Re: What Just Happpened???/More on the mind/body connection

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Ditto' I agree Candi,

Of course, it's all up to the individual and we all know that. *smile* we're smart intelligent and brave women, *smile* and so we can be at odds with opinions sometimes with each other but heck, none of us agree with those who we love all the time either. LOL Just so we all stay friends and realize it's just a varience of opinions and nothing is personal.

By the way for Sue with the 'what happened' and no pain? It's just a thought (since you asked *grin*) but 'maybe' it's related to the stress 'relief' in a way? Even tho it may be even more stress in other ways?

If you may be going through a divorce (I hope that works out hon) but it might be that YOU have your own power back and it's up to you if you want to have sex or not? I know a lot of women and of course not saying all (cause there are some very strong & independent individuals here) *chuckle* indeed... but often it may be the type of woman who is a pleaser and gives her 'self' power away, that is more prone to this?

Who is always the 'nice girl' who hates disruption or arguments etc. or gives in too easily thinking it's selfish if she doesn't? Always thinking of others first? The shy bashful un-opinionated type? And believe me hon I've NO idea of how things are at your home and even less of you as an individual... so it's just a thought that maybe now that you are in control of YOU, it's 'your' power now & it makes a difference?

And for all you members NOT like that *chuckle* Of course I didn't mean you or even you Sue, not at all, just throwing something out there for discussion.

Just a thought.

Dee~

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LOL

Hi Dusty, that was cute what your hubby said, *grin* and what man doesn't think like that, *chuckle*

Dee~

<He has another theory which isn't so scientific and it is that he's just so good, how could he possibly cause pain!!!!!!????! Lovable guy!>

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I hate to sound dumb but what is PIV sex???

TKOPT

suebee wrote:

>I hate to get the middle of a contraversy, but I have a personal experiance

>to share. I've had VV, IC, and fibro for the last 10 years. As some of you

>know I've been going through a VERY stressful time right now with a

>seperation/possible divorce and single momming it for the last 6 months. My

>husband and I got together over the weekend and we were very open and honest

>with each other and our feelings. One thing lead to another and we have PIV

>sex. There was NO PAIN and he was in deep (which also caused a lot of

>pain). My question is WHY ??? after 12 yrs did this happen??? I'm not doing

>anything different??

>I thought I would share this to see what you all think. Sue

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Wow Dee!! I really liked what you said about the "control" factor. gives me something to think about and I can honestly say that was me, a pleaser. the important word there though is was. thanks for sharing your thoughts Sue

re: What Just Happpened???/More on the mind/body connection

Ditto' I agree Candi,

Of course, it's all up to the individual and we all know that. *smile* we're smart intelligent and brave women, *smile* and so we can be at odds with opinions sometimes with each other but heck, none of us agree with those who we love all the time either. LOL Just so we all stay friends and realize it's just a varience of opinions and nothing is personal.

By the way for Sue with the 'what happened' and no pain? It's just a thought (since you asked *grin*) but 'maybe' it's related to the stress 'relief' in a way? Even tho it may be even more stress in other ways?

If you may be going through a divorce (I hope that works out hon) but it might be that YOU have your own power back and it's up to you if you want to have sex or not? I know a lot of women and of course not saying all (cause there are some very strong & independent individuals here) *chuckle* indeed... but often it may be the type of woman who is a pleaser and gives her 'self' power away, that is more prone to this?

Who is always the 'nice girl' who hates disruption or arguments etc. or gives in too easily thinking it's selfish if she doesn't? Always thinking of others first? The shy bashful un-opinionated type? And believe me hon I've NO idea of how things are at your home and even less of you as an individual... so it's just a thought that maybe now that you are in control of YOU, it's 'your' power now & it makes a difference?

And for all you members NOT like that *chuckle* Of course I didn't mean you or even you Sue, not at all, just throwing something out there for discussion.

Just a thought.

Dee~

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In a message dated 6/29/04 5:35:00 PM, VulvarDisorders writes:

<< As some of you

know I've been going through a VERY stressful time right now with a

seperation/possible divorce and single momming it for the last 6 months. My

husband and I got together over the weekend and we were very open and honest

with each other and our feelings. One thing lead to another and we have PIV

sex. There was NO PAIN and he was in deep (which also caused a lot of

pain). My question is WHY ??? after 12 yrs did this happen??? I'm not doing

anything different?? >>

Hi Sue,

It could be that not having any sex for the past six months reduced

inflammation and gave you time to heal. I'd try it again to find out if it's a

fluke.

<ggg> Another aspect could be that the conversation beforehand made you feel

very comfortable and close to him so you didn't tighten muscles up. Other

women have mentioned that their vv/vvs just went away one day, so that's an

option too. Whatever it is, I hope it keeps happening for you.

Debbie

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