man deserves a

medal because he's still with me, and he's never cheated. But you are right, we

have to try not to dwell on what we can't do anymore, and look forward. Just

because we can't do something now, doesn't mean we'll never do it again. We have

to remain hopeful. Hang in there, Ruthie.Jeanne in WI[Non-text portions of this

message have been removed]www.iamshaman.net/affiliatewiz/aw.aspx?A=317[Non-text

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